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onyinye2:
no because yal want a wife to treat you like your mother did. how when she doesnt love you in that way. a mom treats you in that way because she loves you like that. so how can you expect your wife to do the same??

Gibberish!!!
Your statement was pointless
That's what Toyin said just now, but in a polite way

onyinye2:
@ eldee
a love from a mother is different from the love from a wife.

Exactly . . .meaning your last statement was pointless init?

onyinye2:
IS ROMANCE JUST A WORD IN THE DICTIONARY FOR YOU PEOPLE? ? ?

Romance is a an emotional attachment you start building between yourselves
It's not some exothermic reaction that starts with a spark, it's a choice to make it work

TOH:
You are in severe denial so I'm not even responding to you anymore. If you want to deny alot of men subconsciously would actually like to MARRY their mothers in fact then perhaps you should read an actual book sometime. It's quite evident everywhere you go. But since you rather just argue with me, whatever

Glad you didnt disagree with the "overly spoiled and sexist" part however

I'll still not attempt to argue till you sleep and wake up
And I'm actually sure you weren't typing in your sleep

onyinye2:
my duties as a wife is to love my husband. all of him. yes i will care for him but im not going to treat him like a mother would.

And what do mothers do to their male and female kids?

onyinye2:
Prom? ? ? oka. who said a roadside mechanic can't be attractive??

You see . . . were you not the same advocate of 'connection' and 'soulmate'?
Now, u're only out for the 'physically attractive' one

You're even contradicting all your arguments

TOH:
Question is, is it to just LISTEN to her side or to actually CONSIDER IT. That's the True question

Exactly . . . put it into consideration, but the fact still remains you're the one to choose the final result

TOH:
My problem with them? Hmmm

You mean other than the fact that a good majority are so bloody spoilt and such momma boys and they think every woman should act like their mom who has spoilt them to death thus alot of them tend to be very sexist, other than that absolutely nothing

You know what, go to bed first
Then wake up tomorrow, and read this thing you posted here
See how it sounds to you then

C'mon, every woman should act like their mom?

onyinye2:
@eldee
well yeah

Aight . . . so how do you know if the person for you is not the roadside mechanic? Since you won't even give him a chance to know you?
How come the so called 'made for each other' dude is always the one you met at your erm prom or _{wherever teenagers like you go to} ?

onyinye2:
@ hannibal

of course physical comes first. unless you are a mind reader. but the girl you were talking about didnt really know you as a person. all she cared about was the physically. sounds superficial to me. after the physical you get to know the person outside their looks.

But do you agree that for you to date sumone, he must be PHYSICALLY attractive?

TOH:
You obviously don't know what you are talking about. Then again I don't take "only male in the family" guys seriously. They tend to spew alot of tripe. No offence.

How can any sane person be against a marriage where the couple discuss "MAJOR DECISION", Why even get married then if you're too much of an egomaniac to include the wife in the decision making process? And don't bother telling me that "she can say something but he doesnt have to listen". Some of you have severe issues with women. Get help, seriously.

_{Here we go again}
Did you skip the part where I mentioned 'opinions'?
Is that not being involved in decision making?
The final decision is what I was talking about, it's the result from listening to her side of it

And what's wiv you and 'only sons'?

Hannibal:
Come on, dude . . . . .I am not a ROBOT.
I just don't believe in all those "thunderbolt" myths that hit a guy when they see that special woman.

Blame the movies for the 'fireworks' and 'connection' myths
The funniest one is 'we were made for each other'  

onyinye2:
well i grew up in a household where my father treated my mom as his equal. sometimes he made the final decision and sometimes my mom did. and it worked out great for them.

That's the part they want you to see at your age
Infact, the major decisions are not being made in front of you

A perfect marriage is one in which the HEAD of the house makes the MAJOR decisions
Although, she's allowed to give her opinions, convince and all that . . . but they know who wears the trousers

onyinye2:
why do i even bother with you men some times. face the fact that women are equal and that is the end of the story. who wants a puppy to follow them every where?? no one. you rather have someone you can stand by your side.

The average nigeriand bloke wants the chick that'll stand by his side, but still knows who makes the final decision . . . c'est finis

davidylan:
Let them continue burying their heads in the sands of denial.

It always becomes apparent when you see the people wiv dates at the dinners

onyinye2:
@sisikill

how can we help them when they don't want to acknowledge it?? and plus to help them they gotta except the fact that they are among a new generation of women. that they can't see us as their inferior but their equal and right hand.

Apparently, that's the part of the gist we always see onyinye
New generation this, equal rights that

Since 90% of the other women don't agree wiv you, no one really cares anymore

davidylan:
cut the crap! Are you the only females alive? See me see cute chics passing by everyday and you think anyone is particularly concerned what you think?

True. However to pretend to be "happily single", not "bothered about marriage" and the rest is all a bold faced lie.

Happily Single? It's a myth jare

TOH:
If anything the other point just says too many people are in a rush and get too desperate which iornically contradicts the reason why this thread was even made in the first place.

Nah . . . it only gave the view of one person on the matter
That Funke sumn still believes the problem is just virtual

Which is the writer's way of mocking the psychological approach women put to it

The moment they start trying to rush into marriage, they automaticaly become spinsters
And that's one of the things adding to the problem

TOH:
Why should I? Am I the only that constantly screams "OMG HIGH DIVORCE RATE" in every bloody thread? If anyone should look for the Nigerian stats it's you.

Then leave me with my own sample space . . . I'll form my opinion from there

TOH:
eldeethe fact you are even supporting such an "article" says alot

This completely REEKS of insecure men. If you have a daughter would you not wish that she is successful.If they have freaking problem s, let them mmarry village chics. Abi ki lo de? They claim they want someone with intelligence and they can converse with YET they don't want her to be well-read?
and please don't give me that lame excuse of "well read chics act very arrogant and they look down on their husbands", even ajepakos are arrogant. If a person is naturally arrogant whether they are successful or not, they will still act that way.

The whole whining about successful women is so pathetic and embarrassing. Frankly I'm bored from hearing about it.

He listed nine points and the only one you could choose was the one on male insecurity?

If a person is naturally arrogant? So mean increase in financial status does not have anyfin to do with being pompous?

TOH:
What concerns a Nigerian article with American divorce. Face your backyard please.

That's the one we see on CNN
That's just a sample space that's available to help you form an opinion
Aight . . . provide me with Nigeria's marriage stats

kaydee:
What talent? Freestyle? or what other talent?

Apart from freestyle, he had the abilty to flow non-stop
It's no secret that Nas sometimes finds it hard to even control his breath
He sumtimes goes uneven in his lines

B.I.G was different, he could make a song out of anything
He made songs that could sell to both sides of the market, not just rapheads

In an interview, Nas said, Hiphop is dead because rappers are not being listened to.
Just imagine a Biggie with Nas' lyrics

onyinye2:
what do you mean?? you sound like men don't initiate divorce at all that is the women's fault.

Two-thirds of American divorces are initiated by women, others by various reasons like irresolvable differences from both parties
And a few by men . . . why will we initiate divorce when we lose the cash?

@TOH
Yeah right, and he got Empress Njamah, Sammie Okposo, Ofunneka and them lot to support him abi?

@Poster
That Fear Of Commitment point is not really our fault
Look at the rates of divorces initiated by women . . . abeg, it's safer to stay smart and enjoy

Hannibal:
Negative!!!!
The problem about young girls is their inexperience, naivety and petulant behaviour.
Don't equate that with an older woman that has been there done that. . . . . .They worship their men.
These type of breed knows the value/worth of a man unlike the chewing gum chics.

Freshly tapped ones are sometimes acidic. . . .
Review the options carefully.

Nah . . . I'll still prefer to marry smone that you'll take out and no one will ask 'Is that you mum?'
Freshly tapped? that's the fun na . . .

Hannibal:
@ Eldee,

All BIG needs is a roll of weed and a palatable song to flow with. . . . .
He had to be the greatest rapper in the 90s. . . . . . .His lyrics were golden.
The only flaws was he never had pre-recorded songs like 'Pac who wrote songs after songs while in Prison.
Biggie's lyrics were in hid fat-head. . . .Too bad he was buried with 'em.

Maybe that's where I lost Biggie, all he needed was weed
Why not books and magazines like other conscious rappers

Sumone used a phrase, 'As ignorant as a rapper'
What's the use of being able to hit 'em up if later sumone will point to sumn and say 'he said that just for the flows'

If Nas had Biggie's talent, rappers would be more powerful now

Why are you guys hating?
This is actually a well researched post
Swear down, if I saw a post like this anywhere, even against men, I'll actually read it before making comments


@poster
More of these abeg, we even need sumone like you on the music section

stillwater:
@eldee don't let him deceive you. A friendly advice here.

Place your cards fast . . . he's buying me to his side already

Hannibal:
In the bloke's shoes??
Nuthing keeps a man keen than sumptuous meals and ferocious love-making to cap it off at night.

I heard through the grapevine you like em over-ripe.
The older the wine, the better it tastes, eh?

Any young hun can do that abeg


You can take your old wine ooh
I'll stick to the freshly tapped one

doyin13:
I actually agree with Jackal for a change. . .

Biggie is perhaps the most naturally gifted rapper ever.

He could spin a yarn like no other, but he lacked depth and range in subject matter.

But what he did talk about, the guy talked about wellu wellu.

Good point, he could make a hit out of any topic
But he lacked the ability to expose you to a new side of it like The Nas' and Pacs

When Nas had to do a hook on Thugz Mansion (Godson) he just used a new concept by describing a young junkie
Explored every part of it, while BIG woulda bin rapping of how he'll make this, do that
That's where you know he(BIG) just bursts out everything without pre-planning it

Hannibal:
Her best is to be 110% commited to her man. . . . . .
Cooking great meals and be fabulous in bed. . . I don't have to write the details, do i?

Erm . . . aight, got the point there
But if you were in the bloke's shoes, would that part be decisive?

Hannibal:
Meanwhile, i have got a 36 year-old banker for you. . . . .You interested??

Come do you think I'm 75 or sumn?
Why can't you have her yourself

Hannibal:
No need to panic.
Some Nigerian men prefer matured women like you as their partners. . . .
Experience matter a lot for this type of men especially when they are single, childless and closer to 40.
Just do your best and GOD will handle the rest.

Hmmn . . . what's the best she can do?

Hannibal:
@ Eldee,

You don't say. . . . . .It's been THREE YEARS since Fab4 won something??
What about Lehmann??

Lehmann is not an Arsenal player abeg
Ask Dayokanu

stillwater:
Ah ah, is she a masquerade?

Hmmn, I'm just wondering who has the problem
Is it Nigerian men, or the spinster herself?

Hannibal:
Congratulations SPAIN!!!!!!!!!!!!!

You deserve to be the CHAMPIONS of Europe.

Where's DAYOKANU?
Anutha losing final for Michael Ballack. . . . . .
Managers should just forget about playing Ballack in any final because he has a rotten luck.
UCL 2002, World Cup 2002, Carling cup 2008, UCL 2008 and now Euro2008 . . . .He must be sick of silver medals.

I'm happy Fab4 finally won sumn since 2005
Haba, he's tried abeg

tosinadeda:
poster u be fool i swear, if person defraud u , no be to take am go court
since u av your documents.
abi u no go sch
tell me the essence of this stupid thread u created??
na nairaland wan collect your money back??_{thats even if there was any deal}



hissess loud

In the ideal Nigeria, that'll be the right option
But this is not the ideal country, the easiest thing to do is to alert the press, and the fanbase
And that's exactly what he's doing

noetic:
If a black man will make noise about your age, abeg go marry whiteman. just enjoy the blessings of marriage.

Nah . . .It's not everyday you see a Nick-Mariah type oooh

The same thing that made the 60mill Nigerian guys see and run away, are you sure the Yanks won't see that same thing?

I think it has become an Arsenal  thing to go about chatting bollocks to the press, talking to the camera like it's bedroom talk . . .
Now we've become Liverpool that hold their boardroom meetings on Sky Sports News

@loyika
Is it not that same Platini that was complaining that the EPL won the Champions League by buying players?
What's wrong with this dude sef?

And Arsene is ready to welcome his umpteenth Chelsea manager
Hope he manages to beat this one ooh

http://news.bbc.co.uk/sport1/hi/football/teams/a/arsenal/7474864.stm

And the war of words started already

Here's what he had to say on the timing of his appointment

Le Prof: What's for sure is that it didn't give anything to the team, so it could only take something away. It didn't help Portugal