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A wife material would have told you to use your senses and utilize the NL search button rather than creating another thread.

Wow this your bf is hilarious. This is usually what people see and say Damn how did he land that type of girl!
If you think the love will grow, good luck to you but i see you losing respect for him by the way.Achieving your dreams and ambitions will be tougher with this guy as he probably would lock you uo in the kitchen and farm.
Goodluck to you. What you see is whanyou get.

Frank, i have met women who do not have any form of attachment to cheating whatsoever. I mean I even felt bad whike the girls couldn't give a shit. Some of them just like the thrill of one night stand. Absolutely no attachment. How is that any different from guys? And it is not even a oyinbo thing. My point is according to your argument, it should be okay for them too like it is for guys.
PS cheating women is not new thing either.Read your bible.
No need to focus on American value system.Your so called family system is also thrash in Nigeria. That's another discussion for another time.

Many women attach emotions to sexx but we also have many who don't. Many others just use it as a means to an end eg marriage, money, power, fun etc. I can't stand a cheating woman but it's time we start holding our men to the same standard as we do women.

tracyxx: He is a superman ohhhhh!he once told me he can never be satisfied and he had slept with over 200 girls b4 we got married.I taught maybe after marriage he will stop.

Now that is your first fault, you have a lower libido than him and you still went ahead. But that's done. You will have to step up your game. Figure how many times he wants it in a day and give it to him.200 before marriage is really nothing. With the right game and time, any dude can be that prolific. Call him superman when he sleeps with 200 women in one day.
Bring back the fun and excitement into your sex life. You can do it, it won't be that easy at first, but it gets better. There are tunes you won't be in the mood but there are other maneuvers you can perform.
Become the goddess of sex herself and see if you have any rival after that.
For motivation, remember if a guy keeps on fking the same girl all the time, he starts developing some serious attachments. That can go either way for you.

Omosexy, I'm not saying i don't understand Frank. I understand him very well... too well maybe. I just happen to disagree with you both.
In reality, no body needs a reason to cheat. Your hormones should be enough.
If you couldn't tell from my posts, I'm a full blooded guy. And to answer your unpacked question - yes i have cheated many times before on gfs. I used to believe i was gods gift to women and the fact that i got game i should use it to add to my trophy list. And yes, i still desire other women sometimes.

But that is the past. I have grown older and hopefully wiser. I have learnt lessons in life too. Still do.
The only reason men cheat is because they know they can get away with it. Because they know you ladies will just accept it as a man's weakness. Because you are more interested in keeping that particular man for various reasons you are willing to turn a blind eye on his actions.

You think men can't curb their sexual desires? You have been fooled to think they can. Yes we enjoy the thrills but we have the ability to take control from our other brain if we really choose to.

Why don't men knowingly sleep with ladies with HIV no matter how Hot they are? Why don't they sleep with a woman if they know there is magun on her? Hypothethically, if a man knows that overtime he cheats someone close to him will die, will he do it? Or if he knows he will die if he does it!
Men cheat because they know they can get away with it.End of story.
Try this, open lines of communications with tor gut and say "I understand you are a man and you looked to get it outside too.I'm a woman and I don't mind the experience of other guys too. So I'm okay with you cheating as long as it is okay for me to cheat.Tell him if he cheats outside of that agreement, you wool cheat back on him secretly too.
Or leave his cheating zzz.HE WILL LEARN!
If u start accepting it, then he will do it whether it hurts or not.If he is dressing up for those girls, you too dress up, look hot and desirablefit the other guys. Trust me he will be too busy keeping off other guys from you than to have time adding other ladies to his trophy cabinet.

omosexy1: @deniyor try to understand frank. A woman will cheat when she finds a reason, a man will cheat without any reason. I always tell the female folks, try and understand d mind set of a man and you will have a happy home. Well it is also important for men to understand that it hurts women when they cheat (I believe open communication on this between spouse may reduce the cheating rate) but not by threat or violence.

Deniyor, I do not know your gender, but if you are a man you should ask your self why do you have the urge to want to sleep with several women. Whether you deny it or not, it is not a theory but now a FACT. So women should know that they are still in constant competition with other women over their man, regardless of being married or not. Rather than threaten, express understanding and love. At some point, a man would get tired of his sports.

I don't have much space to quote and write an epistle at the same time in this tablet.

Was there no work in mcdonalds to make extra cash that you went for the allure of p.orn money?
You made your bed, so lie in it-no pornpun intended.
Do you have a collection of your movies?

No1 when did you become a female?

Now back to post, there is no way to tell him that will not drive a big knife in his heart.
That is life. He will feel unfairly treated and rightly so, but it is what it is.

This is not about married folks but about you. As a self confessed cheat, I'm directing my questions at you.
When a woman cheat and has no emotional attachment to the guy, you are quick to brand her a slut, ashewo,sx addict. What about men who cheat? Are they sluts too? Would you describe them in a degrading manner like you did the ladies? Would be refer to those men as scum of the earth? Would you call your self the same?
If your intention is to make the women learn the handle and understand the fact that we men cheat, have you considered that maybe we men should ALSO learn to understand that women love sexx too and may want to get it outside with no strings attached.
Maybe you should start preparing your mind that your woman is running her own side show. If that is the case, remember she loves you and you are her no1, the other guy is just sexx.
Just cos everyone does it don't make it right. Let's learn to consider the other persons feelings and not force them in accepting whatever b.s. we throw at them cos they are sometimes too weak to fight for themselves.
PS frank, i hope you don't consider my points personal. That's not the intention.

[quote author=frank3.16]I am not defendin bad thing, neither am I saying cheatin on ones partner is right, I am just stating the obvious. Men can love u and cheat on u, to them sex is not love, but to women the feel sex comes wit love.

Few women who know this fact make better wives and concentrate on more important things that makes marriage work. If ur husband is keeping a woman, caring for her and stuffs like that, and cares less for u, thhen that's another story.

If u say a man can't love and cheat his wife what then do say to about 90% of men who cheat on their wives. U mean they don't love their wives? Oh forget about vows, it has become formality over time.

I love my woman but have cheated on her a couple of times, bt she is alway my number one.[/quote]

Nashville: You may sound wicked but you might just be right. I read through her post and it seems all she did was to make him mad and angry.

OP, please ask your friend why all she ever wanted was an angry husband? Is she from a broken home? In the past would she refuse to cook if they had an arguement, would she refuse sex?

Tell her she may just have frustrated the hell out of her husband and she needs to calm down!

Miss, Don't confuse reality with wickedness.

When you cheat on a woman, you disrespect her. You chop away her self respect and she confidence. You kill her soul and essence. You kill her slowly. You destroy your chance at trust and having a fulfilling relationship?
How would you feel if your own woman you deeply love cheats on you? Why the hell do you think the feeling is different btw men and women? Or you just don't care about how they feel cos they are women?
Stop thinking it is okay or acceptable for men to cheat just cos they are men.
Or are you the type of low esteem man that has to put women's confidence down just so you feel on top?

You do have some points but i think you are wrong. While it is true many men and women feel that way when they cheat, it is just excuse for you to feel better about yourself when you cheat.
You cheat because you have the opportunity to cheat AND because you have no real respect for the feelings of your partner.
Frank3.16, will it be okay if your lady cheats on you if she has no emotional attachment to the person she is cheating on you with? If she does it for the exact reasons you do it, will it make it acceptable to you? Or do you really think it is unacceptable just because she is a woman and you are the'better sex'?
Will it be okay for her to do so if you are temporarily unable to perform your sexual duties as long as she chooses a guy only for his dyck and no emotional feelings? Or cos she is Hot while you are at work and she needs it like food.
Pls stop that b.s. about cheating as in hunger.

[quote author=frank3.16]I thank God there are Nigerians who think like u. Not a whole lot of bunch here who live in denial. Here is a post I sent some time ago, clearly difining this cheating thing and why it is so.



Well as apsychologist I found out that the problem lies in the diference in the average man and womn's sexuall orientation.
Here are d differences:
The man see sex as a mean of satisfaction like hunger, its is not sometin emotional to them. They Be Intimate becaus they want to feed a intimate appatite. This is why majority of men can sleep wit any girl and foget her name, no emotions attached. I always tell women "your husband haves sex with u not because he loves u but because he just want to satify his intimate urge. Bt he buys gift for u and do other loveable tin because he loves u.

Now for d women: the average woman sees sex as sometin emotional. She wants to b attached to de one she haves sex with. And so when a woman wants to satisfy he intimate hunger she does so with only the one she loves or de one she is convinced loves her, she jst does not give it to anyone just like de man does. Even if she has 2 or 3 guys she works on her emotions to believe she loves them ot they love her. Now don't get me wrong we have women who are different I.e LovePeddler or runs
girls bt who will call such girl an ideal woman anyway.

Now if u ask why men cheat take ur time and understand their intimate orientation. Most time they don't feel they are actually hurtin d woman they love since they have no emotions for the one they cheat on her with. They get awy with it without feelin guilty and hence it could happen over and over again. But when a woman cheats she knows she gave her heart to the one she cheated on her lover with or she knows she is a slot who slept with d man for money and hence they guilt and blame. And that is why d man reacts more when his wife cheat than wen ne does, because he knows tht for his wife to cheat on him wit another she had either given her heart to him or she is a slut for money and material tins.

This is just my own thinkin though I hope it makes sense.[/quote]

What kind of taxi do you drive?

Dead man walking

He is fed up with you, mad you time is almost up. Time to buckle up before he brings home your replacement.

No need for another woman bashing thread. We got too many of those to last us a lifetime.
Instead of putting down, let's lift each other up!
Instead of insulting theses women, let's appreciate the sacrifices, sufferings and misfortunes they go thru just to find a man that appreciates them.

Whenever you sure emotionally ready to handle another relationship.

If he cheated on you, you should have left him, not cheat same loser those own credibility.

A man can cheat and the other lady will mean nothing to him. Women are emotional cheats.
This is evidenced in the fact that you are considering the other guy for a relationship.
A piece of advice, dome date the new guy. He will have little of no respect for you. You need time to go start afresh.

One more thing i missed earlier.
Why is your hubby cheating on you? Are you satisfying him in bed? You don't seem to be able to keep up with his libido. A very satisfied man won't really have the strength or stamina to go out.
Are you connecting with him emotionally? Cos that is a reason most men go out of the relationships.
Are you sure you are rocking is world. Don't just answer yes, consider it deeply. And if in doubt, ask him to be frank with you.

It's possible for a man to love and still cheat. Its just the way they are wired and a result of their upbringing/environment.
The one thing he lacks is real respect for you, and you have to fight for it.
If you weren't married, i would have said leave his sorry arse till he comes to his senses. But you are married so maybe a break from marriage then? Tell him you understand that he likes all the extra pusssies, you want to go enjoy all the other dycks you possible can too. Two can play that game. No need to really do it but if feels the threat is real, it will get to him.
Let him know the next time you catch him or just suspect anything at all, his friends or neighbours will be getting a free ride. And you will divorce him after that and go for everything he's got (that inky works outside of naija though).
Good luck you deserve the best.

I'm not even convinced you will not cheat again. It's been only 7 months and you already cheated! What's going to happen when things become boring in couple of years? I'm glad he is getting rid of your cheating arse!
He should be here not you Cheat!

How did you know she had a new bf?

It's different for different folks. The fiance might mean what he said or he might be playing the girl.