Late as usual Lol

My first love was Omo ever handsome and light skinned most girls were dying for him but he seemed to only have eyes for me...

we had to part ways when I changed school after our jss3 exams...

I remember one time when we were rehearsing Christmas carol songs for our end of year party...

I was just there singing when I turned unexpectedly only to catch him staring I didn't even know he was there...

I smiled at him and he did same it was a soul to soul connection...

it was so obvious he liked me there was this slight tension whenever we came across each other...it didn't help matters that we attended same church together...

To my frustration he never asked me out...

Danced with me alone throughout at our graduation party but wouldn't come too close to touch me...

He seemed to respect me too much for it and God I was so shy then...Despite having a strict mother I would have broken that rule to date him...

But he never did...
But was always quick to protect me and treated me in a special way...

1.That your mentality is what separates you from your environment...

2.That who you become is more important than what you acquire...

3.Physical possessions like degrees, wealth,houses,cars are only valuable when they are connected to purpose...coming to this earth to toil only for yourself when life itself is fleeting is the best definition of vanity...

4.Children are the best legacy only if you can pass them good convictions...

5.The real assets at the end of life are:
a) your relationship with God
b) Your peace
c) Your fulfillment

6.Being loved and valued by others is more orgasmic than s3x itself....

7.No matter how familiar a person is to you always give room for that person to respect you for respect is more valuable than love...You can hurt who you love but hardly a one you respect for reputation ruined is hard to repair(one of the philosophy I live by)...

8.People who are rigid are hardly successful in life... Master relationships master life itself for life is for humans and humans interact through relationships...

placeofallure:


My husband is doing work from home today, besides, he's his own boss. I went out to work today. Before I left, I spread my clothes on the line. When I returned I only met one gown on the line. He'd taken the rest inside, all folded.

Now, answer your own question.

Awwwn You are blessed indeed...
Is the "All folded " for me..Thoughtful men are a rare breed..
To others above"What's the use of marrying someone you can't get vulnerable with"...

Hmm
She just wants you for fun..


A woman can not settle for a man who cannot be the man in the ship.

FxMasterz:

We don't speak unintelligible language when we speak in tongues. It's unintelligible to you because you don't understand the language. Sometimes the tongues are interpreted, and everyone understands what is being said.

Those whom you hear repeating just one word all the time are people who have not grown up spiritually. I speak a whole language at a go by the grace of God. I don't speak repeated syllables. I speak several languages too.

If you don't understand Fanti language of Ghana, and you hear someone saying Mi da o asi, mi da o asi, mi da o si, several times, wouldn't that look unintelligible to you? Meanwhile that person is giving thanks to God. Mi da o asi means, I give you thanks. The same way your own native language would look unintelligible to someone who doesn't understand it. Paul explained it by saying the fellow would look like a barbarian to you. We're not talking about those who are faking it. There are those who fake it. That's completely unscriptural. Very wrong. The first time you're baptised, your tongue moves uncontrollably. You're not in control of what you're saying. What you're saying looks unintelligible to even you the speaker. But the Lord understands the language.

Look, we do not mix anything together or train people on what to say or do. It's just a simple prayer of faith:

"Lord, this Your servant has a desire to be filled by Your Presence and to be baptised by Your Holy Spirit. We come before You because You've promised that anyone who asks receives. Give him Lord your Holy Spirit as You did on the day of Pentecost. Do it Father, for we pray in Jesus name." That's all. We leave the rest to God and He never fails to answer. Sometimes, the person speaks a full language same day he was baptized, and there'll be interpretation. It is purely from above without any human input or interference. That's how it was on the day of Pentecost.

Regarding the woman with the issue of blood. I understand that you're a leader and most possibly heading a church. You wouldn't love to give up on this practice but I'll tell you the truth.

First, it is blasphemy to say the woman drained Jesus of His power. You don't seem to understand who Jesus is. Jesus cannot be said to possess the power of God. That's an understatement because He Himself is the Power. The Bible calls Him "...the wisdom of God and the power of God."

Now, you seem to think that power is something quantifiable which could be reduced or increased and therefore could be deducted, leading to a drain. No. Not so.

The power of God is simply the Presence of the Holy Spirit and His manifestation in our lives. That's why Jesus said, "Ye shall receive power after that the Holy Ghost is come upon you."

It's the work of the Holy Ghost. The Holy Spirit moves to do the things He wants to do, and He's not inhibited by a woman's mensural flow. Even Jesus said, "...the Father that dwells in me, He does the work. I can of my own self do nothing." What makes you think He could be drained? "For In Him dwelleth the fullness of the Godhead bodily."

Power isn't fluid. Though it moves like a river. It isn't drainable because it's a Person. The Holy Ghost. The Holy Ghost Himself is called the Spirit of Christ.

For instance, if you're sharing your wisdom with someone from morning till night, wouldn't it sound absurd to you if someone suddenly walks in and says to the fellow you're sharing your wisdom with, "Leave the man alone, you've been receiving from his wisdom since morning, you're draining his wisdom." Just as wisdom cannot be drained, so also is power. Wisdom isn't fluid, same as power.

What happened was that Jesus knew that someone tapped from Him because He felt a sensation. And yeah, you could feel something like electric current coursing through you when you minister the power of God to somebody. You'll feel the Holy Spirit reaching out and touching someone. That's what Jesus felt. He was never drained.

We who are His servants never feel drained let alone the Lord. He's the source. And the source is infinite. Infinite and immeasurable manifestation of the Spirit of God. We are just channels. We're never sources. We're conduits through whom the Holy Ghost moves to bless lives. There's nothing like draining. It's heretic. And when used against the Lord, it's blasphemous. There's nowhere in the scriptures where the power of God was ever drained from someone. In the case of Samson, the Spirit of God simply departed from him. Only sin can obstruct the move of the Holy Ghost. Not menses. Menses may affect demons. Not the Spirit of God.

Regarding prophecies, yeah, we prophesy by the Spirit of God. "I prophesy into your life..." No, that's not prophesy. That's prophetic prayer. It's not telling you what has happened or what would happen. It's just a word of prayer. The same way Ezekiel prophesied to make the dry bones live. A prayer of command.

Prophecies usually start with "This saith the Lord." Or you could hear the man of God say "This is what God is telling me now..." That's prophecy or the Word of knowledge. We know the difference between prophetic prayers and prophecies, but people outside the Pentecostal walls think we're prophesying when we're making prophetic prayers. It's simply a prayer of positive confession or command. Prophecy is quiet different.

Mr Fxmasterz are you a pastor your understanding of the Bible is so solid.How can one really study the Bible to get all the hidden meaning...not just reading through...

Kobojunkie:
● What about her mates and those older who chose not to have children at all and are all living OK even though society pretends they are not?
● What of her mates and older who decided to forego the married life altogether and are living all clear and find without marriage drama even though society likes to stone them for choosing to forego all the insanity? Why compare only with those married and packing even a battalion around with them?

Aunty calm down woke or no woke...
I've given my advice do yours peacefully...Did she tell you she does not want to get married?If she doesn't want to Fine it's a personal choice ..But if she has mind to do so..This is her time I've said my 2cents...

JennyJossie:
No an igala man. E shock you

If you let this man go I fear you may regret it and even resent that your relative later when you graduate and start looking for job and suitors at the same time when your mates are dropping their kids in school..This your relative where was he since then... why now?...

As a girl one has to be smart oh, just make sure elders who can hold him accountable are aware of his arrangement...Even if it's part time u can run it...just make sure u don't drop many kids until he fulfils his promise at most one is okay..

Girlee:
I'm just an eighteen years old female child who would be turning nineteen in Five months time.
I'm a little girl with the brains of a wise old man.
I'm a counselor, motivational speaker, inspirational writer and an upcoming writer.
Nobody knows me as "Girlee"; not even me. I know that's stupid. I just had to come up with this "Girlee" I really don't fancy.
For some reasons I still can't decipher, I couldn't create an account here with my actual "social media" name (still my real name though).
I've counselled the married, singles and those in courtship. I've motivated so many and inspired a whole lot on the planet and things turned out great for them. But the thing is: who will and can counsel the counselor?

Tonight, I'm broken as I've never been before.
I've sat for jamb thrice now and in all, I scored above 200.
Why didn't I gain admission?

Continuation...

Hi Girlee what part of Edo state do you reside i think we should link up... I'm in said institution and I've a close friend in the same course you are aspiring for.. I think Uniben postutme is not out now or is it the one of ubth you are on about cos that's the only one that's out for now.

Ah
I won't lie.. call me kpako if u want to...
My own childhood fantasy was eating dried fish especially dried scubian with Garri...
Oh lawd that food can take u to heavenlies.. I remember when my mom(Rip)used to buy them then,i would sneak and start pinching it small small.. lol
I only stop when it becomes too obvious..
Funny enuff I have the means now but haven't thought of that..

Who said competition is not good...
She saw competition in the form of laide and quickly rushed to the needful... I knew she is one pretty girl...

Ablemed:


Thanks so much bro. much Blessings

Bro?? Abeg don't turn me to a guy.
On a serious note try and follow what I said it will really help...

Ablemed:
I'll like to make my story short as possible without much introduction tho. And also a lesson parents/ new couples should learn from my ordeal, Pls read to the end.

Alright So I'm the only male born of my parent among 4 girls, i also happen to be the last born at it. my problem started when growing up, cause my parent aged bfr getting a Male child which was my Dad and his parent cravings, I was pampered when growing up such that my parents would never watch me do stressful things, dictate when I go out and who I moved out with (My mum's own was even worse cause when growing up, if I want to go out, she'll always send me back inside) even during secondary school they had to get a school very close to our house. my sisters were only the ones that would go to mum's shop and make sales while mum would either stay with me at home or if I eventually go the shop sef I'll always sit and just watch. Literally, I'll say I was denied the right to be exposed to lotta things and real issues about life.

And cause I was not the sociable type cause I'll literally stay at home, watch movies, eat and my movements limited, I was exposed to pornography and masturbation at a very young age and I battled that bad habit thr my University days (Did I say my Parents also dictated the University I went to cause it was close to our House to and any small riot in school then the next hour they'll come and pick me back home till every thing dies down)

So guys over time, I've grown to be this boring guy who is shy, timid, suffering from low self esteem and can't give vibe even when gisting with my fellow guys, in which most of them just relegate me to this small boy level. Did I also say I've never had a Girlfriend all my life cause the truth is ion always know what to say or how to maintain talking vibe. At first I decide not to care and just always console myself with I was created like that and just continue my boring life, it has now gotten to the point I'm not rated in anything at all, most people just make friends with me cause of what they can gain from me, I'm not even good in anything, I can't speak clearly, I'm kinda literally mentally dumb and ion see me useful for anyone or anything, perhaps maybe God only, No business sense, no work skill or experience, no trade experiences to

I'm currently a Corp member serving and before then I rebelled against my parent cause they wanted to dictate the state I serve which is our state of residence so I go to my ppa from home but I told them No and even got to a fight to my Dad cause of this issue and we din speak for like 2weeks, he eventually called me and we settled. But the issue now is guys I've got less than two months left for my POP for service and you don't expect me to return home useless to my parent house again?? Tho sincerely thr my service year, I din touch my allowee so I've saved up to 270k so far. the issue is ask me what I want to do with the money? I've got no idea, what business sense or idea? Nothing is coming to my head, infact I don't know. The funny thing is, my roommate is exactly my opposite, very outspoken, bold, full of vibe and bring back different female friends each day, this guy is not really financially buoyant but you see girls cook and travel all the way to give him for us to eat. I just wish I was like him, i wish i had the vibe

I'm 24years now and at this age, no idea bout my future, bout life, I can't even relate with people, I'm just so sad, depressed and frustrated. At the moment the only job coming to my head is the military cause I served in a military barrack cause I choose it myself but most of the junior officers are trashing my interest by telling me not to waste my time say I no go survive am with my nature, that military needs tough people and endurance bla bla and on the other hand, my mum is saying Never she'll never allow me join the military not over her dead body and she's bout recruiting my Dad to and Sincerely I'm frustrated and my depression have taken another turn that over the past weeks I've been thinking suicide and it's getting really high, I say I should type this here bfr the worse happen cause if I can't be useful for myself what really is the point living??

Please this advice is to parent and intending parent/couples, pls and pls expose ur children to life, don't over pamper your kids, work on them to make them sociable and outspoken, I swear you'll be doing them a great favour. For me I thought my parent loved me, I thought they were trying to protect me but they've put me in a deep mess I have to face alone and just I pray I get the opportunity to make things right with me

I Can only imagine how much pain you are going through.I want you to know that every change you desire to see in your life can only start from your within..

Feed your mind with positive thoughts...
Read good books that will inspire you and help to increase your self worth.I will recommend Mary Crowley You can too,Think big by Ben Carson,John Maxwell's and a host of others...Try and get these books in hard copy if you can so you can easily peruse over them whenever you feel low.You will just be fine...

In addition to all these listen to soul uplifting songs all the time,before you go to sleep and when you wake up...Watch rib-cracking movies like three idiots(thank me later)...Listen to good radio and TV programmes...Join good facebook and WhatsApp group...

Pick up an interest say football since you are a guy follow it keenly and use it as a point of discussion to mingle with other guys...
Lastly Positively declare good things to yourself...You will be fine.
Sending you love and light...

jeromestarks:


You want a man to marry you even if you're not virgin?

Read my quote again this time do it slowly....

[quote author=jeromestarks post=115916699]
Make a choice today. Fvck any girl you want but...




You were actually making sense and in my mind I was like this guy is intelligent o only for you to spoil it with the above...mtcheew

@grop1040 the guy before me has said it all.
A closed mouth is a closed destiny learn to call people out when they are overstepping their boundaries.
Some vawulence are just necessary and no you would not be acting rude,you are simply protecting your interest.That way you earn more respect from your brother and even your wife...
Letting someone walk over you all in the name of keeping peace is pure foolishness.
To me your mother is scared of your brother so she prefers putting your marriage on the line to offending him...

jeromestarks:

School boys don't even care about virginity. They just want to fvck, that's all.
Men who understand the purity of marriage are the once gunning for virgins.

Okay I give up your IQ is like really low...

jeromestarks:

Yes o my dear. They are the
Virgins

Young boy A Gem is not a woman whose value is only tied to her hymen...it takes more than that.

If her only value is her hymen what happens after the wedding night is the husband going to fix the hymen back so she doesn't lose her so called "value".

Abegii yes a girl should try and keep her virginity and all that but all this one you are screaming here are just school boy's rantings jare.

Rayban25:


Of course...which other statement will I expect from a gender that marriage benefits...we are telling him to avoid jumping inside fire but what what do we know now...my dear you're not a man...it is of more risk to us to get married

In quote"A gender that marriage benefits" Lol @ that..My dear not everyone operates on the world psychology...Even if it seems women have lost their value in the world there are still gems of inestimable value..Happy are the men that find them..

Abeg @ ibinaboonline do not mind these bitter guys ooo.. you know sometimes I just laugh at the way Nlanders make it seem as if marriage for a guy is an evil thing simply because they lack knowledge on how to build a good home...
Yes I agree most girls and ladies of nowadays are nothing to write home about but even in the midst of bad there is good and op if you've found a gem in your woman congratulations to you.
As for the ring part look for the closest female in her life who can keep a secret to help you out.

I couldn't resist inputting something.

This goes to prove my belief that all knowledge are needed but not all knowledge are useful...

One should be smart enough to pursue all knowledge that one can lay his hands on but wise enough to know when and when not to apply...

Feminism,Redpill,Religious Doctrines they are all the same...

They all have their good messages no doubt but not all are beneficial...

Life is not in black & white give allowances for the shades of grey...

1.Looking at myself in the mirror and deciding to heal from my childhood trauma.
2.Letting go of someone dear to me for his own good..
3Deciding to be straight with people...now that was hard.

Like I said in a similar thread viz:

Life comes in stages and you go
through those stages with your
peers...
Childhood
Adolescence
Adulthood
Then a stage comes where you are
expected to give birth to another
being,to be mature enough to be
responsible for another life..Now you
can choose not to do that but you
will be missing out on these;

The Joy of parenthood: whether we
admit it or not most of the things
man chases are vanities the only
thing that truly outlives us are our
kids.When people see them they see
your mark on earth.No amount of
Benz could buy the happiness you
feel at the sound of their voices and
laughter..

The companionship they bring:When
you are old and wrinkled.Their
presence adds more meaning to
life,their kids are there to give us the
perfect chaos....

The Pride of parenthood:This is self
explanatory...their wins are our wins
their joy ours we relive life through
them.

sanesta:
In your view, What are the disadvantages of not having a child.?

Life comes in stages and you go through those stages with your peers...
Childhood
Adolescence
Adulthood
Then a stage comes where you are expected to give birth to another being,to be mature enough to be responsible for another life..Now you can choose not to do that but you will be missing out on these;

The Joy of parenthood: whether we admit it or not most of the things man chases are vanities the only thing that truly outlives us are our kids.When people see them they see your mark on earth.No amount of Benz could buy the happiness you feel at the sound of their voices and laughter..

The companionship they bring:When you are old and wrinkled.Their presence adds more meaning to life,their kids are there to give us the perfect chaos....

The Pride of parenthood:This is self explanatory...their wins are our wins their joy ours we relive life through them.

I hope with this not so few points of mine...

Bluezy13:
Hmmm...



So far so good; all I have read so far is mere speculations. I neither credit nor discredit them. I'm only forced to ask: if we knew this much about personalities, why do we still have increased rate of broken relationships and divorce unlike the ancient times ??

This question also directly affects those posters up there whom I am certain may have experienced or are experiencing broken or turbulent relationships.
Could it be that they allow/allowed emotions to override their knowledge of personalities ?
If that is the case, then of what usefulness is the knowledge of personalities ?
Could it be that they are/were ignorant of the knowledge of personalities ?
If that is the case, then why do they continue to experience broken or turbulent relationships after acquiring this knowledge of personalities ?
I am only asking...; I am not countering nor asserting.
Cc:
efficiencie
Eileene
Nobody

Psychological and philosophical matters of personalities is highly ambiguous; such that the more man tend to unfathom its ambiguity, the more ambiguous and complicated it is.

I therefore reserve my hypothetical thought.

The thing is most times we do not choose our partner based on temperaments ....I mean how many times have you asked a girl out simply because she is a sanguine and would suit your melancholy side...We are mostly attracted by the physical attributes we see and then you come closer before you notice she's quite vengeful or so...
That said in emotional matters the heart rules the head most times...So while you may have all the knowledge in the world it is a different ball game in reality...

Moreover temperaments are not all there are to relationship...There are other factors to consider like values,character.So even when you match temperamentally other things might draw you apart.

This is what the wokeness of this generation has brought upon us...

Aeons ago in the old Patriarchal era you guys crave for with a lot of youthful virtuous girls....
When you see a girl you are attracted to then the first thing on your mind will be how to marry her and not how to date her or pop her cherry and if u wanted more women you must make them your 2nd,3rd wife as the case may be...

Even when you are caught putting a girl in the family way you must marry her....This things reduce the number of so-called damaged women.. Here comes our generation with our dating scam of trying to find the one or simply being trendy by having someone to call boo/bae...


Mind you each relationship must be sexual or else they call the guy a fool...So Garbage in and Garbage out..
Abegiii this social media generation though has its advantages this is the evil that comes with it...

At the end of the day no one perfect we all are just managing each other...

For a young guy in his late twenties he was just too desperate for marriage. He even breaks down whenever someone close to him welcomes a newborn..someone who is still finding his feet.

Raspberries:
I logged out...

Lemme drop a comment...

Might not be as good as yours but it's my opinion...

So... I'm an extrovert... I'm very social... But in public, I'm nice and cool... Still a tomboy but I'm not the sort of person to make trouble... I'm also very sensitive and I care a lot what others think of me...

In secondary school, I had a good reputation for being miss perfect... Ironed uniform, knee lenght socks and my navy blue beret... I wore my id card and I was a social perfect... My teachers all knew me...

But I'm not the sorta person who would concentrate during physics... I get distracted easily... And I enjoy distracting others... I would rather play with acids during chem practicals or play crosswords during maths... And so on...

There were bad boys in my class... The ones who would walk out and not tuck in their shirts and cheat during exams...

And I wanted to leave when they did... To go outside and visit the farm or just stroll... Rather I had to endure hours of torture...

I didn't mess up because everyone expected me not to... I would love to go crazy sometimes and have fun but I really can't!

I think men who are good love bad girls cause they are exciting... Like an adventure... They make you lose yourself and not worry about what others expect of you... You can be reckless and she wouldn't judge... Etc...

Women too...

Society sets strict standards for us... And it's in our nature to rebel... Finding someone who brings out the demon in us is exhilarating... Refreshing...

You just hit the nail on the head girl.

In Summary:We all love to rebel even the so called good people....
what makes them good is that they actually care about what society thinks, to want to stick to the norms of morality and so they envy the so called bad ones who are actually bold enough to do what they want...

This envy pulls them in...

This is why I hardly discuss my success with people no matter how close you are to me.When things are going well I close my mouth but when I have challenges I fit download you the full gist.
Rip to the girl its truly cold outside....

Too many Judases