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OP, after reading your write up I couldn't stop laughing. You erroneously assume men to be cheat. You need to ask yourself question. Do the men cheat with themselves? Who do the men cheat with?

Cheating is a behavioral deficiency, it's an indiscipline, lack of self control. Cheating is not gender base but an individual character flaw. Cheating is not a mistake, it's a choice and you are aware that people make good and bad choices.

You should ask why people like cheating instead of narrowing it down to men.

TigerNEJ7:
There’s nothing sexier than one intelligent lady.

As far as a lady is intelligent, humane and industrious with little touch of sense of humor, she has colonize me forever.

Najdorf:
Just look at his username, he calls himself a demigod. His head is so far stuck up his own ass that he believes no one can reject him since of course the whole world revolves around him. She committed the crime of not reciprocating his romantic feelings and must now be punished. That's how he sees the world.

And this is supposed to be a grown man we're talking about. What a fucking joke.

Smiles, I don't show pride, but if you so love my name, you can be my namesake.

She did not commit any offense by turning me down, she has the right to and I am not the best guy but sure a great guy. The only thing I have qualms about is she returning and seeking friendship while requesting for favour from me.

I didn't punish her, I don't even have the right, all I did was to vocally inform her that her friendship is not beneficial to me and she being around me threatens my emotional and mental health too.

You didn't have problem with her turning me down but you suddenly have problem with me not accepting her friendship. I didn't bring the story here to be praised, check my two last paragraphs if you want to know why the story is here.

Qpid5:
No kizziSS for this one
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You think you did well and shared it here for us to hail or applaud you right? I'm not surprised sha because all you ever wanted was sex and nothing more.
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The aspect you are full of yourself, you did the most stupid thing ever..
Someone was just asking what every normal being would ask, she ain't asking for financial help, she ain't asking for a relationship but though look like she's giving you green light but c'mon you are just being wicked for nothing

LoL, your last sentence got me cracked up really good. I don't subscribe to distance relationship so no need to recognize her green light.

The place I was full of myself, I was only trying to give a background to what led me to asking her out. I am not blowing my trumpet.

Streetmovement:
Wotoporiously speaking

@Demigod na man you be
You're an old wise man in a young man's body and you remind me of my younger self, and as for the others on this thread standing against your decision they can kiss my ass.

Wisdom shall never depart from you my brother, they can never finesse on you if you moving properly.

Street movement, I sight you Boss. Thanks for your comment and thank you for finding me worthy to be liken to your younger self.

Slynation:
Yea...nothing is wrong with just been friends with a female but everything is wrong by been friends with a female that doesn't want you because someone's mental health is at stake...

OP is a real nigger that knows what he wants instead of sticking around simping for her week in week out hoping the lady will reconsider his proposal not knowing Baba has closed that chapter...

Most guys doesn't have chills, like me, if I ask you out, you refused it's 'magana yakari mana' and trust me I won't even hold it against you as I believe everyone has the right to make his/her choice...Not after refusing me, you begin to call every day for one favour or the other because she knows such guy will be at their weakest point... That's manipulation and the OP ain't a Simp

The award for best understanding of thread this week belong to you. You read my write up, you paid attention and you quite understand my view, unlike these weak people expressing selfish opinion.

Slynation:
Then how does that made him a kid...

It is that you all are ignorant of the facts that we all have different personalities or there is a standard manual out there for living life, he just stated the fact that her friendship doesn't suit his mental state and people are calling him names...

I share the same view as him as well, why are we friends if I can't date you, moreover such friendship is only beneficial to such ladies, he didn't approach her as a friend but was very direct in what he wants which didn't work out so the lady should fvcking leave him alone...

Demigod22...Thumps up bro, Na man you be!!

I really appreciate your comment. Most girls don't know how to handle friendship, when you give them the friendship they desire they will want you to perform boyfriend's duty. There's no benefit for you, at the end you will be the one investing in the friendship.

I like your reasoning.

ify01:
How was she enforcing religion on you, please?

No offence intended.

While chatting with her that evening, she wasn't comfortable with my free attitude to life. I told her that I am not religious. I prioritize humanity not any imaginary fantasy figure. And she said everything possible for me to retract my words or opinion. She insisted that I should worship God. We had huge disagreement over the religion issue.

Karleb:
Your face show.
Your shoe shine.
Your profile make sense.

LoL, thumbs up brother.

SarutobiEky:
no mind dawan I'm certain he's prolly trying to go the extra mile to make her realize what she missed by buying her stuff, sending her random gifts etc. The girl go dey regret dey chop am with style.. dey enjoy favors from am . Lol

LoL, because of woman, a mature man like him will be simping around. As if the girl's regret will reward him.

SarutobiEky:
you smart. I wish my other bros could wake up.

Thanks man.

Even my heart will disappoint me if I force her to love this particular kind of girl. Whenever it comes to relationship, I always go for the intelligent, industrious and productive ladies. I love to see my woman doing great for herself, not beggers in the name of relationship.

I am sapiosexual too, in fact, to the core. The only difference between us is that I am not attracted to older women. I love them young and very intelligent.

My last relationship was great. She loved me wholeheartedly, she sacrificed, she was selfless, very proud of me, adores and respect me. She is everything a guy needs but I guess I wasn't ready for such a genuine relationship then.

Moral lesson: That when I see a person that loves and appreciate me genuinely, I should be grateful and treat her like a queen she is.


PS: I am wondering how your ex didn't complain about your written English though, maybe you should work on it.

The man should pay for the service, although most girls don't know how to give vibes during sex. They will behave like dead body and want you to go eleven rounds.

I don't admire people that engage in distance relationship, I don't do it either. I don't have the emotional, psychological, financial and mental capacity to sustain distance relationship.

I see distance relationship as fraud, deceitful and scam, although we have genuine ones but I don't think the stress is worth it.

sukkot:
yeah i think they are trying to set him up to disgrace him

And the political neophyte called Jonathan is still enjoying his romance with APC.

Jennyclay:
Your first paragraph is just a mere statement so that your fellow wannabe redpillers won't shame you by calling you a simp... I really understand.

You're still in pains!!!! You will heal okay!!!

Don't feed your female ego with this imagined feeling, if I am not that good she won't be coming around. And if I don't have options, I might still be simping for her.

I am not a redpiller, I am just an exceptional individual that doesn't encourage been taken advantage of.

Demi003:
Your head dey swell abi
You are probably 14
Grow the f*ck up.

LoL, it's not an achievement. And you really think I am 14? With ASUU, I don't think someone who schooled in Nigeria will graduate from University at the age of 14. Even Lai Muhammad won't be this disillusional.

Karleb:
Please stop thinking like this.

The help she's trying to get from him is what she could get elsewhere but the girl prefers to do so from him because she's enjoying it. You don't want to know how much women enjoy attention.

If she couldn't help the young man by breaking her promise to date him why should she expect him to be her bestie when he has his own standards too.

Imagine complaining someone who isn't your partner doesn't call you? No be juju be that?

I sighted an intelligent man, his name is Karleb. You are on point bro.

SarutobiEky:
a million things. You sef know.. it's in your nature to take bros for fools when they start to do favours for you lot with nothing attached.. females don't know how to handle friendship, they would turn you to a maga in split seconds especially if you're not one of em strong willed males.

I have female friends but I like to keep some distance away from them... Lest see finish sneaks in and they think they can take advantage of me.

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You exactly understand the logic bro. A female friend that wants to enjoy the benefit of girlfriend. Just friends and she is already enforcing religion on me, the girl don't even know how boundaries.

Most girls can't handle friendship.

Wawelexy:
You re a kid bro. A crush of mine who turned my proposal down sometimes ago must be secretely regretting that now cause we still good friends and she discovered that i'm more of a great guy than she ever thought of.

Her regret is not beneficial to you. If you call me kid I won't react because I am in my mid twenties, so I can actually be kid to you, that's if you are advance in age.

I have female friends, very great people, they know me and know their boundaries. I enjoyed the friendship and we help one another without second thought, but girls I have asked out and said no and still want to enjoy the girlfriend treatment won't succeed with me.

I am a great guy too. SUG president, best graduating student, school entertainer, fellowship leader, popular and selfless, which most people know in school.

Jennyclay:
@Demigod22 you're still in pains because she turned you down when you asked her out.

Don't worry with time you're gonna heal okay! Sorry!

LoL, if you read the first paragraph I said I was having reckless sex, which means that I have lot of girls around. I don't necessarily have a girlfriend but I have girls, but then as a final year student I decided to give a shot.

I have abundance mentality, self esteem and self value, I am not pained. She wants to come around and enjoy girlfriend treatment for being a friend, but I have many options so I discouraged her.

Karleb:
You don't know them.

For many of them, being friends with someone they like and refuses to date feels like having indiscriminate sex for guys. They enjoy it so much.

I'm sure she's telling all her friends sob story of how you broke her heart.

I did same to a girl around December, although mine was partly unintentional. The way I broke her heart ehn, even me I couldn't believe it.

Girls should learn to be friends with their partners or their female friends.

You are reasonable and logical bro. Girls should understand that as a guy, we have girls we want to date and girls we want as a friend. If a girl decides to be just friend she shouldn't expect a girlfriend treatment from a male friend.

AishaDant:
Op, you are a complete child!

I am disgusted reading this.

Why do most Nigerian men always want something?

What is wrong with just being friends with a female? Smh!

I have many female friends that are healthy, they call me the way I call them, the friendship is reciprocal. But I won't and can't be friend with someone I asked out and she said no. I won't benefit anything from such parasitic friendship.

So everything is wrong with it.

blazingblender:
So why are you telling us this shit??

Go back and read the seventh paragraph, the answer to your question is there. Read to understand before commenting.

Pussyassasin:
You took the red pill quite early

I am very glad I took it early. It's a testimony I will forever share, I am not going to simp for any lady. I am the trophy.

Officialgarri:
You are mentally young.

How will I explain to you that you can offer help to random people without expecting anything in return which is actually one of the keys to peace of mind and a life free of jealousy and nagging?

I offered help to random people when I can afford. When I return back to my alma mater, I help couple of people with project guidelines, I organized tutorials for all the levels, I gave out money, I help randomly. If you know me personally, you will agree with me that I am generous intellectually, financially, emotionally and otherwise.

She is not a random person, she is someone I asked out and she said No, I don't expect such a person to seek favour from me. Some people are just opportunistic or parasitic. What will I benefit from her friendship? NOTHING.

Odin13:
Gibberish
Ask how Lawan is ineffective
Yoruba man went ranting ... imagine
Think say after ranting trash .. you don make point
Nairaland.. different things parading

Oga explain how e take be rubber stamp ..

No be turench

Ignorant human being

If your demented dementia failed you from being politically informed or you choose to be politically abreast and you didn't follow the activities of the ninth senate to assess the performance of the senate under his leadership in aspect of check and balance, policy making, transparency, accountability, then I won't be your Nigerian politics lecturer, you choose to be iconoclastic abuse the word ignorant.

I met a Muslim lady in my final year, she was in her penultimate year. I was having reckless sex with plenty girls so my guys prevailed on me to at least get a girlfriend.

I started asking this girl out towards the end of the first semester till we resume for second semester. She turned down my proposal, she said she promised herself not to go into relationship throughout her school years, unless I will wait for her to graduate before she can consider anything. I told her the waiting is not necessary, I will meet other people and my life is not pause.

I moved on and after my final exam I return to Abuja while she is in her final year. She started calling to seek advice on how to go about her I.T program, I consider it harmless so I gave her the advice. When she was done with her I.T I expected her to stop calling but she won't stop.

She calls and even complained that I don't call. She requested three project topics from me, I sent it to her. Then one evening she chatted me up and we had an argument because I told her I am not religious and she wants to enforce religion on me. After the argument she informed me that she lost the topics I sent earlier that I should resend it which I ignored. Since then if she is calling I don't answer nor reply her messages.

She called me the last time and I told her bluntly that since we didn't date while I was in school, we can't date again, I don't do distance relationship. And then I don't want us to be friends either because it's not good for my emotional health. She was hurt but I was happy.

Most girls will turn you down and they still have the confidence to seek your help, asking for favour, believing you will be simping for them.

I grew up with abundance mentality, I don't beg for relationship, I ask. I didn't bring this story here to bash the ladies but to just engage you guys why a girl will think she can get favour from whom she turned down.

My female friends think I am blunt and don't consider people's feeling when I am doing or saying something especially towards women.

This breakfast plenty, it will reach all of us.

DJ, put me on last last by Burnaboy.

Friend zone is not a place for me. If we don't date we go our separate ways. I used to think that the girls are the trophy, I wonder how I can convince a girl to be with me. But after some experienced, University life, maturity and all that, I realized I am actually the trophy.

Whenever my friend go out with several girls and I ask him, he will say that girls are plenty and if he marry only one how about the others?