Positivechick:
I expected him to hv me at heart . I want him to get busy n take care of me as a man should. I am not broke neither am I from a poor home.

Positivechick:
I should help him grow while he doesn’t take care of me , no matter how little. Am sorry I can’t do that .

Ayomidate post=89881586
This is another angle to the story.now am confused ,which one is to be believed .i think ,it's best to have the womans side of the story,the truth is most African women mis behave in Europe but the woman can be innocent in this matter at hand.so before we condemn d woman,we shud he's her side









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So this doctor is here again to tarnish the image of his wife. When will you rest Mr docki. You go from one blog to the other creating fake username to justify what you did to a loving and loyal woman. Why not tell them on this forum how you use to beat your wife black and blue in Nigeria. Why not tell them on this forum how the police has arrested you on various occasion in Nigeria for beating up your wife. Remember to also let people hailing you on this forum know how you have a case with the human rights commission back home over your senseless beatings and abuse. Good thing you moved her to the UK last year. How have you been treating her since she moved to the UK?

You don't allow her to work, the moment she picks a shift with her agency you run away from the house so she can stay with your three kids. Don't forget the first kid isn't hers but she cared for the kids and lied to immigration the kid is hers to bring the boy here. You kept using the boy against her in the UK to disrespect her and lie to the police. You put cameras all over the house because you were expecting her to beat the boy one day so you can file child abuse against her but God pass you.

Kindly tell this forum how your wife has not been able to have just £50 in her name since she moved to England because you don't allow her work. You don't even give her money for food rather keep the food in your own bedroom. Tell people here how you use to seize her mobile phone not to get in touch with her family and friends back home and you did not allow her to keep friends in England. You've broken her phone on two occasions in your Plymouth abode and she kept hanging on to the marriage to make it work.

Kindly explain to this forum how you login into her social media account to chat with her male friends by trying to be her to see if she is dating anyone. You are the same person using her email address opened on your laptop to contact social workers that everything is fine when she reported you. Have you also forgotten all the threats you made to her if she ever end your career here and how you will end her life. You were only lucky to make a first report against her which were all concocted lies and she was giving a retraining order. You can go ahead and get all the restraining order you want in the UK but very soon you will roast.

She kept quiet all these while to save your career as a medical doctor but don't worry as the evidences against you are quite overwhelming. You can keep running for the little time you have but just kiss your career goodbye. This lady don too suffer and it will soon be payback time. Everything you were able to get away with in Nigeria has been unravelled. This is England you know and not naija�

Keep writing your fantasy stories

crossfire47:

LMAO

lordatkinson07:
You will have to exercise enough patience.
Just be looking at her.
I hope her visa is not 2, 3 or 5 years visa.
Once the visa needs renewal, just take your time to send her back to where she belongs.
Kalas!

golddust6000 post=89879730

Even white men are getting smarter in Europe .You will a white man living with a lady ,they are not married but with one or more kids together .when they are tired of the relationship,everybody go their separate ways .this is done to avoid legal matter in divorce .this trend is comon in Europe ,single mothers .Things are changing and people are no longer seeing the need for marriage again .alot of our women come to Europe and want to live like Europeans .some are so lazy and don't like to work and expect the man to labour his life out.the funniest thing is they claim equaluty at home and even tell you that the man is not the head of the home .when it comes to paying bills ,they don't claim equality.Sorry to all the women especially the good one who don't display such attitude .I must say the case is also vice versa,I have seen some useless men also in Europe who maltreat their wife .Generally life abroad is different from naija and the game is different and you play it differently .all marriage are destined to break abroad but it takes a watchful couple and patience to keep your marriage .children are destined to be spoilt abroad except a watchful eyes and prayers






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if you marry white woman in Europe I know, the moment she have baby just forget about the marriage. I know thousands of case like this. Even European men don’t marry their women. If you want to live long as a man just stay single, you can live forever.

optimusprime2:


I agree with u,first of all,we need to know the country where the issues happens .it depends on the immigration law there.if it's Europe ,I think d woman does not know that she is under the man in terms of residency right.She is only allowed into the country because of the marriage and d ability of the man to provide for her.so she may be deported on some conditions if the marriage does not exist again.i am not so sure about this ,but I think it is so .secondly ,the woman does not know that coming to Europe does not give you automatic right to stay and people work to stay and survive .I know alot of woman are I'll adviced to take fast route by marrying a citizen or somebody with a permanent stay .I have seen women being exploited by men because they need papers to stay,some women even end up claiming asylum .on the long run,it's the woman that wil lose because life in Europe is not as easy as people think.in addition ,if children are involved ,it becomes extremely difficult for women to live as single parent depending on the age of the children.Most women want to live an independent life in Europe . to balance my advice ,some men are also guilty of some vices ,if d man is a Womanizer ,the woman may be tempted to pay back in return.so the man must check is own side too and make amends .Also I think ,if there is a divorce ,the man will not lose his right to stay or have permanent residence and cannot be deported because he is working and has worked for some years contributing to the pension scheme .also I think when a divorcr process is initiated,one year of re consideration is given to the couple to decide if they really want a divorce.i think the couple shud use this period to assess and see if they can make the marriage work .Generally I think women are short sighted and don't think about the future,the woman is ill-advised and has not sat down to know what she will lose .I don't know how long she has stayed since she came ,I think she risk being deported if the maraige fails .pls consult a lawyer,this are my own view





I understand you brov, however if you don't mind, which country happens to be the location of this predicament?

Because the solution to all this, is as easy as pie if you happen to reside in Europe, especially if they "your wife" are on dependent visas/residency status... You don't even need to send her to Nigeria for her to feel that cold bite of reality.

MasterJayJay post=8961679p2:




You are right ,it's all about weight lifting .if u are not used to carrying heavy weight,the body will react to such strain . Just like going to gym,u wil experience severe pain at first until the body gets used to it .Aside ,some of those bricklayer guys take alot of things before and after work.its not because the op was lazy but because his body was not used to such





Practice makes one perfect.

I am slim and used to carrying bag of rice from ground floor to 2nd floor.

Macon1212:





Almost all African girls are the same,almost same way of thinking .imagine some of the black African girls in Europe still have the mentality that when you take them out ,u must spend on them.these are girls born in Europe .something a white girl won't do .the funniest things is not that this girls don't have money but just feel that guys have to spend on them .however most African women in Europe are pure liabilities,only a minor few are good .

That's not true you are not in USA and you are saying what you don't know, even when both go for dinner sometimes each pay for his/her meal

Localemperor:
I did not start anything, I never knew what am getting my self into. She's inconsiderate, is that how we are suppose to live happily ever after?

amaniro:


Njgerians can be funny .To some people ,building a house is an achievement.Do u know if he is happy in Europe.i have seen people live very miserable life in Europe. When you go in illegally,u can't do anything ,u can't work without a permit. Then u can't even rent a house ,u become a slave to somebody who has document ,u work your life out and hope you find a white guy or woman to marry .then u marry finish,u become a slave to the white ,then end of divorcing .is this life ? And the people in Nigeria envy you for being a slave who has money.i met a Nigerian who is homeless on the street of Europe .he sleeps in night bus and always running from police to avoid deportation.Some end of getting the permit to stay but at the end dying due to some illness they contacted during the period of struggles .I am not saying some are not lucky but I don't think it's worth the risk.the scars will remain permanent . having peace of mind is what is most important .it's funny Nigerians count building houses as achievement,but in Europe ,alots of rich people don't even have as much houses as Nigerians have .They don't have numerous cars like our politicians have in their garage.i think this mentality is what causes stealing and corruption in Africa







Just building a house.. Getting married.. Having a daughter all for passing sahara desert? It's not worth it bro and there is nothing that can justify it. I rather be a taxi driver! There's something called "inner peace or inner satisfaction " trust me you won't have that again after going through this hellish and hectic journey, all to what end? I'm not advocating for mediocrity but people should be satisfied with the little they have.

CollinsWeGlobe:


You know I like your person for being sincere.People just think you come to Europe and everythin is green and good.they don't know some people are homeless and without job.imagine a graduate in Nigeria picking fruits in Europe to survive,a bank manager driving truck .what matters most in life is being at right place at right time . these people pretend to be happy in Europe but are not so,back at home,they were happy even without money.they find themself having to wake up so early to work,work so hard to pay bills and taxes ,sleep less and have multitudes of demand from home

I was jobless in Nigeria and jobless in Europe, bro. I just love to travel, if travelling is a job then I am working as a traveller.

Bro you can try Finland and Netherland during summer for picking jobs don't come to Greece except you want to move to another country from there.

Europe is very hard no work people are looking for a farm job to do they can't even get it.

After this pandemic, many countries around the world will open road for migrant I advise you get your passport ready, May God help us.

ChilamNk:


Nigerians don't know what living abroad means lol.they are deceived by some pictures.
Don't know the discrimination,don't know what black kids face in school ,don't know that in some Europeans countries,blacks can't work in some positions ,can't take good jobs but menial jobs.dont know how tedious some jobs are abroad.they don't know that the rich in Nigeria only send their children abroad and then bring them back home to work in great offices in nigeria.after all said ,some still make it in abroad not everybody abroad is doing fine,come in illegally and you will know suffering abroad is worse than Nigeria







God bless you bro for saying what is in resemblance with the truth.

Living abroad doesn't mean so much money, I believe there's still a lot of struggling to do.

But then again don't misquote me.

Unlike here in Nigeria, with focus and determination overtime you'll never be as poor as church rat.

I'm currently doing something even thou the pay isn't that much while waiting for service, just hope to do my NYSC soon and plan my way out. May God help our Nigerian youths who are working hard to succeed.

Blazebond:


In the early days of Nigeria ,no tribalism .everybody loved one another ,it was one Nigeria then ,over the years ,things have changed due to bad governance.in those days ,people cud live peacefully in the northern part but now no more .many of the old generations of those days all schooled together and played together .it is different for the present generation are made to hate one another.its now a divided country full of hatred and tribalism.









Questions you should ask yourself is,why is there ethnic and religious hatred in Nigeria? What stoked it? How can it be diffused?,as good as your advise up there is,it Ain't going to help Nigeria as a whole,ut can only help the individual,for once think about the collective rather than the singular,greed,paddy paddy,nepotism,tribal and religious bigotry is what made us a crippled nation today,shelve such thoughts and think how to amend the errors of the past,Nigerians ain't one in heart except when it comes to sport,have you asked yourself why? Ask yourself,let us all ask ourselves why,we can only stay as one and grow as one if we see ourselves as equals first before anything.we need a round table discussion,it is time to discuss the union called NIGERIA,paddy paddy will only lead to destruction.

ZombiePUNISHER:


My dear ,even jobs are sometimes based on recommendations,people recommended ngozi to obansanjo.if onyenma is capable ,there is nothing wrong if his friend kyari recommended him.At least he was a good man to some irrespective of whatever Nigerians believe about him.As you can see ,kyari is well learned,he may have principles that people don't like,he has done his work on earth and gone to his maker.so it's God who will judge him and not what people say .





Shut up there

Buhari government is a conglomeration of past present friends and family members

Is that how to run a government?...
Who in this administration is more experienced in the area of Economy and finance like Iweala

But tribalism and who knows who won't allow the nation progress
When this onyema was yapping rubbish about what went down in China regarding Nigerian citizens there... I knew he was handed a script by his employers..

We have never had it this bad

RiyaGoddess


Even in developed countries,government does not credit everybodys account.there is a demarcation between rich and poor .Government only support the poor financially .the problem in Nigeria is that no database to differentiate between the rich and poor.a developed country knows what each of its citizen does for living ,how much they earn,they know how many kids they have and even the adres of every citizen.is that applicable in africa.if government is to give out money to everybody ,how much is to be given to each person considering the population of Nigeria and the emergency situation on ground .how is money to be shared without some govt official symphoming money to their own families.The Nigerian case is complex.


post=88024050:
Nigeria govt are busy filtering the poor among 200 million population instead of crediting everybody’s account at this trying period.
I asked if relief materials will get to those living in lekki axis & someone said No because they are rich.
Come to Chevron and see those living in pako house. Go to some estates or streets in lekki Ajah, you will find lots of people living in pako and uncompleted houses.
Awon ole jati jati using environment or geographical location to embezzle donated funds.

abimcdssi:

I was shocked when I saw €31 on phone and TV monthly

omoharry:
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Nigerian roads are not designed for bicycles.it is a big risk riding bicycles on a busy road with lawless and reckless motorist and bikers .our road shud have bicycle path if this idea is to be appreciated .anyway ,it may be ok on a less busy road .









will be too dangerous for a kid her age to ride on the Lagos crazy road.she would have to contend with the rough Danfor drivers and other motorist that drive with recklessly abandon on our road. She can learn cycling around her neighborhood for ow but not fit to cycle independently on the busy crazy Lagos main roads.

mu2sa2:
A piece of good advice to convict maryam sanda: Lodge appeal against conviction at the Court of Appeal. At the sametime, and perhaps more importantly, make a passionate appeal to the president to exercise his powers of prerogative of mercy and commute the sentence to something like 1 or 2 months on account of her being a nursing mother. Just pure sentiments. She may also pray the president for outright pardon, which entitles her to immediate release.
Some people tag the court's decision "sharia judgement". Sharia makes a lot more sense to me in cases of conviction for the killing of a person: it's the family of the deceased who decide whether the convict should face the capital punishment or not. If forgiven by the family, the convict walks away. Alternatively, sharia allows the family to opt for monetary compensation and convict pays and goes free to live his life.
The sharia approach would be a better option for maryam sanda, if it were to be adopted because it's utterly senseless sending her to the gallows and leaving the innocent little child she had with her deceased husband without father and mother.

toyetade:


Did you say £100k.yoi mean £100k per month or per anum.if it's per anum,we are talking about 8000 pounds per month .how many Nigerians abroad fall into that category pls be honest with yourself.bring 10 Nigerians living abroad and let them tell you what they earn without lying.when you get one out of that 10,taxes will take 50%.the more you earn,the more tax you pay.then you have to pay for rent monthly and other things.my dear,everything is regulated abroad,the people with children in Oxford or Cambridge will not tell you that the children are on scholarship or they are paying thru some bank loans which is paid over some period of time.I don't think you know that the government monitor everything you do in europe,any illegal earning outside your normal earning is problem for you.evading tax is a crime .it's possible for you to see people earning £100k per year .how many are they and how long have they worked to earn such .there are some Nigerians who collect bank loan abroad and divert it to housing project in nigeria.this people wil never tell you they got it thru loan or several years of saving or a combination of husband and wife building.my dear ,not everything eye see ,man go talk .you can come over and see if you can earn £100k




Your story is one sided. Yes not everyone make it abroad, how about telling us about those who made it. Those Nigerian living in houses valued at more than £1m, those doing job and earning over £100k, those with children in Oxford or Cambridge Uni. Yet these are many as well in UK, US , Canada. Those ones wont make any noise but living a quiet life