₦airaland Forum

Sterope:
You think it is me that has time to engage words with a man who thinks a grandmother has a right over child than the birth mother.

Sterope:
That is because you don't have any other thing to add.
You post has been devoid of reasoning. It is not going to change now.

Sterope:
The woman was the one that fell from sky. The woman's DNA, family history etc iare absent in the child's abi? She was born by vigin Mary abi? She no get bloodline or family?

It takes two people to have a particular child. Traditional marriage and every other bloody event are [b]formalities[/b] that doesn't add or remove the fact that it takes two human to have a child. They have equal right over the seed that flows from both of them.

The child cannot have two mothers. Any mother that cares about her child will not remarry a man that does want a child to be with his mother. To hell with stupid roof, house and other stupid rubbish that doesn't mean shit!!!

Sterope:
A child belongs to his parents. It took two people to birth a child. In the absence of the father, the father's family has no right to take over the child unless the mother wishes or is incapable of taking of the child. If she likes, let her marry a million times. It is her child. That child is a relative to everyone else.

meobizy:
...and the difference between that and seizing is what?

chalantmike:
Really, because of political correctness, that's why girls misbehave ?. Do you know why the term sexual assault is very broad and 80% of the home training methods used here in Africa, especially Nigeria would fall under some sort of abuse ?.

Prostitute are women with daughter issues, or early age of sexual or emotional assault, it's a well established psychological fact.

The kind of girl that becomes a prostitute tomorrow, that is what using the rode produces, cause that is an assualt not love.

The kind of girl, that is brainwashed into believing a man/boy is more better than her, more valued grows up needy for a mans attention, love that her father cannot give.

All those girls you are referring did not spring up from a emotional stable, mature loving environment. I actually bet you that.

Lemma ask you this.
- putting pepper in a girls private part, does it take the urge away ?.
- do you count sexual urge as something humane or something abnormal ?.

- if no, and you think it is human, isn't learning to control it, embarrassing it as something natural rather than embarrassing a better fit ?.

-how is pepper and flogging a way of controlling this urges.

-in this scenario, everybody me included keep hammering, please where is the boy ?, It's not like she was using a cucumber.

What the man did is not out of love, plan and simple. It is out of insecurity and hatred, he's probably feeling vulnerable so he is lashing out on his daughter. In his mind he feels defiled so he is defensive. He thinks having a girl child I'd weakness, and his weakness has been exposed. He literally feels like he just got screwed sexually, and men pride themselves as men, they hate that feeling, cause their ego is invented in that idea " I do the screwing".

chalantmike:
Her choice ?, Suffer the repercussions at 12 years old?.
Didn't watch the video, speaking generally on the scenario and comments.

Children born of this generation are generally more intelligent and curious than, the previous generation. Has something to do with a higher IQ.
Sex to her at that age is probably, an act of curiosity, than a decision she enjoys. She's probably curious about her body and the act. While she might be curious as a result of a better generational IQ, her parents have better life experience, which they should guild her with.

For example, even when she manages to fathom out what sex is, she'd probably have no idea on HIV, pregnancy and definitely not how to avoid them.

This is where her parents comes in.

By not sparing the rode, he created an environment where is can not ask questions, cause in her mind, sex is bad and daddy will beat me.

Probably right now a neighbor has been sexual like abusing her, or an uncle doing things to her, how is she gonna ask, report after the dad did all that ?.

The father himself, is probably a backwards person who evaluates a woman's worth based on her virginity or sexuality.
Right now, his looking down on his daughter, cause to him, she has lost her flower, the word flowers with regards to a woman's sexuality should be offensive.

He is subconsciously communicating all this negative notions and impression on his 12 year old daughter, whose only fault is been curious. It's not like she sat down, decided that sex is a sin and decided to sin.

chalantmike:
Oga, at the tender age of 12, he was lucky to have caught his daughter having sex, some girls start early or are sexually abused and can't tell anyone about it.

That was an opportunity to Foster an intimate relationship with his daughter, as well as guild her on such matters, and he has missed it, by using the rode, because nao she's going to be having sex in secret, hidding her flaws from her parents, flaws her parents are the right person to help her with, catching this things in time, would spare her a devastating future.

This is how Nigerians ruin their lifes and those of their children, guilt. He is only reacting that way because he is conscious and guilty of the same act, it is that hatred towards his self, the act he is festering and transferring that aggression on his daughter not love, that act does not come from love, it comes from hatred and guilt.

ladilawal82:
Just one club brought that loss? I Can't imagine the effect of 10... They'll probably go into oblivion.

Ugosample:
their sexual meter has broken capacity

this made me laugh

Jonscotin:
I didn't reason it that way that someone close to you is passing through difficult situation and you know the person is hardworking and you give him and his wife money to continue their business and the man is trustworthy. Along the line the Alhaji that he paid money to in order to supply him loads disappeared with the money. Both my money and other money that he borrowed from people. And he has been doing business with the Alhaji for one year and no complain. It wasn't my fault that I tried to help. They have all promised to pay me back when they get to their feet but it has not been easy.

Jonscotin:
I didn't give him to hold and sell for me. I gave him to go and show his friend that was in another town to see and buy and I was busy that day cos I would have fone with him. We bargained on the phone and the person agreed to pay the next day. On his way coming back was when the car caught fire.
The people I gave loan to were people that I thought could pay back as at that time and circumstances beyond them made them not to pay back. So am like why am I not lucky when dealing with people? Even people I never expected to fail still fail me

Duggedised12:
In summary, because Islam permits marrying 4 wives in rotation, they are more at an advantage interms of population, as one Muslim man can have 70 children.

Also fake and unfocused pastors are making people backslide ,thereby making the relevance of Christianity decrease.

ChiefkeefGB4:
100...not until they travel outside the country they realise even the so called poor neighbourhood have the basic amenities that exist in Banana Island. Nigeria's fantastically corrupt leaders have reduced the population to penury without any basic amenities.

ikyTech:
Cheap and normal? In US and UK? Hmmm. Baba calm down.

planetx:
You are silly if you think this is normal in the US or UK. The average Briton or American cannot afford to live in Eko Atlantic or Banana Island.

Gerrard59:
Thanks so much. Please make it louder. Chinese in Malaysia have been discriminated against so much yet they earn more money than ethnic Malays. Same Malaysia kicked out Singapore (which is predominantly composed of ethnic Chinese), yet Singapore picked up and became more developed and richer than Malaysia today. Same Singapore was occupied by the Japanese, yet that didn't hinder them from progressing and being best buddies with today's Japan. Same Japanese enslaved and committed heinous atrocities against Koreans yet that didn't stop the Koreans from advancing and being a major trading partner with Japan. Yet again, same Japanese committed atrocities in China but the Chinese did not allow that slow their development. Today, China is Japan's biggest trading partner.

If after more than 400 years, some people still blame slavery (whereas every race has once been under slavery), then they are deluded!

LewsTherin:
Can I join in spending your money?

I don't think it's just luck. In your short paragraph you said "I have learnt to deal with it" and "now I'm used to it"

It's about compromise. You know what you want, what you like. But you are willing to give some of that up for what she wants, what she likes. I'll bet there are things she gives up for you too. That's just it. You both are working at making your marriage work.

I[b] believe ALL marriages will work as long as both parties work at making it work. But as long as one or both parties are only interested in having their own way, OYO[/b].

zed7:
Bottom line is you guys are just easy going folks and are lucky to have found each other. I can say the same for myself. Almost 10 years together, marriage and dating combined. We share similar characters with you guys but the only difference is, I have my money, my wife has her money but we all spend my money..
To be honest, she saves hers for us to use if have an emergency and are stranded. In laws are tricky. My siblings are all married and independent, she has a couple of younger ones who are students. Sometimes they want to come over for the hols, it used to bother me but now I'm used to it. They are responsible and don't cause any problems but I just don't like having people around. I have learnt to deal with it though, after all we are all family.
I will conclude that[b] a good marriage all depends on the personalities of people involved. [/b]Some will marry easy going people and use the opportunity to exploit and oppress them. It's just luck.

Elemosho478:
So you want to compare 25 million populated Lagos to just 5 million or less populated Abuja ?


Let Abuja have the same population of Lagos first before you speak

Flood too also happen in Abuja

You people just use every opportunity to talk bad about Lagos, let Abuja or any city have the same population of Lagos first

Truth370:
Shatap, people like you forming ain't got nothing. If you've all that you claim you wouldn't bother if your husband take care of his extended family.

Mostly poor girls like you have that ownership or entitlement mentality. Because you ain't used to such things. My mother is very independent she even supports her husband's family if any need arises or if she's being asked. Broke girls like you can't do such because you don't want your husband's money to finish but rich people don't care.

I don't see myself dating someone as horrible like you.
I'm exposed but when it comes to my family i go by the traditional way no matter what. You can't shut your entire family just because you're married.

If your marriage go sour where will you run to? Of course the same family who you abandoned because of dick.
Always know how to balance the scale, sometimes life may be hard on you the same family will support you and your kids which you want to abandoned all in the name of marriage.

They're some situations where the husband or the wife will get sick if either spouse can't handle it the next thing is to take him /her to the parents house.

Better be a good wife stop doing only me and my husband when e set you'll know the importance of family.

Respect both parties it's your responsibility to balance the scale not separate them.

Slikbae:
Trash from a senile dimwit.

Unlike your mother and sisters obviously, I'm hardworking, make my own money and don't depend on a man for nada. My soon to be husband is very exposed, respects boundaries and knows that a man's wife and kids come first before other family members.

I pity your likes because only a bread seller can from the most interior village or a house maid with 20 years experience will agree to become the wife a depraved, worthless soul like yourself.

Keep claiming your brother's property as yours, don't go hussle for yours.

Dinho20:
Marriage isn't the end-point of a relationship. It's just a stepping stone, one aspect of a long-term evolution between two people who have, for whatever reason, decided to take a leap of faith and say, 'Well, hey, this is a person who I want to try with for the rest of my life.' Which is not a guarantee of perfection - far from it.

ojuu4u:
Ladies used to go for wrong reasons when it comes for marriage and that's why they are abused and disappointed.

A recent story between my wife' friend and options opened for her then.

The lady in question was 30 then, I intervened because my wife used to nag then that when guys slept wt her friend, they used to leave and on many occasions they will not even give her transport fare.
Meanwhile there was particular brother in my church that wanted to get marry then and he wasn't into any serious relationship. I told my wife to inform her friend about my intention of match making her with my church brother which she obliged, the guy is handsome, working in government establishment and also have his own job.
The guy as a xtian, intended to marry this lady without having premarital sex with her (don't forget she complained to my wife, which happen to be her closest friend, that guys used to leave her after sleeping with her)
She travelled down from other state to meet the guy in my apartment, when the two came, I introduced them to each other and advised them I latter left them to discuss one on one, the guy left that day and came back 3rd day for further discussion, to cut story short,
This lady refused to marry my church member just because he met one particular guy online. Even though there were handwritings on the wall that the guy would not marry her
The guy he met online has no job, not to talk of setting business for her, the guy ready to sleep with her immediately and with no plan of get married soon even though the girl in question was 30 yrs old then
Yet the lady blindly and foolishly followed online guy just because they came from same town while my church brother came from other state (that was excuse she gave my wife)


Today at age 32 she is still wandering in the wilderness of singleness,to God be the glory my church brother married with kid

NB she left my house and meet the online guy from different town, the guy impregnated her and denied the pregnancy, she later delivered still born baby