₦airaland Forum

MrBrownJay1:
what about all the ogas at the top, polithieves and yahoo yahoo boys who-ve been sampling her goods (day in and day out)....dont they want to marry her?!

who wants to settle for these guys leftovers....?

BTW here is a simple clue: if you are beautiful, have a banging body and cant find a good man to marry you THEN THE PROBLEM IS YOU!!!!

Not necessarily

ahnie:
Hello doc.pls I need your imput on something.

okay, how can I be of help?!

ijoba222:
please nairalanders with experience what do you think this is? it started appearing on my skin 3 days ago , and it gets itchy sometimes, this has never happened to me before, please what do you think it is, ? any solutions ? I thought it because of the bathing soap that I switched

maybe Scabies? It's really hard to say with the picture quality.

Is the itching worse at night? Do you stay in a hostel or crowded room?

Another differential could be chicken pox. If you have never had it. It's hard to say

josite:
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Let us educate our wives,there is nothing called cheating.man do more than one women.it is biological.but the guy that signs one man one wife and fail truly deserves hell .

that's a lie

yanabasee2:
I'm really convinced that she did not check on his background before accepting to marry him....



It's a terrible situation for a man to disrespect his wife and get another woman pregnant.. and still keeps her for sex....


Let her get herself a job or a business first... She should allow the husband to set her up before deciding to divorce.... So she'll have money to take care of those kids... And she should know that, if she leaves the man, the other baby mama will step in and take her place... So she will be at the losing end...

she can have his two timing worthless ass. Peace of mind is better abeg.

siofra:
Help Solve This Engagement Wahala

My answer is

A. Reasonable

When I see your own answers I'll give my reasons for choosing A

A man proposes to his woman with a receipt of her $70k student loan debt being paid in full in place of a ring. She thanks him, but says she still requires a ring before getting married. What is she?

A. Reasonable B. Ungrateful C. Smart D. Dumb

D for dummy

steveyen:
Then leave the profession and go try something else.

You doctors here in Nigeria are just cry babies honestly and it is so annoying.

Doctors are one of the highest paid profession in Nigeria. You come here crying about calls when at the end of the month you get paid for it and a very high payment rate for that matter. You people are one of the luckiest in the country because a good number of you work in government establishment where you can afford to go on strike as you like. If you try that in any private industry you will see where it will land you guys.

A lot of other professionals work harder than you guys get paid lesser and they dont come out crying everywhere.

We are honestly tired of all this cry cry things

If you need private life go and establish a business.

that's what many of us do. I am currently learning a side hustle, once it pays off, I dump medicine for Nigerians. Medicine isn't worth practicing here. I can only do it in countries that appreciate the value the profession provides them.

Jaqenhghar:
Over there, they dont entertain a culture of laziness. You do anyhow and that's it. They know it that's why they sit up. You think it's money that makes them work hard?

Actually, money, the fact that your family has a good life, and the fact that there's systems for everything in your workplace, all the latest technology to make things easier, not using rechargeable lamp to operate a patient because nepa has taken light and the gen is faulty.

Jaqenhghar:
If a man will not do his job dilligently for 100k a month, even if you pay him 1m a hour he will not do his work. Facts.
If high pay guaranteed productivity, your senators would have bee some of the most productive people in earth. People working in NNPC would have been the hardest workers

Na so.

Yet nigerian doctors that travel abroad do well. What's so different between there and here.

DECLAN2015:
That is not true
Esp the "real good one"
Many have left not because they are good than others but just have the means(finance and connection)
Any doctor that can work in nigeria environment can easily work at anywhere .most Nigerian trained doctor are intrinsically good cos it is not easy to graduate from nigeria medical schools.So drop that notion.

he actually isn't lying, Most of the doctors you see are either really young, less than 7 years, or really old, more than 20 years In the profession.

There are almost no middle aged doctors left.

It will be interesting to see what happens when all the professors and elders die off, because it will start to shock people.

Most people studying abroad don't plan to come back unless they are given a political post.

Even more shocking is that nurses are leaving in higher numbers and faster than doctors. It's easier for them to leave as they actually have higher demand.

Jesuschristus:
Nobody will talk abt the free call food hospital provide every night

most hospital don't have good call food. The doctors eat the same food served to patients. Horrible food

The call food in my place of work aggravates peptic ulcer no matter what it is, so I don't eat it anymore.

The thing I hate about calls is how it increases anxiety and makes a mockery of your mental health.

Being called at odd hours of the night for cases that are not emergencies, that could have been seen earlier in the day, or the next day due to patient stubbornness. The cough you have been nursing for 2 weeks will not suddenly disappear in the night. Don't come to the hospital at 2 am because you have been having vaginal itching for 4 days. Come at 2am if things have gotten much worse, in pain, on your way to heaven.

Then the worst is patients who come needling higher level of care that your hospital cannot provide but have been rejected by 3-4 higher hospitals due to lack of bed space. They do not understand that a smaller center can only administer first aid and waste their precious money and valuable time if they are admitted because they cannot really do much if a higher center has rejected. You can't really bite more than what you can chew.

Even worse is patients relatives who then use this as an opportunity to attack health staff.

sgtponzihater1:
Well that lady Got a minimum of 300k if converted to Naija. For having sex with a man just 4 different days. And it was initiated by her (Because initially it was just work friendship). So I don't see how that is dumb. She could have bought prevention pills. If he was paying prostitutes, he would have saved more with less drama, but thought a professional will be more understanding.

Now she refuses to abort or part ways. Insisting that apart from support he must be in the child's life for her to keep quiet. Or he should pay her bride price in Nigeria then she can also support, a guy who is a Christian. That is evil, and it will fail.

This is not the kind of problem one will think about this year Do you know the expenses and stress involved?, do you know the guy can potentially loose his home, and end up with a lady older than him?, Because that will be the worst case scenario. But some ladies can be wicked, and can cause trouble anytime of the year to people that are kind to them. Cheers

you still skirted and avioded the question? Why didn't the man take care of where his semen is deposited and buy a condom. It's very irresponsible of him. Every male ejaculation has the certainty of hoisting a child into the world. Meanwhile, not every woman's ejaculation will result in child bearing. Your friend has himself to blame. He's no victim, both of them were consensual adults. Onus was on him to have discussed with the lady what he was hoping to achieve from the affair. He also slept with her more than once. That's consent and conveys the message that he was ready for the result of unprotected sex.

He better start paying child support

sgtponzihater1:
Thanks a first wife can't be less than 30 and a second wife 38yrs. So polygamy is not an option in this. He will take care of his child, but no need marrying a 38yrs old woman that couldn't get a husband through straight means.

Why sleep with a man unprotected when you know it's your fertile period?, and the man gave you money each time, yet you are insisting that you must keep the pregnancy and marry a man you took money to sleep with?, [b][/b]though she did not directly ask for money, but after every activity the man gave her money and she collected with no objection, even thanking the guy, this was always more than £80, that's paid sex to me. The said man had other girls, yet no one hooked him with pregnancy all this years, but this one less than 4 months all this trouble. This is deliberate female wickedness! Another option is for the man to relocate with his family, because that lady will never want to leave the abroad that she is.

Only men get the blame in these kind of things, but ladies also have to take their fault sometimes. And this is female wickedness to another female who is married.

what of the unborn child, The main innocent party in this?

sgtponzihater1

@bolded is a very dumb question. The man/ your friend should hold himself accountable. Why didn't he buy 300 naira condom? He is mostly to blame.

sgtponzihater1:
How can one explain to the wife that another woman is pregnant for him without losing her.

The other lady is saying she is 38 unmarried, and says refuses to throw away the opportunity to have a child at that age, especially as the guy is somewhat comfortable. She does not mind being his second wife, but if not the guy should pay monthly support, and she will keep shut and take care of their baby, but I know this is not sustainable, as the truth will leak someday.

The problem is the guy only slept with this new girl 4 times, and does not want to loose his wife nor her trust, as the wife has no idea that he cheats. He even thought of claiming to the wife that he wants a second wife. But why should the second wife be a older woman, and they are Christians.

Asking for a "friend". How does he sort things out.

Ladies, how can a guy pacify you if you were the first wife, as the priority is the first wife.

Thanks

omo!! There's no pacifying that shit o. I see no solution in sight. In the end,an innocent child will suffer because of your 'friend's' ejaculation.

Your friend have to choose between your first or the side chick and her unborn child. He can't eat his cake and have it.

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sirjamesjnr:
. Yes oooo your IK. He needs fair skin chikito

LOL!!

Let me not say what is on my mind. I wish him luck!!

RightToReject:
Your friend might be smart, as you have posited, but he's certainly neither discerning nor clever, just as you, for the following reasons:

- He ought to have known long ago that you as his friend discernment and cleverness aren't your forte - conceit is - therefore, you're not the kind of person to assign a task like this, its unnecessariness notwithstanding.

- He ought not to have been needing someone to help him look for a woman to marry in this age out of lack of option, his supposed gentleness/reclusiveness notwithstanding, and couldn't have had difficulties distinguishing reasonable women from the unreasonable ones quickly anywhere.

- The four previous girls in his life that took advantage of his assumed generosity would not have succeeded in their shenanigans.

Yes, there are both good and bad women everywhere, this forum inclusive, but a clever and discerning person in your position could have easily identified them within a short interval and reach out to them privately, and wouldn't need to advertise in this manner, which is a recipe for disaster waiting to happen to your friend. Because with the amount of desperate disingenuous and opportunistic women that abound here and everywhere - of course, these bad qualities aren't exclusive to the female gender alone - this route you've taken will likely consume your friend in the long run.

My submission might sound bitter to your hearing, but truths have to be told, so no apologies.

so!!
Where are the solutions profered in this long essay you wrote?!

sirjamesjnr:
I am not. My friend is not fortunate to have good girls around him. He doesn't like going out a lot. Very decent kind of man. I wish I was a girl.

No homo!!

sirjamesjnr:
Age: 26....30
Graduate
Working-class
Live in Lagos
From Ibo
Fair in colour( not bleaching)
Strictly for marriage.
If you tick the above-mentioned box. I like to introduce you to my good friend.
He is a graduate, 33 years old.
Businessman.
From Ibo
Stay in Lagos
Very clean, comfortable and cool-headed.
He is a Christian.
Please let me know if you are interested.
Two of you can start as friends then see where it lead to. Trust me you won't regret you ever try.
This is my email.... sirjamesjnr@gmail.com
Send your number I will contact you
N/b. He picks me up in his car, we ended up at where I can get some food then I ask him why he will take me to a restaurant when we can enjoy homemade food... That is how we dive into the marriage issue. So I got his approval to go in between for him. I want to be at his wedding before I Japa. Please only serious-minded people. My friend hates drama a lot.
We can start with hanging out somewhere cool then he is man enough to heat it. He is an Ibo guy so he is bold enough to take this ministry to the permanent side.

Is it IK that's looking for who to marry?

saasala:
This is something very delicate that one should be careful of revealing to the world. Schizo is highly hereditary which means that her brother got it from the family tree.

Any man with sense should avoid raising offspring from the womb of Maria to avoid having mad children. It might sound like a harsh statement but it is true.

Not all cases are hereditary.

BadRadio:
Thing is, I really wanted to impress my new girl with some action...we got talking naughty 3 days ago, and she narrated how terrible all her Exes were, finding the center of gravity*... she said they were feeble 2 minute boys that couldn't make a woman like her happy and that was the basic reason they are her sorry Ex's.

This girl is petite, petty and pretty wild and bold, somewhat real to tell me all of that, I guess she was looking for a worthy iron man who could excite her with some wonderful marathon of boning ecstasy. I knew I was up to the uphill task... same reason my Exes keeps cheating on their new boyfriends with me.

I giggle when she told me about that part of her sexual disappointment in men. I simply left her with a simple question " Do you really have some stamina"?
...and then we left.

Two days ago we did it...and as I speak with you I haven't CUM yet. Rewind back before we started, I met this fulani man who prepares organic mixtures with roots and stems... I explained to him what I wanted and he delivered... the concoction was quite bitter but I summoned courage... I gulped half a litre into my system before I went to work

I havent CUM since then... help

it's about time.
You want to impress abi?
Mtcheeeeeeeeeew

HustlePro:
correction is Southern Wealth.

True. This country is just a large scale 'monkey dey work, baboon dey chop'

This is annoying. So government uses our taxpayers money to pamper religious killers?!

Nigeria is a lost cause. I don't want to be in the country come 2023

festacman:
This is one big downside of being an obedient church boy. But the truth is that the Bible said "who findeth a wife" and NOT "who committee recommendeth a wife". So, you may need to go Talibanistic and take over KABUL boldly and apologize to 'whom it may concern' later.

God bless brother.

Gbam!!

Someone that is not decisive like op.

Single to old age loading

As a daughter of Jacob, let me wait for pics of children of esau

Drink and drive.

Become a baby mama

Commit suicide

Drink and drive.

Become a baby mama

RPirez:
Isn't it so funny that the unattractive girls seem to be the loudest?

interesting?!!!

Please tell us more!!

Hassanmaye:
I:m sure you are not the one in your profile pic

why do you ask?

BirtherOfKings:
no woman?..lol..u never jam..u tink a child is easy to raise alot wit no support, even I wld have done such if am in such a tight position ..it's for the betterment of the child

how is the child her business, she is not it's mother, the child has its own mother

SonofGod231:
Really unfortunate. I also have a friend he has one boy with the wife but kept sleeping with this particular girl. We talked and warned him about it because he was spending more time with the girl but he didn't see it as anything. Finally,He got her pregnant and she refused to remove the pregnancy.
Today she has a daughter for him but the poor devastated wife is still there trying to hold her family together.
This was why I spoke more on the shameless ladies sleeping with someone else's husband.

free those ladies and focus on the shameless husband's.

As for me, I would use whatever is left of the marriage to adopt a child outside and leave the marriage after. I would never accept the child, mistake or not, neither will I take the child from it's mother.


No be by force abeg

smile11s:
Amen God will make it happen.

Na so

smile11s:
I will by the grace of God

okay o.

It had better be standard when you do