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I agree with u.Looking at the time , trump posted the tweet ,it was mid night in Nigeria and day time in America.it was a secret operation.maybe we expect the naija govt to come early to say that we have authorized the usa to carry out strikes,and then the terrorist will know early and run away. As. We know America will like to take all the glory ,it was also trumps way of bragging about their strength as a powerful military. Of course , they wud have informed Nigeria before striking. So Nigeria can only release a press statement in the morning and not midnight.i don’t think govt agencies release press statement midnight in Nigeria . People shud not politicise this , the most important is that the evil terorist are being bombed . Trump takes all the glory as usual 😂😂😂

WizardOfNG:
I have made good and crytical analysis over the matter elsewhere. Check my immediate past posts and see for yourself.

The fact is that the USA , backed by her Congress, has formally set up a joint working force with Nigeria to combat Fulani terror in Nigeria.

What is the point, when we all know and accept this fact that such a joint work force exist, of revelling in self-deceit, especially after USA and Nigeria have publicly cited the latest anti-terror bombing with Nigeria to be a joint effort, claiming "Tinubu never knew about any strike" or "strike not a joint effort" ?

The sad thing is that those making these noise are not members of the joint anti-terror force USA and Nigeria, showing mutual respect for each other, went ahead to convene. Yet they know more than the official statement USA and Nigeria have put out.

There is something wrong with the soul of Nigeria and Nigerians that continuously leads to the situation we see today where too many Nigerians, than is healthy, find it easier to attack government over good development we all stated we wanted rather than just give credit where due and praise gains made.

This is why I am a die-hard regionalist. I know, with so much proof visible daily backing my stance, Nigerians will never love themselves enough to create a great nation that should be the pride of black people globally as the biggest black nation on Earth.

Simple bombing of terrorists, that should be welcomed by all Nigerians, we have turned into "Tinubu was ignored" and "USA acted alone" etc, etc because of nothing but hatred of our nation and fellow Nigerians.

Most of the things u see free are donated by well to do pple , some are not even Christians but to help less privileged. Some people and company donate to reduce their taxes.some shops also give out stuffs that people don’t buy and some foods that are some month to expiry.many pple don’t know this, there are lots of things behind every free things. Some churches abroad gets support even from govt.the system abroad is regulated, very Money is monitored,even money that churches get from members.that is why most black churches are not registered,cos they don’t want to account for what they get and how they spend money.The Nigeria environment is different and not all churches can support their members.

[My wife did same to me in Germany also last year .she lied that I assaulated her sexually.i was kicked out of the house ,case was investigated and then dismissed.i think it's a pattern among Nigeria women in Germany now .they have this Facebook group where they learn all those trucks on getting rid of their men.i pray your case also get dismissed .I think we live in a generation of very heatless and ruthless women without conscience author=Bestman241 post=135932000]Last week Friday I started begging my wife for us to have sex since it’s been over a year we had it. Anytime I requested for sex, it’s always one excuse on top another about how she’s lost drive for sex completely. Mind you, I’m not inconveniencing her at all as I do most of the house chores and foot 100% of the billings. The only thing I sometimes refused to do is send money to her parents due to heavy demands from her.

So, on Friday after heavy persuasion lasting into hours, she yielded in and we had sex. On Saturday, I received German police at my door asking about my wife. I called her out and before I knew what was happening, they started asking her if she’s safe which she told them she’s not. They took her to a makeshift apartment pending when they finish investigation on me. I have received a case file which I must respond to and present myself this morning (Monday).

I’ve never treated my wife badly even when it’s obvious I lost control of the home . She’s the one always insulting, always speaking to her male colleagues at late hours, not joining her to do anything at home.

Tired. I don’t know what to do from here[/quote]

The game abroad is different and Shud be played the way it's played there .in Nigeria ,the game is different.most ladies don't know this,it took me years to know this and I suffered for it .u had better call her and discuss with her.spend what is comfortable for you.women don't remember your sacrifice,if she divorce you ,your properties will be shared 50-50 abroad.so u got to be wise.no perfect rule for bills but do what you can do an let her complete d rest.if she can't complete it ,let it be.you must have savings ,if she leave you and u don't have savings ,you are finished.some naija women have no mercy ,she will even accuse you of not taking good care of the house despite you making a sacrifice

This is the kind of Nigeria we want
where people can stand up to elected officials to obey rules.Anyway this is possible because it was Isaac fayose.Can a common Nigeria stop a minister on the street

Supremos:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BWcRQzrCSw8?si=k-YgX7BUbs65fezv

so what happens if the man is not financially strong like the woman, the woman will just fold her hands and will not support .You dont need to tell a resaponsible woman to help in little things.If there is a monthly bill of 500k , what stops the woman from voluntarily paying 50k.if a man earns very well to carry 100% of the bills, nothing is wrong if he carries it 100% but what i see now are bunch of women who dont care if the man is able to carry all d load, all they after is for the man to carry all even if he will steal or do rituals for them to live comfortably.There is no fast rule,every family is differnt.A man and woman shud support each other,there is nothing wrong if a woman decides on her own to be responsible for some aspect of the bills as a way of support.

Wisegeek01:
Here's the opinion you wont see anywhere on the internet . .. and you are hearing it for the first time
Sit tight !!


The phrase what are you brining to the table .. has grossly been misunderstood, some men that even ask the question don't even know why they are asking the question, while on the other hand some women fly into a fit of rage or keep dodging the question, why they are angry they don't even know, its just a psychological impulse,

first of all it is not mandatory for the lady to actually bring finance into the mix but it helps so that should not be the centre of the question, so the men asking and referring to finance really shouldn't do that, focus on what she is supposed to bring

.. its not her job to bring finance, so if you are referring to that you are asking the wrong contextual question, a lady actually has what she should bring to the table, but sadly not a lot of ladies have taken their time to sit down and think about the question, because the are always offended or defensive, its just a simple question, that you need to understand, its not you mdfkn job to bring finance, that is what the man should bring to the table,

what the lady brings to the table .. ranges from
great values
Emotional Intelligence
Attention to Detail
Organizational Skills
Nurture and Care
Empathy and Compassion
Collaborative Spirit
Multitasking Abilities
Intuition
Social Skills
Diplomacy
Support

when you list these features and tell the man you posses these traits
now it's your turn to ask him
what does he bring to the table
...
he should have most of these below
finance
protection
security
Leadership
Decision-Making Skills
Stability
Emotional Support
Problem-Solving Abilities
Initiative
Adaptability
Sense of Humor
Integrity
Shared Responsibilities

marriage or relationship is team effort, not competition
the next time i hear that question in the wrong context I fit flog person

The annoying thing is that even the people who ordered for the files dont know what they will find there,it may be suprising that wht they expect to be inside the document will not be thereand they will have to look for another way. i read thru the website of the fbi and saw they can only release document that are releasable meaning what they want you to know
What You Will Receive After FBI Processing
After records responsive to your request have been processed, you will receive the following items:

Releasable documents
An FOIPA release letter citing the number of pages reviewed, released, and any exemptions (Title 5, U.S. Code, Section 552/552a) that were applied during the processing of your request. Please see the Freedom of Information Act and Privacy Act exemptions for more information. If there were any duplication and/or processing fees associated with your request, costs and payment instructions will be provided to you in the letter.

Questions about Identity History Summary Checks: The public information officer cannot answer questions about Identity History Summary Checks (commonly called rap sheets, background checks, police certificates, or criminal arrest records). All requests or questions related to Identity History Summary Checks should be directed to the FBI’s Criminal Justice Information Services (CJIS) Division in Clarksburg, West Virginia at (304) 625-2000.
Questions about Name Check Requests: The public information officer cannot answer questions about Name Check requests. Information regarding Name Check requests can be found on the FBI’s National Name Check Program webpage. Please note that the National Name Check Program only accepts requests submitted by other federal agencies; requests received from the general public will not be accepted.

yoruboid:
Same way they were getting an erection before the CSU deposition only for the CSU to not only confirm that he graduated from their school but they provided transcripts that prove he did exceptionally well

The headless and thoughtless mob ran around with false interpretations because they could not read and comprehend until the BBC broke it down. They think CSU is ABSU

The only thing any documents from the FBI can do is exonerate him like they earlier did when Obasanjo wrote them through Tafa Balogun

Their wailing is about to take another dimension and I believe the files will help Asiwaju’s case at the Supreme Court just like the BBC report has

I want OBIdients to sit and think for one second though I know they are a headless mob, how many times have you tried to bring this man down since this year alone? How many things have you hoped will bring him down. Not a single one has and no FBI file would.

You will continue to fail as you have before and after the elections

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i agree with you,if the man earns far well than the woman, he is capable of handling the whole bill but a situation in which the man is struggling to pay the bill and the woman sees him struggling.Its wickedness on the part of the woman to say the man must provide for the house.A responsible woman shud support even if its the least of all the bill,she can offer to pay that.The bills in the time of our fathers are not the same with the bills now.women need re-orientation, i think this ought to be settled before marriage

ednut1:
Ratio of income should determine who pays more. If a man earns 300k and the wife earns 100k. Ratio will be 3/4 for the man, 1/4 for the woman. Men should stop this nonsense sole provider stuff na him dey kill most men. By 45 you are looking 60. Taking care of your wife and kids plus extended family. Abeg o

First of all the yoruba guy who called was wrong and gave a false statement about persecuting the yorubas and secondly
i think Galloway has right to say what he said but white people are hyprocrites.You dont call anybody in Europe a thief and a crook when you dont have evidence.even if he is indeed a thief, you need prove it because you can be sued for that.He can help the Nigerian people by giving them proof that he has for all this allegations he ,made on TV.

Peterpaul96:
George Galloway Former Member of Parliament of the United Kingdom carpets a Pres. Tinubu fan who called into his show to warn him against talking about Tinubu.

Gbas Gbos on an International Level

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9RUP1HmsYhk?si=JdglQOREegaxKCvf

i think he has a right to say what he said but white people are hyprocrites.You dont call anybody in Europe a thief and a crook when you dont have evidence.even if he is indeed a thief, you need prove it because you can be sued for that.He can help the Nigerian people by giving them proof that he has for all this allegations he ,made on TV.

Ukpaka:
I’m Against Tinubu Because He’s a Bad Man, Crook and Forger — Ex-British MP, Galloway Replies Tinubu’s Kinsman
https://247ureports.com/2023/09/im-against-tinubu-because-hes-a-bad-man-crook-and-forger-ex-british-mp-galloway-replies-tinubus-kinsman/
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“I’m against him because he’s a crook; I’m against him because he’s a thief; I’m against him because he’s a bad man…

“I’m against Tinubu because he forged his election papers; I’m against him because INEC forged his victory in the election. Am I supposed to turn a blind eyes to all these things because he’s a Yoruba or because he’s a Muslim or because this may lead to Ill feeling to his people?” he rhetorically questioned.

if people keep supporting coup plotters, dont be suprise all over africa will be taken over by coup plotters.When we have military in power,who will remove them when they dont perform.Then every coup ploter will running to russian for support.Is African not really cursed?

loosecanon50:
You make a lot of sense. Well, I reckon we'll just have to sit back and watch as events unfold.

i think its necessary for ecowas and Au to do something, if they dont act,some other military guys will take over another country and it will become a norm since AU and ecowas cant do anything.If any country is tired of a governemnt, they should impeach the president or follow due process.

Throwback:
ECOWAS must do all to ensure that Democracy is restored to Niger.

tonytony208:
Not necessarily

. I think the institution of Marriage is abused in mordern day,Love no longer exist .What we see is women taking advantage of men and vice versa.A situation in which some women see the man as their Provider, some women now marry to secure a future and love is only there if the man has money.If he has none,love vanish.Before some folks will atack me, i said some women and also note some men also marry women for money and beauty, nt true love: We should not hide under christianity to decieve people :Most marriages are destroyed by men of God who preach wrong things on the altar, women no longer have respect for the men and vice versa,some men abuse their wife:personally, i think some people are never destined to be married but such people marry by force and end up destroying the institution of marriage.This people are those who never settle down in marriage , they keep jumping from one marriage to another , some women can never stay under a man because they are proud and its just their nature , no man can tame them, from this women , innocent men must run.Some men also can never keep one woman, the y cant keep a Home, no matter how goo dthe woman is, the man will scatter the Home and move to next woman, from such men run away, they are destroyers

These boys no wan come back o , everybody they their lane before they carry their matter come social media , now them they talk make everybody they their lane, i think they are confused

Jackossky:
Them say dem no dey come again. Laughing

i explained to a white guy about the situation in Nigeria.It goes like this, we both earn say 150k and i have 4 kids and you have 200 kids, whose kids will enjoy, Nigeria is so big , with a very large population, the resources cannot go round or rather our leaders dont know how to share the resources or mismanagement and looting coupled with other factor.Electricity has to be produced for this high population, Ghana(33,475,870) may be like Nigeria(218,541,212 )if they have same population. So , no basis of comparing Nigeria with any country in Africa ,Rwanda is 13,246,394 .I dont just get why people compare, its easy to manage a small business , its complex managing a big nation(business)

kokorokoman:
you still dont get it, despite the huge economy, what an average ghanaian cvil servant enjoys for free a nigerian millionaire cannot get it even with millions in nigeria.
you cannot see a fuel tanker on the road in abidjan, all the fuel tankers have a dedicated train line.
even benin republic have a dedicate lanes for motorcycles in most of their major roads.
travel and see, nigeria is a jungle

The issue is tht when woman becomes powrful and rich ,she begins to think what do I need a man for ,I am now equal to a man and can do almost anything a man can do,I can't receive orders from any man ,women love freedom.when they find themself abroad in a free society,they tell U that they are equal to a man,mostly in countries where they support women financially,this women kick out their husband,they buy vibrators for sex,they use young boys for pleasure,they don't want any man in their house telling them to cook or what to do.its just nature of women

oluwaseyi0:
Unfortunately most women can't have bigger status

There was one sent to school by the husband who now want to abandon the husband to travel out with the kids

The wife is even calling the man illiterate and forcing him to go to school at old age

Life is a mystery,I bet many pple will attack U for this.bt looking at it from different point of view,d police need to investigate what happened,he has committed a crime and then he has to face the law,no excuse,perhaps he may be given a less sentence based on witnesses testifying about his good works, possibly a life sentence.some things happen that we don't know why,when someone known to be nice and quiet suddenly does something like that,it cud be village pple ,the woman waited for 7yrs for anoda child , expecting twins and then died from a bullet,it may not be ordinary,the policeman must face the law.May we not be used by the devil to bring sorrow to people

Think9ja:
To be honest, if you read what happened, you'll understand why the police is saying this.

From what we heard, it was a stop and search operation. The police man was said to have asked them to pull over. As they were waiting for the car in front of them to move so that they could park well, the unfortunate incident happened.

I mean, there was no justification whatsoever for him to have done that. The first thing that came to my mind when I read that story was accidental discharge of firearm.

The story went further to say that the suspect also threatened to shoot the sister of the deceased. Asin, does that look ordinary? I think he panicked or something like that.

Honestly, I feel for both families. The family of the deceased for losing a loved one and the family of the suspect for the shame and misery he brought to them. Thirty three years of service all gone down the drain in split seconds. He's definitely going to spend a long time in prison.

I know we're angry and disappointed. But after all the emotions, let's sit down to properly analysed what might have happened. Let's temper Justice with mercy.

Would I have said this if she was my loved one? I don't know.

RIP to her and I pray the family gets the fortitude to bear this grate lost and I pray justice is served.

I am indifferent to naija politics,I see naija as a complex nation that need someone with iron hand to rule,someone who can command respect of a region,atiku has strong influence over the north and can control and influence that region, tinubu controls the south,obi controls the youth.we are talking about being able to manage the country,obi has been able to manage a state ,his influence lies within a state,Nigerians are desperate for a change and sees obi as only solution to the problem,the question is can he handle the cabal.Jonathan was intelligent and probably meant good for naija bt he was really weak as a president, surrounded by cabals and bad influence.so if obi wins ,he will need help of some people ,can he handle the boko haram Situation in North and if he can ,will they allow him.i try to analyze d whole situation,I don't have pvc and I only sit down to look who will win.so please ,let nobody insult me for my analysis

obembet:
That's why I see them as desperate party

I still day reason the matter,he be like say na back to same level naija go be,I don't like commenting on politics but what I see is that if obi wins,then lots of PDP and apc will decamp and LP becomes an upgraded version of apc PDP ( remix).same old politicians with new uniform.can only obi make a difference where U have same old apc and PDP politians working with him







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obembet:
I still don't understand Obidient ideology, all they want is peter obi to win, they don't care about the governorship, chairman, senators, Rep, all they want is obi to be president.


So let assume that PDP and APC are criminals party but they want them to keep govern the state and local government, even decide the faith of Nigeria in house of assembly.

Now let assume obi is a saint and wib as they want. All those criminal in PDP and APC will now decamp to LP.


LP will now become a ...

I have removed 3 so far ,the first one was about some years ago in naija.i went to the national hospital in Abuja ,they ask me to bring 70k,my insurance did not cover tooth and cudnt afford that ,I went to a dentist at maraba who use a chisel after giving me some pain relieve ,it was hell and I cudnt eat solid for some days.the second one was abroad ,which was like 4 years after I left naija.Then my insurance covered it,it was done by modern method ,no pain and I cud eat immediately,there was refill ,the 3rd was last month ,no pain and modern method.teeth removal is very expensive abroad and not all proces are covered by insurance,far cheaper in naija to remove than abroad ,removing cost as much as 300 euros and my insurance say I have to pay myself for next one

Chee59:
I have brittle teeth. And I've removed 4.
So, the 3rd time I was to get my tooth removed. The dentist who was supposed to pull it out gave me injections to numb the site. Very painful stuff. But I don't know if they expired or something, because they didn't numb the pain well before he started.
He started like play like play.
Pull pull,
The pain was mad. I was in agony.
I was shrieking so hard and for so long that one of the women waiting her turn outside had to come and check what's going on.
It was 45 minutes of torture.
Yes, I know how long it took.
Somehow somehow the pain hit a crescendo
My hand connected with the dentist's dick
Egbamiiii

if he cant stand to defend his dad , then one day,his neighbours wife or another outsider will do that infront of him because they know he cant do anything.Asking the mother to leave the house means he is taking authority of his father in that situation.Even the Heavens will be happy with him,His ancestors will be so proud of him and then his father will know he has a true son.Even the whole family will support him in this situation,Nigeria police self go support him move.I know some people will say its a taboo, the bible or no Holy Book support a woman slapping her husband , neither does my own tradition.If she curses him, then the fathers blessing will be upon him, so is the blessing of the ancestor and gods of our land.I wont hit the woman,just order them to leave the house and destroy all their properties if they dont as my first action, then follow with my action number two which they will regret .

Aguiyimba:
Guy, in this situation wisdom is profitable and two wrongs never make right remember these two people brought him into this world. In as much i don't support what his mum is doing dose not mean he should be rude to her there are better ways he can handle these.

It will continue to happen if he does not take action but when d mum knows he is around and what he is capable of doing.she won't try it again, unless the mum is the strongest in the house.He doesn't need to fight her,when the woman knows what he is capable of doing.she will not try raising her hand on their father in his presence .when she knows he cant do anything.it will happen second time,giving them quit notice and declare war if they don't go is the best option They come back after the my dad's family decide they are forgiven.That is acting as a man.If it happens the other way ,I will defend my mum.i have seen a young boy of 5 defending his mum,not to talk of a 20 year old who can't stand to defend his dad

Aguiyimba:
Guy, in this situation wisdom is profitable and two wrongs never make right remember these two people brought him into this world. In as much i don't support what his mum is doing dose not mean he should be rude to her there are better ways he can handle these.

If I were him,I will give her one day to pack and leave d house ,so also my sister.if I am the eldest male child,I will enforce it with the help of my dad's family.As I believe ,this guy benefits something from his mum which he is afraid to lose,age 20 to me is already an adult.if he can't defend his dad,he is weak.Boys defend their mum ,even a 7yr will defend his mum if someone attack her.i believe the mum is the one paying for the house and also bread winner.she sends him to school.in that case ,I will leave the house and never return .As a man ,I can huzzle legit .when at 20 ,U depend so much on your mum,U may end up like Ur dad.

Aguiyimba:
This advice is very wrong please don't take it

Nigeria is a sweet place to leave when u have money.When u are rich .I stay abroad and can tell you that categorically that you spend less in Nigeria and you enjoy the fresh air , weather , food , friendly people , less stress when you have money.Abroad,you have to worked really very hard to pay bills monthly.You pay rent monthly abroad, u can spend up to 700k euros or more buying a small house and with that amount, you know what kind of house you can buy in Nigeria.In Nigeria , you can set up any kind of business because you are a citizen ,abroad you can be restricted in some business because you are not or a native indigene.Abroad is a huzzling ground when you are young ,as you get older,home is the best.mypoint of view anyway

lessonotes:
What type of money? Is it Comfortable, Rich, Wealthy or Prosperous?
What location? Provided the flash points of insecurity are taken away; the K states in Nigeria, etc

Categories Below:

You're comfortable - NGN2,000,000 - NGN4,000,000 Monthly
- You can live in a beautiful duplex in Lagos, either yearly rent (magodo, ikeja, maryland etc or you built, so many locations in Lagos)
- With that amount, you can use any of these hospitals (Lagoon, EKO, Duchess, St. Ives for kids), etc.
- Get 24 Hrs Solar and Inverter in place. With NGN1,200,000 you can get a decent installation with 6 solar panels and 2 dry cell inverter batteries
- Get Starlink or live in Fibre One coverage areas in Lagos
- Buy a decent car, one payment if you want tokunbo or approach Stanbic IBTC, subscribe for one of their Money Funds, then use the Money fund to get a loan and buy a new car.
- Save 2 months salary and go for holiday in any of the topmost destinations - UK, US, Canada or Swiss

You're Rich - NGN5,000,000 - NGN10,000,000 Monthly
- You can live in a beautiful duplex in Lagos, either yearly rent, I have added Ikoyi and many others to this list
- With that amount, you can use any of these hospitals (Lagoon, EKO, Duchess, St. Ives for kids), etc.
- Get 24 Hrs Solar and Inverter in place. With NGN2,400,000 you can get a decent installation with 14 solar panels and 4 dry cell inverter batteries
- Get Starlink or live in Fibre One coverage areas in Lagos
- Ride a new car.

You're Wealthy - NGN15,000,000 - NGN35,000,000 Monthly
- You can live in a beautiful duplex in Lagos, you can have an estate
- With that amount, you can use any of these hospitals (Lagoon, EKO, Duchess, St. Ives for kids), etc.
- Get 24 Hrs Solar and Inverter in place. With NGN3,800,000 you can get a decent installation with 20 solar panels and 8 dry cell inverter batteries
- Get Starlink or live in Fibre One coverage areas in Lagos
- Ride any new car of your choice.
- Travel any of the topmost destinations - UK, US, Canada or Swiss

You're Prosperous - NGN35,000,000 > Above
- You can live in Bourdillon
- With that amount, you can use any of these hospitals (Lagoon, EKO, Duchess Ikeja, St. Ives for kids), etc.
- Get 24 Hrs Solar and Inverter in place. With NGN3,800,000 you can get a decent installation with 20 solar panels and 8 dry cell inverter batteries
- Get Starlink or live in Fibre One coverage areas in Lagos
- Ride any new car of your choice.
- Travel any of the topmost destinations - UK, US, Canada or Swiss or Buy citizenship with the exception of Swiss,Qatar or Kuwait

You're Flourishing - NGN...


Now this is just Lagos, other states in Nigeria is far far cheaper, I agree that security is an issue in Nigeria, this is due to the endemic poverty prevalent around. If you want to be contented with your wealth, you can setup a foundation and that will give you contentment.

Also in advanced countries, security is also an issue. France isn't safe, gun violence in the states, robberies in UK, maybe swiss is better.

Also you don't get to pay for Gas, TV and so much of what the advanced countries tax their citizens.

Yes, education,etc .I live abroad and I see what marriage is like in this world.People are redefining marriage to suite them.i don't believe women shud be slave to men but a good woman must be submissive



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brain54:
So in essence and conclusion you agree that although marriage is complex and a lot of things involved… a major cause divorce is the embrace of foreign influences and cultures.

I think it's luck when you have a submissive wife in this generation.when you apply the principle with a wrong woman,marriage 2ill never last .She will challenge U in every thing ,she will even tell you that she knows more than u

AZControversial:


It's like this man is in love with trouble!

You manage to have a submissive wife, something divine, in this present dispensation where marriages barely stand the test of time. Yet, on your own, without pressure, you're seeking a partner who should readily challenge you?

Not saying you should have a puppet for a wife.
Simply saying some problems are better handled when they come to you not when you go searching for them!!!

Generally,I think on future.there may not be marriages again,women are getting exposed and those things our mothers endured in marriage can't be endured by modern days women.More power is given to women now and some women abuse the process.some men also abuse power and authority.In general, humans change ,a man may be good and humble when he married ,something's happen along the line , challenges come and storm ,his behaviour changes.so also women do change.Marriage is so complex, wen you marry wrong person ,half of your life is gone

brain54:
No perfect principle. True.

Nothing is perfect. But to an extent the older generation of marriages did better and lasted longer than the present generation of marriages.

Which means they were doing something at least better.

In the end consider that most of those marriages were either forced or arranged marriages and you would understand that the older generation really handled marriage better than this generation. Compare to situations presently were people date/court for 10years and break up after 1 year of marriage. Even when they met voluntarily.


It tells me something is wrong! The oldies handled better. We as Africans should learn to modernize our ways and make them better rather than throw them out the window and embrace alien cultures. Especially when they do us no good.

If a man decides to follow this principle n he marries the wrong woman.Then he will understand that this principle does not work when you marry a wrong person.She will tell you that you don't have right over me and can't tell me what to do because am not your child.if U tell her let's do this thing ,she will say I don't gree,then U have apc and PDP in your home.i sometimes feel sorry for pple who follow counsellor ,there is no perfect principle ,every case and home is different

brain54:
You understand my point!

I agree � with U,this kind thing fit destroy home.your wife may not always agree with U,but someone must have last say.Most women now want men to do what they want or say.so it has to be balanced,when a woman say if U don't buy me this or do this,U can't have this.A woman can advise her husband,a good husband must consider his wife in decision making.If U marry the wrong woman,when a man will appreciate a humble woman.Even a child has right but must submit to the authority of the parent.a woman also has right but must be humble enough,so both party must be humble

brain54:
Na these kind of statements Dey make divorce rate go higher…




Our old African fathers had more successful marriages. Because a man is the head of the house and makes major decisions for the family.
Now we must copy everything from oyinbo! All these are oyibo ideas.

African men must remember their roots!

You should rather say that ,if it's playing for Africa that will make Ur son great ,let it be.the whole thing is about time and chance .there are lots of guy abroad nd so many half caste guys who never get the opportunity to play for foreign countries.so to get called up to play for any country,it's a privilege,even abroad getting some jobs is by connections ,they don't collect money or bribe because they can be easily detected.The system is designed to report frauds and illegal transaction.The African system is designed to encourage corruption.we need to work on our system

tuzle:
If I was abroad and my son becomes a footballer he won't play for Africa.

the man invested in her , sometimes there are problem when the wrong person invest in a person.Sometimes such people feel you owe them your life and will constantly remind you about what they did for you and sacrifice.These sometimes tie people down for life .I am not in the right position to judge this matter without full understanding of the situation or the other partners side but i will say its not so good when you are emotionally tired down to an abusive person.Men do change , so also women ,him changing could be as a result of the womans attitude and also seeing the woman as a threat or being too proud because of her achievement.Not everyone has the brain to go to school or the interest for school,so i feel he should not be pressured to go to school.I have seen cases where very ambitious women marry men with little or no ambition,this women are very smart and intelligent and always aspiring to be great, this women are tired down to men who are mediocre and little or no ambition.Such a relationship is quiet unfortunate and i such marriage are error to me ,it happens in both cases, men marrying women with no ambition, its much more worse when a woman of high ambition marry a man with no ambition, it affects the woman pyschologically and also the whole family sufferfinancially and in some areas.I am not so much in support of divorce but in such case and based on recent happening of marriage violence,a seperation may be necesary.I have tried to be balanced as a Guy and also knowing how women play victim in marriage,i would not totally condemn the man without hearing his own side.

udeh3:
I went through her narration, and I didn't see where the man lied. He was a civil servant. Many things are really wrong with Africans, and one is the lack of proper education. Do you know there's dignity in labour. Why pressuring him to go to school? In UK or US, a plumber makes more money than a medical doctor. Non is inferior to the other, only in Africa

This is somebody that didn't look back, but sacrificed for you to go to school without thinking it twice. He preferred her going to school than training himself. Can this lady do same if she was in this guy's shoe? You finished and dated a rich dude... If not love for money, why do that? You went back to him and married him this time. Money came, yes, through you! Did her altitude changed or not when the money came?

She attested that the guy never raised a hand on her even when they were suffering... Suffering should bring in anger and not the other way round. Now, he's beating you, so, what changed in you? What were the things you were saying to him now that made him hit you?

When I condemn hitting your partner, are you also free from bad behaviors?

its really dificult to take care of kids wihout the second partner abroad.People abroad work very hard to survive, even up t0 10 hours or more in Uk.The best bet is to leave the kids behind depending on their age or if u have relations abroad who canhelp lokk after them,no one will do that free.The kids can be collected if they are not well taken care of.Those ladies who bring their husband to Uk are very smart and know that they can t survive alone with young kids and paying monthly bills,not as if all of them love their husband so much ,Its to escape paying bills and also to be able to do small work to survive .The both party work and also share responsibility of kids.If the man really maltreat the lady, i may say tey should seperate but i am not an adviser in such matter.just my little contribution,which may not 100% right

ibechris:
Two kids abroad na hell Fire straight.

Where is ur nanny...is like u want the govt to collect your children for negligence.

Stay back and establish yourself...for divorce,I don't advice people on that at all.

I don't say yes and I don't say no also.

Good luck to u.