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OP, a misogynistic gem hates women including his sister and mother. A misogynist is a male chauvinist, a male apologist, a patriarchist. And it is funny how Nairaland guys claim to hate women and love their sisters and mother. How girls are scum and useless and their sisters and mother are virgin and secred.

Psychologically, you are sick and you need to go see a therapist. People that hate on other gender do so as a result of baggage that they won't let go, and it's not good for your emotional health.

Sometimes, we go on Facebook and online and we see write up and we personalize it, there are young minds on this platform and the way we ooze out toxicity is alarming.

Work on your emotional health, no bad energy. Humanity is the goal.

clevybrown:
What a crazy reason to breakup...

LoL, you know school is full of crazy people, we are all crazy in that environment. The economic reality is what give us sense.

Biglittlelois:
She did the right thing by breaking up with you.

That's true, at that point, breaking up with me was the right thing to do.

zedegit:
You could still have gotten her back. What she needed was assurance of your love but I guess you cared less about her.

Yeah, you know she was in her first year and I was in my final year, that period we were signing out. So I already know that the relationship have to die. Distance relationship doesn't work for me, so I don't want to encourage the relationship. So when she messaged me, I just let everything be.

Medianna:
Na you buy market na.. Even if I were her, I'll do the same thing.
I know you never took the time to make her understand you actually cared

You are right, I never explained to her how I felt and when she broke up with me, I just concluded that I should let everything be for good.

SweetSauce:
Will do same, if I was in her shoes.

Yeah, I never blamed her for the breakup, she did the right thing, but she ended up hating on me since then.

Harkyn92:
Maybe I did a mistake by assuming that she's responsible just because she's an inteovert.
Anyways thanks for the advice

Never assume when it comes to issue of relationship, especially in dealing with ladies. And I always tell my guys to allow students date themselves. Dating an undergraduate girl is not an easy task. You have to be ready for her to cheat on you with fellow students, lecturers, non academic staff, neighbors, everybody. Her reason is limited to that artificial environment, so I advised you look for a mature person to date. Only few girls can be in school and be serious about their life.

MadamVanessa:



But we women crave for equality with men so much . What happens if women show their men love, spend on men as much as they spent on us.

So if we can't do these, how then do we cry for equality. Reason I personally don't want to join feminist movement, because it's a big joke .

African feminism is really a big joke. Personally, I don't have problem spending on my woman, it's natural for me. As an African, you can't be always hungry, begging for data, commercializing your body and be shouting feminism up and down.

When a breakup occurs, the person that loves most will be deeply hurt. I feel for the lady though.

My ex dumped me over what she described as unseriousness on my part, LoL. The girl really loved me but I wasn't ready for such a serious relationship. She wants all her friends to know me, she wants all my friends to know her, she wants the whole department to know that we are dating, but I don't want that kind of relationship. I just want a relationship that will give me space. Boom, during my sign out, her coursemate, came to sign on my shirt and we took some photos, when I posted the photos on Facebook, she messaged me on Whatsapp and broke up with me that I never posted our pictures together before.

Hmmm, 2020 was so terrible for me. I was in 300 level and I thought I will drop out of school, I never believe I will graduate. Financially, I was hopeless.

That same year I became really broken when I lost my grandmother. I never had the luxury to grow up with any of my biological parents. Dad died when I was just 2years old, Mom nowhere to be found. I took solace with grandma who stood for me as the only parent I had. She raised me from that two years till my third year in the University and she died.

I cried myself out. She made me promise her that I would graduate successfully and she didn't wait to see me graduate. She was the only parent I know. Since her death, my life have become very unstable and blur. When I graduated last year, I visited her grave, just to inform her that I kept our promise.

I try to be strong, I try to move on, I try to let go, but I just can't. Even this moment I am waiting for my result. It seems like I am living another person's life. Life is just too stressful.

I am a child of destiny, and I will surely succeed. Any hardship I am passing through right now is just a matter of time, everything will fall in place for my good. Better days ahead.

Kim Kardashian married and divorced four times.

I cannot and will not marry a divorce lady. My choice.

From my experience in the University, I still find it very funny when a serious guy said he is dating an undergraduate girl. The wrong set of people to have a serious relationship with is undergraduate girls. Those girls are something else, they will be pretending to be decent but when you see then with their bestie going wild, you won't believe.

OP, better take your heart to another location before that girl PUTIN all her efforts in invading your heart like Ukraine.

From my experience in the University, I always find it funny when a serious guy said he is dating an undergraduate girl. Well, all girls are not the same, but only God knows the kind of energy you need to date an undergraduate girl.

OP, just look for someone that is serious with her life and date. The wrong set of people to build a serious relationship with is the undergraduate girls. They will so much invade your heart with bomb, you will think your heart is Ukraine.

ModestGal:
Have you gotten a good job? Message me

No, I have not gotten a job yet. I returned from school after project defense. I just enrolled in computer classes, but my result will be out any moment from now.

macnino399:
We are on the same boat bro, I graduated with 4.46 and sometimes I feel like I could have channelled major focus on skills and personal development but I chose to live an austere life in school.
Though I don't have any regrets as I still count it as a win for me, right now I'm focused in honing my skills.

Only you can perfectly understand such feeling. You focus so well and you still don't get the first class and you ended up on the same class with someone with 3.50.

So I was with one girl that is crushing on me like that when my exam officer called me about my result. The man said I graduated with 4.47 not first class as expected. Boom, this girl after hearing about my result told me that her elder brother graduated with first class in medicine and surgery. I just ignored her.

A girl told she is a virgin but It was a lie.

My 100 level girlfriend told me that her cultist boyfriend is her cousin.

And a girl recently told me that Abuja is a State and Yahaya Bello is the governor.

I think it's the lecture hall. We had election break and people were vacating school, I had a fight with my girlfriend the previous day, so when I attended her fashion show so that I can reconcile before I travel, conji knocked on me and we did the quickie in the nearest lecture hall.

He doesn't have mental problem. But you shouldn't be this alarmed since the fling happened the week you guys broke up. He didn't cheat on you, you guys broke up and he had a fling. You guys are back now and he is ignoring the girl and that's why the girl is consistent with the messages.

You should understand that he did it when you guys were no longer together.

By all means, don't tolerate abusive partner. That's how it all starts, avoid violence partner like plague. I don't want to hear Justice for Folake o.

GlowDee:
Something different like what Sir?

Like paying more attention to the relationships I neglected in school. Join the social groups that my department never gave me chance to join.

Greatfullheart:
i wish to have ur grade, if i had i would have been serving now. Be grateful for what've gat.

Yeah, I realized I shouldn't allow my result to define the quality of my life. I am grateful, but you know we humans are insatiable.

NamelessOGBENI:
This one hit.
I lost one job opportunity during my finals and it still bite till date. Wasn't that street smart enough to have started hustling from my sophomore days, if I had done that when I had the chance, the story would have been another thing today.

But then, I'm grateful for all those times, everything now is just a bonus.

May your heart desires be granted. Better days ahead.

I prefer night calls, lying on my bed with my earphones on, or sitting on my couch watching movies then receiving the call.

Whenever my mom wants to call me, she either calls in the morning or in the night, you see that afternoon call? I don't like it.

After all my efforts, I still graduated with 4.47, how I wish I wouldn't have been this serious.

Secondly, I lost so many meaningful relationships in school, how I wish I did something different.

Vinnie2000:
WOW! Nice one, Bro!

Thanks bro.

Uzomacharles:
Make them change your moniker to wisdom bank

LoL, thanks man.

I brought my English teacher to help me ask the girl out. The teacher is respected in the community, but I begged him to come follow me talk to her. I was foolish for love that year.

Uzomacharles:
@bolded
Wetin him disobey?

One of the best I've seen so far

The lore have it that after God created all parts of the body. Both eyes, nose, ears went to God to complain bitterly that the anus is disturbing them with awful smell. God personally asked anus never to intimidate the complainants with smell again or face the consequences. But the stubborn anus disobeyed God and still intimidated them with heavy smell. And God told him that for disobeying His order, anus is cursed never to see the sunlight again. That was why anus was removed from the face and placed deep into the buttocks.

The story is told to discourage disobedience among children.

nurez305:
The first red flag was when she started ignoring my calls.

I went to her house to know what is going on and I met a guy there but he excuse us immediately, later she went to take her bath and drop the phone on the sofa. I was with her phone when the text message from that guy that left enter with only "OK" . then I open the message and I saw the previous conversation between them.

The guy said : when you know your boy-friend is coming to your house today, why did you invite me also to come

My fucking GF replied : he is not my boyfriend, he is only a friend


After reading that, I started sweating inside their house after I have spent on the idiot.

I bought her the phone,
Pay her school fee,
Give her money whenever she ask
When her father died, I paid her trip to and fro and also give her change to hold to her village.


I felt like a loser and was very heartbroken. I summon courage and told her to return back my phone after telling her what I saw in her inbox, she accuse me of checking her messages without her consent and she refuse to give me the phone.

I threten her that if she refuse to return my phone that I won't take it lively with her. She reported me to police and they set a trap for me, she told me to come to somewhere to collect the phone, on getting there, I was arrested and the police force me to write a statement that I will never disturb her because of this phone again. I did and they told me to call one of my relatives to come and bail me and be my witness. I did that and I was granted bail and told us to come the next day.

The next day, the police woman try to settle the issue between us and she said we should not fight each other again and continue our relationship. And the police officer told her to delete all the threat messages I sent to her which he did.


NOW IS MY TURN TO REVENGE
After about 2months that will depart, she taught I have forgotten everything she does to me not knowing that I'm only waiting for the best time to strike her back. I went to area command to hire police, the man charged me 30k and told me not to worried that what she does was very bad. I lead the way to her house and she was shocked to see me again, she quickly call her mum and to tell her, we arrested her in her shop then and the police put an allegation on her that she hire tug to beat me up because I requested for my phone from her. She started crying that is a lie. The police ask for the receipt of the phone from her and she told them that I bought it for her, they collected the phone and detained her until her family show.

I later tell the police to allow her to go but I need to collect the phone. The man said it is important I do that.... After everything, I collected the phone and leave them in the station.


Foolish olosho

LoL, interesting story, but the stress and waste of energy wasn't necessary though.

So Felicia told me that she doesn't have airtime, I called her till I became fed up. That time, I was asking her out and she was dating one boy like that. When the boy broke up with her, and we started dating, Felicia was calling me everyday and she was even sending me airtime. That was when I realized that if a girl is into you, she will call you always.

Cynthia never called, I was the only one doing the call, when I complained, she said she was not the calling type. Then I stopped wooing her and moved on. When she started dating my coursemate. She was calling him non stop. The guy was even complaining about her regular call. I still realized that girl will call you if you mean a lot to her.

Khadija never had airtime to call me, but when she finally accepted to date me, she made sure she call me everyday.

Miracle see me everyday except weekend because we are taking the same computer classes. But she is calling me everyday, even today she called twice. Because she has fallen in love with me, but I am still playing ignorance.

Sincerely, these are my personal experience. Don't beg for love and never allow someone love you out of pity. They will always create time and make sacrifices for you if they really care about you.

odinson1:
A Virgin Girl in Nigeria? I thought the Asteroid wiped them all out years ago?

LoL, I have this same thought until I met many virgins during my university days.