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: just to drive home his fictions,shit happens!

Opinionated:
This your story get K-Leg. Why is the mother not supporting the son?

Sadgirl1281:
Good day everyone,

I feel all alone and not heard, more like the whole world against me, hence me coming on here to see th best way I could seek any advice.

I’ll do my best to be very brief and concise and go straight to the point.

You have a good job, independent and everything, you meet the love of your life, boom date and get married and travel out of the country to start your lives. Of course you would resign and leave your comfort zone. In other words that’s what I did of course and travelled.

As I said to go straight to the point. Got married early this year and as usual the first year marriage woes, arguments and misunderstandings but nothing out of the extra ordinary.

Hubby and I had a misunderstanding this faithful day and while he’s not violent, He knows how to spit venom from his mouth. His words would pierce your soul or any deeper than his soul. Words were exchanged on both sides and he said things I had told him in confidence, my weakness and threw it on me and I reacted physically by pushing him. We didn’t talk for 2 days and and then the next day he left the house in the morning.. I went out hours later only for my dad to call me in the night from Nigeria to mention my husband had called him and told him everything how I pushed him, he’s left the house to go somewhere etc... And not only that he told all his family members. I felt so hurt being that I do not have anyone here and because he has his own family.

Issue now is we have talked including our parents etc. but he said he’s not going to come back to the house now until I assure him and work for it. I have to prove to him why he should come back home.

I would like to ask for suggestions, while aim very hurt and in shame, I can’t express it as my pushing has overshadowed everything. He even told his folks our other petty fights and the words I’ve said to him etc They have said I am the woman and the one who did the violence so I have no choice.

This is the best I could summarize so I left a whole lot of details but what am I supposed to do to make him come back home?

Op, these things happen,I wouldn't know your weaknesses(probably u cheated on him during courtship,had abortion while growing up or make him less a man when he has caught you red handed,for a man with a mind,he will always remember those weaknesses you told particularly if he is in the picture when the event occured) you told him that made him react like that, it quite unfair on his own part to let such confidential talk get to the ears of his people,truth is he may be feeling like a demi- god and this could be fuelled by his people being around him sake of say you might have wronged them in one way or the other,but in his innermost heart,he wouldn't want to lose his new family,please after accepting your mistakes of verbal wars and pushing him,talk to him,call him he may not pick,keep calling,get someone in the family who listens to YOU and you know is always on the side of the truth,let he/she know sacrifices u will always make keeping your virtue as a wife to keep your home. I tell u, one silent reasonable voice will always conquer thousands of noisy evil voices. I wish u well

100% wrong,at a point in the growth of a female child,the mother must always be watchful,I have seen some men cuddling male children and the countenance changed as though they were making out,the girl child in the picture above is sexually abused and a wise woman as a mother should be able to strike a balance between the girl child and the father.

Na lie, no be Nina write this thing : , anyhow sha,I wish her well.

jayson87:
You put a report up without mentioning the manufacturers / organisations living delta for edo state. this barbaric journalism in Nigeria has to stop, and as for you

Hello,I only asked a question and the question is neither in defence nor in acceptance of the article put up,I only wanted to be sure of your claims that you are a staff of MAN,if it pisses u off, please do accept my apologies...... From a more concerned Nigerian.

futuregovernor:
Was in FESTAC town to visit a bossom friend,my dear friend is flexing type. As a good friend and has a very responsible job,he decided to take me out with other of his friends,two beautiful ladies were with us. After wacking babacue and some bottles of bear to dilute the fish, one of his friends decided we hit a stripers club....,just close to the bar. The gate fee is 1k for each excluding girls,one if the guy hurriedly paid without asking question, hain,maybe they are regular customers. A two story building,upstairs is fill with ash girls, downstairs is the stripers club, is call D haven just around first avenue, the drinks are very expensive, my guy order for a bottle of Hennessey with two plastic coke,the mixture ehh,while looking around, some girls were all over us.....,ehmm,what are they coming for! I asked my Freind, the bad guy just dey laugh. This girl were naked,no pant and bra,omo see kpekus,chaiiii....na mother born all this one ohhhh,one slim tall babe came close to me,oga do u want lap dance,is just 2k,no ma,I answer her,she insisted, na by force to dance for my lap and to my surprise she said yes. My guys don dey collect lap dance,with their fingers inside the kpekus,what!!! I decide to chart with one of the girls,she told me many of them are expired ashy,the room rate in that place is #4,500 everyday, some of them could no longer pay and they decided to be dancing naked just to stay in a free room. She told me 6 girls normally stay in one room and the management of the hotel do not pay them for dancing naked, their take home is the money they hustle by giving lap dance. I asked if she could live if someone decided to help her get job, she said yes,but the drugs they do take will always want them to do such job Though I didn't get the lap dance but dash her 2k,she even told me they have room for quickly, I pity most of this girls,I got her number, I want to change that particular babe,please suggests to me how I cn pull her from that place,she is even from my tripe (though I didn't tell her were I am from) I just want to help her out,how will I begin,just to know that I have help one girl from drugs and exposing her body to men. She even told me her account is red bcs most of the cash they made is for feeding and make up. Have you help someone in this situations before,how did you start. I am really ready to help her please. Sorry for all the mistakes,typing this inside the club. She is all over me,and she asked me to be her good friend.

Bro! Be very careful, that one did it and was able to transform a lady and now she is getting married in November might not be the same for you,I belong to the school of thoughts that say train a child instead of correcting an adult,you can please extend your wonderful heart by giving a scholarship to a very indigent brilliant student, that alone you have really made a mark in the destiny of someone.

jayson87:
please which manufacturers.... i work with MAN, and no such records exist

which branch/chapter/state of MAN do you work? Who is the director economics and statistics in MAN? Then I will take u seriously.

If only SOME Nigerians will not be blinded by branded bags of rice with 4k for 4 years massive suffering,these are guys that understand Nigerian economy,they know what to do to revive and make it better,a brilliant chap from CBN ,I just wish... I still just wish for a mental revolution of my fellow countrymen.

Hmmmmmmm e-money comes to mind

Hmmmmmmm, instant gratification may sometimes be lethal,though not easy but I tell you he has moved from the realm of unknown to known. Who knew otuoke was a community in Bayelsa,let alone in Nigeria. Once more a good name is better than bags filled with hard currencies. I celebrate the duo.

He is right but all the same it's always difficult to balance,the key is in the hands of the man!

Where is their father? Hmmmm, on the day of our children celebrations non of us parents will be missing. Amen! I celebrate you mama.

LUGBE:
Please if you don't have any other thing to contribute, let it be. Tell me, which agency do you know that will not pay upto a million naira a year, non. Which sure business can someone start with a million naira.

I am also interested, if anyone knows a sure parastatals for that amount pm me or send me a mail, i really need it for my brother.

Hello, i sent you a PM,kindly check nice time.

ChiefAzubuike:
There are millions of his type looking for jobs all over the country so why must he be given special treatment? Let him go learn a skill and save his sorry ass instead of waiting for the government before he chop..

He is unique,he is different, he decided to go public in broad day light without shame,soonest you will hear update on nairaland how he was given a job and you will also comment. Dare to be different(positively) you never know where it will lead you to.

While I was serving,the state coordinator gave a stern warning that wherever you want to go or visit,ask the locals so they will give proper explanation and tells you, if u are to go or not,for those yet to serve please this is a big lesson and to the families of the deceased do accept our condolence.

modelmike7:
The name ‘Buhari’ represents the poor people of Nigeria. So as a businessman and an admirer of the president, I’m only doing this as an honour to the pro-masses vision of president Buhari.”

God bless my President.
God bless your President.
God bless our President.

I wish you many more beautiful years ahead President Buhari.

Hey bro! Don't rejoice yet,like he said he is a business man,that means the residential quarters of the tower might not be mortgaged to the poor as depicted by his definition of the name BUHARI, it can never be owned by the poor unless and sincerely speaking he will see to it by himself. Even if given to the poor,what happens to the maintenance of the building? You think he isn't a wise business man. You should know where the pendulum swings.

All I see is DIVINE UGO!

More like saying make una no vex O,Na me bring una here O, that's thoughtful of her,happy birthday our Dola police

Franklyspeakin:
instead of the v.c prof francis ogbonaya otunta to focus on running the school he is there playing useless politics in the university. the university lost accreditations in several depts since his assumption, sallaries are being owed, the only new development was rebuilding an already existing fence then buying himself an official car worth 45million. he got a student in accounting dept pregnant then bought her a car and later flew her abroad. he sacked 854 people then started a quiet employment which included his wife and several kinsmen. Efcc is after him, Auditor general of the Federation says moneys are not being remited, Senate after an inquiry ordered the reinstatement of the 854 sacked staff and termed their removal illegal. SGF said the sacked staff salaries are still coming so where are they going too?? The university has now been relegated to a mockery of its old self. lectures are now getting students pregnant and no disciplinary action is taken (e.g prof osadeke a national exco of ASUU). a major federal government intervention is needed to revive that institution.

When I remembered the blunder made by Prof Anya in praising this so called first class maths Prof from uniben and rector of one afikpo polytechnic I just feel saddened,Otunta just messed up the vision and aspirations of the citadel of learning,even Prof Anya had to tell the press that the in house professors of the school are not fit for the job,a good administrative structure involves continuity,though Edouga may not be described as a complete saint but in all he did his very best in transforming MOUAU. Went for an interview at the Senate chamber for the proposed school of medicine,after much drilling from the panel including edoga himself,came out successful but till date this man Sat on it even after receiving a call as one of the candidates shortlisted as a senior technologist in the proposed school of medicine from the school, I just hope he does not destroy MOUAU before his tenure ends,black men mentality all for the gain of their pockets.

lynnfeb:
Thank you everyone . Someone who choose to be anonymous gave me the money to offset the bill and have some extra. God bless you my helper . May you never know shame. Once again thank you everyone.

Happy for you,may the good Lord that gives good things make lines fall in place for you and your hubby and things start taking form,and for the giver may he or she call one man and millions will answer him or her. Take care of the bundle of joy..

edoman2016:
Your husband and you are both jobless yet you get impregnated. If nairalanders help you to offset the hospital bill, how will you feed your new baby? I guess you will ask for financial assistance again to take care of the baby. It's high time people take responsibility for their actions and stop coming to nairaland to beg always.

Bro I don't know if you are married but some things come with the birth of some babies which you cannot handle,no one except some irresponsible beings will be expecting a bundle of joy without adequate preparation for it,it's really touching for I have seen a vibrant, young man expecting a child and at the third trimester everything just crumbled like a pack of card,if not for his church members who rally round financially with the encouragement of friends,only God would have known the fate of the woman let alone the baby.

Between two evils,choose neither.

This is so touching men,I really appreciate the pastor that celebrated his wife mentioning some few things including not denying him of sex,I know sometimes she may not be in the mood but using it as a tool to starve the man is really out of place,some might mention some factors to justify the feelings or mood of the woman but the truth is in marriage both parties own themselves and things pertaining swxuality shouldn't be joked with,I know of a fine gentleman whose wife denied him severally of sex,he felt so bad and has found solace in masturbation,dear beautiful and wonderful wives no matter what happens kindly and politely meet the bedroom need of the man and so too same goes for the man,else cracks on the wall will make the lizard's grip more firm.

Wale2593:
Ope ooo, standing dey

baddest guy if you know, you know

Hmmmm all these photographers dey try O.

Never share your family issues with any of your CO workers,it will always be used against you in one way or the other.

Same thing every election period,when will Nigeria be ripe to have like minds who will say NO to monetary inducement during election,these politicians have really fooled us for a long time.

I doubt it a trillion times,those guys look like brothers, so many innocent people have been killed and crime not related to them heaped on them sake of they are dead, the case of the young man from Delta state that was killed and later labeled an armed robber comes to mind. May we not be victims of circumstances.

PearlStreet:
To catch bushrat, you set fire to its hole and wait for it to run out.

That's what is happening to Fayose. It's payback for what he did to Fayemi 4 years ago.

Karma is real.

Hardest laugh bro I feel u,my point isn't Fayoshe but the mess these politicians are making on the image of the country.

Bia Ebuka,Ekiti is on fire and you are going on a date,abeg shift!

iammo:
I pity fayose, buhari, the only man who jailed fela even when others can't dare, the man who jailed saraki senior and almost jailed saraki junior. The man who chased matasine sect into Chad capital even when the president asked him to stand down and almost causing war. Buhari would deal with fayose and all his supporters like FFK would abandon him. Sadly if history was thought in the schools, this generation would had been wary of re-electing buhari

That line the labour of our heroes past shall never be in vain in our cherished anthem comes into questioning,I love my country but it's quite unfortunate that some few fortunate once within the corridor of power are destroying the future,playing politics of bitterness and hatred, this is getting too much,using security apparatus to intimidate a state. Oh my lovely Fela,Gani,Giwa,Michael Okpara,Sam Mbakwe, Muritala Mohammed....Rest on!

What is wrong with all these partisan politicians sef? Is election a do or die affair? Must Fayemi be returned to power? Must Fayoshe be intimidated? Let the good people of ekiti decide,MBuhari has seen the beautiful side of life and I believe he has just one thing to protect and that is his name, go and ask IBB the mess 1993 election has caused to his dynasty even in 100years to come. Mohammed MBuhari should as a matter of principle forget about partisan politics and do the needful as an unbiased president,given the unbiased judge(inec) and the good people of Ekiti state tge right to vote their leader,in all,only the poor masses suffer as the bullets are not meant for these greedy politicians but for them(the poor masses),this is getting annoying.