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The kaduna state government wanted to use it to eliminate his political opposition.....Terrorist

Australia are the real owners of wildlife and wildfire

Start shaving your head bald

papaejima20199:
This is my first time posting NL , although I've been reading a lot in the last few months . I'll try to be as detailed as possible. I don't even know if I'm asking a question, or advice, or what. I just have to get some things out of my brain.

I’m 36 and my wife is 32. we've been married for 12 years and have two children, twins age 1. I would say happily married. As in, we don't fight, , never any abuse of any kind, no major life disagreements. I love my wife. She is a great mother, a great provider for the family, and we make a great team when it comes to raising our kids. However, she leaves me feeling undesired. Sexually, just intimacy in general, not feeling wanted or desired, missing that flirtatious quality that we all enjoy in a relationship. Our sex life has been on a steady decline, honestly since we got married. Less and less and less every year, and yes, kids make that even more difficult (and provide very easy excuses)

About 2 years ago, I was close to cheating. There was a girl at work that I flirted with often. We started hanging out , and we always seemed to end up talking, touching innocently, flirting, but nothing ever happened between us. The feeling this girl gave me inspired me to tell my wife how I was feeling, what I was missing, etc. I told her how important sex was to me, asked her what I could change, or if she needed to change something. Her response was that she "just didn't really think about it like you do" and that she would try to work on it. Well she didn't work on it, at all.

The flirty girl didn't work with me any more, and I lost that "flame" with her and let it go, and went about life as usual. I've been working a lot of hours over the last six months. I fell into this flirty relationship with one of my coworkers 22 and we just would have a lot of fun with one another. Mad sexual tension. A few months back things happen and she blows me. Its great. Best sex of my life. We set up plans to meet up off work hours and we do.

My coworker is in perfect shape. Its like my perfect woman. I love the way she loves me. She appreciates me, she satisfies me, she matches my sexual drive, and even exceeds it. She is everything I was missing in life, and I'm as happy as I've been in a long time. She is also crazy about me which feels unbelievable. Its been a while since someone has just wanted me to be happy and wanted to please me. I now consider her my girlfriend.

I don't wish to hurt my wife. But I do wish to be happy.

I do not wish for my children to grow up in a home with divorce. I want them to grow up with myself and my wife still being the team we've been so far, doing equal parts to take care of them, and always be there for them.

I realize a lot of what I'm saying are things that can't go together. I want to be with my girlfriend, I don't want to hurt my wife, and I don't want my kids to suffer . I can't have it all. Now I feel stuck

I need help because I can't seem to go through with this alone, and I have no one close enough with the time and level of trust that I can confide in, so I would really appreciate it if you'd offer me some advice.

Thanks for reading

You are a selfish and wicked man.... What advice are you looking for,for us to tell you to dump your wife and go for your demonic co-worker?

Party meat

seangy4konji:
full time runz girl..

D prick dem never chop for that lekki phase one,vi,vgc and ajah na d pick deh go for front so...

I have met her severally in house parties and club over 30 times..there was a time she used to be in hardroxk almost every night also raddison.abeg leave matter

You mean Hardrock cafe!

Pablo Escobar the greatest

johnmattew:
the fact that u can't use ur head to find opportunities in Nigeria doesn't mean Asians and Americans won't use the opportunities they have in naija

Idiot.... You know nothing about my income,so keep shut

No US citizen would want to associate with Nigeria,even for free

So terribly bad

Anybody that parties a lot on the island knows that Mercy used to be a big time runs girl,way before she got into the big brother house.... So,i won't be surprised if one of her big boy client gave her the car for a spin.

If the Nigerian government is ready to listen to the United States Of America

Blessedfingerzz:
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Can you please you your skill to make yourself rich and leave Nigerians alone

Obdk:
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20k every day amounts to 480k monthly excluding sundays.

How come she was not able to buy corolla for herself..

She could have made 2880000 in 6 months..

Na so una go dey lie upandan

bros i can bet you,it is very difficult to earn N1m and save up to 300k in Lagos after expenses.... So,calm down.

I believe our minister of information Lai Mohammed has a hand on the list

Drug money

His name is Bola Ahmed Tinubu

Bunch of fools,called leaders

Ooye12:
Huppi families Dey for ikorodu Dey drink Garri lowkey , you Dey spend money like dangote pinkin smile

Brother but you don't have proof to this

The Lion

hybrid77:
Pls i need a sincere advice here.

Im 3 months old in marriage and im so unhappy about the set up (my wife too)

My wife is a student and she tried everything to shift the marriage until easter this year but i refused due to many projects for the year. so we got married 3 months ago.

I took care of her bills since she got admission and we dated for 5 years

But she is so disrespectful and want to make important decisions in marriage which ive refused to allow.

Now, she claims i forced her into marriage and she is not mentally ready because i asked her to change to my family's name.

She has been good then bad then worse..And i think her words about forcing her into marriage has irreparably hurt me.

I spent over 3m of my cash to give her the wedding she wanted (Without any support from her family) against my wish for a 1m wedding.

And despite getting the big wedding she wants before consenting to marry last year, she claims she is not mentally ready and was forced into marriage.

she has repeated this over and over and its making me go crazy..in fact im tired already

Right now she wants more time to be a wife..but im beginning to feel there is a love issue here..I feel she does not love me as she always claims

Though weve settled but we dont talk as usual..we dont even want to hear from each other...

it seems i nolonger love her like i used to..And worst still, continuing with the marriage when she claims she was forced is degrading and disreputable.

My question is, at what point should anyone seriously consider a divorce?

It has always been difficult dating a student,talk more of marrying her....

Preshy561:
Lol. I beg to disagree.

My man is the best thing that has ever happened to me, my brother is the reason I am where I am today, my father is the best man for leading me through life and setting standards for me. And I believe there are good men like them or even better than them.
They all have their shortcomings, but am I infallible? No!!
Sis, God will bless you with your heart desires when you let him take the wheel.
Happy Sunday.

God bless you

Seriously they are wicked n heartless !! What r their usefulness btw? Sex!! . Women give them so much importance , so they treat us the way they like!! Men r scums!! Don’t generalize is what they say but still turn out being like the rest .

Ok.... So,women are doing the men a favour,by dating them?

If i were the vice president,i would resign.

Reichel99:
Nice. Smart girl secured her future.

If you don't mind,i can link you to a wealthy old man for marriage.

She showed a 2019/2020 black range rover worth N129m and was driving a 2015 range rover worth N19m.... So,whom is she deceiving?

Nigeria matter don tire me

So, it is by who resigned and who didn't!