₦airaland Forum

ceeroh:
Most female students are in their 'Hoeing Phase'.

Waste of time and emotions.

Haba !!

pansophist:
Not everyone wants to be free from the plantation bro, and as the old saying, the truth is bitter.

In support of your stance, during sex, women release oxytocin (generally known as the bonding chemical), mind you, men do not release oxytocin, but dopamine (also known as pleasure hormone). In a nutshell, sex is a pleasure for men, why it bonds women. So any man that is trying to win Mr nice guy points, by refraining from sex to pass a good impression, should know that biologically, a woman will bond with a guy that has sex with her regardless if he is an asshole (bad boys comes in handy here).

The only thing that will break the bonding with the previous partner is if the new guy sexual skills are gladiatorial and top-notch and if it is the best she ever had, this process is known locally as the Okafor law of congodynamics So my fellow comrade, in as much as I understand your position of abstinence, be aware of the aforementioned reality because you can't beat thousand years of evolutionary hardwiring.

Weyrey .... !!

tee59:
Congrats but you looked broke with all I saw here. You need to make more money before this step sha.

Kai, You are an epitome of insult to great Nigerian ladies !! .... Reason why some people will conclude some Nigerian girls are senseless !!

Liftkid:
lol. how do you want it ? with a knock or hot slap bro

Mad man ... Happy Married Life...

poweredcom:
Who dash her billionaire ....abeg easy de use dat billionaire word

Na wetin I see people dey call her ooo .... I like her perseverance though .. e no easy !

poweredcom:
80 percent of naija guys of this our generation will end up marrying a retired olosho or some self go marry olosho direct without knowing

Don't blame me ...it's just how bad naija gals are now and they don't have any iota of repentance

Only 30 percent of naija gals are just marriage materials the rest na dustbin

Let Jah give me beta money bro I can't wife any naija gal ..I swear ....

I don't support ya data ooo that 70% of our girls (The entire female population of Nigeria) are into runz .... Abeg , which Bureau of Statistics support this data .....

We have alot of normal girls oo, but if u waka go anyhow , u will see anyhow ladies

Indispensable85:
Eyaaaa..... it's like you truly loved her.

Baba, I do ooo till eternity !!

Jewessgratitude:
One was when I met this overage man, didnt really like him but because he speaks well, was neat, told me he uses 40k perfume then in 2013 and I was still kinda smally, I fell. So I was trying to like his person cos he's a short man but very neat. So I said I can force the likeness.

One day I was going through his Facebook page and saw where commented on a girls photo he said was his ex.
I called him and asked if he still loves this girl, and the next thing this man said I should forget about us and the marriage talks hahahaaa.... That he doesn't want someone that will not give him peace of mind.���. Na so I switched phone. Didn't even bother to ask him anything. See me o person wen I no love.

Since then ive been the one calling off the relationship. The last one, I told him off cos i was scared of the way he sleeps around.
I just called him up one day and asked him when was the last time he went for test and he said they do it every month or so cos he was into hospitality then works in a hotel. He called me madam Kofo and I dropped and never called him again.

Ha-Ha .... una dey drop anything o !!

Mobree:
Looool

What if it was her period causing her mood to swing when you thought she didn't want you anymore? What if she had issues or whatever? What if she was a sincere girl going through some bad times? You just assume and let go abi? Koda ooooo

There will definitely be a build up ... maximum days for period is 5-7days ... Issues usually last for months/Weeks .... when a lady keep complaining you lack something she mostly desire in a man , Trust me .... Immediately she sees a man that has such quality, she might port ...... If she now sees another thing in the other dude that she can't cope with , she will port back .... or calculate her next move !!

No time for Confusionism bro !!

poweredcom:
That I always bang olosho ...meanwhile I don't trust her she may be an olosho

King Olosho .. Na only Gawd fit help say u no go marry Olosho self !

Indispensable85:
The world is indeed a very funny place.My girl doesn't like being fvckd hard.She'll always tell me to go gently, thats d way she enjoys it.I went hard with her sometime last month that was the last time I saw her till now.I've been begging her since then to forgive me.Thank God she finally promised to come around next week.

I once did this bro .... First time and last time in my life A woman went frenzy and wild like being possessed ..... ... She was like waiting I pour on her body , she was behaving janjawee up n down, running helter n skelter ... I nearly began to cry say e don be 4 me when another brain sense me say na Konji enter her brain box.... I just carried her and tumyum away .... after she calmed down .... she got to her house and sent a break up message.... ... My best friend, God bless u baby wherever you are !!

She complains of me Not too religious and Excessively Romantic (She likes my Yumyum but she would prefer it in a marriage) .... she said we should kukuma wed and I shd continue my MuahMuahMuah in a marital environment ..... But I wasn't a man enough for marriage and I said I wasn't ready ....

She told me about another dude more better(Financial) than me who is ready and I bade her farewell .... she complains why would I just said that , won't I fight for love .... I told her if she is still looking elsewhere , maybe elsewhere is better than here !!

I remember Poloma and Diego (When you are mine) and I don't want my life to be like that (Jack and Rose in Titanic) .... I don't like fighting for what I am not sure I'm gonna win nor be messed by Love ... Let me take my "L" jeje and swerve earlier ........ No give me Heart attack at this present stage of my life ..... But she was my best girl sha, hope another better girl will come !!

The Dude she left me for later dropped her (I knew he would, her vex no be here, If she sees A, U must see A ) ........ Heard she is now working in OAU as Med Doc while We still single here ooo , Rocking ICAN after Masters !! .... If she never marry and I'm ready, Ama go carry my babe back no time

JayPeeOham:
However, my male folks later told me "it's against the guy code to break up with a girl it's better u just avoid her and allow things to just fall apart naturally"...Guys is this true?...lol

If I sensed a girl is gonna break up with me , I just withdraw all my attention and care .... This usually drag the about to end relationship more and if she keeps complaining , I will just say "I'm sorry , I'm pretty busy ... I will get back to u" .... I will never get back .... at this point, if there is another guy, That one will be playing his A game while me will be playing my Z game .... She will definitely leave for A ... I will move on with my life without hurting anybody!!

pocohantas:
I am busy with life. I don't have to marry and have kids to fit in. Not when I plan outsourcing a lot. This issue isn't rocket science that would fly over their heads, we have seen these topics over and over. The aim is most times the same- to bash ladies, not necessarily to seek their opinion.

My head is very okay

No one talked bout you not fitting in .... I'm just talking about intricacies of home , work especially kids and motherly attention they require ... All these might shift ya focus away from social media and that is psychologically speaking .... Verily, You will look back at some of your posts and laugh !! ....

it is a social media and not many Nigerian ladies are actually interested in posting their opinion .... what is d population of female on Nairaland (Excluding gender trolls) ... how many of you guys are actually active across threads ..... Many get easily cowed !!

The beautiful times I cherish ya head most is when it is talking Banking/Finance among others ... and e dey touch well attimes !!

pocohantas:
Why will they answer, when before you say jack- one (m) is on your tail with insults. They done bully all the females into inactiveness. Na them come dey hide behind female accts now. Last last, una go knack unasef. We will leave NL for una

U won't go anywhere unless u get busy with life ... maybe marry and born pikin ... U sabi how to claim land na

Most female Nlanders are being African girls who get cowed easily .... it all begin from home though .... They should learn to face their fears and conquer ... ..... Even those ones that are not bully are mostly uninterested in issues like this .... Alot of ladies out there are confused .... They are what the society defined for them !!

That is why I like you despite say ur head dey touch wellwell above others !!

niaralandtopuser:
I have seen many men open thread of Lamentations after getting involved with all these nairaland hoes.

I wouldn't have anything to do with Nairaland hoes in the first place unless she has what I need and that wouldn't be Pvssy of course not .... So Lamentation can never occur from my end , if e noh work , every1 works away and if person open thread 4 my head ..... I wouldn't even give a Damn .... when person no be Yigi and Nwaawka

niaralandtopuser:
her real moniker is funminastics. they claim to not care about men but always create alternate to seek advice. marry all these nairaland so-called feminist at your own peril

Me no dey fear feminists oooo .... Even Poco.hantas wey be their Oga...... As far as say such person ain't a Saddist wey fit chook me knife or turn me into a beast .... We go covert am comot feminist (Easy things) .... Dey there dey allow their online banters dey get you, Most of them are as easier as butter on a bread in real life ...... But U gatz carried Higher IQ to bell dem sha and that ain't a problem here !!

Feminist gini, Are their feminists in Nigeria .... ..... me no see one ..... if u mean people fighting for woman's right and Emancipation , I won't define them as Feminists , IMHO !!

pocohantas:
Na ladies them ask question, but na guys go answer pass. Make I observe...

Other than you and few others , How many Nairalandees answer threads ....

MrsNwaAmaikpe:



Humans whether man or woman should have their career as priority.

A woman who cannot take care of her basic needs from the proceeds of her career before going into marriage is a potential punching bag and slave when things turn sour.

This is the 21st century, do not be pressured into marriage.

If you have unquenchable conji , get a intimacy gadget or cucumber. If you can't afford it, use candle.

Gisos, I cast away devil .... Ehnnnnn !!
Do u think it's everyone that wants to be handled by candle, cucumber or intimacy gadget .... wetin una new generation woman wan turn this Africa into

GrabHisBalls:
If at 35 and I am not married, na to bleep one guy born sure pass.

Traaaa, when d time comes... I go like be the guy oo

pcguru1:
Alot of fake people these days

Somewhere on Nairaland this morning even in this Romance subsection , a self acclaimed medical Doctor who is nabbed.... The social media has made alot of people to be living audio life...

The reason I wholeheartedly supported your postulation that love should be carefully sought online... . Na so so fake and Audio people you will find !!
You can even see some people misbehaving online and they are very cool and versatile in their private world while some are cool online but Janjawee in offline .... but when such people DM you, it is either you reject a potential husband or accept a krasszhit mistakenly

Professional association, Symposium, Conferences, Religion gathering and citadel of learnings are the best places to meet real people .... It just isn't easy for ladies because they have womanhood to protect when they see a dream man while we guys would just macho up if we see a woman that sparkles our innate desires!! .... Life mehn !

Doktajay5:
Is OK to have a taste. The issue is when u have a taste and yet have no worth.

The type of man u desire, are u his type? Or is enough to have taste. I mean, wetin de hungry girls dez days even when dey have not worked hard enough for such. No wonder yahoo is all over the air now.

She is a medical Doctor fah.... and comes from a family of one .... Aswear if she be Muslim and from Kwara south or Kwara Central , I will plug into her DM and within 2 years , There would be another marriage on Nairaland between me and her

A female Medical Doctor definitely has a worth and I will never advise such to marry nor date less ....

Senatorial district even dey my own criteria self ... e easy though because I be man and I know what I represent with God's Will (no Akpabio though) !!

francesawesome:
you should try and reduce your ideal man age bracket. Most responsible men of 35 and above are probably married. I once wanted a man that's at least 5 years older than me. The first one I dated was slowpoke, we ended up parting ways. The other was 11 years older than me, he was dating me and also went behind my back to be asking my elder sister out. The man I'm currently married to is a month older than me. I didn't even know at first because of his level of reasoning. He treats me like a queen and shower me with love. He is just too good. My dear maturity is not by age

You see am ... Hmm !!

Simjos:
At OP following your post and replies, I think I understand you a bit. Lemme guess you either studied sociology or philosophy, better still psychology

You believe that you are well read and nobody can tell you otherwise. Ma'am, I don't think you came here to seek for advise rather you are here just to mark attendance because you had already figured out what you want to do with your life.

Dm me on IG for your processed woods @timberjungle
God bless you

She came here for advice and she has been given... even me self I learnt alot !! .... I know that when the time comes, I will drop some yardstick but I will not drop any before the time comes ...
CC Harlequeen .... Don't compromise till you are 28 ok ... and Never marry a lazy dude at all at all

Debaiz:
You’re looking for someone about ten years older than you that is ambitious.

Get the facts.

You’re by my guessing in your 20s. So whoever you’re looking for is most likely in their 30s.

One thing about ambitious men is that they tend to settle down early. Those who can’t settle down early will have one very important reason they haven’t(may be personal). So the probability that that ambitious man would’ve settled down before 30 is very high ruling him out of your age preference. The few once who are yet to decide will be ruled out by the fact that they will most likely appear as unserious cos of their little achievement and advanced age.

My advice is to either cut out the age thing cos the zeal of ambition is mostly visible in 20s. In the 30s, the ambition is mostly a personal struggle and won’t be visible in the mans life style.

This one na lie .... na 30s most Naija hustlers dey arrive especially early 30s b4 35s ....especially if u be guy ..... Na oyinbo dem, dey arrive in their 20s and teenagers ..... life dey balance in naija for most guys at 30s .... if u no careful sef, life go balance 4 u in late 30s .... and if u enter 40 and u no balance ..... e don be for u be that oo .... a fool at 40 na zombie forever

uscofield:
No woman would say ill about herself.
Here are some guides:

I met this lady when i was squatting with my pal (just after NYSC), had no job, no money and no house of my own in the new state of abode. Managed to get a teaching job and same day of the job, my things were thrown out of the house by my pal.
My plans was to marry a girl from a rich home, with good education and well spoken, but what can i do when i don't have a job. Had so many of the girls around but none looked inward to see what i could become tomorrow.
They girl I met (waec holder with incomplete result) picked me up with her little cash, paid for a room for me and asked me to start life from there at no refund for the rent.
I asked the girl to enroll for waec which she did and passed. same year, she gained admission into the higher institution. Two months into the classroom, i got a job. I supported the girl financially and ensured she got the better part of her education.
Two years later, It was time to settle down, i met some of the girls (they are not aware of my present status) for marriage, they declined my proposal with flimsy excuses.
Most of the girls are not married till date. The one i craved dearly for died few months after her wedding (God saved me from her).
I called the girl that gave me shelter when i had non, asked for her hand and she accepted.
Five years in marriage and still counting, I am wonderfully blessed. Blessed with my own property, a car, two wonderful boys, professional certs., and now nursing the dream of leaving this country.

This is a true life story. Completely true.

Here is the advise:
She wasn't my class, not in my league, not from rich home but i saw some qualities in her that can keep you going. I moulded her into what i wanted (a graduate, a mother, and a working class).
No one prays for less in life but God is the ultimate planner of our lives.
You can't see all you deserve in a man but you can make the man what you want. Men are soft and easily yield to the desires of their partners when they get the needed support from her.
Make sure you have the right attitude to hold a man (no turn monitoring spirit when he is away).
Give someone a chance because you can't truly know what a man is made of until you have his heart and vise versa.
Remain nice to others even if you don't have interest in them, they can be your guests during events. They can also change their lives just because of your attitude towards them.
Remain focused on your dreams.
Poor man today can/may never be poor tomorrow.
"Hand to mouth"guys today can become CEOs of tomorrow.

I wish you the best.

How come no one react to this beautiful piece that thought me a lesson of a lifetime !!.... Oga, I don copy am save am inside my telegram ..... I go remember am when I wan marry !! .... I will pay u later for d piece ok !!

pcguru1:
I get what you mean, this is what I think works , since you want someone with common interest, I will advice you to stop using online dating chats, I dont like being an hypocrite , the type of conversations I have there align with the current intention I have at heart which is sexual in nature. If you want to meet reasonable people you have more chances within communities that is centred around tangible things. What I mean is, join a group be it literature, something mind stimulating, you will be able to relate more and see people and how they interact in a proper manner. The same guys on NL here that talk nonsense might actually be reasonable people, so tldr spent more time meeting people in person than online. I hope this works. Also you lost me with the masturbation part or maybe you're being paranoid, there's tons of masturbatory materials online with categories. So I doubt anyone would masturbate with your pix.

Trust her ooo, people can do that aswear !! .... Boys dey misbehave nowadays ooo .... faking things fakery life !!

CHoccolaTE:
@bold
Many of them are blockheads that dont listen, that's how they get married and retard_ their family's progress with their lazy and stubborn natures.

I know one like that, an old family friend, he' very jobless but will remain inside house 24/7 waiting for his wife to hustle and bring money because he knows she won't let her kids starve. When they married he was doing uber work before his car got stolen and since then the guy packed up and refused to be useful to himself. If the woman tries to convince him to start up something he gets angry and starts frowning face as if she is disturbing him.

Housework he no dey do, money he no dey bring, he doesn't even go job hunting.
Just waiting for woman to feed him everyday.
Na that kain man woman go poison out of frustration people will start saying she is very wicked.

I really laughed so hard ... ... U Nairalandees will not kee person !! Poison ke, she will poison father to her children ni ... !!!

healthserve:
The Op has deeper psychological issues bro. Don't bother. Nothing here or counsel from here would easily work. Some problems cuts deep into psychological, spiritual levels, not to forget deep flawed logic that leads people on a self-assuned path of safety till it cost them more than they realize. This isn't someone you can influence easily as they'll see themselves as hardly wrong, and yes not open to make needful corrections to lead a happy life!



Trust me I know this one. This is purely a psychological issues with the possibility of deeper spiritual background issues and then the obvious " habit " issues, habits that has been applied for so long that has formed the basis of how they apply themselves to life, hence they won't see their actions as wrongs cause over time it has evolved into their embelmic-actions

She doesn't have any psychological problem brother ..... she just have a taste and a desire .... The problem is our taste is the bane of our delays in life and if we settle for less, we may be sad till eternity .... you will always know that there is something out there that you deserve not this one in here and that is how marriage collapse !!!

@Harlequeen, no be so !!

Harlequeen:
Wow, sir, i applaud your abilities of selective reading and misinterpreatation.

I try to list a few things in a bid to be humble and you call me proud? Well a man will be blessed to have me because he who has found a wife has found a good thing. I never said i will be blessed to have the kind of man i am looking but, but i consider myself fortunate when i do. There is no arrogance in that statement sir.

What were you expecting me to write, that i can cook and clean, give all the sex styles in kamasutra, be at a man's beck and call and be his to command. I am not trying to satisfy everybody.

But then everyone is entitles to their opinion

Stop saying he will be proud to have you Abeg .... if you marry for those criteria and God forbid, he had an accident and couldn't live to those criteria again , will you still be there or manageably be there or abscond or be sad till eternity !! .....

I also set standards, and no matter who a girl is if you lack one single criteria from my list, I will not take it to d next stage and will make you to drop me (We sabi how we dey do am) ..... All my cousins already crossed Arm for me telling me dem go see who I will eventually get married to ..... Deep down me, I know when I get to the marriage bridge, I know the critical points I would consider and cross the bridge already ... no time !!

The real problem is, we can be a taste to many in terms of communication, conversation, Romantic, Masculinity, Professionalism, Academia and Career ...... A man worthy of pride by any standard woman but are you the lady he mostly and innately desires ....

Don't you think a Dude of such criteria, with quite an understanding of how Favourable the woman market is available to him, would also want to select from higher brow beyond your present level ...... .....

@Harlequeen, this is the problem with most career oriented woman, you want the guy above board or at par meanwhile, he is eyeing the woman above board not even at par ...... All he needed is just to be the Man she wanted , she will do the rest !! ..... Meanwhile, a guy might not aced all ya criteria but will see you as a woman above his board and might wanna try his luck then if you reject such dude , how do u get married in dis present dispensation.... Every1 is avoiding liability ooo !!

But who says God can not fulfil our innate desires, it is not your fault, this is Capitalism...... Every1 is chasing the best that can suit the heart !!

lacemose:
The Nigerian blogger, Linda Ikeji having a great time as she travels to watch the live car racing game where she supports Lewis Hamilton


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kxBqnFlmnhk



https://www.instagram.com/p/B5iOUBfgItG/?igshid=13posrrisqhvg

Life sha, Many people there don't even know she is a Billionaire... she even shouted Lewis and Nigga didn't even know she is there .... and she is a model to me ..... A role model on Hardworking...

Guy, we gatz keep humbling and working harder ... make me too watch F1 for Dubai and possibly sit with dem kings and Sheikhs

Segkem2013:
Africans are so cruel.
Seems the black man always thinks of out doing the devil when executing his crime. Throw a fellow human off a moving vehicle, gang rape someone's sister/daughter then take a soul you knew nothing of the pains and sacrifices it took the parents to bring to the world and raise.

I am telling you .... I wish I can understand the origination of we Africans like go back to time and come back to present and go to the future to see whether we changed or not !!

Thank God for Civilisation .... !!