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garriAndsugar:
She made you be a better person..

You're just angry because you no chop her..

You got it wrong, when she wanted friendship I gave her the friendship but she was only interested in using me. Someone that calls you everyday stopped calling and you never care to call him until four months later you called him because you need his help. Is that your definition of friendship?

Ynix:
Brother you need to be born again. Everything is not about sex.
Your investment for her now may be for years from now when you are in the labour market.
If I were you, I will do more of that for different ladies and guys, you can't tell where the doors will open from

I am not interested in her doors opening for me. She wanted friendship I offered her the friendship and she was bent on using me, and all you are saying is everything not about sex. Read and understand again.

slickycee:
OP you're dealing with a highly manipulative person.
Maybe even a narcissist.

If you tell someone you want a relationship but they want otherwise.
You demand love and they give you excuses

And yet this person still wants you around!!!
My dear you're just being used and manipulated and once your usefulness in the person lives ceases , so their attention and affection..
But narcissist never discard their victim's, they would always keep them around incase they need a favor.

OP your guts isn't deceiving you,
You've been played and avoid her like a plague.


If you must give her project topic, ask her to pay , if she can't pay let her find someone else .
You're not the only person in the world .


I advise you to flee from her and reject any form of friendship or association with someone like that.
Or else she would just keep milking and draining anything iota of love left in you

I am really impressed with your enthralling advice. You understood my write up and responded accordingly. Thanks for this, I really appreciate.

Sammy101111:
Don't be used again
Just tell read the message done reply starr ignoring her if sheike call you no pick if shr likr text you ignore am trying to be dealing with her is like buying problem and be used again

Thanks man, I appreciate this.

ParpahSeventy:
Changing your entire life for a woman in an attempt to win her heart, it never ends well, women won't settle for people like that, she sees you as a useful tool, you know what tools do?
Disappoint the user in no man's land.
If I were you, I would make her feel like I was going to carry d whole project on my head, boom!!! I disappoint her at a critical time.
But since you are not me, I know you will still help her to the last like you always did.

The whole thing happened 2020, then I was simping. I have resolve within me not to help her. I want to use the opportunity to let her know that she is not as brilliant as I thought. I have read about most girls and greed, I am now a real g. Thanks for your words of wisdom.

written007:
You already said if you aren't somebody' type, no need pleasing or faking a lifestyle... Bro give her 10yards. It's only human to expect some form of appreciation when we render help to people. You have done more than this before; need I remind you what you got out of it?. She will find a way. Don't rope yourself in a second time. One bitten Twice wise. My 2cent.

Thanks so much for this. You truly understand my right up. I am not begrudging her for not dating me. But the friendship she wanted, I gave her but she is bent on using me. I stopped calling her for over four months, she never care to check up on me until today when she realized that she wants my help, then she called.

Godada:



It hurts.

But get this: she sees you as a tool to be used.

Decide how much you let people use you

This is one of the smartest advice I got.

kernniejay:
Guy, I dont think the girl did anything wrong against you. Afterall, she did not deceive you with fake love. Na you dey stress yourself to win her heart instead of being yourself and allowing her to love you for who you are. If you are not somebody's type you dont have to live a fake life to please or impress them. If you must adjust your lifestyle it should be for your own benefit not because of anybody. Just because she asked you for a project topic does not mean she is regretting not dating you.
Help her if you wish to and move on with your life, some other girls might be dying to have you just for who you are

I am not saying she regretted dating me. I was just wondering how she,in her widest imagination, think that I will help her with her project after the experience.

Forget about me changing myself. So I wanted a relationship but she wants friendship, and she is parasitic because she is the only one benefitting from the friendship, at least,if she is not dating me, but as friends, we should have a mutual respect for each other, not trying to use the other person.

A friend that calls you everyday for eight months stopped calling and you never called to check up on her until four months later when you finally needs his help, you called. Does that define your understanding of friendship?

So I met Cynthia immediately we resumed from covid 19 break. We started as friends before the feelings set in. I made my intentions known to her. We usually called each other, but she stopped calling the moment I revealed my feelings to her. I was the only one doing the calls, the texting, we chatted everyday.

She said she doesn't like guys that take alcohol and I stopped. I started attending fellowship because of her, I was visiting hostel always because of her, I joined school politics because of her, I stopped keeping late night because of her. Everything she wanted I was doing, I bought her stuffs too.

The problem was that she wanted friendship and I wanted relationship. I was ready to accept her terms and conditions, like no sex, no visiting. I did all her assignments for her, I gave her tutorials,past questions, even mark her script with sentiment.

I realized how foolish I was trying to love someone that doesn't love me but was only interested in using me. I stopped calling and doing those things for her. One month after she started dating my coursemate. I was hurt but I moved on.

Today, after everything, this wicked girl sent me a message on WhatsApp, asking for my help regarding her project. She said she needs me to give her project topics and guide her. Then I am wondering how some people can be this wicked and heartless.

Although she denied dating my coursemate, she said she doesn't have the ability to love, that was her excuse of not accepting to date me and she said she is not dating my coursemate either, but what guts made her think that I will help her after the treatment I got from her for eight months?

So I met Cynthia immediately we resumed from covid 19 break. We started as friends before the feelings set in. I made my intentions known to her. We usually called each other, but she stopped calling the moment I revealed my feelings to her. I was the only one doing the calls, the texting, we chatted everyday.

She said she doesn't like guys that take alcohol and I stopped. I started attending fellowship because of her, I was visiting hostel always because of her, I joined school politics because of her, I stopped keeping late night because of her. Everything she wanted I was doing, I bought her stuffs too.

The problem was that she wanted friendship and I wanted relationship. I was ready to accept her terms and conditions, like no sex, no visiting. I did all her assignments for her, I gave her tutorials,past questions, even mark her script with sentiment.

I realized how foolish I was trying to love someone that doesn't love me but was only interested in using me. I stopped calling and doing those things for her. One month after she started dating my coursemate. I was hurt but I moved on.

Today, after everything, this wicked girl sent me a message on WhatsApp, asking for my help regarding her project. She said she needs me to give her project topics and guide her. Then I am wondering how some people can be this wicked and heartless.

Although she denied dating my coursemate, she said she doesn't have the ability to love, that was her excuse of not accepting to date me and she said she is not dating my coursemate either, but what guts made her think that I will help her after the treatment I got from her for eight months?

How can someone deflowered a girl with just fingering? Most of the girls I deflowered, it is always a problem, you will finger, apply olive oil or Vaseline. It's hard before penis can penetrate.

Comrade, I hope your girl no run you street?

Back in Lafia, I have done series of crushing and quickies with Muslim girls. But the only one that got my heart was Khadija. She is lanky with a beautiful nose that sooth her face, light in complexion and average height. I was in 200 level and she was in 100 level. It took time before she agree to date me. She was so in love with me that when I raised the issue of religion, she blatantly told me that she knows what she wants and her happiness matters to her the most. She is always doing things to please me. The sex was mind blowing, the respect was mutual, the friendship.

But after few months, some bad boys threatened me to break up with her which I did for the sake of my life. After a year,we are still having sex till today, but the relationship or the genuineness is no longer there again. We are only enjoying the ex benefits.

shantti:
Bro u have every right to a sane mind and peace of mind. U are not obligated to go against ur will to Foster peace with someone who doesn't appreciate it. Infact she should be the one making the effort and not u. My grandma was that way, always frustrating me, she will say things that will leave me depressed for weeks. I don't know why people are like that. Ur peace of mind is Paramount bro. If ur mum is that toxic then avoid her.

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Thanks for your understanding. You are the only one that understand me, some people are just talking without thinking about the emotional and psychological lacuna between us. But right now, we are cool, she has genuinely reached out and I reluctantly agreed.

Viraltrends123:
This life sef, I don't understand at all. We are just created to worship and die.

Imagine after all the suffering

Some people will then come out to say someone will not go to heaven because she wasn't in their religion. ie. She didn't accept Christ or Islam or Buhdism.

If you logically review life, you will arrive at no conclusion. Theatre of Absurdism question the meaninglessness and illogicality of life. They believe life is meaningless, that a man cannot understand life. According to them, man have three options, either to accept life the way it is, or by committing suicide, or leap of faith, which is philosophical suicide. Those that accept religion hoping that their God will give them rest is the leap of faith.

I attended King's college, set of 2015.

I was there that day,it was last Wednesday during History sign out. I thought they were joking about the whole thing, especially the girl's attitude and the kissing was awkward. But when I started seeing it online, I was like wawu,so it's true.

I want to congratulate all the fresh graduands of Kogi State University, a special shout-out to the department of Theatre Arts.

When I was graduating last Tuesday, I wish my mom was there, I wish she will sign on my cloth, but death won't allow that. She asked me to promise her that I will not disappoint her, and I did. By tomorrow, I will wear my white Polo and visit her grave to inform her about my graduation and also thank her for her support. Rest in peace dearest friend.

Four semesters is too big, with two semesters you can achieve your goals. I was on 4.44 after my 300 second semester result came out, first semester 400 I climbed to 4.46. I just wrote my final paper last Tuesday, although at that point it's hard to climb, but if God wants me to graduate with first class I will, only him can determine my fate because I have done my best.

So you can actually climb more than that.

Getting a degree doesn't make you escape poverty, you only escape illiteracy. As Nigerians, rather, students, we should understand that going to school is not an automatic way of getting employed, you go there to gain knowledge. What you do with the knowledge gained after school is what determine your economic growth.

You started your write up by describing yourself as someone that read, but from the way you vent your anger, it's obvious that your school doesn't have impact on your reasoning. You can be educated and still stupid, it's a choice. I will not problem graduates because the government is not providing funds, security and enabling environment for youths to explore their dreams, but people like you, with this mindset is dangerous.

School is not a scam, it is your government that is scamming you.

Mercisharelove:
You must stop defiling a HOLY place.

Your body no be your property ooo

LoL, if my body is a temple of the Lord, who am I to stop children of God from entering?

I don't know where you guys have the energy to date girls that are this unreasonable. How can a lady in a relationship think it's okay for her to hangout with guys in the name of friends?

On behalf of me and myself, I have commot my hands from anything called relationship. I am only out for cruise.

Hmmm, after what I experienced in Cynthia's hand in 2021, I lost my ability to love romantically. From January 1st of this year, I have been having reckless sexual intercourse with different girls, and I always make clear that anything we are doing is cruise. Few of them confessed love to me, but Cynthia has killed that part of me.

Next year I hope to work on my emotions for good, but if doing what I did for Cynthia is the only way to fall in love, then I don't want to love again.

I had multiple reckless sexual intercourse, and by next year I won't have sex like that again, and even though I want to have sex I will do it responsibly.

The Christmas is somehow. It was this morning I decided to travel for the Christmas because after this season, nobody will see me at home again for the next six years.

I just graduated and I want to float like a bee. Money no dey but I will spend one week chilling with childhood guys.

This is why I can never take religion serious. These politicians are doing calamity to the people but religious organizations prefer to cash out.

Ortom would have been more productive as pig farmer. Politics shouldn't be for charlantan but Nigeria my country will never understand.

Lokoja and fire is like FFK and food.

When we Nigeria outgrown pettiness and tribal jingoism? Every appointment government at any level make, one section of the country must cry marginalization.

Well I commend his generosity. But I hope this is not robbing Peter to pay Paul, because they are collecting money from people on the road. And I heard that Buhari is sharing his loot as Christmas bonus for police.

Why are you asking these questions as if the Niger Delta is not part of Nigeria? There's nothing Nigerian politicians can not do. If you like take Nigerian politicians to China and bring Chinese politicians to Nigeria. In the next one year, China will come and borrow money from Nigeria.

dan9ice:
Science student indeed
You should have added olive oil and break oil

Hahahaha

Hahahaha, she is a real marlian.

Palm wine mixed with beer and some gin like captain jack, action bitter, Igboya. I was a mess that day. You wouldn't want to know how I embarrassed myself.