₦airaland Forum

Useku:
For her to be three months pregnant for the new guy means she's been seeing the guy from at least three months before.. just nine months after the late husband death. Abegi no man should kill himself cuz of any body just do your best and ........

AwkaetitiBabe:
Good one. These guys show off false wealth and when u get to really know them you discover how broke they are. Be true to your struggle. No matter how broke a guy is, he'll find someone who will love him like that.

Blankstare:
It's an ordained punishment to be a black man
- ibn batuta

isthatso:
educate yourself, traditional (customary) marriages are legal.

"There are two kinds of marriages accepted under Nigerian law. The first one is a wedding performed with the signing of a Marriage Act, and it only allows monogamy. The second kind is conducted under customary law and can be polygamous as well as monogamous. It is regulated by the Native Law and Custom, making it completely legal in terms of the law in Nigeria. Read more: https://www.legit.ng/1127334-what-customary-law-marriage-nigeria.html


http://nigerianweddingguide.com/the-types-of-marriage-in-nigeria-forms-custom/
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shadeyinka:
How many marriages should one do?
One,
Two or
Three?

Traditional Marriage is real marriage BUT Tony come to church for another marriage. That is deception.

Do married people come to the church for joining?
If you do come, then iteans you are not married yet!

deebrain:
You are right.

The real marriage is the traditional marriage.

The reason why church marriage is yet required amongst Christians is because, its more or less the "discipline" marriage.

In African traditional marriage, you can marry as many women as possible. Ditto for the courts if you have a good reason.

In church marriage, you aside being getting married to your woman, you are taking an oath to be with only her for life. Any other marriage after this is taken with great reservations.

That's why many countries for documentation reasons approve church or mosque and court marriages to prevent possible complications rather than traditional marriages.


Thanks.

shadeyinka:
Half truth is no truth.

Traditional Wedding is Real Wedding only if the hypocritical couple would not go to the church to do ANOTHER wedding.

That's the point

Arysexy:
Jesus attended a Jewish wedding. There is nothing like Christianity when Jesus was on earth. Christianity started after his ascension.

So Christians are expected to conduct Christian marriage

jrusky:
I just asked a question why not allow him to answer?

Yea if you are born in UK you have the right to British Passport *BUt* if you are born in UK but live all your life outside the UK you will be given *right of aboard* to fly to UK with no visa with your birth Cert etc then when you get to UK you can now process your passport. My wife had similar situation but went back when she was 19 years old that was the procedure she passed through I have never witnessed or heard British passport was parcel or given to someone who has never owned the passport ever before in foreign land especially Nigeria so if you have heard of such kindly let us know.

If you don't belief me Pls go to www.gov.uk you will see your answer there boldly written.
.Google is your friend bro.

VeeVeeMyLuv:
Chai! My gawd!

My prayer for everyone here is to marry a good, loving, honest and trustworthy spouse.

schoolboij:
Our kind of apprenticeship has raised a lot of millionaires too. You can only speak based on your level exposure.

adanny01:
Come oh, tradition has limits oh.

Loses her right? She loses her right to membership or anything position she may be entitled as an extended family member but not her rights in her deceased husband's estate unless there is a will which forbids her any right if she remarries.

It is when she remarries while in custody of the mans estate without a will and not being his next of kin that the court will have to take most of her rights but certainly not all especially if the next of kin is a her child and a minor.

If her husband wills her a house, a car, shares of his company or any other part of his estate, she cannot lose the right when she remarries unless a will specifically says so.

Also if the will says her child is the sole heir to the estate, and being a minor, she is his guardian as the mother, she cannot lose all her rights because she remarried unless the family by a court ruling assume guardianship of the son then she losses most of her rights.

Extended family or tradition cannot cause a woman to lose her rights, it is the law that can do that.

All of you shouting tradition upandan are the reason Nigeria is not moving forward while wickedness and injustice thrives.

When you see tradition as above the law, you are bound to infringe on peoples rights.

Whenever you see someone saying tradition this tradition that, it is meant to cheat or lay claim to what is not his. Tradition is always not fair.

schoolboij:
There’s nothing special about your apprenticeship and mine. Your boss settles you while I work to settle myself or my parents settle me.

alphaNomega:
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Clearly you don't understand shi.t and have refused to use your head. Maybe when you get older you will learn, maybe you will never. Only time can teach you something now.

Bye

alphaNomega:
Two of you are missing some points from your argument. Let me put it this way,

1. The child belongs to the mother (obviously, anyone who argues against this should be flogged 5 times)

2. The mother is now a member of the husband's family. I mean, what was the point of a traditional wedding if you were not going to accept the lady in your home.

3. Following the above points, both child and mum belong to husband's family. (Damn I'm beginning to sound like a broken record )

4. You SHOULD NOT separate mother from child. This is everyone's grief against the father's family, at least going by the story the OP has shared so far.

No matter how patriarchal your culture is, the mother still deserves some respect. We still need to know the whole truth of this matter. Yoruba, Edo and Esan people are not as bad as some posters have tried to make it here.

Let me add that going by some traditions, a mother will loose custody of a child if she decides to remarry outside the husband's family. These terms and conditions are clearly explained to all parties involved I.e. the mother, the new husband, the husband's family members and even the child when he/she comes of age (if necessary, because they will ask questions)

Sterope:
List of father's family

1. Grandfather- Father's father
2. Grandmother- father's mothrt
3. Uncle- Father's brother
4. Aunt- Father's sister
5. Cousins- father's nieces and nephews

Your claim is that the above have rights over a woman whose egg was fertilised, carried the child for nine months, delivered the child and probably breastfed the child all because it is the father's family that owns the child.

Sterope:
The definition of father's family excludes grandmother abi.