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This might work out good for chukwuneze
One of the major problems of our sports stars mostly our footballers is that once they attain small limelight, they loose focus. They loose the hunger which is meant to take you from limelight to the topmost.

Example look at Mikel Obi, in 2005 he was second to Messi as a young star, but he lost focus over the years

Likewise Iheanacho, very promising but nothing to write home about.

Jay Zs Rocnation can manage this guy to dream and aim for the zenith.
I trust Jiga, look at what he did to the. Career of Kanye West and Rihana

Take heart
May there soul RIP

Its not good to give young lads total freedom to do what they like
There must still be some kind of control from parents
Driving from Zsmfara to Abuja with a fast car like that is a no no

Look at upcoming young lads
And dey be ajebo northern children
What a loss to there family.

Valleys:
People like the op are loved by the ladies. They open office for their head. They hate people like ubunja and co because they are always ahead of the game. There was no lessons learnt here because he will surely fall prey again.

Because women that truly make sense you can never buy them with money.
A very good looking married woman was telling us some hours ago, he rejected a very wealthy guy for a man that was just barely getting by for marriage and that she never regretted that choice.



You can never ever get a good woman with money or material things.
Because they are hidden treasures that if only your chi is smiling at you, you will get them.

Logobenz3:
Now this is the story.
So I discovered this girl worked for the dad's crashing contracting firm according to her.
They are having liquidity issues and I as a businessman myself understood what was going on..
Noticed she was cashstrapped and all and we talked about it and I decided to put her on 50k salary monthly.
Because we had already started discussing future plans since the both of us have had our fair share of the world.
There is no day I meet this girl that I won't spend 15k or more.
It's always one fancy restaurant or the other,one this or that even though I never gave her cash.
I began to wonder and ask myself,how is someone who is penniless not know the value of money?is it that I'm her maga or what?
We went to NOVOTEL for lunch one day and after blowing up to 12k on food in her presence,she still demanded for takeaway for her bony sister?
I sha pay,no shaking.
She even wears leg chains.wtf!I told her to take it off to no avail.i ignored.
She knows all the big women in GRA and will always tell me to come with the bigger car so we go see people I have no business with.why?I still don't know till date!
Perhaps to go show off her new maga or catch.Bleep!!
I was such a fool.i should have noticed!
I was thinking about all these and wondering whether to continue or not when she called one morning very early and told me ehn,she had been working on whatever and told me to go to Beijing chops and get her Chinese bla bla bla...for breakfast on my way that she is very hungry.
I couldn't help but talked to her rudely on the phone and hung up!
That was the deal breaker.
How would a person that doesn't even have ordinary 100k feel so comfortable in blowing a man's money like that?
Mtcheew.
Stay off poor girls!bunch of lunatics.spits!

You really jammed s very hungry one

Lol


Showing off of money most times brings leeches

Aurielfinizu:
when there is life... there is hope..

most of my uncles that lived in lagos old so fast, anyone that managed to retired will come village

but some uncles still retired in abuja and still live more 30yrs gallantly

Why won't they old quickly


Nothing destroys the human body more than stress. In fact stress opens the body up to killer diseases.
Someone will not rest well
Always busy
Untop of that they don't even eat healthy
Which is double wahala


Peace of mind is very good
You will even enjoy life more
Get the fun and sweetness out of life
Time to work, one works extremely hard
Time to rest and relax. You do that very well
That's the balance life should be about

Aurielfinizu:
na them sabi shaa

my own is that life is not all about making all the money,

is about peace of mind and good health

Many don't understand that.
Peace of mind, gives good health and even cool brain to think, money will still come

Ishilove:
You get to work in the morning and lay your head on your desk for at least 5 minutes. You're not praying; you're exhausted.

It's killing. Lagos is killing.

Thank God I ran away from that city.
The Best decision I ever made.
The stress was terrible.
Seriously enjoying my life in Abj city.


And seriously
That kind of stress is never good for ones health.
Just be very careful though

gaby:
While you were busy running a marathon shifts at work, your wife had been busy with her ex, and this is where the "see finish" started from.

In your best interest, you had better jettisoned the US idea with her if not, na OYO be your name.

DNA, please

Some guys still don't understand that most women detest softie men to no end.

Toughen up some bro, that woman has tried and seen to what extent she can trample on you without any repercussions.

Be strong mate

Very true
They take soft men as nothing
But fear and respect hard men
Talking from experience

Op is a very nice guy
Women take nice guys for ride
A man got to men up

tuzle:
is 2004 not part of indomie generation

Jesus walks walks


(Jesus walks)
God show me the way because the Devil trying to break me down
(Jesus walks with me)
The only thing that that I pray is that my feet don't fail me now
(Jesus walks)
And I don't think there is nothing I can do now to right my wrongs
(Jesus walks with me)
I want to talk to God but I'm afraid because we ain't spoke in so long

To the hustlers, killers, murderers, drug dealers even the strippers
(Jesus walks with them)
To the victims of Welfare for we living in hell here hell yeah
(Jesus walks with them)
Now hear ye hear ye want to see Thee more clearly
I know he hear me when my feet get weary
Cause we're the almost nearly extinct
We rappers are role models we rap we don't think
I ain't here to argue about his facial features
Or here to convert atheists into believers
I'm just trying to say the way school need teachers
The way Kathie Lee needed Regis that's the way I need Jesus
So here go my single dog radio needs this
They say you can rap about anything except for Jesus
That means guns, sex, lies, video tapes
But if I talk about God my record won't get played Huh?
Well if this take away from my spins
Which will probably take away from my ends
Then I hope this take away from my sins
And bring the day that I'm dreaming about
Next time I'm in the club everybody screaming out

(Jesus walks)



My best part in the track

duni04:
[b]Go ask colonel Sanders, the founder of KFC. He figured his life out in his 60[/b]s. Or ask the biblical Patriach, Abraham. He figured his life out very late into his years.
You only figure your life out when you find your God given purpose and accomplish it. Some were lucky to figure out their purpose early in life. Others late. And then some never do. It's all by his grace.

Exactly what I was saying. Warren buffet is mid 80s but still working hard at his conglomerate. And I read he made his first million's in his late 50s. Look at where he is today

Londonboyrep:
Sorry but that's the way of the world i.e people suffer for things that they had no choice in. Its there and readily available statistics people who come from broken homes go on to have broken homes of theirs as well. I didn't make up these statistics it's there, google it yourself. And in my experience this is so true -[b] if their parents didn't value their marriage and gave up without fighting then chances are the children of that marriage will do the same. [/b]There is, of course, the odd exception as with everything in this world. I have a child with someone from a broken home and yes, you guessed right, we are not together because she ended up a pathetic cheat just like her mum. By Broken home I mean single parent home i.e if even if you live with a natural parent and step-parent then in my view that is not a broken home. I have a child in a broken home and by God this bothers me a lot. This is my view and no need for insults.

Very true. Going to marry someone there parents couldn't stay in marriage can be very dicey. There are high chances your marriage won't last. But people ignore this on the name of love and end up with regrets

GrabHisBalls:
Y'all are getting this thing wrong. Yes, our clock isn't the same, but it's assumed that at 20-30 your life should be figured out. Note: there's difference btw getting it figured out and being self-sufficient. [b]@40 you should be planning towards retirement, while @60 is retirement age. [/b]You don't want to be getting your life figured out at 60. This here is a misconception soled to the very gullible.

Note: I've my life all figured out, but I am a late bloomer and there's room for me to try a lot and make mistakes before getting what I want if not something close.

I don't believe that. If 60 is retirement, why do we have 75 to 80 years old that are still very productive and achieving things.
It all depends on individual mindset though.

GrabHisBalls:
The people saying there's no right age are either ignorant that there's a right age or simply saying that to console themselves. When you tell people there's no right age, your intention is to make them complacent with their achievements.

Age 20-30 is called the test and experimental age. Within this age bracket, you're getting your life figured out. Once you're above 30, your whole life should've been figured out. There's a clear difference between getting your life figured out, underachieving, and overachieving. You can have your life figured out and still be a late bloomer.

There is no age limit to self awareness.
There are those who got there Eureka moment in there forties and fifties even sixties and still go on to make impact. There is this UK property mogul that got his self awareness age 47, by his 60s he was one of the biggest owners of real estate in the UK.

Figuring out life can happen to any one anytime.
Even in old age.

400billionman:
Most people live and die without figuring out life.

Having your life figured out simply means, you know what to do, how to do it and when to do it.

You also know exactly why you are doing whatever you are doing. You don't live in wishful thinking, No regrets, No worries, No 'had I known'?

You are 100% satisfied with life.

90% of the world don't figure out life. Also, there are some wisdoms women have, men don't have.

There is a reason both sexes get married.

Very true. Very many people pass through life without figuring our what there life was all about

You start living and enjoying true life the day you attain self awareness. And many never attained that state

9jatriot:
I respectfully disagree with you and the other guy. It has become a culture for us. Go into Shell, Total, and Chevron, the amount of fraud and kick backs some of those guy perpetuate despite their humongous salary will let you know that stealing has become a culture for us.

I understand your point. There is greed in the system but still doesn't deny the fact that majority of Nigerian workforce are underpaid.
That's how some of them develop the thief mentality and cutting corners.


I have worked in the private sector and I know what I am saying. In fact many people that work in Nigerian firms don't even depend on there salary. They cut corners. Look at civil service how much is there salary, but many of them cut corners.


This is another reason why the productivity level of our workforce is very low and poor.
Most people just go to work to mark time with exception of few private companies

Nemesis909:
Are you saying they are paid 50k?


Are you suggesting someone who's spent 4 years at university, with various certifications, understands 4 programming languages and such should earn the same with someone who doesn't even need a school certificate to function at his work?

You are talking 50k too much.
Some graduates are paid 20k.

TSRC:
It could be a majority share. It didn't say it was a complete take over.

Look at the bigger picture. It could mean more reach, revenue and professionalism for Nollywood.

Actually when it comes to merger and acquisition deals it profits the two sides.
Canal + wanted a stake in Africa's movie market
that has been expanding in its growth which Iroko TV is a major player while Iroko wanted access to the global capability of canal +.

Moreover when the news was announced about two weeks ago Mrs Njoku is still the MD of the company. Still running the production and everything about it. Good deal for both sides.

babaobakonami:
Until government or Business owners pay good salaries.. And other allowance.. Corruption won't end

Thank you very much
The kind of salaries paid to workers is terrible
Compare those working for foreign multinationals in Nigeria to those working in private sector and for government. You will see miles apart.

As long as people are paid pittance
They will find ways to cut corners
Companies should pay there workers well

Ikennablue:
Trust me, this is a good move, but every politicians has taken note, next time they won't build the university in their state, they will take it to other countries. Ihedioha should have been more diplomatic in handling this issue and not make it look like hunting

That is my grouse with this whole thing
Which of these politicians that doesn't loot abysmally?
Everyone of them does

But at least this guy built a university in his state.
And they want to confiscate it.

Ihedioha must be very careful
He should leave Rocha's alone and focus on governance.
With the way he is going he may end up worse

Safitu:
The truth remains undefeated.

There is no truth talk less of undefeated because your assumptions were never true

Safitu:
As an old man you are in competition with younger men who have looks charm money and youth to their advantage. So if you want to marry at 50 you have to bring in tripple the amount of money that a 30 year old will bring. Which unfortunately, when you get to that age, you will realise the grass is not always greener. You are not guaranteed to be rich at 50, in-fact if you’ve not made money or serious moves by 35 that’s how your life will continue most likely. And also put into consideration that you will only be used for the money you have and nothing else. If you’re fine with that, then good luck with your time wasting. I don’t make the rules, it’s just how life is.

First of all by God's grace I should have been done with having kids by my mid forties or maybe to add more kids by my late forties.
But That doesn't mean there are not men that get married in there fifties and sixties. I have seen men like that. Even seventies.
They still go on to sire children with younger womee.

Safitu:
I’ve lived in 3 countries. I’ve seen the world I know what’s going on. You can’t marry at 20 something at 50 without substantial cash. And that is facts! Take it or leave it. Without it you are nothing.

And you think I ve lived only in Nigeria?
I have lived in countries advanced where things are highly organized and working.

Who will venture into marriage without cash without having something worthwhile that brings cash he is doing?
When you are bringing a woman into your house, of course you need money to take good care of her whether young or matured.
But that's different from flashing money around.
Wise women are attracted to hardworking purposeful men not just flashers of money.

And I don't even believe its a right thing a man wooing woman with money. Its insecure men that spend money to convince a woman.

A man must be extremely hard working, be very resourceful. This can attract better women with sense on there head than just throwing money around to then attract dumb women who got nothing in there head.

Safitu:
Listen
The truth always remains undefeated
You do not see a beautiful 20 year old marrying a 50 year old, it is highly unlikely and extremely rare. It doesn’t happen and it is ridiculed and shamed in our society. Stop using the exception as the majority rule, that is stupidity.
If you think you can get married to a young beautiful girl at 50 with no money, you will remain lonely and miserable for the rest of your life. After 40- 45 you can only marry a young girl if you have something in your pocket. If not, forget it.
You do not have the same sexual market at 20 and 50.
Take advantage of your youth. Don’t allow one young babe to wipe your destiny dry all because you think you have all the time in the world. Use your sense and stop thinking with your ass. Age does not discriminate.

Leave social media, Nairaland go into the real world. Things are happening. Real world is very different from social media.

They say many of our women are materialisic in social media but there are many good women out there not materialistic.

Depend on who you roll with

Safitu:
Men expire late in the game sheyy lol?
At 45, go and talk to a girl of 23 without millions in the bank. Or without enticing her with real cash. You will look in the mirror and realise expiration does not discriminate.

Better use your youth wisely and stop deceiving yourself. Most men never get to that level of wealth where they can pick and choose. Stop looking at Ned as your role model, you can’t get to his level of wealth ever. Shiooorrr.

What are you on about. There are many forty year olds guys marrying women in there 20s. Even without money. There are still plenty of women in Nigeria a man can date without wooing with money. Let's leave Nairaland and go out to the real world.
I am even talking forties is even young, plenty men in there fifties and sixties married/ unmarried still have young girlfriends/wifes.

My cousin was telling me of there neighbour a man in his 50s recently did traditional marriage with a 19year old girl. Even me was saying that na child abuse, but my cousin said the girl no send. She wanted the thing more self.

Women shouldn't compare themselves to a man. If a woman miss her 20s to early 30, from 32 33 it becomes war. So women should not waste there time

larryking540:
and u shall have it in Jesus name,
relationship is a complicated stuff, having similar believe makes it less problematic sha, to b on a safer side

Now you are understanding the whole drift.
Shared beliefs and values are very critical to a less complicated marriage.
Imagine going to marry someone your beliefs and values are divergent to each other.
That's suicide. And that's where background comes in.

One of the major reasons why today's marriages are laden with crisis is as a result of marrying someone you never meant to be in relationship talk less marriage.

Nkea bu nkeanyi

Honestly Obiano and Victor Oye really messed up APGA, if not 2021 election would have been a walkover. We really loved what APGA was doing in our state starting from Peter Obi.
But Willie messed up.
Although I heard Obiano wants Soludo to be his successor. Don't know how truthful the news i

Now PDP is lurking by the corner, even APC also. In fact I think APC wants to capture Anambra by all means. Osibanjo was there last week for serious APC stakeholders meeting.

Very nice from you two

Family background is very important in choice of spouse. If you marry someone with a good background, it reduces stress and friction in marriage.

If you marry someone with bad background, be ready for frictions.

But this is a very big shame
Quest for quick Money is very bad
A very bad mindset
And still many will not listen
Honestly my brethren we need to start telling ourselves the truth
Its Very bad

FarahAideed:
You don't have land more than my family okay , my great granfather was a first class chief , my Grand father was a Governor of a region in Nigeria when we had regions so don't go there please .Do you know how much of my Grand dad's land the govt took over in Garrki Abuja ? There is nothing bad in owning land but the way Africans still look at land is preposterous

Your position still is wrong.
Land and property is a very good investment because it doesn't depreciate, rather it appreciates With time.
So Africans have not done anything wrong.

I heard you mention Tinubu. We are not talking about that one. That one is greed of a politician.
We are talking of leaving something for your children out of your earthly sweat not the greediness of a politician

GoodFaith:
Your view was very narrow on issue regarding asset
Banks are investing on land by granting mortgages
There have being landed property that have increase value by 600% compare to stock
Life is balance
There are no one size fit all
My kitchen need update
Guess what my view was my house is a bill
I need to create the investment to generate income to do my update
Love the experience to have my house the way i want it

That guy has no clue of what he is talking about.
An associate of mine just under 2 years resold plenty plots of land he got from omonile for pittance. He sold to a real estate company at over 2milllion per plot. Close to 100plots of land. The guy cashed out big time.

FarahAideed:
[b]Ask yourself what the lands your father acquired has done for you .. [/b]Be wise man a poor man can not even have the ability to sustain the ownership of any land as far As I am concerned. If lands where that valuable don't you think SoftBank will invest all it fund I to buying land instead of ideas like it's doing .

This your argument doesn't make any sense.
Maybe you were not opportune to have such privileges. But I have benefitted from such. A property of over 30years sold at over 10000 times its worth.
Its a no brainer

Landed property is the best investment/inheritance you can leave for your children.
You have never benefitted from such so you have no clue of what you are saying