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I can see some people here have been used by women, ndo, ini, pele oh! That does not mean you should stop being caring just be wise!

ok but what is nwa afor? Child of, ?

almondjoy:
Sorry,

There is nothing in any book of civilization that says a woman has to be able to cook. If she can't cook and is not willing to learn, she is still a human being. The man should get his arse in the kitchen and cook. I can cook but do not spend more than one weekend in the kitchen because I do not like to cook often. Not the end of the world, everyone has learned to adjust!!!!!!

I have lots of female cousins and friends who are married and can't even boil water. They still live and act like reasonable human beings. They pay people to cook or just plainly eat out most of the time. Cooking is not the end of the world in a relationship or marriage. What is the point of being a wonderful cook when you cannot even spell your name?

Bottom line, you cannot do it all. If you like to eat till your stomach covers your toes, then befriend or get married to a "buka queen"! If you find yourself a girlfriend or wife that cannot cook and is not interested in cooking, please let her be and learn to cook yourself or spend your life savings eating out.


This is 2008--stop complaining and deal with your handicaps!!!!!!

Correct lady!

lol. It is like everyone is from imo state that is where my boyfriend is from - well guess you are Igbo through and through, how is Enugu?

Honda Accord V6 = baby boy.

lol. ok oh if you say so! My mum is Igbo (Delta State) my dad is Akwa-Ibom. Which side are you from?

wany:
you guys should all keep your dirty trap shut,thats how you guys cost problem for others with thrash talk,do you no how many nigerians are in china doing businesses,the same restaurant you mention,go to beiljine and you will find lots of nigerians restaurants,which is flourishing very well,owned and run by 9jas.how about india,even vietnam go and see what the igbo brothers are doing there.if you have enough to go and invest or hustle out the cash in the asian region fine and ok.don't condem any one ok.one minute is an igbo man grabing all the contract the next minute an hausa man or a yoruba man,now the chinese,for heaven sake is a free world.provided you are financially capable you can do business any where ok.its a free world,please post better thread.and let me warn you,when you throw stone in a crowded market be mindful it could hit your very own.

@Wany - I hope you were not directing that at me it is too aggressive and rude for my liking, anyway like i said if you read my posts everyone should be allowed to go anywhere what i have problems with is Nigerians blocking other Nigerians from being successful because of tribe or pure greed but that is my problem, your own brothers and sisters can steal from you yet they will look in awe at someone who comes from another country and help them to invest like they are actually going to help the community more than the people they cheated would have. When I chinese person comes to do business it is called 'investing' when a nigerian does it is called 'showing-off'. Anyway i don't have a trap I have a mouth and it is very clean, ok? Your previous posts suggest you hate nigeria or have i misunderstood?

[quote author=Nihil-ce-M link=topic=102871.msg1811501#msg1811501 date=1199198878]@ ellj na wa o

A man who cares is the one that simply cares.

He is caring because he cares for your need.

A caring man is the type that isn't afraid to tell you when you are wrong, because he cares.[/quote]Yes I agree.

What is na wa o? Because the post was long, I have that habit - I like to be thorough so that people don't ask me twice or claim i am being vague! lol.

oziomatv:
Happy new year
am not 41 am 32 please
we need not to fight
greetings.

Happy New Year my Brother, I can't fight you (for what?) I am too upbeat about the future, I don't know why but I feel things are going to get better. You had age 41 in your profile before that is why I felt you were 41 but I guess many people put down any age there and you have corrected it.

HAPPY NEW YEAR NAIRALAND THIS YEAR IS OUR YEAR!

babasin:
People hardly get deported. we don't have same concept of LIFE as WEST. Africans are generally too friendly to outsiders.

Anyway, the WEST are jealous that chinese influence is growing in AFRICA, they are no longer alone to MILK africa dry.

Thats why EU also organised conference in Lisbon recently. But after 700yrs of EU-AFRICA relation, we are still as backward as ever.

It is time AFRICA embraces china but with OPEN eyes and clear measure of purpose.

if you are not a Nigerian, how come you know so much about the country?

lol. I am a Nigerian I was trying to speak broken QUOTE:"Am I not a Nigerian"!

Yeah I agree, I have no problem with Chinese people coming to Nigeria but it is just that soon Nigerians will be second class citizens in their own country also (like South Africa). But the problem is Nigerians will be to blame for that not any other race! I am gonna do my bit soon!

afroasian:
yes, ure right. When a lady can't cook, it looks to me that something is wrong, u know,

even if she was watching sitcoms when her mama was in the kitchen, shouldn't the thought of becoming a full-fledged woman arouse her interest in she, preparing herself for another stage in life?

I don't agree with that, there are many reasons why she may not be able to cook and that is not a big issue, the question is why she does not wan't to cook. Does she work from 7am until 10pm, is the guy cooking, do they have househelp, do they go to restaraunts? What is life like now and what is her reason for not wanting to cook. If she does nothing in the house and does not work then maybe she is just a lazy person/spoilt and he needs to take head and WAKKA.

Anyway if there is a good enough reason is it really worth leaving someone you love because they don't want to cook? Ask your friend that, there are many women who can cook a platter fit for an Obi but will cheat onb him, insult him, burn his money in other ways etc and say "afterall do I not feed you?" If she is working, loves him and treats him well in all other aspects maybe this is one 'fault' not worth fighting about? it depends on their own circumstances - a good woman is hard to find!

As God is my witness, before the end of this ney year I must enter Calabar! It is a crime if I don't! See my country oh!!!! lol.

toshmann:
I am impressed. Did the BBC/CNN see this? i guess not.

Promote something positive? Of course not, mind you bbc might put it on their website but broadcast it live it is not possible!

@top_kin - its ok, HAPPY NEW YEAR 2008! Why did you post twice?

iice:
[color=#9900ff]@Topic, one who cares [/color]

lol. that is the shortened version of my own. teehee!

Do people who are not black get deported from Nigeria at all?

Anyway I know the greatest villain can be found in Nigeria and every man, woman and child will know him/her globally.

But the greatest heroes can also be found in Nigeria and no one will acknowledge him/her. I know there are good people in Nigeria afterall am I not Nigerian! lol. Unfortunately they often are not the ones Nigerians from abroad find themselves dealing with, I don't know why. It is usually oyibo who find these good guys when it comes to doing business, perhaps the good guys in Nigeria don't trust Nigerians abroad - thats what I think anyway, they believe oyibo won't do 419 and is more organised and more efficient etc.

@funmise - i think he's a guy not a girl.

@top_kin - such is life you are entitled to regret but it won't really change anything, as a Christian I am sure you have fasted, if you can stop yourself from eating (a basic human need) even though you really want to then maybe that means you can stop yourself from having sex even though you really want to. That you tasted food before does not mean you can't fast so can the same apply to sex? Well anyway if you really are feeling this strongly maybe you should start looking for a wife, but you have to be careful not to marry just for sex it will only worsen your situation. It is kinda hard to advise on this one, good luck but don't be so hard on yourself you probably have the best solutions to your problem.

lol. There must be mixes by now. Anyway I am not really bothered whether they come or not afterall this land is God's land I believe everyone should be able to go where they want with no restrictions (unless they are bad people, lol). My own issue is why Nigerians will always help others more than their own - black people do it in general though.

looks like lekki, VI and abuja are heads above the rest so far. I should have added ikeja though, I thought i did at the time.

oziomatv:
young girl am not your age mate, hope the joke is over?
them mind your business.

it is only when you are chasing a fine girl you forget your age abi? You are 41 I am not your age mate to laugh with cos I am 23 but this 22 year old girl is your age mate to chase? lol. So far as they posted in on Nairaland it just as much my business as it is yours my friend or am i the only girl who came on this thread? plz oh, if I was advertising my own interests for an Igbo guy right now I am sure I would soon become you age mate! Bad belle because you missed your chance you want to take it out on me? Sorry Oh, it can't happen. i don't need to fight anyone for anything, and if I did I would not choose to fight with my people online for nonsense reasons!  

A caring man to ME OH (not every girl is the same sha). Is one who is concerned about his girls state of well being, physically, mentally and emotionally and at least attempts to do something to improve her wellbeing.

Emotionally - make her laugh or smile, make her feel attractive or loved by complimenting her and telling her you lover her and need her and why she is special, helping her spiritually, providing children, always ask her how she is feeling and actually want to know how she is feeling.

Physically - if she is tired help her out by taking on her chores, or not allowing her to carry heavy loads, or picking her up from work or uni in your car instead of allowing her to use okada or trek, massaging her back if it aches etc.

Mentally  - helping her fulfill her desires whether it is to be a businesswoman or career woman, go to school, do some research, help you with your business (so she does not feel bored or worthless), taking away the stress of financial burden too perhaps.

Anyway if you can do all of these things NO ONE can deny you are not caring. But you don't have to do all of these things to be a caring man, it depends on if she is able to do these things for herself or not and if she even considers these things to be issues on the first place. In fact to me, it is that he is genuinely trying that matters more, not even the succeeding. That's my definition of a caring man, there may be some omissions but I think you get the idea.

Here are some dictionary defintions too:
Adjective"Feeling and exhibiting concern and empathy for others"

Noun "a loving feeling"- love - a strong positive emotion of regard and affection; "warmheartedness"
To be concerned or interested: Once inside, we didn't care whether it rained or not.
To provide needed assistance or watchful supervision: cared for the wounded; caring for an aged relative at home.
To object or mind: If no one cares, I'll smoke.

To have a liking or attachment: didn't care for the movie.
To have a wish; be inclined: Would you care for another helping?

Sometimes a guy may care for the physical needs of a girl when she does not need it and needs the emotional or vice versa, you get what I mean. When she says you are not caring why don't you ask her what she means by that?

[quote author=Nihil-ce-M link=topic=101706.msg1809380#msg1809380 date=1199116169]Don't confuse sex with romance.
There is no woman who is not interested in romance but there are many who are not interested in sex.[/quote]exactly! Why do so many guys do that?

maybe she does not believe in sex before marriage but is attracted to you anyway. Just ask her straight up - HOW FAR ARE YOU WILLING TO GO? She might be okay with sex b4 marriage but maybe it is just going too fast - communication is key.

Quote from: oziomatv

Are you interested in the game?
but she said Guys not Girls.

See me see trouble oh! Please, don't add your lesbian fantasies to this thread, first I dont run that, second this is not that kind of thread!

Anyways I don't blame you, you missed out too! I am just amusing myself with the antics of guys.

@LadyDee - wow I was sure it was one of them you picked, in fact I am starting to suspect it was someone who did not even post on the forum maybe they IM'd you directly, lol. Correct Guy!!!

Why won't the illegal immigrants come to Nigeria? When I Nigerian comes to invest they are either thwarted by a different tribe for being from a different tribe or they are victims of theft and fraud, instead of encouraging our own we will be unhappy that they have money at all and try to hinder their progress. Mind you not all Nigerians are like this of course but the number that are, are too many. When one Chinese person enters they help more to enter and progress even if not directly they atleast give advice or appear hospitable. If I come to Nigeria now to start a business how many people here can swear hand on heart that if I left them in charge of collecting N100,000 from sales or service, they would not take some and claim they reduced the price of sale, or they increased the cost of a certain item, or they just straight up steal it? That is how Nigerian businesses fail before they even get to a level where they are good enough for the employees to be rewarded well enough. People will always think about the here and now and not build a future for themselves and their country. Anyway all that being said, I am going to come back soon to do my bit, it just annoys me that i know I will most certainly meet resistance, more so than these Chinese immigrants!!

lol. 10 pages! I missed it all, even the finale, so i am guessing it is either I-man, faketan or this grafikdon who won! Well good luck to you LadyDee!

David - sorry oh, you resembel Yoruba boy small though! lol. Ok now the rest of you can turn to Busta I guess, unless she has preference for Yoruba guys only! 

@LadyDee - let us know how it progresses ok?

omogenaija:
@ heyma oni yeye ni e

lol. I know what yeye means and I think that is all I need to know from that! - ur wicked.  

[quote author=I-man link=topic=102773.msg1807446#msg1807446 date=1199063535]Isiala Ngwa-My mum is from Abiriba [/quote]is abiriba in Isiala Ngwa?

This thread is too juicy for me to sleep!

heyma:
ell77 if I lose this girl I go attack you seriously

eh hehn. I did not even see this! So its me u are fighting with? Ok oh! But I think you have disqualified urself now and my boi David meanwhile has stepped up to the plate! Sorry oh! But na u cause am! lol!