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dayokanu: Bros can you name the 3 states controlled by APGA?

Let me try and help the OP,( Anambra, Imo and Ikengawo state )

@OP , hope i did a good job for you.

Siena: Sure, I agree. But the title says "Using A Woman As Your Best Man." Not how you would address the said woman. Which is exactly what I did, a female played the role of Best Man. I can't make it any clearer.

You sure say you no collect the g/friend or wife of that your proposed bestman so?

cikadile: Thank you ladies, and @engrtee for your concern...God bless
I will start by replying @engrtee...I do not think any one, would lie in the cyber world....there is anonymity, and a pool/collection of opinions, plus the jokes....I believe this one can get the best ideas/advice...that said, I was not telling tales

Replying @emiye, I gave the main reason that worried me...and I am sure he must have have his complaints, but that is his story to tell...but I broke up with him, cos of the reasons I gave...it does not mean other things were not wrong, this was the deciding factor for me..

Reading my post again, I will modify by saying that I didn't mean he called me once...he would call, in bits, call duration like 2 minutes on the average how are yous, then when you want to talk he hurries off...I complained and he did the 16 minutes...he told me he does not use more than 200 naira air time a day
Some days before I broke up with him, he called for 1 plus hours( by then there was major friction, and he called for us to settle)I was so sure it was the MTN bonus thing that he used, though he denied it

I cannot
ask a guy for things, that is me...but once, after discussing with my close friends, I told him my friends wanted to see my engagement present(s)...he complained about letting friends into our relationship.And still never got me anything...the truth is, my friends encouraged me to be with him, all of them...though they found it hard to keep supporting him as time went on

I said he is nice, true, but his stinginess and evasiveness affected me so much that my feelings for him lessened, I started avoiding his calls, and told him I was not into texts...(I mean he would text, "sending you roses from here with all my love"...I swear that when a guy's only gift to you was an imaginary bouquet of flowers, you could go crazy)...so I told him I am not a text person

I know I gave up too easily, and that I did not sit him down to tell him, he may have got it, or not if I had done so...but I cannot be responsible for an older than I am fiance's actions like that...I believe men should take charge, and act responsibly..I grew to find out I cannot submit to a man that gave me little cause/incentive to respect him

But, I know he is not a bad guy at all, far from it, but he is not the one for me
I know it will be a sort of scandal, the ensuing returning of the bride price, and the blame games that will come up, but my mind is made up

I think I am too out spoken....can be very stubborn too....just wanted to confess my own flaws too
But in that engagement, my biggest wrong doing was saying YES....


In fact people, I would not lie if you have further questions, I just need to talk here and free myself, cos I swear to you all, I feel so bad for him and his family...it must be embarrassing to say the least, having to explain why I am no longer there...my family too, I know they will worry about me getting married ever.....but what I feel the most is RELIEF
Thanks for reading my long posts

I think I did him him more good by breaking up, cos the way it was, I would have wedded him, and gone ahead to lose all respect for him, cheat on him, or run away from the marriage...and divorces are not easy...and nobody would get why I would divorce a faithful guy...

You have the final decision to make, BUT, communication is very important in a relationship !

Maturity is not necessarily age.

The vibes i get from your responses is that he is someone who makes positive Adjustments when you communicate

You see, that is the essence of courtship, correct the bigger flaws. The only problem would have been if he doesnt make those corrections after you complain.

You need to change that attitude of not communicating big things eating you up in your relationship

Why communicating small things might be nagging, big things are not.

If you wont make that change of attitude with the last relationship door you have closed, make sure you do that in the next door i pray will open for you. Cheers!

cikadile: Thanks Sis...as God is my witness, it happened...in fact I broke up with him on Sat(3 days ago)....and ran away from home, cos my family will soon hear, and the begging, etc will start...his brother called me tire on Sunday, I refused to pick...

I can't tell our family all these, only my friends know,, in fact I came here on Thursday last week, b4 telling him it's over on Saturday trying to open this as a thread, so that people would give me their advice, and opinions, as to whether it was normal or not...but I did not know, still don't know how to start a thread

I really need guys's views, and my fellow sisters', take on the matter

In as much as i can sense you are not materialistic from your earlier post.

I still feel you made a wrong decision, you never highlighted where you sat him down to COMMUNICATE clearly your displeasure,at least you have told us he is nice.

As difficult and annoying this might be, i would implore you to let him know his flaws.

We all have our area of immaturity, he might be assuming because he earns less than you do , he is not oblige to SHOW SOME LOVE through giving of gifts. Pardon him please and teach him like a baby.

If he doesnt show any element of change or remorse, make a final decision and stick by it

I hope Akeredolu wins , but at the end i fear it will look something like LP-55%, ACN-30% and PDP-15%

Hate or love them.

As painful as these truth might sound to many, they have brought more good than bad on lagos roads

LASTMA has been able to instill fear in to so many RECKLESS DRIVERS to behave themselves on the wheels.

I wonder what lagos traffic would look like, if you remove them in a month.


How do you arrest a reckless driver , refusing to be arrested in Lagos ? i think force is still needed, shamefully though.

those rat eating malawians !, they must be sick in the head

I think the ibibios are the 4th largest ethnic group in naija. no?

^^^ thanks for shedding more light, it seems many people have a very wrong notion about Ibadan, may be based on what they are fed with on nairaland. Ibadan has got so much potential,and presently operating way below its potential, there have been clamours for the creation of Ibadan state, which i don't support. With the right kind of governance, It should be the "next thing" after Lagos

For those asking "why Ibadan?"

Ibadan was the capital of the former western region, 11 local governments out of the 33 local governments in Oyo State are in Ibadan, the 2006 census puts Ibadan population at 2,338,659 out of 5,591,589 in Oyo state.

The 2006 population census of Ibadan was grossly "estimated". Ibadan's population should be in the neigbhorhood of 5 million. In short the opportunities in Ibadan is under exploited.

^^^ are you serious about that? as in offside rule to be abolished?

Football would become so useless and foolish without offside? some players will just park a bus at the opposing team "box 18"and wait for "manna".

I guess we started importing beans from Burkina faso some years back

This was the same question, we asked " Where is YARA'DUA ?" in 2009/2010.

I hope the answer at the end stays different sha.

She told you herself or you found out?

I think she was so sure of you, and wanted to have a taste of something different, at least before marriage.

Something tells me, you might have to forgive her and accept her back BUT, she must work really hard getting you back.

P.S. By the way, how far was the cheating, just emotional cheating or some season film of excapades.

There is no better description of inferiority complex than When you celebrate others failure to make yourself feel good.

Giving birth to more children than your income can take care of.

Imanuelle: U want sum1's landlord to like his facebook page?
NNPC doesn't have to publish anything..... Dey'll just have to call u.
U want sum1 to get kidnapped?

Your response is not clear.

Are you saying someone might get kidnapped, coz NNPC publish his/her name for employment on their website ?

If yes, then you are an i-d-i-o-t.

Rehab centre !

NNPC must not only operate a transparent recruitment process, they must show that they are transparent.

What stops NNPC from publishing a list of all those shortlisted for interview from each state and position in a simple PDF file on their site at least?

What stops NNPC from publishing a list of all those finally recruited[b](595)[/b] from each state and position in a simple PDF file on their site ?

Why did they refuse the request of one on the national dailies to show a breakdown of those employed by state, claiming they were not bound by FOI act?

Recruitment in to Federal Government agencies can not be 100% merit driven due to federal character and quota system as enshrined in the constitution, (All the 36 states and FCT must be represented) which is clear and ok to give everyone a sense of belonging, but there should be transparency.

@ OP, i think you are making a mountain out of a mole hill.
Initially,, when i saw the post heading i thought you stay under the same roof with your father in law OR a case of a father in law leaving village to constitute a nuisance staying longer than necessary in his son's house, but that is not the case here.

What if you had an annoying boss, roughly your age mate, who abuse you emotionally everyday (Monday- friday). 8am-5pm.?

There is more wrong with you than your father in law at the moment. It is cheap to manage your relationship with your father in law e.g A 2-3 minutes call, at least once in a fortnight will not hurt you. A once in a month visit of 2-3 hours will not kill you.

father in laws / Daughter in law relationships are one of the cheapest to handle.

Dont pray to have a monster in law in lieu of mother in law.

Great move, less talk more action.

fittty: Dis tin too long na

Are you that mentally lazy ?, Reading that 2-3 page speech should take within 5-7 minutes, if you were my son, i will whip your ass for saying that crap.

ehie: what are u try tring to sell with Obama's speech always coming up in the front page,

What has Obama ever done for Africa or Nigeria,

That was how people like u brainwashed everyone that Obama was the messiah,he was change,and the Yes we can brigade was everywhere.

Get one thing straight

1. The real people who run America will never do anything that will upset the status Quo.

2.Obama is just a stooge just like every other president and he is a front for the people who really control the government.If you think any leader controls a government think again,the real people behind the government of any nation are a few billionaires who will put some one there to protect their interest,just like the 1 percent.

3.Your long Post aka the speech are just word aimed at creating euphoria and sentiment,Nothing changes every thing remains the same

4.Blacks will still be the majority in death row,Blacks will still b e the majority on welfare,Racism will never stop in America or in in the World.

5.America will continue to exploit Africa and no matter what happens who wins they will continue to destabilize the middle east,Russia and China will always protect the underdogs i.e Iran and Syria.,Egypt will go from bad to worse,so will Iraq and Libya,American soldiers will still be KILLED AND MAIMED in Afghanistan and no government elected will have the balls to pull them out
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6.Goods will come from China and Jobs will go to China,and China will be the next superpower whether America LIKES IT OR NOT
6.Nigeria will remain backward and corrupt as long as it remains petty and tribalistic and dependent on oil,and FORIEGN GOVERNMENT LIKE IT THIS WAY AS THEY ARE LESS ACCOUNTABLE FOR THEIR ACTIONS..

7.Boko Haram will fizzle out soon but the damage they have caused will remain for a long time and the growth of Northern Nigeria will be stunted and will take decades to recover..

8.The game may have changed but the players still remain the same..

STOP POSTING THE FRIGGING SPEECH OVER AND OVER AGAIN

This post is filled with fallacies garnished with truth.

You choose to either STAND on the queque Or STAND in the bus.

The Nonso made a BIG mistake.

In professional ethics, Can a doctor inject his/her sick patient begging to be killed with lethal poison ?

I think the write up gives me a clearer perception about Ojukwu..., sounds plausible.

Why stop economic activity in four large markets for over 8 hours because the president is on a visit ?

A daft lie

One big reason why many refuse to marry early.

supoade: perhaps this..

Haaahhaa, No wonder, did she say 21 years?

She looks like a 41 years old mother of seven

Ihedinobi: What do you think?

In Nigeria lots of Todays leaders were Yesterdays leaders. Check the chairman of the ruling PDP. over 80 years

Infact the youth leader in PDP is over 60 years old.

The chairman of ANPP (ogbonnaya onu ) ( 70 years ) Chairman of ACN (Bisi Akande) over 70 years.

The OBJ.s Babangidas, Buharis are all example of yesterdays leaders still Todays leaders