₦airaland Forum

Hamachi:
Alot of times, you guys miss the point.

The worst way to approach an intelligent, sensitive and independent woman who knows her worth and understands her value (it is one thing to know your worth and another to understand your value) is to come into her inbox with the mindset to interview her.

You will hit a brick wall!

No woman who knows her onions will give you the audience of conducting an interview in her inbox when she isn't applying or has applied for a job.

Relationship is not a job interview that you would want to know everything about the person in one day!

Learn to go through a ladies profile get the basic information about her before sending her a message. There are other mature ways to approach a lady than asking her "sup" "xup" "what's ur name (when it is pretty obvious)" "where are you now (if I tell you would you come over)" "where are you chatting from (aren't we all chatting or writing from our phones or laptops) "have you eaten (as if you will buy me food)"?

Pick a subject! Talk about the weather, the situations around you, politics, sports, trending topics on social media, zeeworld or whatever. If you can't remember any subject, at least remember buhari is still the president and talk about him!

Stop coming inbox to conduct interview sessions! We aren't applying for a job and don't forget that you are meant to shoot your shots to get her not get an employee. There are much more intelligent and mature way to chike a lady than the way some of you go about it.

You people too like wahala .... How many Nigerian girl can actually hold a civil conversation.....

When you are talking about Politics.... they don't know .....

Economics and economy zero

Technology zero

Fashion trends zero

Tourism zero

But talk about how Bose their neighbour got pregnant for tunde a fellow neighbour ..... ....

If she is a working class, only aspect they wanna discuss is how Jessica and MD are collaborating... How Nkechi put Audu into trouble
Tatafo no go kee most of our girls....

You see a well educated and high graded girl be asking you who is Kyari and Boss Mustapha ... who is the Ngige .... They will see Ameachi and be like ... "This man is familiar "

what does Inflation implies .....

I nearly run mad when I was discussing Robotic with a 2'1 from a private university ... Top of her class even book na cram to pass ..... I was telling her the future is robot , in 2019 she was telling me robot can never outsmart her ooo ... a 19yo in 19th century !

If you force this critical discussion on their throat, verily you are boring.... You are arrogant and rude .... You are oversabi and unromantic so:

xup,
Wetin u eat,
How ur day,
Wetin u go chop tomorrow n next tomorrow n next next tomorrow

Thatz is why when you meet that versatile one both of you are Bomb already !!

DOMINO001:
Guy, no better country for the list o.

All of them are better country except Sudan and Chad !!

Even they are Hustling point for Nigerians that want to hustle in Africa with peace !!

I'd love to visit them all !!

Fountainofyouth:
Lol the guy is everything good and positive, the total package, he intrigues and wow me in every possible way you can think of, that is how the affection is for me, and it is mutual, na the marriage institution dey do me somehow honestly.

Wao, if you are truly convinced you gat all this, baby fire away ooo unless Celibacy is what you deeply desire ..... !!

Don't make the dude lose interest oo especially if you are wasting his time .... Great Love scarce !!

blank:
If you can take ACCA. It's when you leave this country you will realize how worthless ICAN is.

I know but I am already at the final stage just few papers to ace! Then Use ICAN to cross carpet into ACCA ..... ICAN will give you some exemption in ACCA !

My own rant is for ICAN to bow to me and make I get my life back ..... ICAN ABEG GIVE WAY IN 2020 maximum .... I don't want to go to Jos oo

I just downloaded all new packs, many folks will be making fun of you that life ain't bout big books, dude are you the one reading all of this ...

ICAN take control oo make guy Japa !!

Fountainofyouth:
My rant is marriage, I'm living with my parents while working and mama wouldn't let me rest with her marriage songs, not that I don't have someone, I have, he's ready, but I'm not completely ready, I'm not having doubts about him, but I just dont feel ready, I don't feel excited about it, my body is not tickling with the thought of marriage, my spirit and soul is detached from it, it feels alien to me, I keep giving everyone excuses cos if I should tell them these things, they'll say I'm not normal, mama says I'm old but I say I'm not old, mama threatens that my younger sis will get married b4 me, I told her she can go ahead I don't care, mama begs that I shouldnt disgrace her, I said if becoming successful in my career and becoming known round the world for it means I'm disgracing her, so be it

My only support system is my Dad, bless him, he keeps telling me "don't mind them B, do you, always do you".

Maybe He doesn't completely wow you ....... Maybe He ain't the square peg that fit the square hole ..... Nonetheless, He is a Peg !!

Because to me (I been watching ya trantrantran here .... Handling ya kind go require Upstairs wella and the journey of who adequately bell the cat no be here).... If you find that personality that really fit, Yinmu, you will marry him now now now!!

mapet:
I like your suggestion in part. .....but it will take concerted effort and investment (both govt & private sector) to do that. Dr. Andrew Neville (white man lecturer in LBS) has come up with a fantastic idea - "Nigeria should start a 10yr-project of building her own Carrier". I dare add "Train". This approach triggers local industries along the value-chain... but like I said govt, banks & other institutional investors have to commit to the project.

All Government needed to do is to Initiate it and if Government is sincere the Organised private sector will also key in .............. Imagine Nigeria with Automobiles, This will provide a lot of employment opportunities.

But I think the problem is oil, In order to sell our oil into some market we need to also buy some certain things from them possibly Engineering !!

As I stated in some other posts, in order for a capital intensive project like this to be a success, we need to review our Overheads/Recurrent Expenditure and cut cost of governance down by 65% !!

SarkinYarki:
I didn't see any Boko Haram in the video but just our soldier making a charge advance on some target

I only see a man shouting ooo... no dead body on the floor nothing...... seem like a Military Drill to me !

Nnamdi99:
When will the Nigerian Government start thinking of upgrading to electronic rail, this type is no longer in vogue....... Nigeria governmental structure needs a total rejig bcoz this government at present have shown it lacks the necessary innovational ideas to take us to the promise land... WE NEED CREATIVE AND INNOVATIVE LEADERS.

The current Expenditure structure doesn't support such an endeavour !

Until they reduce the political office holders pay by 65% and use such to fund capital projects, Nigeria can never meet up with 21st century innovation and inventions!!

Awol1:
Na Lagos-Ibadan rail we go dey for 8 years, I wonder when the "transatlantic" rail line they are propising will be built.

Why can't they subcontract some of these coaches to our Engineers .....

Will we ever start building our train from inception till end .... Ministry of Science and Technology over to you !

Only if Inglish go credit my account and only if English can speak and understand Yoruba same way as I do !!

Until then, I don't give a damn !!

davillian:
Minimum wage = 1bag of rice..

Ayam telling you !!

But E remain small change for stew and Titus sha oo !!

DOMINGOPAPI:
I remember that story and the confession of the Mother of the deceased lady. The evidences are so weighty against him.

Yet, he took the police 2016-2019 to secure a conviction !!

Thank God sha , Justice at last !!

My pain is that, he just used his Schizophrenic problem to killed this hustling lady .... She shoulda run, run run ....!!

She connected with me and I later bulge by dating her for 2weeks (I didn't know her connection with my boss make person no give me problem I just bulge)...

Her Obsession no get mate , She is ready to go to any length even despite I ain't in her league (Yes, she slay pass me) ......... Always Possessing me everywhere anywhere ........ If I greet another lady na wahala, If I greet another dude much na wahala, my family na wahala .... traaaaaaa !!

She would even curse me that my programme will scatter if I don't marry her ..... She said she will even blame me if eventually in life she never secure good Husband if I shd drop her !!

Haba !!

I just change location and ran away .... She eventually went for service too ..... I am still doing temple run on her case !!

This is Obsession and Psychosis !!


Ladies and dudes need to beware of this attributes in a person and run, run , run before you pay with your life ..... This kinda people already find life worthless without you and if you date or marry them, still death because they can't afford to share you with another being ..... They are extremely jealous, over possessive and over protective ..... You dare not show any affection to any other person (yes, your family inclusive) but them and yet it will never be enough !!


I once had a girl in 2010 that was obsessed with me. I told a friend of mine I'm going for a drink and this damsel sitting beside him said she needed a malt too ..... I brought her the malt and she offered to pay and I told her itz Ok, She insisted and as a gentleman I declined .... Na so I enter am ....

Person can not be nice in peace again

She collected my number from my friend, I thought I have a new friend but she want more , more and everything me !!

I obliged her but avoided physical contact even contributed towards removing lump from her breast .... I just ended it all in 2011........ By 2015 I met her again in my boss office when I wanted to bade him good day !!

I recognised her behind... Immediately I said "Good night sir" I sighted her and dashed out ran towards our male convenience ...... You won't believe she recognised my voice (we really talked much on phone during 2011, so she had good grasp of my voice) without even seeing my face and chased me calling my name....... I locked myself in the toilet !! She called , called ... I just melted inside the toilet and kept my calm there !!

She later asked my Boss and his PA .... Those ones just gave her everything about me including my digits!!

iomoge2:
Lol I can attest to Architects Sex is the way to claim nerves and helps your thinking. After a good orgasm, Ideas just flow. Lol

True that !!

DortmundGirl:
I've come to see many different ways of argument between man and woman around me and out of personal experience.

- some do beat the woman during fight, it's a no go to me,

- some discuss for days, yell and scream. I don't like it so much, am a calm person,

-some totally ignore each other for days and don't speak to each other, can you stand it??

I prefer discussing after a fight and look for solutions together. What's your opinion on that??

I raised my voice and argue it out .... I love constructive criticism though, if I give you fire, Fire me back (Ma lo nogede with me ) ..... I always know when I am wrong , I won't surrender though ....... I always work woman's head to prove their point beyond reasonable doubt ....... I can exhaust person sha oo !!

If I am wrong, I would later come closer and apologise (it usually have sweet ending) ..... My turn off is for women that argue out of point and some women who fail to admit their wrongs (Stone cold girls) !!

NigeriaIsDoomed:
u dey fear my username? No fear I just want make our wicked rulers wake up from slumber.

cold catch me ooo ... Alright then Mr Decorous !!

Hamachi:
This answer is confusing

If you married your heart desire you will behave well now , if not you may misbehave!!

NigeriaIsDoomed:
I had to pretend as if I didn't see him.

I actually wanted to tag you in my post but I typed your username and erased Immediately ....

FrLukas:
Well I'm not an English major and wouldn't wanna get in an argument about grammar but it's a matter of usage, I think.

Decorum-noun, Decorous-adjective.

Yes, Contextual meaning is the most important in interpreting the usage of words in a sentence!

Welcome!

FrLukas:
Decorum.

Lol, please check next time b4 you correct someone. I actually thought the dude was wrong and meant Decorum but a single search on google and my dictionary left me perplexed and I just learned another english word today !!

"Decorous" .... Nairaland is amazing!!

Hamachi:
Guys Be honest Can you advice your brother or sister to marry someone like you Don't lie

Yes, if they are really what I want for a wife !!
No, if they are not my kinda woman !!

Starz825:
Some of ur points are real but Sin can't be justified

Hmmmmm, Deep !!
I do support premarital sex too because sexual compatibility is one area we all shy away from and this is the beginning of marital woes in most homes today .... Sexually frustrated couples !!

Nonetheless, as a religious nigga, Sin can't be justified ........ especially Premarital sex sin

But me oo, I usually test my water b4 I swim in them ... Make water no carry person go abi make person no swim inside bowl with Ocean Imagination !!

Fountainofyouth:
I support premarital sex fully, I know some married ladies that are sad cos their sex life is dry, I cannot marry someone that there is no sexual compatibility, and the only way to know that is before marriage.

..... Gbam !!
This post really crack me up so much !!

Testing 1, 2, 3 .... Testing MicroPhone nie, Testing !!

My own submission is that Most folks that excel more in class during my own time are crammers ..... Crammers rule !!

If u no sabi cram in Unilorin (Better By Far) you can't excel (Speaking from grounded experience)... I prefer "can't " not "may not" !! ....

This is why you see some intelligent student failing because they ain't smart while smart ones excel ...... A grounded student usually tend to maintain balance between intelligence and smartnesss !!

I understand this lately as an undergraduate and I paid with my GP !!!

Now, I read to understand the principles and philosophy behind a concept abi anything .....

After that .... I cram to the exam hall .... pour am down and walk away !! .... Come see Mark YafunYafun since I don reason this level !!


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Na person wey write wetin lecturer want na ihm pass , no be d person wey kno am but wey no write am !!

Stephani3e:
I noticed that most guys hate the idea of their friends dating their sisters. Some would even threaten their friend to stay away from their sisters. Most guys even if their friend is the last male on Earth they would prefer their sisters to be a nun instead.

It never happen to me sha but I used to warn most of my friends that use to show interest in my sisters that it is either our friendship or my sister !!

For me, it is ego, Family respect and self preservation !!

... You know how men can be sometimes and how fast relationship can turn from sweet to sour.... Some dude can misbehave using disparaging words against Your "own" and because He is your friend, It can hurt in multiple ways and make you do something silly ..... If he ain't my friend I won't care .... Shiii happens!!

Whatever capacity you are as my friend, Immediately you started dating my sister, You and I are done with friendship ............ Done !!

If I meet you for road self I go bown you unless You are a confirmed well reserved and respected personality

With that, if anything nasty happens between you and my sister .... I won't be concerned ... (Would have warned her though) ..... If it is Physical then You self go get treated and everyone go dey alright.... Afterall , You ain't my friend anymore

Ginaz:
I think the mistake women always make is they try to compare themselves in all aspects when it comes to men.

The Bible said women are helpers . We are not equal and can never be equal to men. Until women learn this hard and naked truth they will always be at the receiving end of pain!

Nobody will force you to do what you don’t want to do. If you love a guy but wanna leave cos he hurts you then fine. Don’t leave on the message that men doesn’t take bullshit so you won’t take bullshit .

Women have a lot of influences over men, if they could focus their energy in trying to better their lives and instill a good influence over their men, they will be better off than becoming a bitter , over sabi, I know my right deranged psycho.

Be careful of the type of advise you take as a woman. Physical violence of any kind should not be taken though. In that area I suggest you walk away.

Ginaz !!

AwkaetitiBabe:
Perhaps she wanna check if u guys are sexually compatible before committing into the relationship... I may b wrong

You may not be wrong .... All cards need to be laid on the table b4 you can conclude someone is worthy of being your wife or Husband ... !!

seanwilliam:
hmm. if i were u, i will totally withdraw my attention and play reversed psychology on her or i will fucck her and turn her to my sexual object and kill all the good intention i have for her.

Bad Boy Devil

Kevsmart88:
Hello romancelanders...am gonna be quite brief.
Have been asking this damsel out for quite a couple of months now,she keeps giving me the i'm not ready response.. she has been to my place on two occasions and each time she visits,she tries initiating sex which i refuse albeit politely in a bid to prove to her I want more than just sex nor the friends with benefits ish but each time i refuse,she ends up saying it was a test....am in my early 30's looking for a serious relationship with this same lady...but what got me real perplexed was her reaction while leaving today,she looked scorned and a bit infuriated...a part of me regrets my not giving in while the other part lavish accolades on me for my resolve...pls advise me cos i feel like i lost her already.....whatever happens, i feel posterity will judge me fairly.....should I jus let her be or persist?

I am your age grade but I have never for once in my life hide my romantic mien for a girl I truly like to d extent of marrying .... Woman can quickly perceive you as unromantic If you ain't taking some leads or do not respond to some signs and moves !!

If I like a girl to the extent of "wifing" her ... I put the romantic card also on the table ... Too much talk and talks can be boring.... u may not actually enter Ondo State gangan but Igbara Oke and Igbara Isale as far as Oke Igbo ain't too much to make casual jokes and play about ..... (My Yoruba blothers understand me)

Any1 wey head these girls Yaff die !!!