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onegig: TALES OF A LOVELY DAUGHTER IN LAW!

Some daughters-in-law are very nice and understanding..
They don’t come to change the
family, they are
here to … ( READ ON !)

The new wife was being welcomed at the husband’s home in a traditional manner.
As expected she gave a
speech; ‘My dear family members, I
thank you for
welcoming me in my new home
and family. Firstly, my being here
does not mean
that I want to change
your way of life, your
routine ..’No, I will never do
that, never in a
million years.’
‘What do you mean my child?’
asked the father-
in-law.
‘What I mean dad is (looking at
her in-laws);
Those who used to wash the
dishes must carry on
washing them.
Those who used to do the laundry
must carry on
doing it.
Those who cooked should not
stop at my
account, AND
Those who used to clean should
continue
cleaning!!!
‘And what are you here for?’
enquired the
mother-in-law.
‘ I’M HERE TO ENTERTAIN YOUR
SON !’


Just for the laughs..

hilarious

tbaba1234: Mufti ismail Menk is awesome by the way.

We have too much ethnic colouration, most non yorubas are out of place in our masjids in Lagos in particular. The speakers usually have poor control of the english language. I feel like in a place like Lagos, they should speak enough english to communicate.

I am far more connected to foreign speakers because they speak a language, I can relate with.

That said, we are creating a dangerous 'celebrity culture'. Sometimes, we put these guys on the spot, forgetting they are humans as well. Whatever reminder they give is for themselves first and they also have struggles.

the celebrity part with fame, money, etc.

I would be wary of it becoming like the church business where every one would start getting into it for the money.

michealade: enh,it looks like aunty sikira store.lol!just jokin its cool nd guy u nid to see d one dey r buildin at ringroad....its huge

hahah..aunty sikira-what a beautiful name you gave it

I believe it is cool. I left Ibadan the week they opened it and haven't bern back.

I will surely, in sha Allah be there to see things.window shop is my hobby.

dfolan: 1000likes for this your post, that so called religion of peace feeds on propaganda to grow, you wouldn't blame him for that post afterwards according to hadith lies is permissible in Islam suffice such lies promote the growth of Islam

Someone makes a dumb post and you follow suit. It only makes you the dumber.

The population figures are not created by Muslims. How dumb of you to think of them as incorect.

Tired of seeing you dolts on here.

lucky Don: May I remind u that that Adolf Hitler though born a catholic stopped attending church right from Vienna,Austria when he lost his parents.And he NEVER killied in Jesus name.Google his famous quotes and u will see that he was an atheist,a beast possesed by the devil.

I quite understand that u are a moderate muslim and condemn violence but what I have failed to understand about Islam is why they like violence.Take for example Pakistan and Iraq were we see bombing in daily basis between the shites and sunnis?
The same goes to Somali's alshabab?
Afghanistan's taliban?alqeuda in Yemen?Also Egypt is in turmoil and sectarian violence in Lebanon.When I watch this things,I come to the conclusion that Iraq's everyday blood letting is a deliberate effort to murder people in funerals,market places and roadside.

I am aware that we have like five major religions in the world and they are Christianity,Islam,Hindu,Buhdaism and Skihs but I have not seen any of them except Islam fighting the other.
I am not condemning Islam but why has it always been on the news ?

Another ignorant one trying to form knowledgeable. Adolf Hitler stopped going to church and that makes him less of a cHristian? How many christians go to church anyway?

and you see Shekau as he prays and you are sure he is truly a Good Muslim?

That you even equate Egypt's democratic struggle with terrorism shows a lack of depth in you.Is Lebanin an Islamic state and the only place where Ethnic clashes occur?

People like you are a waste of time and are truly deserving of your ignorance. Wallow in it and stay drunk please...just where the world needs you.

They were taking drugs

They were using condom

even Osama was watching porn

and now they use juju.

Journalism is now a joke or some non Muslims are claiming Islam to give Islam a bad name.

how can a Muslim be going jor jazz. it shows they are not Muslims. #lobatan

Sissie: Yes we do, in Nigeria most of the scholars have a specific tribe that mostly follow them, and am not sure of any that is know in Nigeria that both north and south listen to equally, or has a strong following from both.

They organize lectures with Nigerians, mostly Abuja based scholars but the crowd they draw is incomparable.

Most of the previous lectures where free but due to bugdet constraints, they introduced the tickets. Same organizers brought in zakir naik, Khalid yasin and it was free.
The way they deliver lectures is really good maybe due to international experience or something.

alright then.

Plus they have a strong online presence that makes them attractive to the youth. I follow Mufti Menk on facebook.

You should have posted the ones you think are better for a real comparison.

home page recommendation-
https://www.nairaland.com/1453429/how-survive-bullet-wound-until

DON'T DRINK WATER!!!!

There is a need to get very much aware of wherever you find yourself. Look around and know the exits .

It is also high time you got physically fit and not just sitting on a couch all day. You wouldn't know when the need to run will present itself and how much load you'll be carrying when it happens.

It is all about risk management.


God help Us.

fyneboi79: So true!! I am 6'2 and will never be attracted τ̲̅ȍ tall girls but shorter girls who look cute.

They intimidate you abi..

They look you in the face and you feel emasculated ??

ayobase: Anytime I come across article as such, I begin dey wonder why I didn't feed on enough beans when I was younger......Damn!

Na to go marry deols to compensate for my elegant children!

This is not a beans matter. Genetics at play.

Marrying a tall woman does not guarantee it either. You would need to pray even after that marriage.

dammytosh: Wrong reason to be a programmer. You might end up not being one if your motivation is the cash.

didn't mean that

kayword: Indeed. Even though I dont usually comment, this is my number one thread.

good to know

Is he a sccientist? How did he prove that?


and your blog is now dailymail?

Do we really need to keep bringing foreigners for these lectures?


Are there no Nigerians who would give the same lecture for less or no money at all?


I wish the organisers the best, anyway.

Revolva: umm ibadan go enhjoy..tire...no more eleran...for street corner....sha....and all those local ibadan babes.....go upgrade sha......ope o

I am sure you have the wrong thought of what local means. Joke is on you

Dallas Cowgirl: I don dey eye that 96inches plasma tv

hehehehhe..

You should have asked for ice cream nahhh

9jadelta: its like there are many Ibadan and lagos people for nl

The most educated people with the most possible access to internet services or a financial success that allows the purchase of at least the 'ibetapassanybodyelse' generator set.

Dallas Cowgirl: Deola, my Allah sister, stop acting broke and go shop till your hijab drops.
One love

@post

I was at Egunu shoprite a day ago. They should rename it yabaleft cuz that place is full of beggars and awon were.
Ibadan is the way to go. Haters beware

my Allah sister..lol

what should I call you nahhh.

what you want make I buy for you? Shoprite here we come..

How many times have I said it that Ibadan is a commercial hub.

wise business people will pitch their tent there. You also have the advantage of the cool atmosphere, low crime rate, easy life. But of course, if you want the high, you can always find hide outs, away from normal people.

Go see how people they always enter those KfC shops...una go fear fear. Ibadan ni joooor

good development.

that first shoprite is too far from my house. I hope the new one is close by .

Havent even entered the shoprite. Anyone knows what it is like

charlsecy4: You have to love coding first!

okay

adewasco2k: Hahahhaa, oleeeee

what language is that? what does that mean?

are you a programmer?

[quote author=tpia@]




you're welcome









ok, what then were your goals ie what did you intend the thread to achieve?[/quote]I already stated them. I wanted a platform for discussion and we have been discussing. I hoped that people would learn about the opposite gender and have an understanding of their thought process.

I hoped that it would help people make the right choices and know how to approach relationship issues..
Some of the things that I wanted discussed earlier on came up much later and I was grateful that it was brought up- something about dressing up and how to approach...


I have seen changes in people actually. I see some things that we discussed being manifested in how people relate and all that(even if they would not admit at first). There are also many others who read without posting comments..I believe it gets helpful many atime.

did you have a particular purpose in mind?

they are already stated above.

oh, i thought you were in nigeria.

only for a few months in a year.

if you're rounding up your program then its never too early to start scouting for a spouse, assuming you're not planning a whirlwind courtship of maybe less than a year.

I am not under any pressure to get married. I am not the typical girl waiting for a charming prince. I know what I want from life. I think a man would come along as I live my life.There is no need to rush.

i asked the question because i was wondering if you actually are currently in a relationship with someone, sometimes you give that impression.

I am not the girl friend type. I only talk with people.

well, compatibility matters, those cant always be ignored.

yeah









fair enough,

do you have an idea which personality type you feel would be suitable for you?

I am Not sure of that. I have seen all kinds. I am more at ease with the crazy, all out for fun, down to earth, totally real(I always know the pretenders), intelligent, respectful and hard working, unintimidatable types with a future glaringly written over their forehead.

[quote author=tpia@]let me rephrase

if the wife is too busy or too tired to do the house chores, she should let the husband know she needs assistance.

if he can help, he should, especially if she's taking care of a baby/small kids. And possibly working at the same time.

in nigeria, most people would get a housemaid or relative to help in this area.



but, its not ok to command him to do the housework, i dont know if its done overseas but i never heard the like in nigeria.

and a reason such as "if the wife does not like house chores", is no reason at all. Most people do not like house chores, but they have to be done regardless if someone likes them or not. Unless you want the whole world in your business and looking down their judgemental noses at you?[/quote]I was not talking of commanding the husband. I already explained what I meant. It is not even about liking something but about not wanting to do it or not being able to. I see no reason why anyone should be forced to do what they don't want to do for any reason.

I already put it there. It is better that people are honest with each other and marry those they can deal with than ending up
in an unhappy marriage.


Maybe I know some funny people though; the atypical Nigerians who live really good lives despite the atypical Nigerian choices they make/lifestyles they live.

ShehuAba: The comments so far have really been enlightening.

The first issue here is that of Compatibility. It's necessary to marry someone who's compatible with you especially in class. E.G: If you are a low/middle class and you go ahead to marry a high class lady you must be willing to adjust to her lifestyle, maybe she's the type that doesn't wash clothes, plates, cook infact everything is done for her at home, you must find a way to satisfy her in that aspect.
That said, the fact still remains that, this's always the isolated cases especially in Nigeria where a larger percentage are in the middle/low class.

The second issue is that of COMPROMISE. The truth is that you can never know all about your spouse before marriage. We are all humans, we try to adjust ourselves at least to get somethings done for ourselves. Marriage is not an exception.
That's why i asked earlier that is't possible for a lady to tell her fiance that she's a dirty type? Even to tell him that she cannot cook? C'mon lets be realistic with ourselves, it's practically impossible especially in our society where most girls are thought to be home keepers from childhood. May be the lady is trying to tell me that she has no proper home training, or she's not an obedient type.

More comments later

You see, I have read all you wrote. I can tell the kinda person you are. You keep hammering on home training like there is a book or guideline to it.

It is your opinion, keep to it. since it wont affect me, I wont bother dissecting your posts.

The problem with Nigerians is thinking that the world must be seen through their myopic eyes.

A Nigerian wants things to continue to happen because there is never a way out. Status quo must be kept..LOL.

Esji80: Jazakallahu khair

deols pls explain wat u actually mean.I did not understand wat u r trying 2 figure out there.

are you sure u want me to explain anything? when this, below is what you wrote

Esji80: Assalamu alaikum.U shld knw d@ as a married woman,U r to respect ur husband,do d household chores except in a situation whereby he personally decided to assist U o get a housemaid.

6ta,plx wen trying to say anythng abt husband-wife,remember d@

ARRIJALU QAWWAMUNA ALAN NISAA'I BIMA FADALALLAHU BA'ADUHUM ALA BA'AD. . .
d husband s d head. As stated by d Holy Prophet P.B.U.H in a hadith qouted by a brother above d@ he went to cautioned his beloved daughter(FATIMA) on d issue ov taking housemaid as soon as he hears her demand.

Also in another hadith,d Prophet P.b.u.h said "had it been I'll tell anybody 2 bow down 4 a felo human,I'll av ask women 2 bow down 2 their husabands"--RESPECT


NOTE: 1.FATIMA according to a narration wl b d leader ov d women ov aljannah. . .

do U consider urself above ha in honor o wat?

2.D issue ov housemaid/driver nowadays s a big problem--some foolish husbands tends 2 b engagng in illegal acts wt d housemaid,likwese women n drivers.

Am sorry U may thing my words r harsh . . .there r nothng bt cautionary words ov reminder FAZAKKIR FA'INNAZZKRA TANFA'UL MUUMINUUN.

May Allah guide,guard,protect,direct n bless us ol ameen.

As we unite here in nairaland may HE converge us in d most adorable aljannatul firdaus. . .ameen

May He gvs us d means ov gettng married + pious,caring,n adorable spouses ameen.

[quote author=tpia@]As per cooking, i think this has been discussed elsewhere on the forum.

There are cooking schools, youtube videos, etc to help out with that.

Even white ladies and non nigerians are cooking nigerian foods ( which they have never seen before prior to marriage), with the help of the internet.


And of course, hiring a cook is also an option if both parties are tired and stressed out, and have the money.[/quote]All of these are necessary only she can not. If she is interested in learning, the matter should not have gotten here. It is more like she stopped doing it. But how do we know why?

Because the husband is making life unbearable for her and she had to run for her life without waiting first to keep the house clean?

do we know if she got a job that now takes too much of her time? do we know if they she spends the money on the house while husband expects her to do room service still?..

Do we even know if Mr. Husband was just a talkative divulging the lies he thought of so he could get a pity party?

who knows?

punch is using nl 4 traffic. it is a win-win situation.