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Too many Judases

If you think love is blind marriage will open your eyes.
Relationships can break but true friendship never breaks.

hmmm

Please leave them alone nor be everything them they shuk mouth put and the girl is even a changed person now.By the way what do you hope to achieve by destroying other's happiness. I once had a cousin who was dating one of my former male teacher who was a known womanizer.The day she discovered I knew him and asked me about him,I told her he was okay.Today they are Married.Mind you if I had badmouthed him then and they still settled for each other things would have been awkward between my cousin and i now.
In summary mind your business.

Eagba:
I and my elder brother grew up in same environment, food, friends but his extremely outgoing while an introvert.

still he was good big bros to me.

The fact that your elder brother is extremely outgoing and you are not does not necessarily make you an introvert.Yyou may be an ambivert.That is if all things are constant e.g you grew up in a free home not necessarily environment.

Hmmm

I am of the opinion that introverts are made not born I don't believe introversion is a basic gene thing which can be passed i see it as more of a behavioral pattern of a child in response to its environment.I like to think of a new born as a clean slate with all personalities dormant , now the environment he or she grows up in will determine the personality that will foster.If a child grows up in a family home where there are always visitors and friends around he or she will grow up as an extrovert and vice versa.

Yes of course.I can literally count the number of times i use make up in a year.

Sasha with the bahd gal vibez

Normally nobody ugly na money be the koko.
LAX has always had swag

Education too good abeg

Is like these boys know they are princes o see the way they shine eye come life.
The first one on the right will be very strict,the fairer one close to the girl will be very cunning while the other one that always opens his mouth will be the jovial n free one as for the girl she go yanga die.

lwkmd

Bayaar02:
I'm a Baptist member. Na inside am dem born me. Most of us were born in the religion we're practicing.

wow... I'm a baptist member too though not born into it my sisters friends drew her to the church and I followed her there. Buh I must confess ever since I relocated I've found it hard feeling at home in another church.I kukuma skip Church most times

1. Never be too quick to jump into conclusions until you hear the full story in other words never act on a one sided report.

2. Do not strive to gain the love of others but strive to be respected cause love can be faked but respect that is true.

3. Never expect too much from people love
them because you want to but not because you hope they reciprocate in the same measure.

4. Always have a back up;back up friends,backup resources, backup plans. Never rely too heavily on one source.

so many I have just to drop a few.....

[Always handsome/beautiful, intelligent, tall and get the opportunities other siblings never had. We leverage on the mistakes of older siblings and make better alternative choices[/quote].

The above is so true I am a living testimony of this.Life of a last born is sweet sha I will chose it over and over again.The leverage it gives for one

PERVENCHE:
*NOTE
With all due respect, I have changed names and some too familiar details about myself out of respect for my wife to be. I know she likes to catch cruise on nairaland.

My name is Friday (of course not my real name) I am from the middle-belt. So please save your tribalism with all those una Igbo, Yoruba and Hausa insults. I met Grace(my wife to be) few years ago. It was love at 1st sight. She was everything and is still everything I had hoped a woman should be. There is this crass about her that makes her effortlessly better than any lady around her. My type in the true sense of the word. Tall, busty, curvy, sassy, elegant, personable and above all, she has a graceful soul. From the 1st date to this day, I still pinch my self like.. What in God's green earth is a beauty like her doing with a shrek like me.

But then, true perfection is always a utopia. Grace in all her graceful demeanour and aura, has a flaw; Indecision! More so, blind trust seems to be her albatross. (I swear she can even take Lai Muhammad's word to the bank) Though, I still love her; flaws and all. Her complete or should I say blind trust for me and Abigail became one of the reasons Abigail(her younger sister) has become an unending chapter in our relationship. Even though the blame of what happened squarely falls on me.

Abigail just shy off 20, is too savvy for her age. Not the outright outstanding beauty like my Grace. What ever little she lacks in beauty, she more than makes up for it in her mentality. For she is truly a smart and an intelligent girl. Just five years younger than Grace. One who expect them at least to be close and be like Asaba and Onisha but then...they are the direct opposite of each other. While Grace is the introverted shy person, Abigail is quite the extrovert and likes to make friends for Africa. It is only fair to believe their formative time in secondary school played a part in their output towards life. Grace likes to conform like most day school students. Abigail on the other hand, is the boarding school nightmare all parents hope not to experience: the deviant.

Through the 1st years we dated, Abigail was in secondary school and was never in the picture. For some odd or strange reason, Grace was not ready to fully commit. Not that I blame her or something. At 23, Most girls her age are like Alice in wonderland; they crush on celebrities and Chase childhood dreams and fantasies. The vile ones, if truth be told...tend to live out their hoė phase. At 28, I was already grounded to know what I wanted and it was Grace and marriage. Sometimes, you do all you can do but then life has a way of throwing in a curveball. More over, "No be say because I wan chop egg I go begin dey worship chicken." Sensing her shakara, I pulled the hand brakes on us and walked out of the relationship.

***2 years later***
Fortunately or unfortunately after letting go, Grace became incensed and started to want me back. I hardly do any social media at this point. Pride won't let her call me, so there was no way to send coded messages on whatsapp status to me. Being the introvert that she is and the all trusting graceful Grace, she started to send Abigil over to my place to bridge the gap. In just over two years, Abigail had changed and developed into a sexy hippie bohemian. Not that I fancy her in any erotic way or something. It's just that in our contemporary naija society where mostly everyone conforms, it is hard not to notice a bohemian.

Knowing I would do no better than Grace even with a million dollars and in a hundred years of searching, I mended fences with Grace and our relationship became stronger than ever. Over time, Abigail became a bridge between us. At first, Grace would send her over to run errands for her. After a while, it became a second nature for her to come over and fidget with my electronics. Courtesy demands you be nice to your in-laws to be and so I was nice to Abigail.

Abigail's posturing over time made it difficult for me to say no to her especially during them Nengi and Laycon days in the house. She was a fan of big brother lockdown. And would always ask for my keys to watch the silly show for she was equally as silly to be gushing over that vanity fair. Grace seems not have any issues with her coming over and I also did not for I was hardly home and God knows the sub was kinda wasting away.

There are some things in life that are not planned. They just happen! My boss at work then tested positive for Covid and we were all asked to quarantine at home. Grace still had to go to work while Abigail was always free because of the ASSU strike. Suddenly, I started to be alone with Abigail. She would come over "for big brother" around 9am and leave around 7pm in time to beat her curfew at home. It was awkward staying all day with Abigail. Grace too predictable, only comes over on Sunday. For some strange reasons, on Sundays, Abigail will never show up.

There were times, and I am sure it could just be my imagination, that she enjoyed teasing me. She would come dressed like a sister Mary Amaka from home but after a while, she would take her bath and transform into a Kardashian. Wearing skimpy cloths and heavy make-up. I tried to give her her space. I was in quarantine and therefore, had practically no where to go. I am basically the type that don't flock with co-workers and I hardly keep any friends except for Grace. I am not one to be neighbourly with my neighbours so I was stuck with Abigail all day. Humans are social animals and we tend to gravitate towards each other especially when we are alone with someone. Gradually, she won me over and I started to watch the big brother show with her. While she was rooting for Nengi after her Erica left, I was simply for Neo for he had my height. And the bond between us grew. God knows I had no vile motives and evil intentions. It is hard not to enjoy Abigail's company for she is a smart, gleeful and witty girl. While I do all the talking with Grace, Abigail on the other hand does all the talking with me and it was a welcome change.

*** D Day ***
It became obvious Abigail was not telling the truth at home. She would pick their calls and tell them she was in her female friend's house. And in the spirit of our new found big brother bond. We kept the secret. On this faithful day, it had rained all day and Nepa had struck and the plug in my generator was no good. The rain had brought with it a cool breeze and some magical thunder. Seemingly, we could not watch our show so I took a blanket because of the cold and buried my attention on my PC (laptop) re-watching season 5 of the game of thrones.

Naively, Abigail joined me and entered the blanket with me. I use the word 'naive' because I honestly do not want to qualify her as a minx. And I know she does not see me as a Justine Bieber of a crystal ball for her to be drooling at. While in that warm blanket watching the movies in such compromising position, One thing led to another and alot of that one thing opened up her Pandora's box and I... I ate the most forbidden fruit there ever was. There is no telling how wonderful making love to her was at the heat of the moment and there's no shame in the world that equates to the shame that immediately dwell and still dwells in my soul shortly after even to this day. There's a lot to blame our mistake and betrayal on. Could it just be the moment? the weather? the chemistry? the devil? (laughs) my opportunistic habit? Her feminine warmth in such close proximity? my placing a hand on her thigh and meeting no resistance? My foggy mind and grown erection? Her racing and panting heart? Her feisty zeal and deviant nature? My libido? Hers? My morals? Buhari? Herdsmen? IPOB? Sunday Igbahor? Dstv and big brother? NEPA? Game of thrones? Was she after all really a minx? In all fairness, she is just a little naive girl that does not deserve to be pilloried for my betrayal. As the adult, I should have known better and acted a lot better.

Climbing down from our lustful climax, we both knew immediately what we had done, the gravity and the implications it could have on not just us, but grace and the whole family. In the most contrite way possible, we apologized to ourselves and vowed never to repeat it again. We felt it would be better not to tell Grace or anyone and we agreed Abigail would stop coming over. I started to avoid Abigail at all cost. I did not just release cum after my despicable act with Abigail, I released every thing good in me and every form of happiness. I felt much less of a man and wished I had died as a child or better still was aborted.

I hardly could face Grace after. The more I try to ghost her, the more she held on tightly. It became awkward visiting their family house for I was not comfortable around them trusting and accepting me. Not for the fear that they would find out...just my conscience eating me up. I stayed away and made peace with my gross mistake. For over six to seven months. I did my penance and nothing happened with Abigail. I know I am in a better place now to make sane decisions about cheating. To give something back to Grace, I have vowed never to sleep with anyone till die. We know how cheating amongst married men is common these days. I no call Adekule Gold name oh!

Me and Grace are set to marry on the 17th of this April. The thing is...Abigail is her chief bridesmaid and preparation demands I see her most times. She still has a look in her eyes...dunno what to make of it. A look of blackmail? Of you could still hit it if you want? We have unfinished business kinda look? You should be paying a bride price for two look? I die inside every time I see Grace happy she again got us back to talking terms because of the wedding. Ignorance is truly bliss.

I have doubts going through with this wedding. Folks may laugh and say I chickened out because of the inflation and money, others might blame Grace. It may ruin Grace for ever. How do I do this knowing Abigail will always be family?

If this story is true Abigail was not naive she had it planned all along she had probably fantasized being with you.Stop thinking she is innocent this is the first step to liberating yourself from her.
it is better you open up to Grace for peace of mind and to avoid unnecessary blackmails later.

His face(Does he groom or is his facial hair looking unkempt). His body posture and how neat and smart he looks.A good body smell is a plus.

it is a variant of my big sis name love her so much

Denique:
Normally, I'd ignore mentions as this one but seeing your posts suggest you a different person than I thought.

My initial reaction to the guy in question was a joke which he interpreted wrongly.

He had said he called the number displayed by the victim and I rhetorically said to him "You didn't call him. You can't be that petty?!" before going further to air my view on the purported violence. Rather than tell me he didn't understand my statement, he resorted to calling me a who.re which has now been deleted by the mods.

Now, you don't expect me to sing the praises of one who took my banter out of context and started calling me names?

Denique don't bother with those two they've already made up their mind to troll you.

They should stop treating the symptoms Nigeria is messed up for an average Nigerian youth

Zico5:
And instead for Fulani jihadist called president to act fast on containing this dreaded disease Sunday Igboho is their problems. Nigeria is heading towards a journey of no returns with this senile in the oval office. I pray it's not too late before we understand it.

Is not only Oval office

saintneo:
Even the brain. Also, the people at the conviction. And the people that heard about the conviction.

I guess everybody should just die. Lol

Lol who will now remain na

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What happened to his neck

Hmm why was her belly like that

Ryan03:
fine face and no ass but I am actually after their plots, the way they display emotions, not childish at all.

I agree their plots are more complex unlike that of zeeworld that can act in one building throughout but zeeworld can fall my hand sha with their zooming of faces at that point I just can't defend them i still love gangaa tho

Ryan03:
still so crazy about them. I was introduced to it by a friend in 2011, till date, can't break free. I don't even want to be free, as long as it's not causing any damage to my everyday life. It's my relaxation medicine

I used to watch them before but I hardly finish any they are cool sha but their girls are just too skinny always looking like crayfish.

Ryan03:
not female, I don't watch bollywood, but you see those south Korean movies? Ah! Nor follow me drag remote o, I fit remove your teeth

Ah ah those ones done reign pass na

Their beautiful faces and fancy dresses for one they paint the life we all dream to have tho I don't have the strength nor time to follow all of them.

Eriokanmi:
Nice one OP. This is the kind of posts I want to be seeing on the front page and not posts like...

Should I marry her or not...?

How can I woo her, she's been eyeing me...

Advice needed, she doesn't pick my calls again, could she be cheating on me? Etc

For me, this us the best post I've seen this year in nairaland.

HAHAHAHAHA lol I can't stop laughing

Money2000:
Hello NLers... Sometimes ago, I was in dilemma to leave my loyal and faithful girlfriend...
Guess what? I finally caught her cheating. She was double dating for 3 months (dating myself and one other guy).

I have dated this babe for 4 years, until I caught her cheating. I was so angry that I ended the relationship.
I am in a new relationship anyway, but I can’t seem to find the friendship I had with my ex.

I sometimes feel I go extra miles to impress this new girl (not like she bills me, but I caught her one time receiving money gift from a guy, whom she claims that they are just friends, and that she would stop talking to him) although she appreciates every little thing I do. She has also been supportive.

My ex apologized and beg me to reconcile things with her, but I thought I love this new babe more than her... so I told her to move on. After like 2 months, she has finally moved on oh.

The problem now is that, I am beginning to miss my ex so much, the friendship we had, the mind blowing s*x and some other experience we had together, how we have helped each other grow in life financially (my ex was with me when I was broke and had nothing) P.S: my new gf is kind of boring in bed, her pre-intimacy game and s*x is nothing compared to my ex (I prefer my ex)...

These days, any small thing, I am dreaming of my ex, seeing her in my dream, which makes me very happy... but when I wake up to reality, I become sad because it’s just a dream.

I have taken this my new gf to family, and I’ve also met her family too...

Now, I am in a dilemma if to go beg my ex for reconciliation because I miss her so much... I think I have actually not moved on...

I need your advice pls

You are not yet emotionally mature for a relationship take a break and work on yourself.
So you dated her for 4years and you were busy enjoying the mind blowing sex without anything tangible and you expected her not to have an option haba.It is also clear you are not also serious with this new girl.What is your aim of dating sef? sex?

They better resume o so that all these small small boys that have tinted their hair can dye it back

Acecards:
All right, wishing you success in your endeavours.

Thanks and you too