₦airaland Forum

Ybaby:
You have no money how can you lead.....

Lead her to poverty ?? Men are meant to work what do you think your logical brain is there for - what do you think your muscles are there for

Lazy men don't lead they follow their wives into her home or bring her into their father's home....

Avoid lazy men who are crazy enough to want access to women's pussycats - get some soap and put on some marlian music - ko jo soapy.

Ybaby:
You are sha insisting on not amounting to much.... na wa o! I am doing my best

You are fighting not to be pressured to be somebody in life

Men have always competed for resources and the big dogs even dominate the resources.

In the animal kingdom - the female only go to th strongest males to reproduce - who wants to produce weaklings and lazy bones.

it is a given that when you mate 2 race horses you will get a race horse so why water down my perfectly good genes and mate with a lazy man who has no ambition, does not want to be inspired and in words wants to run his own race ( as if it is not madness to be in a race all by yourself) imagine the Olympics and only one person running his own race.

Lazyness will fight everything but poverty.

I am married and my husband depends on me to bring the vision so he can work and bring home the prey. When I was single I did everything I could to avoid men like you.

Damod88:
The problem is not the cost of doing business in Nigeria. The problem is we don't have the technical know-how to mass produce that could lower production cost. In addition to that we don't have knowledgeable entrepreneurs who are ready to invest in production in Nigeria.

nzeobi:
If someone transfers money to you, make sure you get alerted by your bank by sms or you use your banking app to check.

somehow:
Yes MEN JUDGE THEMSELVES on abilities more than anything that is why men stay longer aa friends. This you know. men have the ability to stay friends for long than females. Its classification that brought about this issue and we know who made this an issue.

Men hardly have issues with esteem until money was placed above ability so what men do now ia make money anyhow to the detriment of other attribute.

Did men suddenly wake up and started flaunting cash or women flooded those with cash which made those without it believe that's what most women want?

I will bring back this call to men that they should not let society drive them off the cliff

Stay in your line, run your race, compete with no one and let no one pressure you into what they want you to be.

1Sharon:
Most are religious.

Angelfrost:
The key word here is "Enlightened", good sir...

Angelfrost:
Things are changing fast sir... Most enlightened people are getting fed up with religion, no thanks to those who practice it poorly.

GrabHisBalls:
He's an idiot. Serial killings is common with Western societies, what I have never seen is where a religion was faulted 'cause a serial killer was seen with a bible on a rare photo, not even that he drops the bible on the corpse of the ladies after the act. Even if he drops the bible on the corpse, you can't just generalize that 'religion is a problem'.

HBB1:
Entrepreneurship in Naij based on merit?!

Every successful Entrepreneur leverages on unfair advantage(s), how much more Nigeria.

A certain man got the sole license to import cement years back and today he is the benchmark for measuring wealth.

Another man is believed to be a front for a certain former head of state-- hence his big businesses in Oil and Telecoms were probably not proceeds of sweat like you sweat.

How about the woman who was 'dashed' an Oil well?

Or the retired General that paid 20million USD for his own Oil exploration license (I guess it was his pension)

Or that Presidential aspirant that is one of the biggest employers in the Country.

You think it was all based on merit?

A certain electronic billboard in Lagos is said to be owned by the Son of a very big man. 10 million a month per Ad. and you can count over 10 ads in no time when caught in traffic-- over 10 in a few minutes!

While the tax people are hounding you for money, some businesses are 'exempted' from paying tax. They 'legally' don't pay tax!
How about those that AMCON have been chasing up-and-down? People that secured loans without collateral, nothing!

Bros, forget.
If you roll in some circles, you will wonder why you work so hard.

Hedonisco:
Thank you very much for this.

My biggest problem with the Nigerian employment space is the massive disconnect between value and remuneration and lack of meritocracy, coupled with a very vexatious entitlement mentality. It runs across all sectors but is particularly evident in the civil service across all tiers of government.

Most of these deadwood contribute ZERO value. Even the so-called jobs they boast of, 99% of them got it through the back door (via annoying 'slots' of one influential person or the other), nepotism and corruption. They know nothing about anything, other than just looking for how to collect egunje allowances, cut corners and then later make noise about salary increment and hold the rest of the productive economy to ransom.

franchasng:
It is the same way salary earners talk down and look down on entrepreneurs and those doing business, its vice versa.

Have you ever met someone working in any government parastatal or those working in oil firms or those working in top multinational companies and they ask you what you do for a living now and you tell them you are an entrepreneur or a business person, and then watch their silent reaction, because they will automatically see you as a nodowell wasting his or her time, they will automatically assume you are not doing well or that you are jobless and covering up....some will be saying in their mind; this one is deceiving himself instead of him to go get a job, and some will boldly advice or suggest that you try and get a job, that business is not a stable means of income, that its not predictable, and they will turn motivational speaker just because they are earning good salary from another person's successful business of many years.

....Not until they see you building houses, buying good luxury cars and living good life that they will start to believe that you were actually doing something all those while....and they will start to come closer to you to form fake friendship and alliance that never existed.


I am speaking from experience as someone who has experienced the both side......when I was a salary earner doing 9-5s, most of my colleagues looked down on entrepreneurs, even the way they talked about them will make you weep for business guys, especially the ladies....they see entrepreneurs and guys into business as time wasters.....some will tell you that once any guy that approaches them says he is into business, that that marks the end of the journey for the guy, and I will be smiling because while I was with them as a salary earner, I wasn't happy, I had a side business I was doing that made me work almost 24hrs everyday and looking unkempt that some do ask me if I am sick or something.


But deep down me, I was preparing to resign to go chase my dreams; I knew it was risky, but I was determined to try no matter the fears.

When I resigned to pursue business goals, many people didn't believe in me....even some close friends advised me to get another job.....even relatives.....former colleagues were all laughing at me that I will run back begging for re-employment soon that that's how they do.....the ladies started distancing themselves from me as they know this guy is no longer that corporate guy, but now a visionless guy, but the story is different today, all to the glory of God

So this thing is both ways and I think its human nature to always believe that whatever they are doing and succeeding is the best thing, and other people's own is nonsense, that's the nature of maybe blacks maybe because I don't think whites act same way cos they respect everybody's opinion and decision in life unlike blacks who respect people based on their current financial power and status.

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and let me use this opportunity to encourage every Nigerian youth to have a goal to work for certain number of years and quit to establish your own business. Don't plan to die old working, be it government job, oil company job, FMCG job, multinational company job, NGO job, etc, make a plan from the beginning to work for a certain period of time or years to enable you save up money to pursue your business goals, and then resign willingly, don't wait till they sack you or until you retire because it is killing Nigeria's future.......we need more companies, we need more successful small businesses to create more jobs for our future children, because if all of us decide to work 9-5s jobs till we grow old and retire, then there won't be any job for the upcoming young people and future kids to work.


No matter the fear, give it a try......invest in your skills.....work to gain experience, to learn from others, and to raise startup capital, but make a plan to resign before retirement, don't work till you grow old, Nigeria don't need it, we need businesses and small firms to grow Nigeria!


Nice thread

Reference:
Perhaps it is because folks in employment are usually the ones with so much time on their hands they bother the rest of society with unrealistic, 'out of touch with reality' nuances.

Take for instance the minimum wage issue. Despite consuming far more resources than its productivity, despite contributing in no small way to the destruction of the economy, civil servants xontinue to trouble the rest of Nigeria on the infamous minimum wage, a quest beyond the reality od the day that has resulted in addirional taxation that will hit entrepreneurs hard.

Perhaps if Nigeria was run like a business with the spirit of enterprise in it we will be more like the Trump led country, successful and more at peace.

Hedonisco:
Since you're talking from your narrow perspective, have you ever bothered to find out how many employees in Nigeria earn up to N150k a month?

When evaluating this matter, you should compare 'like for like'. You don't compare a low level entrepreneur with a mid level manager earning a good salary, or even with an entry level guy working at a plum job like ExxonMobil. That's ridiculous. What's the percentile of graduates working at such jobs in comparison with the vast majority of hungry, underemployed employees slaving away for peanuts every month?

Now check the under 50 home owners across Nigeria's major cities. 90% of them are entrepreneurs. Thousands of average Igbo and Yoruba traders and hustlers own very nice middle class duplexes everywhere across Lagos, Abuja etc. How many 'average' employees can boast of same?

Apart from the tiny percentage of salary earners fortunate enough to have NLNG type of jobs with outrageous salaries, any average employee who owns a decent duplex or even bungalow in a decent part of Lagos or Abuja is likely a thief - benefitting from the corruption that is the only thing that they know how to do. He did not and cannot build/buy a house and live that kind of lifestyle from his legitimate salary.

Better face facts.

Savvywriteprene:
On the contrary Asobo, majority of ladies put on their best behavior when meeting their future in-laws.
You may never discover anything strange about her during the meeting.

On the other hand, before deciding that you want to spend the rest of your life with a woman; endeavor to do your due diligence to know exactly who you are getting married to, so you start expecting her to slip up when meeting your parents.

Gracias

Anambralstson:
My friend he didn't close any business, can you name the business he closed

Anambralstson:
He didn't not close any business line, Cosharis is very rich to take up the projects, mind you he's non executive director of Access Bank, sole distributor of all Abro products in West Africa, he owns pharmaceutical company In Ghana, sole distributor of Ford, BMW, Range, Renault etc, he also own beverage company in Nnewi

moonbender:
Only those who are caught selling drugs and doing online scam are known to us.

Some are lucky, some aren't! Those who are lucky will establish factories and businesses and everything is fine.

Invictus was a business mogul everyone hailed until he was caught.

Na who pass know book.

Money no be sand.

If na by how person hustle, our grandpas suppose fit afford to buy 20 aircrafts at once.

Anambralstson:
To be frank I don't know bro, It's capital intensive.

autotrader014:
This is really unfortunate. I have said it before and will say it again. Suicide will multiply in Nigeria. Not because times are hard. Times were HARD way back before now. The problem now is that adults are increasingly immature and the society is increasingly frivolous.

People have no true friends, because friends now see themselves as rivals, back stabbers/biters now masquerade as friends. Problem shared now becomes public information.

There's a rat race going on and it's measured by fleeting wealth and nothing else true and lasting. Setbacks are mourned as a wasted life by those who should give love and genuine support. Men who rose through their friend’s magnanimity are now digging graves for such friends. So troubled man becomes a butt of jokes by those in whom he reposited his trust.

Calamities befall men and their friends shed tears in the morning and run them down at night. Adults now behave like children.
The man can’t even tell his wife because he is sure she won’t understand. He has seen her divulge little details to her family. He has heard her eulogize wealth and curse set backs as abomination. She has a little merry heart. Men now gossip like women.

The cleric can’t be trusted because he is given to flamboyant cars and lots of worldly ambition. He rates men by their earthly successes and wealth. He can’t be trusted because wealth he says, is the ultimate blessing from God. Everyday he celebrates only the rich.

So the troubled man walks around with his troubles in his heart, smiles at all the children masquerading as adults around him. One day, he would weigh it all over again and say no, it’s enough.
True and matured friends are now very scarce! No true ears to talk to in times of trouble, no honest shoulder to lay on in times of weakness.
And a culmination of all these is why depression-induced suicide is on a sad rise.

Can we all rise and fight this menace called depression in truth?
Can you work and encourage others to assume the role(s) of true friend(s)?
Can we jointly reinstate the intergrity of the quote “Problem shared is half solved”?
Be your brothers keeper

ednut1:
the black man is naturally deficient. there is no black nation that has been able to develop it self. in nigeria alone there is no unity. many nations in one nation. people still voted both atiku and buhari imagine. bros na to flee. i would rather pay bills than stay here inside darkness where there is no light, Assu strike , no health care(even buhari uses UK clinics). abeg forget

ednut1:
bros nigeria is a jungle . i won't invest here. no be 9ja person buy land wey the title na excision in progress no be 9ja man try do fish farming money waka. its better i invest in houses near universities rent it out to student and use it to pay the mortgage. by 50 i suppose don get 3 of such houses fully paid and start to relax.

Cinkq:
Whatever you think about those
who've had it,you also want it.
Don't you?
It's our habit to console ourselves with anything that suits us when we can't get what we want.

ImaIma1:
There's no need dissecting your comments. I am already repelled by the [b]pessimism, despair and negativity [/b]that seems to be your anchor and I don't want you dragging me along into it.

sisisioge:
Hmmmm...I have read all your accounts through this thread and silently prayed for the woman that would be saddled with you eventually. May God help her. May she be blessed with Job's patience. May she have some serious self defence skills to teach you how to settle dispute without resorting to violence...may God sha help sha...she would need all the help she can get!

Your reasoning is shocking. Your defence or shall I call it absolute oblivion of your ridiculousness is even more shocking. May God bless us all according to the works of our hands fa...it is well.

Saintsquare:
I concur and to think Lampard sent Luiz away cos of that elephant....chai

Glink2018:
Ha, Chelsea no lose....
I thought they will lose this match. Anyway, no show for them this season