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On 28th January which marked the second day and coincidentally the award day for Kogi State University convocation ceremony, attracted public uproar when evident showed that the institution gave her first class graduates #2,000( two thousand naira) each and the overall best graduating student was given #5,000( five thousand naira).

The first class graduates were earnestly advised to use the money wisely. This act of negligence towards our education has caused mix feelings among the students who were terribly angry and condemned the school management for taking hard work for granted.

If you don't believe the news then this is the school Facebook newsline Kogi State University student newsline, on Facebook and verify.

Personally, this country is doom with these crops of leadership we have. It would have been better if the graduates were not given any dime.

Federal University of Technology Minna is busy doling out both cash price and other privileges to their first class graduates in their convocation ceremony, but Kogi State University choose to laugh at education.

I know one Igbo man in my area. He was into this provision business with big shop. Then he got entangled with one girl and they later marry. Since the marriage, the man's business started depreciating. The last time I saw him, he has closed the shop and he is now doing roadside vulcanizer.

I don't know if his predicament have anything to do with his wife.

Sometimes when people seek for advice like this in marriage, I begin to wonder if they even date/ court before getting married.

During the dating/courtship, instead of them to discuss important issues bordering compatibility, they will be eating fish, attending friends birthday.

Personally, I don't have high libido, so when I am dating a lady, especially when the relationship is tilting towards marriage, we have to discuss everything including our sex life. Babe, I can't give straight three rounds of sex every night, what is your take on this? If she can't cope with my kind of libido then we part ways. Some people just be behaving like they are not educated.

KiNg0G:
try give her 1500 for postinor, just incase.


by the way, we know it's you!!!

LoL, not at all, I have travelled from school after defense. This year I am even trying to control my sex life. My friend stayed behind because of the girl, .

Palazee:
your friend is being played

Hahaha, Comrade, please explain let me understand.

So my friend have this girlfriend in 100 level, although he just graduated. They have regular and chronic sex. But the girlfriend is always scared of pregnancy.

The problem is that last night they were having sex and the condom burst and he poured everything inside. The girlfriend got angry and left. He advised her to take salt and water, Andrew liver salt, or any gas drink, but she ignored him.

My friend is angry with her because, she is always scared of pregnancy but will never take those things to prevent it, it happened yesterday and she is thinking it will lead to pregnancy. My friend is leaving school on Monday because he has graduated.

Although I have advised him severally to reduce the sex, but the deed has been done already. What is your advice to the girl?

My father my father, never allow my sister to stop her friend from visiting our house especially when the friend is crushing. Something that comrade will enjoy peacefully, but sister has become Buhari in his life.

It is normal, over excitement makes one cum early, when you are not worried or nervous about the sex, you last longer.

The only problem I have is that when I cum for the first round, penis no go rise for second round again, it will take hours before that penis get back to life.

The race is not for the wise, the swift nor the might, but time and chance happen to them all. I am so happy for the boy.

My grandmother always tell me that when grace finds you, even your own mistake will favour you.

I am proud of Obi Cubana, in every little way we can, let's help humanity.

After Buhari,conji is the second worst thing to happen to someone.

Mide3367:
you are not only simping. You be mumu. You need red pill bro. Grab your pills on this thread. Swallow all and be illed of your simpism https://www.nairaland.com/6048178/reality-every-guy-need-know/1. Dont forget to thank me later.

You are very correct bro, I have learned from my mumu with this girl.

Kobojunkie:
The thing about friendship is nothing of it is set in stone. If you want to do more for the other, you can, if you don't want to, you don't need to.

Some friends will go to the grave for others, others will throw you under the bus the first chance they get. Some friends will bail you out of jail, others will sit and wait for you to bail yourself out or even move on until you get your act together.

Your reasoning is faulty if you think such relationship is healthy. I am not surprised the other guy ran into argument with you. After Buhari, people like you are the problems of Nigeria.

Kobojunkie:
1. Yeah, the word was created to mean it's opposite, abi?

2. A friend is a pal that you are to respect as a pal. If your wish is to win her heart instead than it is on you to make your intention know and in turn respect her decision. Burdening your friend with having to constantly notice whether you are trying to win her heart or not is not what a friend would do to another friend. That is what a conman would do.

3. Keep telling yourself that!

So burdening your friend by always taking, seeking for help, or always reaching out to a friend only when you need his help,is what a friend should do to another friend?

Das1mama:
G, whatz up with u and me? Did my words speak against me? Though understanding differs..... everyone has his/her weakness most especially when it comes to the issue of the heart.. So d fact that u claim to be strong hearted doesn't mean u don't have someone u Simp 4.

I already told you that the guy have understanding deficiency. He comments because he has data not because he read and understand.

AYNL:
why is everybody talking about sex

OP clearly wrote he was ready to accept her conditions

like no sex and others

well here's my piece

help her with her project,but don't spend a dime over it o,even if her money remain 5kobo no help her

I hate bullshii

It's funny how these people failed to understand my write up and are shouting because of sex. I am not even interested in the relationship again, but she is not behaving like a friend, she is only reaching out only when she needs help.

shakespere:
Loads of baby comments here.

So once you have feelings for a girl, na by force to like or love you back. Its simple she has no feelings for you. IT DOESNT MAKE HER A BAD PERSON

In this case she told she wanted frienship only, no relationship, yet you no hear. You are very selfish, you want her to date person wey she no like? Abi because you de help her, she must open leg, una de mad? Just imagine say na your sister, na so she go date and Bleep every guy wey toast / help am

Dont key into all this immature guys simps nonsense, you go do for woman wey you love, woman wey love go do for you, nothing strange, na person wey no send you go chop you.

If you cant help her on the project because of un returned feelings wey no be her fault, tell her ow much you go collect.

Forget all this immature hard guys on naira land. Person wey fall in love de mugu, so nothing strange

You dont have to help

I will not help her with her project, not because of unrequited love, but because of her lack of gratitude and about the friendship, she was taking advantage of the friendship. At least, you call your friends to check up on them. But she only called when she needed help. I have cut off every toxic and unhealthy friends this year. Thanks for your advice.

Richy419:
Ladies know the good once when they see one you were one of the good once and even me know that you will help her out

Hahaha, even my village people won't support me helping her.

lereinter:
It's ladies that teach men how to be emotionally strong

She sees you hasn't been are type to date, so she showed you through actions


Is not every help you can render

You made a great point here.

Olayetan:
Anything she ask you within your convenient reach, do it with free open mind, just take your mind off relationship with her for now, this life race is a funny marathon...

So you are advising me to help someone that never appreciate all the help I have rendered before, someone that never called one day unless she needs help?

Kobojunkie:
Please, try to keep God out of these suggestions as many of these beings here are already too confused as it is.

If a grown up like the OP does not even understand the basic rudiments of human friendship, you think say im go understand am better when you try to weave God into the mix?

So you that understand the basic rudiments of friendship, friendship should be one sided right? Philosophy of life is all about give and take. So it is okay for her not to care, not even a call for four months, and it is not okay for me to turn down a request from parasitic friend abi? If she also understand what friendship entails, she would have been more humane in the friendship, and if you really understand reciprocated friendship, you wouldn't have commented this out of point comment.

Kobojunkie:
Wait a minute OP... why is she wicked? She told you from the get go that all she desired from you was friendship... why demonize her for not wanting a relationship of the sort you prefer?

Why can't she expect help from you when you went along offering her your friendship ? She is not wicked and there isn't anything wrong with her asking someone she sees as a friend for help with her project. You, on the other hand, are always free to refuse her your help.

Abeg, no be by force for her to date you because you want her to. Get over yourself and if you can't be a friend to her, move on so she can find others more worthy abeg!

From your recent comments, I noticed you have understanding deficiency. From my write up, I made it clear that I was the only one helping her and she is not helping me, I am not expecting her to date me again since we are friends now. I called her for eight months and I stopped calling for four months and she never care to call and check up on me until yesterday, that's after four months, she called only for her to ask for help. Is that your own understanding of friendship? Learn how to understand before commenting.

Truvelisback:
If Cynthia is her real name, then just forget her. Cynthias are rarely straight foward.

Hahaha, you won't kill me laugh. Seriously I don't know anything about the name Cynthia though.

Kobojunkie:
1. No, I don't! But being mean to her because she didn't like you back back immature.

2. What cake? Someone asked for friendship and you agreed to it only with ulterior motives which later backfired. And you think this has anything to do with eating ones cake and having it?

3. Please, visit and embrace wisdom so you don't end up a total waste of space and resources in your old age.

I did not agreed to the friendship with ulterior motives, I genuinely agreed to the friendship, the logic you failed to understand from my story is the fact that she is not behaving like a friend towards. You have friends, are they not calling you, are they not helping you as you are helping them? I called her everyday as a friend for eight months and I stopped calling. She did not call me to know how I am doing for four months, but called yesterday because she needs my help, is that your own understanding of friendship?

ParpahSeventy:
Lol.
And you think being there for her makes you an adult?
If only I can be a child, It's an opportunity I will take with both hands, but if only you know what it takes to grow up, you won't be in a hurry to grow up.
You can't eat your cake and have it, you know why??
Equity hates double portion, sometimes we preach karma, sometimes what karma does is give us the opportunity to pay back.
Adulthood will teach every soul that too much righteousness will destroy you, what will the OP gain by helping her out?
Can you highlight them for me?
Will take away his sorrows and pains/disappointments?

You are my kind of person. You know what you are saying and ready to defend it. Those that are saying I should help don't even understand my story. She wanted friendship and I offered her the friendship, the question is that,does she behave like a friend towards me?

Kobojunkie:
You are not making sense of any kind.

OP tabled his request for a sexual relationship, but the lady denied the request. She then suggested friendship to him instead, a request he accepted, this by choosing to invest his time and energy on the friendship. Op no talk say he denied her request but he was clear that she denied his.

She is the only one benefitting from the relationship or the OP conveniently left out the part about what he gained from the friendship in that time so he can sound like he has basically carried the entire weight of the friendship all by himself?

She already rejected OP so her dating history is not OP'S business, unless she asks OP to make it his.

Also, how could she use him when they were both of them in the friendship relationship together. How in the world does that make her a parasite. Did she hold a gun to OP'S head or something? ... Is the OP an imbe-cile?

Sir, I don't know what you consider as friendship, but from what I wrote I said I offered her the friendship and she is exploiting the friendship, she doesn't call, I did all the calls, I provided past questions, I did all the assignments for her, I was giving her tutorials. I was the only one doing the favour, she didn't offer anything to me. At least, someone that calls you for eight months stopped calling and as friends you never one day called until four months later when you need his help.

I didn't omit what she did for me as you erroneously claimed, she didn't do anything for me. She was the only one benefitting. After four months of not hearing from me, she called only to ask for my help, can you at least understand my situation before arguing with my write up?

[quote author=Ficient post=109061807]She didn't date you, but she imparted your life and added value. Don't be bitter, enjoy the friendship. You have really benefited from it. Stop the unnecessary spending to impress a lady, that's another lesson she has thought you, and you cannot force love. [/quote

I have realized my mistakes, I am back to my old self. I have moved on and I have left her in my past and I am not bitter. That's why I stopped helping her too because I won't impress her again.

Kobojunkie:
What he did for her was as a friend to her. Why put a stake in it as if friends don't go that far for each other?

Since friends go that far for each other, a friend that calls you for eight months stopped calling you and you never one day call him to know how he is doing, then after four months you called him simply because you need his help academically. Is that your own understanding of friendship? So as friends, the lady should not call, or do anything, she should always ask for help. The philosophy of life is all about give and take, it should be reciprocal not one sided. That friendship is very toxic and unhealthy.

HopeNeverDies:
Damnnnn!!!!! Brrrh... Find a way for her to fail that course.

That's how life rolls.

Hahaha, I can't stop laughing at this. Anyways, thanks for your opinion.

Kobojunkie:
So because she chose to continue instead as a friend means she wicked? I no blame you ..... I blame your upbringing instead..

I don't have problem with her being my friend, the only problem is she exploiting the friendship. If you really understand my write up, you will see where I said I stopped calling her and she never care to call me, until four months later when she needed help, is that not wickedness? Is that your own way of friendship?

Sonnobax15:

Op,if you're to ever consider helping her, please charge her for it . You ain't no mugu,nor an alternative....

The general truth/fact is that Women don't like kind guys with genuine reasons.......I've been a victim of it once,tho I'm still trying to heal from it..........For once,I realized how weak I'm..............But man just gat to move on.......I equally wished her well,and moved on with my life......Tho she's been calling and texting but guyman don pass that stage already.....


"In all your doings, don't ever be an option to anyone"

You are very right. Thanks

Das1mama:
Brother u should thank God she made her intentions known to u, bliv me when i say for almost 4yrs now and still counting that the mother of my son who was just 6yrs old then left us with the mindset of going for a week interview at lagos at business was not booming as it used to be...... Up till now am still very much hurt and disappointed because this is a lady i gave vividly all myself to because right from my childhood days have never wished my enemy a polygamous home because of d war and battle because am from a polygamous home so i never wished it for my own children, ever since i despised women to the extent that i see them as enemy and locked my heart never to love again........ U are lucky u haven't married her yet or have kids for u, so hard to let go because d kids are the bond between you guys...

Sorry about your experience bro.

CreepyBlackpool:
Nawao.

The number of Simps we're seeing these days is becoming quite alarming.

Hopefully you've learnt your lesson, doesn't quite look like you have, but for your sake, I do hope you have

I have learnt my lesson bro.