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Richy4:

I believed that he loved the first wife.. I will never doubt it but he doesn't respect her.. Love and respect are two different things... If he respects her, he will put her feelings into consideration before jumping into bed with another woman..

Honestly, marriage is not a rosy affairs especially when one is the type that honours contract..... When u vow that it's her till death, then self control should be the key and saving grace... It's only God and body discipline that makes one achieve self-control..

In this Yul situation,I dislike it when people act like it wasn't a big deal considering the generation we are in today.. A lot of people don't practice polygamy anymore, and it insults my sensibility when they start quoting scriptures to justify that... We should ask ourselves how many centuries ago was this practice...

I still believe that there are lots of good Nigerian men out there who still love their wife and can do anything for them.. I still believe that blanket approach that men doesn't care much to an isolated situation like these, is not the key...

Yul made his decision and that to me is a one man decision... There are billions of men who will never dream of doing what he did.. one woman is more than enough for me thank you.. not to talk of adding her kind at home..Mba!!..Thank you...
The question I would have loved to ask is, what's their living situation at the moment? Has the 2nd wife moved in or is she still maintaining her old house.. this is just double wahala Yul honestly

Well said.

My concern here is that the focus is money. The love of money is the root of all evil. Don't lose sight of the important qualities in your partner because of the love of money. Don't forget the adage; if you want to know a person's true behaviour, give them power and money.

I see the same old human behaviour. Chasing money and forgetting your morals in chasing and attaining it. Having money is not the only thing in life. You can be rich and be very unhappy. You can be comfortable and be very unhappy. You can be broke and be very unhappy. You can be those three status and be happy. Don't let money be your happiness in life.

Rubbish lie. Just because 99 per cent of the married men in her circle does such - it doesn't mean it is true. This is the kind of talk that make people forgo their morals. I am not surprised by her mouth because she is one of those type of women.

That university - what is its performance and ranking? I didn't see this ruler as active as Prince Philip in academic circles.

Govt needs to crack down on this illegal bunkerers. RIP to those who have lost their lives and may God comfort their family.

Simple. I cook. I also had female friends.

tutudesz:
Husband was with their son on a road trip

It may have been a crime of passion. Husband doesn't have to be present to have organised the crime.

60 stabs indicates a personal matter. It is either the husband or the man she have been with.

I suspect the husband.

For many, morality is only a word. I am disgusted by those who searched for the video of the 10 year old having sex. Real disgusted. People need to take a hard long look at themselves.

Himtulie247:
If I don reached Xvideos then is Finished

Xvideos will be shut down if it gets there and they do nothing about it. I expect them to ban any account that uploads. Child porn is not a joke.

Some people will see this warning and be forming strong head. You will have no excuses if your phone or devices for any reasons is looked at and there is evidence of you watching pre-teens having sex. A word is enough of the wise. This is not only true in Nigeria. Later on peeps will be claiming village people are after them.

Minajesty18:
Nah only me for Nigeria never see this video oh.

Not only you. I have refused to watch the video.

My first advice to people is not to watch the video. That is child pornography in most civilised climes. I expect Nairaland to take action to delete every single link and trace of the video. If you have the video on your phone, in your inbox or any device - delete it. That is child pornography. You can get into trouble for having viewed it willingly and you will get into trouble for sharing it. Nairaland should put up a warning. This is child pornography. This site should not be a source for it.

Second advice: people should try to be sympathetic and empathetic when discussing this case.

Third advice: All the involved parties will need to sit down to discuss. Those boys have just had sex with a minor and not in Nigeria - in the UAE. I don't know what laws apply in that nation and also what laws apply in Nigeria.

Fourth advice: The die is cast. The little girl may have done the action of an adult but she has no clue the seriousness of what she has done. I repeat no clue. This applies to the boys as well. Parents need to become firmer on this crap. Sexual talks at that age is not new. Parents draw lines and establish boundaries.

Fifth advice: As a society which has descended into poor morals in almost every sector - film, music, politics, education ... We really need to take a stand. I see female persons even commenting on how the girl did in the video. I can't even talk.

Ficient:
Behind the movies he is a big simp as you can see. He should reclaim his manhood and respect

By doing? What should he do?

Why is Will Smith to blame for the evil actions of his gas lighting wife? What do you expect him to do?

It is Jada that can put a stop to this but I presume she likes the attention that she is getting and doesn't care about the damage done to the family.

God save us from women like Jada.

supreme2014:
I believe he was trying to use the word from the Bible, goats and sheep..the sheep are those who listen to their master while the goats do otherwise...the time will come wan the sheeps will b seprated from the goats...pls let forgive his shot coming and pray for him not to b among the goats...because of his statement

He is not a baby. He is a full grown adult. I would never refer to people as goats unless I mean it as an insult. He should apologise.

This boy needs to learn humility from his father.

Interesting story. Both parties are guilty. She seems to also be guilty of harassment due to her touching his privates. He is guilty of fingering.

KingGBsky:
Only women cheats…
Men have natural traits when it comes to fancying different women. It’s been like that for generations. So you can’t call a man a cheat. Only women are classified as such because they have no right to cheat… if they intend to then they can remain single.

Looks like you are playing Devil's advocate. Men cheat. Women cheat. Playing around with English on such an important but simple matter is ridiculous.

Your husband is playing a dangerous game and he is doing it because he has the illusion that it is in control.

You are right. His actions are disrespectful and he should really stop as they do not help your family's reputation and togetherness.

From what you have said (and I would love to hear his side), you are not to blame in anyway for his actions. Forget that stuff about preference for kissing etc.

If I were to offer advice, it would be to discuss with him how much you are hurt by the actions. You are unable to force him to stop so that one is by prayer. As some has said, immediately do tests to determine your health. If he refuses to stop and even if he stops, start preparing your plan B finances at the side.

Funflipper:
But they failed woefully in their objective which was to capture Kiyv.

Who said it was to capture Kiev? Their true goal is most likely Eastern Ukraine and to force Ukraine to be neutral. Let's see how this plays out.

ugwum007:
We have to tell ourselves the truth here, Russian actually disgraced themselves in Ukraine.
You want to demilitarize Ukraine but ended up militarizing them heavily.
Now, an average Ukrainian is now a solider capable of using an array of weapons.

Trust me, after this Ukraine will never be caught pants down again.

I don't think Ukraine will go for Donbass now. I read somewhere that during the peace talks, the issue of those regions will be in discussion for the next 15 years.

But Ukraine have smelt blood and nolonger afraid, they might go for it.

Let us all just pray for peace.

Funny post. Do you know how many billions of weapon and arms NATO pushed into Ukraine. This became a proxy war between Russia and NATO. The truth will come out eventually on the battle as truly neutral historians begin to investigate. The first casualty of the war / military exercise was the truth followed by people's thinking.

The amount of misreporting in the news is a lot. The truth will come out eventually.

There is limited discussion on the peace talks. The West determined what Russia's goals were and we took it hook, line and sinker.

Let the war finish ... Things will come out. All I will advise is be careful of news and compare how they supported Ukraine vs how they supported us during End SARS.

I agree with them.

One of the hardest things in relationships is Finance. Take some time to sit down and discuss this situation with her.

You had told her your budget. She interpreted it to mean that you would spend 3k naira. You meant it that as long as costs are below 3k you are fine.

This for me is not a red flag. It just means you should talk to her.

My two kobo.

Shoodboi:
It's predatory. No one fights anyone's war. Every time you see a country deploying troops to fight side-by-side with another country, be rest assured that there is a lot of money/mineral resources at stake.

Several African countries gave Russia mining rights in exchange for Russian soldiers and contractors (Wagner Group) fighting for them. Assad of Syria also gave Russia oil rights too in exchange for Russian troops and contractors on the ground.

France has its troops in several West and Central African nations since it controls their money, oil, and other mineral resources and it is in the best interest that pro-French governments remain in power.

US became a world power by selling weapons to the Allies during WWI and WWII in exchange for gold and then entering the wars late when it's already obvious that the enemy cannot win anymore. After the war, it stopped backing its money with gold so that it won't return most of that gold.

International politics is insane and very predatory. Even your so-called friends will snitch and stab your back if you're not paying attention.

Kpom. It is only naive people that believe in free gifts. By the time this war is over, Ukraine would be in Western pockets. Ironically that in my opinion is not what Russia wanted in the short term. In the long term, it is a death note for Ukrainian leaders. They would have so much debt.

Simple. BRICS. Brazil, Russia, India, China, and South Africa all know what is up. They have always wanted to challenge the dollar. Biden and the US walked into this uppercut.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=siEEOZhNznA

I thought they said this man is gone, fired or dealt with by Putin. Fear media and read the small print.

When this war is over, a lot of untruths will be revealed.

subcbouy:
#warcrime? The poster isn't serious about using that as a war crime. I would have killed them.

That too is a war crime.

This is a war crime.

US is being mischievous. Their target is to dismantle BRICS.