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I am curious to know your location that you can't survive on 60k salary with a supportive wife. . The only problem I see here is a cliche that says "rich people get rich by trying to look poor and poor people get poorer by trying to look rich". Why would you be living in a 3 bedroom flat? What do you need all that space for? Dont you know your budget as a man should determine your expenses not that of your wife? No wonder your parents depend on you, you look rich.

You are just like my step brother, living large on your last penny, the luck he has is that his brother in-law abroad intervenes when the wife becomes over burdened.

Oh please,*rolls eyes* , I am surprised a lot of people are still ignorant of this strategy, she is a good.manipulator I must say for reno to have fallen for this scam.

Always on the opposite side of morality . Don't people realize that it is a criminal offence to produce fake documents to a house that is not yours? . Its one thing to post a picture of a house that is not yours on social media claiming its yours but going further to produce fake documents is criminal minded ,she could have easily swindled a tenant or even a buyer. She is a criminal ,its that simple.

I dont know about other people,but sweeping when a guest is around is an unspoken word of "you are not welcomed here". That was very rude of the old lady, however, I won't be comfortable watching the old lady sweep.

Every marriage is a transaction. Its depends on what you are transacting .And for those saying the marriage will not Last,there is no guarantee that her boyfriend would have married her, there is no guarantee either that her marriage to her boyfriend would have lasted either as even with love marriages still crash. The universe works in different ways.

When money enter,love is sweeter ,romance inspired by money will build love from nowhere.

Sad!

Joshmodest:
How is this evidence of him being a scammer , it's clearly stated there robbery and sexual assault...three different cases !!!
Nigerians and conclusions !

Do you know.what is called profiling and crime build up? ,dare devil criminals started with petty crimes to build up. Na from clap dem dey enter dance.

I believe youths are people between the ages of 18-35 of which out of the rough figure of 120 million were are supposes to be (which we are probably more than that) about 60 percent of that figure should make up Nigerian youths, now the number if idiots in this video doesn't even make up to 0.1% of the population of Nigerian youths, I feel insulted to be entangled in this show of studiity by the title of this thread

Offpoint:
I'm not saying it can't be changed, I'm saying there's no way you change it I won't know.

for you, OK

fernandez1:
She just said the fact.....u can't eradicate cybercrime without going to the cause of the problem which is the political class in Nigeria.

is Nigeria the poorest and only country with unstable economy? Why Una own must different?

Offpoint:
Clean and change? there's a reason expiring date are not writen on the package papers.


Precisely, I'm a graphics designer I know the fonts used in writing expiring date, they're always different from every other fonts on the package. There's no way anyone tempers with it that I won't know.

There was a time some people were caught changing the expiry date of drip .

Funny enough the same people who are against abortion are against social programs in America. Look at Nigeria today, abortion is illegal ,yet if we were to take the statistics of abortions carried out yearly,it will shock everyone.

Banning abortion will only put more money in the pockets of professional doctors and quacks alike. The abortion related complications and deaths will increase.That is the only thing that will come out of it as it will not even have an effect on the number of unwanted pregnancies.

Offpoint:
I've never taken any drink or process food without checking the expired date.
No hope for the nation, the leaders are only 10% of our problems, we are the 90%.

and if they change the expiry date? Or you don't know they can clean it and change it?

DabuIIIT:
Gu nu we edian!!!

In fact,ladian outta here!!!!

ladian to where?, lol,its the Internet, if you can't handle the truth, thats not my business. Funny enough even if I ladian ,my comments will still be here

Mystiquefia:
Oh my Goodness!!! I love this your comment.
It's so devoid of dogmatism and sentiments.
I doubt yur a lady..
If u are, then wehdone ma

we just have to stop this self deceit.some has to say it loud anyway

Donmedra:
you are very right, even Halloween and co are part of their celebration of juju.

But down here in Africa fellow black people hate their own just because of what the white man said

That Halloween part makes me laugh every time i see misguided folks celebrate it and don't even know why or what they are celebrating ,yet they will be the first to call our festivals fetish, such brainswahed mumus

Donmedra:
naso we see am.

Same people that like watching zeeworld seeing Hindus doing their tradition but are first to insult their own

we like and respect foreign things ,even that mentality has spread to our religion too. I am no traditionalist but the las thing I will do is spoil their image, what happened to live and let live?.

Mizwisdom:
Even with all these witchcraft a handful of British soldiers still. conquered their kingdom

so you dont know the difference between witchcraft and tradition cleansing? ,such ignorance on full display even when is written there for you to read

Donmedra:
the funny thing about them is arguing which imaginary God is more powerful.

At least traditionist weren't brainwashed by whites, that's why I respect them

if you enter some catholic churches especially in European countries, fear go grip you, Muslims go to Saudi Arabia and some Muslim countries to do charm, some go to India to do strong jazz, yet are quick to call our traditions fetish such misguided blind folks, mteeeeew

Donmedra:
I swear even Christians are been killed everyday, where's the Jesus?

and Muslims too ,well I guess Atleast the Muslims will get their 72 virgins reward when they get to heaven so they are not bothered

hungryboy:
Nonsense
juju were no been fit save oyinbo from colonising us, wetin be him usefulness?

The white man's religion that you ran to that can't save you from armed robbers and suicide bombers unkor? ,Muslims and Christians are being beheaded and blown Up

Eziokwu1:
The Benins are indeed a very scary lot.
very fetish!

if it was salt and holy water or one blood of Jesus being sprayed you wont call it fetish? , who told you the beads both Christians and Muslims use to pray is not fetish as well,or the holy water and candles are not fetish as well,or incense burnt in some churches are not fetish as well? .

The only problem I have with the juju is they couldn't save us when the white men came with guns to forcefully Take the Oba away, same way Christians and Muslims are being blown up with no help from their prophet and savior respectively.

stanliwise:
Depression is a result of impasse which the victim has no solution in their head of how to over often becomes this situation has no immediate solution or the healing process takes quite long. It is a kind of long term sadness, nothing will seem to take your mind out easily.
if can't afford a psychologist, this is what you can do.
1. You must hang around things and people that takes your attention, e. g discussions, playing games, watch the movies you like,
2. have a blackboard(someone that listen to all your complains without getting bored and do not advice you directly)

3. A reinforcer(a person whose job is to ensure you do normal task like eating, feeding, goto work and do things you find attractive).

4. Lastly, the person that would ensure you start tackling the situation realistically either by finding a job or learning how to forget people you have lost. he may need to refer you to a professional if need be.

This person can be one person and the activity you find attractive can be one or two. By weeks you would improve. I am a living witness.

well said.

versashee:
If you are facing depression, instead of drinking Sniper, why not drink Heineken and feel all right?

Sniper is 700 naira, heineken is about 300 naira. Just buy two cans of Heineken.

I tire for Youngsters of these days.

actually sniper is #400 in my location here.what would you recommend for ladies who are depressed? Alcohol too? seems you didnt see the number 8 point

She didnt have to go naked to bare her mind na,shuo!. There are those times you feel left out,misunderstood or even unfulfilled and want to bare it all but I still dont get the logic of putting on makeup and putting off your clothes infront of a camera, to me that is the lowest of the low.

Its screams low self esteem, someone who needs help. No royalty will be found wanting in this kind of behavior, its one thing for your nudes to appear online without your permission but possing for the camera? No No No and No sister.

I know she thought this was the fastest way to get the attention of the Internet ,but its still not a good way. Instagram has been buzzing since morning over these pictures ,its just sad.I feel bad for her,choosing this path to bare it all , I hope she pulls through whatever she is going through cos all is see is a cry for help.

fasho01:
I wouldn't suggest you take any medication to get over it because you would end up becoming dependent on the drug to feel better, hence getting addicted to it. Indeed you take things way too seriously and what's really the point in that when no matter how seriously you take life itself to be, you won't still come out of it alive. Please take it easy okay. I understand what you're going through but just make it a conscious effort to move on and you would

thanks alot

fasho01:
There is nothing wrong with you. You're just taking too much time to heal. The first step is to completely get over him. See it as something that wasn't meant to be and envisage something better coming your way. I know its not going to be easy but las las you go dey alright.. 2 years is a long enough time to have healed

I wish there was a drug or something take that would probably be easier , maybe I take things too seriously

We need to seriously ask ourselves questions and be rational about it. What is the difference between some one putting salt ,holy water or a prayer bead in their places of business and what this carpenter did?

How do I fit back into the dating pool? , i have been out for so long I don't even know how to fit back in. I shared my personal space with someone for a very long time, i let him in and shut the door to every other guy.

I became comfortable sharing my space ( emotional ,psychological and physical ) with this particular person ,now I don't even know how to be social with other guys.

I stayed in a long term relationship thinking I will end like others and we would have our own social media testimony of how I stuck with him for years and now he is finally putting a ring on it but my mine was not to be so. I am like a stranded passenger on this realitionship journey .

Its been two years but I still find myself comparing potential dates to my ex. E.g my ex would never chat like that,my ex would never have such an opinion, blah blah blah.

WHAT THE FVCK IS WRONG WITH ME!!!

First , thank you nairaland for providing an avenue for me to bare my mind.

I wish I could write a sign board in from of my house that says "husband wanted apply within" without getting judged since the pressure of marriage has become too much to bear.

I wish those who see me and make remarks like "when is she settling down sef?" Will not lump me among the "choosy spinster" not knowing I wasted a good number of my years in a long term relationship with promise of marriage only to be disappointed at the end.

I wish I could put "single and searching " on social media and not have married men looking for free cookie wanting to cash in assuming I am desperate and play boys playing the part of serious bachelor just to get free cookie.

Maybe its a curse cos I heard late marriage runs in some families, maybe I am just unlucky ,maybe its something I am not doing right ,maybe just maybe .

I wish I could ask a guy out and he will take me serious and not think I brought him my cookie for free.

Dem say boyfriend full everywhere na husband scarce ,but thats because one guy can be dating 5 ladies with all the ladies thinking they have a boyfriend until he decides to settle down.

nepapole:
And many talk trash about northerners here. Smh.

Down palying one bad just because another person does it is the worse path humanity should take.

There is no justified evil, just because another person does it,doesn't justify yours .

OmniSparrow:
In January 2019 post, you're 28. Now it's 30. What's up?

2018 ,check well, my birth month is Oct so technically as at January 2018 I was still 28, will be 30 Oct this year, 2019 .

By the way , I think age is a lesser criteria for marriage so long as the guy is older even if the difference is just a year or few months.