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Thank you for this thread Op. The responses to the previous thread were so appalling.

Just because a woman says she doesn't want kids, it means she has destroyed her womb.

Any Nigerian man reading this thread, please accept it into your thick skull that not all women want to bear kids and they have various reasons for this.

CSTRR:
So if your biological brother was that husband living in ignorant bliss, you would want him to die without knowing the truth.?

Or you want him to finally realise the truth in old age?

Because that Yahoo boy will come for his kid one day.

If my brother is such a wayward deadbeat like the real dad, I will leave the girl in the loving home where she will have a brighter future. Period.

Regardless:
Hey guys,
Pardon the long post.
So when I was still in 200 level staying in school hostel, I had this pre-degree roommate - handsome bad guy. He met a lady at the center he was attending tutorials for Jamb and PD exam. The lady and her mum were living in the town where our school was. They started having sex like mad. They so much had sex to stupor that one day this my guy came back completely drained. We had to arrange Malt and Milk for him to get himself that day. Now this girl was involved with another guy who was already working in all this Oil drilling company and he was alright.

I came back from lectures one day and my former roomie was alone in the room and moody. I asked him what was wrong and he opened up to me that the girl is pregnant and they have tried to abort the baby to no avail. Ha... So wetin wan play like this? He said the girl and her mum had already planned to pin the pregnancy on the working guy's head as this my guy no get shishi plus he couldn't even tell the girl to keep it for him or go and stay with his people because he had stayed at home for like 5 years committing plenty atrocities before his mum managed to send him to school for PD. He was sad because he didn't want another man to take care of his child.

When I asked him about the situation after some time, he said the working guy had already accepted the pregnancy and had already started buying baby things down. lol... The guy didn't gain admission again and went back home. Later he came back and did Diploma... When I asked him of the child, he said the child was a carbon copy of him, that the girl had done intro with the guy but when he has money he would come back for the child..

Last month, I received a friend request from my fomer roomie on FB. Long story cut short, after 7 years, he has blown through yahoo in SA. I asked him about the child and he said he can't trace the baby mama again, her mum had relocated from that town and he has exhausted all means looking for them. I jokingly offered my help and the guy was willing to give me money to help him trace her. I told him I would see what I can do.

It took me a while but I was able to trace the girl on SM and even traced the now husband to LinkedIn. Babe is living well with Oil money and has 3 kids and truly the first girl is my guy's carbon copy.. Damn... I started feeling for the child. Beautiful soft girl-child.

I decided ring the girl and immediately I told her what was happening, she hung up and blocked my number.. lol.. I sent a msg to her with my second line and told her to better call me back before I send a message to her husband... babe called me and was begging.. that my former roomie is not responsible. he was not trying then... she couldn't wait .. blah blah .. that please I should not scatter her marriage... was really crying over the phone... The RP in me wasn't buying it until she mentioned that I should please think about how this would shatter her daughter's life. Omoh the human in me made me pause come begin reason am...

My former roomie's lifestyle isn't really what a child would be proud of.. the guy has done everything from cultism to robbery and still hasn't changed and now to yahoo.......only thing he has now to offer that child is money....He said his mother has been telling him to go and bring the child from another man's house.
I don't care about the babe because ladies always think their hoe-phase would go unrewarded..
I pity for the babe's husband coz he was simp then and has remained so till now oblivious of anything.....
I only sincerely care about the 7y/o child whose life would be turned upside down by this shocking revelation..

Anyway, I told her that I wouldn't do anything for now but my guy is very desperate and she better handles it fast and that it's only a mater of time my guy gets to her one way or another... Babe thanked me and hung up. Next day, she wiped her and her husband's SM clean and deleted the accounts.. except the man's LinkedIn of course.. The man don sha accept me as one of his connections.... I've not revealed any findings to my former roomie.. Last time he asked when I want to start tracking her, I just stalled him. I'm sitting on the sidelines for now.. Omoh I weak ..... The good, bad and ugly comments are welcomed.

Don't fúck up a child's life for nothing. What future do you think she will have with such a sorry excuse for a father?

She's got a good home now and has better chances of living a good and promising life where she is!

stanvesco:
Why not get a mini mobile solar system.
+234 806 531 6307 call this number he sells a very efficient sytem

Good morning. Pls how much is the solar system?

Mrsoft3:
Why did she leave in the first place?
It's holiday season and it's right for the child to go spend time with her father,why insisting he comes and stay with them? When she left in the first place?

There is insecurities on the road but the father should take the risk?

What if he's a shitty partner? Did that occur to you?

holocron:
You have been advised not to go anywhere by those who have passed through it but it's unlikely you will heed it until you put your hand in the fire and gain experience first hand that it burns.

You won't listen but still: The best thing for you is to totally forget them and forge on with your life. Concentrate fully on your business or your career or whatever your life's mission is. If you have money to spare you can be sending her child upkeep. If you don't have just forget it and don't even stress yourself. Feel very free. The minute she walked out on you without your permission has absolved you of the child upkeep responsibility. It's up to her to upkeep the child. You can't be upkeeping a child and be labouring to have a say. They will use that child as a weapon to torture and ruin you. Find another woman, younger and more beautiful and have another child or children. Name the new ones the same name as the lost one(s). Rest assured that if you succeed and become successful in life, come what may, the lost ones will surely come back to claim the dividends of their paternity. But if you are a failure, everyone will deny you. OYO will be your lot. You won't accept this advice, but later you will regret not using it.

Jeez. I have never met a human as shitty as you in my life. What a terrible advice

AndroidAI:
Anyone can lift any picture from anywhere and caption it whatever they feel like. Entertain yourself!

How can numerous sources from around the world all depict the same thing? Why are there similarities between the 'churches' and 'mosques' since they are two different religions?

AndroidAI:
Everything he's spewing here, without any source, reference, or empirical evidence. You have to take his words for it because he's all-knowing? Our modern-day Einstein? Good luck!

He is using numerous pictures from around the world to support his claims. Since you believe they are all false, where's your own evidence to back up your rebuttal?

AndroidAI:
It's actually a CHURCH

Conspiracy theorist!.

But of course, we should take your word for it.

He meant it wasn't originally designed to be a church but got repurposed as one

zed7:
What a country. First person to name 5 good things about this country will get a recharge card from me.
5 good things that makes this country worth living in.

Nigeria is not prone to natural disasters like several western countries.

If you earn foreign currency in Nigeria, you can live relatively well.

Our large population creates a wide market for sale of goods and services

Being a Nigerian makes an individual resilient and able to adapt to other environments

You can make money here without acquiring higher education

Okay. So what should we do with this information?

I am agnostic and an anti-natalist as well. Based in Benin. Wouldn't mind some new friends who share same views

Chai. And here I was, thinking that nairalanders are smart. It's fiction. The OP is selling without sounding like he's selling. He's a good storyteller sha

Enskynelson:
Go to your selected Study Centre on a working day as soon as you can. Go with all your original document and photocopies with passports.

Okay, thanks

Good morning. I'm a new student and would like to know when the physical screening will hold. Has it happened already? I'm an undergrad.

Merxi:
Good evening everyone, I need your candid opinion as I am about to return my proposal ring to my husband to be. We plan on traveling out of the country next year after getting married. All of a sudden he has been insisting on us not having a court wedding. He just wants us to do traditional wedding and that’s all!…I have tried to change his mind but he is really adamant about it. This is someone I have been dating for close to 6 years

He probably doesn't want you to have the right to take half of his properties if you decide to file for a divorce later

I'm angry with myself right now. I started the search but gave up after a while

Ewww

Zonefree:
Congratulations to them.



Personally, I cannot wait with a Nigerian wife for 19 years without a child. Remove procreation, what's the sole reason of getting married to a Nigerian girl?

Second wife
Side chick
Baby mama
Surrogacy
Egg donor

I'll explore one of these options before the 19 years.

And if your sperm is too watery nko? She's free to ride your neighbor's dick right?

Because you heard one guy saying he doesn't wanna marry, suddenly, all men no longer want marriage. I wonder which men keep marrying on Saturdays over here

And men that refuse to take responsibility, what punishment will they get?

teekay213:
if I demarcate the room there won't be ventilation..heat will deal with one of them.i thought of that before and the room is not that big

What if you create a half-wall with the board? It won't go all the way to the ceiling. It could be shoulder level

I swear Op, you are on point. Me wey be woman, I know the kind pressure I dey feel to earn. I nor even sure say I won born children. I nor come this life come suffer jare

Because whether or not you commit a crime, they'll always find a way to pin something on you


That's how I tied my mattress to the top of my mom's car to make an interstate trip and one idiot wanted to take me to station because I didn't have 'carrier's permit'. Las las e collect 1500 from my hand. If I calculate all the 500 and 200 I just dey pass to them ehn...

Na why some motorists dey wan jam them pass for road

LINSAR:
You're not wise.

If you know marriage matters are bigger than you then ignore!

Shut up jare. Marriage matters indeed. Learn to call a spade a spade. He messed up. Say so and stop yarning dust cos he's a guy

Cutehector:
u no get sense o. Why would two people who dont love each other continue to live together. Obviously she cant forgive him, he should move ahead with his life

Moronic element. After messing up his marriage in less than a year and getting his wife pregnant, he should divorce and move on? How stupid are you exactly?

Instead of advising him to appease her and make her fall in love with him again, you're displaying your stupidity. Na wa. I thought with age comes wisdom, but the reverse is the case for you

God1000:
then continue to be hopeful, you know her more than me, but personally I can't endure living with someone that torments me, a besetting partner is a ticking time bomb

Your happiness lies in your hands

Living with someone that torments him? He is obviously the one who messed up

The summary of your writeup is that you were an asshole to her abi

Lemme guess. You cheated after being married for less than a year

Sleekskin:
Good morning elders and youths on the forum.

I have a close female friend who recently celebrated her birthday on friday. Its my intention to give her a gift but I don't feel like giving her cash or getting her any gift with my money.

We have never had sex in our 13 months of friendship. She wil be at my place on wednesday, so I'm thinking allowing her have sex with me will be a nice birthday present.

What do you think? I'll appreciate your comments.

Are you insane?