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AoifeNightfall:
I see hot takes on women being submissive especially after that mummy Zee's stuff on Twitter.

But I want to ask, in this modern era where women contribute financially too in the home, should a woman still submit?

I think we should be talking about reciprocal respect now, not submission because the world is changing. Concepts that worked in the past may not work anymore in the present era.

Please don't submit to anyone especially your husband. It is not by force to marry. If your husband insists you submit to him, give him a slap. After all he didn't train you or give birth to you.
Don't even submit to yourself.
The only people you should submit to are your pastors. In fact don't even submit to your pastors, those people are now rapists

WebOracle:
I made a post on my Facebook about my accommodation issues in school and how I needed help with a new one.

This guy went to my DM and asked me to delete the post, that he’d help me.

Asked me to come to Umuahia from Calabar, I asked for tfare, he asked me to come first with mine, after all na me dey find help.

I traveled down two days later, got to Umuahia only for the guy to tell me to find a place to lodge and he’d join me later because he had to attend to an emergency.😳

I managed to lodge with what I had which was even a deposit and told the hotel receptionist that my host will balance up when he comes.

He came later in the night with “Nutri Milk and Bread”.😡

He coerced me into having $3x with him based on say I dey vulnerable to his help.😭

4am he took excuse to rush to go for another emergency.

Na so Orjiako Emmanuel Japa from the hotel and left me stranded o.🙆🏽‍♂️

Balance of hotel e nor pay.
Food e nor give me chop.
Transport e nor give.
Money for rent e promise e nor give

Blocked me everywhere and left me in more vulnerable and terrible state.😭😡

Nobody treats any human like that no matter what
You don’t ride on people’s desperation to make yourself feel good.

Orjiako Emmanuel is a terrible human and he should be famous by force!!!

Here is his number

He cannot block the whole world!”


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Me am still not understanding what happened?
What did she say happened again? Can someone please explain better.

Odewaleadesoye:


DAILY POST

I doubt anyone cares

[quote author=trutharena post=127874171][/quote]How the naira has fallen

Bobloco:
https://dailypost.ng/2023/12/25/japa-we-should-all-stay-back-fight-for-nigeria-defence-chief/

Check where this one's kids are?

ObaKlaz:
Wake me up when they at least bring Diezani to justice ⚖️.
Before April 2024, we'd forget there ever was an investigator or investigation. The dust would settle and it would be back to business as usual.
Useless 'cruise' country!

Diezani is over and done. She is gone. Nothing Nigeria can do to her anymore

Keepamsafe:
I feel so sad and devastated. Why are ladies treating good men like this

Today, I had to borrow money from 3 different loan app because im meeting a new girl today.

Luckily, we met and had our date and I spent roughly 45k I borrowed from loan app and still gave her 5k for pocket money and yet, she refused to follow me home.

Im home now, lying in bed alone and sad.

Hook up 7k, but I spent 50k today because i wanted to build soul connection. yet I gained nothing. Absolutely nothing. Not even sex and im now in debt, broke like a church rat and no woman to console me. I feel scammed.

Im in a dilemma. help please.

I doubt tis story is authentic.
I mean only reason to borrow money is if one is investing in a sane program. Borrowing money for a date makes no sense cos one gets no returns from the results of that date. Unless the lady in question is wealthy and the man in question sees her agreeing as the monetary investment that would pay monetary dividends to pay back that loan

Ubenedictus:
The pic is authentic.
Yes the pope said the blessing of people who are irregular couple should not be liturgical, it should not be done in a place, with gestures, or vestments or signs or anything that will make people confuse it for a marriage or scandalise people.
It should be a spontanous blessing

Exactly and that is why when I see statements like on this thread, I ask if people even understand what was said before they start arguing.
Very well said, bravo!

Ubenedictus:
It is a matter of avoiding that “something that is not marriage is being recognized as marriage.”[5] Therefore, rites and prayers that could create confusion between what constitutes marriage—which is the “exclusive, stable, and indissoluble union between a man and a woman, naturally open to the generation of children”[6]—and what contradicts it are inadmissible. This conviction is grounded in the perennial Catholic doctrine of marriage; it is only in this context that sexual relations find their natural, proper, and fully human meaning. The Church’s doctrine on this point remains firm.

5. This is also the understanding of marriage that is offered by the Gospel. For this reason, when it comes to blessings, the Church has the right and the duty to avoid any rite that might contradict this conviction or lead to confusion. Such is also the meaning of the Responsum of the Congregation for the Doctrine of the Faith, which states that the Church does not have the power to impart blessings on unions of persons of the same sex.

Yep, thereabout close to the general meaning of things. Yes, the church has the right to bless whoever the want, wherever they want. But the catholic doctirnes doesn't support homosexualism and hence they can't directly show support for it cos it goes against those doctirnes. And the Pope stated that as such in the last paragraph of that statement. Why people misunderstood that baffles me.

Ajmoziz:
Okay here I have handed you what the Pope said,easily accessible if you look.
Now who is peddling wrong information
https://www.vatican.va/roman_curia/congregations/cfaith/documents/rc_ddf_doc_20231218_fiducia-supplicans_en.html#

Hallo, I know exactly what he said. But like I stated you need to look closely at what the Pope spoke about. If it's still unclear to you, then look at the last sentence where he stated something about church grounds and what not.

Naijanascam:
Really?

Now this is surprising.
The question here would be does the church house not fall into any catholic approved grounds or did the Pope mean that such blessings should only happen outside the church itself?
That would need to be clarified, if that pix is authentic

BlueStripper:
The Catholic Church in Africa is doing everything possible to remedy the situation.


We all read the communique from the papacy.

If the Pope comments were misconstrued, then what exactly did the Pope say to you?

Na wah for Africans and understanding.
Means that you people read the communique but didn't understand what was said?
Na wah for una

abhosts:
Them go explain taya. The African Catholics are doing damage control because they know Africans are not receptive to homosexuality.

But there is no damage to control.
The Pope did state publicly that Priest are allowed to bless homosexual couples.
But read the statement yourself then you would understand the undertones of the statement

buygala:
Archbishop should rest .....


We heard the Pope and the Vatican loud and clear

African Catholics go explain taya

Please ignore the tabloid clips and look out for the new exact statement

buygala:
Archbishop should rest .....


We heard the Pope and the Vatican loud and clear

African Catholics go explain taya

No mond them. But the pope's statement was completely political to the core so don't interpret it 1:1

Xscape1993:
I knew from the beginning that it was not true.

You need to ignore the bishop and look directly yourself what exactly the Pope said.
This Bishop that says the Pope didn't say what was reported he said but didn't quote the Pope himself is also peddling false information

Carefulwind3:
Do watch these video on how to know if you are dating an Ogbanje (water/ marine spirit) girlfriend or boyfriend, and be enlightened.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nt_ZY8-veto

You are an Ogbanje

Carefulwind3:
Do watch these video on how to know if you are dating an Ogbanje (water/ marine spirit) girlfriend or boyfriend, and be enlightened.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nt_ZY8-veto

You are an Ogbanje

Josephamstrong1:
I don’t really understand some schools this days. My baby girl cleared all her subjects with distinction, all As and she was given 3rd position. She has been sobbing uncontrollably since yesterday. Yes, she was promised Christmas gifts and present if she takes first position in class this term.
I think she deserves the 1st position. I want to go to the school on Monday and appeal for result recheck. It can’t be!
I am not taking this o! My baby deserves 1st position with this result.

With that kind of result, what is there to complain about?

adaperry25:
Is it a Nigerian thing or something? Met 2 ladies already and its same old stuff.

I initiate all chats and calls. If I don't call..no communication..if I don't chat..no communication.

While chatting..you have to ask all the questions and bring up gists.

They can't call u randomly to ask after you.

I don tire o

Trying foreign ladies might not be a bad idea.

Many Nigerians lady's are too bush for you to expect more from them. But that don't make them boring. You have probably only met the sorry ones

Keepamsafe:
Just this morning, my female neighbor brought this Oha Soup for me after I apologized to her yesterday over our last fracas. (I brought a girl home, and we had an issue.).

Please note, I have no entanglements with this my neighbor as im not sexually attracted to her even though she’s single and I am too.

I have started eating already, as this is my breakfast to work this morning.

Wife material. Goodluck, the stars are looking good for you to walk down the alter next year

Interesting15:
By Sunday Akanni

This is a continuation of this previous conversation https://www.nairaland.com/7908376/some-tricks-guys-use-luring

These randy guys are smart. They know how to exploit the emotional nature of women to the fullest. They know the average woman craves love and care and affection. So, either verbally or with their actions, they keep convincing you that they care about you. Once they successfully make the lady believe he's in love with her, they know she will become vulnerable towards and around him - she will want to reciprocate and do all it takes to keep him. He then exploits this mercilessly, making her crawl into his bed at his pleasure before ditching her.

My Counsel: I will counsel from two perspectives. The first one will be to encourage you to have an intimate relationship with the LORD and let Him teach you by experience what true love is - this will help you not to be a "love slave" (someone who is always thrown off her feet whenever any guy says he loves her). The second perspective will revolve around the fact that an average guy cannot love you truly if he hasn't first encountered God (Who is the True Love) and fallen in love with the Holy Ghost.

Firstly, you see, God is Love, and since we were created in His image and likeness, it follows that we are also creatures of love, created to love and receive love. We all have the innate desire to love (to give and show love to others), as well as to crave to receive love from others (to be shown love in return). This is a characteristic of a normal person created in God's image and likeness.

However, the error of many women lies with where they go to seek love, and what they fall in love with. Hence, many are in problem today because they fall in love with dangerous persons and things that were designed by the evil devil to carry out his evil mission - to steal, to kill and destroy (John 10:10). We can talk about alcohol and drugs; masturbation and pornography; immoral boyfriends and girlfriends relationships; materialism and mammon; etc. They thought these things were good lovers that would give them genuine pleasure and satisfaction. Unfortunately, these things only lead them to destruction, ruin, and regret.

Problem arises when you fail to channel your love to the right One - the True Lover. You are configured to love God your Creator first and above any other, and to receive love from Him above anything else. When you are saturated with God's Love and you find pure fulfillment inside of Him alone, it guides how you give love to those around you, and you are directed to like only the things He permits (which won't be harmful to you).

You can explore love inside of God (which is what you are destined to do) through faith in Jesus Christ. As you embrace Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior, He sends a tangible Lover to your life - the Holy Spirit. As you grow in love with Him, He empowers you to keep attending to the business of love in the right way. I'm encouraging you to stop seeking pleasure from sinful and harmful persons and places and things. They are polluted counterfeits of the original thing - that you enjoy pure pleasure in your relationship with the Lord Jesus.

Also, if a guy is claiming to love you without having a loving relationship with the Lord, he is simply confusing lust and infatuation for love. God is Love, and only He can tutor a man on what true love is. So, if a guy does not know the LORD, and he is claiming to love you, what did he know about love, when it is even obvious he doesn't love himself (since he is living a defeated life by staying outside God)?

Now, let me tell you this about males, and it's easy to tell you this because I'm one too. Due to the configurations of the male body, if he refused to submit to the Holy Spirit, he will be driven by an intense urge for pleasure and fun, and he is ready to go to any extent to please himself (including adopting criminal actions like rape, drugging his victims, etc). Trusting a guy who isn't submitted to the Lord is foolish because even the guy can't help himself.

https://www.instagram.com/p/C0EAepNI9nK/?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==

BS

She is right..
we as guys should learn to control ourselves when it comes to sex..

When we try to make a move and she rejects or tell you she is not in the mood,, a real man should respect himself and let her be..

Sometime in life,, we are not just in the mood for sex,, it is not every time that we will be demanding sex from our girlfriends,, at times a decent conversation and a shoulder to lie on are all she needs.

Sorry I don't agree. Not that it matters what I think but she shouldn't come to my house and get naked if she ain't asking for it.
She doesn't want it and she can get naked outside my door

Codepain:
Isreal reign of terror is almost over.
It is only a matter of time before the cowardly transgenders army met their end

You talking shit

MrSundry:
Source: https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-12766215/Female-boxer-Canada-withdraws-trans-opponent.html

The bio female made the right decision. If the Transwoman wants to box, let her box in her own category. They should create one for them

Godoverevery:
For good 2 months me and this lady spoke extremely about the kind of relationship we both want.
I don't need to sit her down and table cos it seems that her mindset.

She clearly know what she is doing cos the last time I actually had a discussion about this act with her.

Then set your foot down and allow her make her choice if the relationship is important to her moving forward

Godoverevery:
Note- this not a post to bash ladies.

A pattern I noticed with most working class ladies have dated from 27yrs old upward.
At the earliest stage, they claim to be tired of relationship, they are fine without a man.
They are doing fine without a man and in fact if not for pressure they don't mind not getting married...(mostly lies)

They say am financially ok without a man, i bought my phone, paid house rent etc without any man and i can never depend on any man hence why they can never be liability since they are working..(mostly lies)

Most claim to be doing fine during the wooing stage but immediately we start dating things turn out differently from what they claim.

Am dating a lady currently who works for a fashion house on the island...During the wooing stage we actually spoke alot for about 2 months and she claimed to be financially ok and doesn't need a man money. Infact she told me how much she paid weekly which is very decent with free accommodation and feeding.

We just started dating not up to 3weeks and this lady have been making demands which I find very childish and too disgraceful for an adult working.
She always complaining of money despite earning above minimum wage weekly.

This morning she called and i didn't pick........I chatted her up and she telling me her cream have finished and i replied hmmmm.
This a pattern have noticed with most working class ladies have dated......they tell you am an independent woman during wooing stage but once relationship start it just seems they are working and not earning with the way they demand and still be pressuring you with marriage talks.

(just want to know if am the only experiencing this or is just normal)

Note: this the fourth time this lady is demanding from me in 3 weeks and they are embarrassing to me for someone who earns.

Sit down and table the issue. That you are dating someone doesn't mean you have to be their bank.
Remind her what her words were before the relationship and make her understand how it has changed during the relationship.
Let her know you also have your expenses and would prefer she handles her money matters without disturbing you about it. It's that simple.
If then you care to give her something on the side, that's your own wish to do so and not your obligation.
I don't know why men shy to make their stance surgically clear on this issue.

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press9jatv:
The arrival of Sen. @NatashaAkpoti in Kogi Central after being sworn in as the senator representing the good people of Kogi Central.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eY_H5e3369E?si=7JL8ABI_MUJdKEkg

Who is her husband?

Jewessgratitud3:
It's amazing how I was contemplating making this post before a member here requested or should I say started asking me questions in that line and being a very free and open person, I promised I was going to post about it.

Well... Let me start from my background and up bringing which also contributed indirectly to my nonregrettable actions that has left me in this wonderful marital status.

I grew up in a Catholic christian home where good virtues moral values were instilled in us by engaging us in christian children activities from an early age. The Most social part of my childhood ( apart from school) was around the church then back home with close monitoring. So there was no room for nonsense even up to our secondary and tertiary level. the monitoring was topnotch. So we didn't really get to do shit like our mates who got exposed early to certain lifestyle,; dating number one.

We were overprotected and shaped with these guidelines that a mindset was formed that boy and girl relationship is a taboo ( and it's true). So we knew better than to toll that part.

In the long run, after I have come off age, it became very difficult to date. This was at age 21. Whenever I manage to give a man a listening ear and he mentions sex, I'll run without looking back because that was a danger sign we were taught to look out for. So i was always running away from men because of premarital sex. It got to a point, after looking like that's the only way to get a husband and I was already in my mid twenties, a time when a girl should be getting ready to settle down, I said ok, let me see if I can bend the rules a bit for this one. This man was a chronic responsible bachelor. So I felt it could work out since he's ready to settle down. He was in his mid 30s the and never married. We were in the same compound. So I gave in and we started dating. Mind you there was no pressure from both parents to get married. My parents will never pressure you to get a suitor.

Being a novice in the game, I never knew men could double date or even knew how to handle one when it happens. So, on this fateful day the randy goat came home with another girl. It was our last born that came and told me some girl came to look for him because everyone in the compound knows us together. I was heartbroken and right there I broke up with him without even finding out who or if what they both have is serious. Though I made him cry cos I started entertaining other boys that have been chyking me and bringing them to the compound but I never had anything with them or knew any of their houses. I was just using the to pepper him. Once they say hi, I'll drag them to the compound and we will sit on top of his car sometimes until he now confided in one of our neighbors who now told me to stop that the man is always crying. E never cry. I showed him two can play that game. He tried coming back but I bulshit him.

After that I locked up and never trusted any man. I began to see why my dad was being overprotective. I didn't date again for almost five years and then men were coming but that was when my own shakara increased. I mean responsible well to do men o. That was when men had good jobs from banking, investment and oil companies in ikoyi and vi both staff from five star hotel like Eko hotels and suites, federal palace cos those were the places I worked so I had many suitors and friends but the moment they mention relationship, Ill take off.

Part 2

It continued like that and I was enjoying my life with peace of mind that I forgot about time or didn't bother about it cos I don't care.

When I entered mid thirties, I said let me loosen up a bit but because Ive gotten used and enjoyed single life with peace of mind to that age, I found it difficult to commit again because anytime I tried, I'll start having anxiety. The thought of him cheating on me or even as little as admiring another woman will just make me unsettled and I'll think of aborting mission before it's too late.

So I said to give one man a chance, he too brought another girl in my absence. I found out from the sister and that was it. I called it off he begged and begged that the lady was forcing herself on him and sending him money bla bla.. he made a conference call with his family begging, my mind was made up I dumped him and moved on to a Choir boy Ive been admiring who was also trying to talk me into a relationship. I truly loved this guy and I think I was older than him in age . Though he refused to tell me his age but I was able to deduce from his Facebook profile cos he wrote class of 2006 while I finished 1999 but because I don't look my age, we just looked like age mate and we loved each other.

I met him when he just finished serving and was squatting. I was out of job then but one thing that made me stick with him was, even though he was not working, he shared whatever little he had with me. We were together when a very rich young pastor came asking for my hands in marriage. I told him about it and he started feeling sad that because he doesn't have a bearing now some guy wants to take me away from him. I on the other hand don't really fancy the pastor but wanted to force myself and see if it will work but it wasn't working because I didn't have feelings for him. To now make matters worse, he started showing stinginess. In the three months we courted, we didn't get to sit together because he's a pastor so we only see in church, stand and talk very briefly and disperse and each time he kept posting me about money I asked for to enable me travel for Xmas and the day was fast approaching. It was my Choir boyfriend that wen to borrow money from one girl selling recharge card to give me to travel. Now coupled with the fact that I don't even like him, i just texted him to look for another sister. The highest he ever bought me was two two hundred naira recharge card a stinkingly rich ajebota pastor for that matter ( 2014) but he would always call me.

Lastly, in 2016, my bobo got a job in Chevron with a nice apartment in lekki. Before then we had a small quarrel and we're not in talking terms because I requested for money for hair to attend my twins introduction and he told me no money but he didn't tell me he was saving for an apartment. Even then, how much? So, after months of not talking, he called and invited me over to see his new place. A surprise I guess. I got there and we had a nice time. He tried to make it up to me. He gave me his short and polo to wear that day and took me to a pepper soup joint. **Smiling**
later we got back and ad I was about to shower, I saw a used shower cap in his bathroom. He now handed me a new one from his wardrobe where there were many more. I asked him who used the one in the bathroom, he said baby don't start again. I held my peace.
The following morning he did something that I can't say for sure what really happened.

I slept over because there was no way I could go back from lekki to the mainland that day. That night he came to disturb me and I told him you know we can't be doing this. Please let wait till everything is formalized. When he wouldn't let me be, I left him and went to sleep on the floor. In the morning he woke up and was saying you, you, I was just looking at you as we were talking someone knocked on the door. It was a ladies voice. My ex went to meet her and they were together for almost 30mins before he came back inside. Me i didn't talk. I suspected he went to do nonsense because his thing was up when he left only to come back and it has come down.

We prepared and left together that morning for work. When I got home, I called and told him off. Na small thing dey vex me. He didn't believe it. So many things on my mind that made me take that huge decision. Men are not worth my type.

Since then till date, I stopped anything relationship especially if it's not a born again and I must like him. I faced my God ever since and decided to give myself peace. I can't stand a cheating partner. Disease dey town and I don't want to end up a baby mama.

Now, with the way things are, no jobs, the few decent men can hardly fend for themselves let alone catering for a family, I just decided to let sleeping dogs lie. Make person no come enter from fry pan to fire. Some family men now are dumping their family and running away from their responsibilities leaving the women to carry all the burden. So tell me what will make marriage enticing to me again? Abi na domestic violence? Biko Biko.

Lol, I only prefer replying posts that soul searching and can help people learn life's experiences.

Your story was a deep one. Didn't make much sense to me though but ofcos one can't claim to see through your eyes as to understand the reason behind your decision.
Anyways if you can live what yourself after all your epistle and won't regret the mistakes you may or may not have made before you got to this position. Then no one has the right to question your decision.
Cheers

EBMedia:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ukN3L5p9KGo



https://www.instagram.com/reel/Cw9bG8et3_d/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

Lol, this woman shouldn't use her promiscuity to evaluate other people. She should say no woman in her circle of friends and influence. That makes the case and not extend it to other people who have no knowledge of what she is talking about