₦airaland Forum

BananaPeel:
So, at this your old age, you don't know there are many happily married couple with husband earning less than 100k?

You are here looking for advice until he marries someone else and you will start going from one church to another for pastor to pray for you. It's people like you giving Pastors headache.

superCleanworks:
sales girl abi village beer parlour attendant wey old men dey pass around with 500 naira

fexyrich:
u are just a jobless fellow who has absolutely nothing to offer...So are u not supposed to be working as well to support him?? Or u want a man that will carry all ur financial problems without u contributing anything to the home...I reject a lady like u in my life ijn

Jusphilip:
N.a., your type them dey use do money ritual ..

Nasri100:
SPOT ON!!!

All those desire fanfares are all in the brain and the brain is a complex organ that can create new memories tomorrow. I won’t really bank on desires tbh.

Also observed Rich men are the enemy these days.

What I do know is those taunts about poor men sleeping with rich men wives are sort of baseless even though I used to laugh about it in the past.

As a man you should have no concern about what a woman does with her body cause in the end she’s going to do what she’s going do whether you like it or not.

Besides why is it always about Rich men wives sleeping with poor men that are good on bed.

What about the poor men wives sleeping with the rich boys that are 10 years younger than them. That happens a lot these days in Nigeria

Being rich and red pilled is the best combination for every man out there especially if you in the second poverty capital of the world.

Islandlady:
The devil lives in South Africa!

Those guys are wired.

heartofcity12:
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heartofcity12:
Hmmn, it’s why they say all roads lead to sex.
Cc: ubunja

ashewoboy:
You are throwing jabs at poor dudes too.

Being rich is the easiest way to get sex not genuine desire.

Bbsharon:
Not specifically a calendar routine for now but I run a travel company that do plan organized trips for individuals and groups. You can send a DM!

heartofcity12:
So bad, the bar is too low.

Sixfiguresmart:
I woke up today to the dollar at 710 naira. Talk about the track record of Tinubu.

Tinubu campaigned against 195 naira to a dollar 7 years ago but he is silent on 710 naira to a dollar. Can someone define hypocrisy and evil to me again?

This means that the average Nigerian can never own a house.

Nigeria is an importing country. So, all foreign goods will be almost impossible for the common man to purchase.

Who claimed the credit for giving us Buhari?

Who should claim the blame?

Talk about track record?

PerfectStranger:
Red pillers Dey give this one nightmare. No fear, simps still dey for you

Mryacks:
I can't lie...one of my major problem....but now my head don dey calm down

VeryWickedMan:
Broke girls with standards

Nefort:
Why do we keep hammering this issue every time? Let ladies look for rich men. Those who will find one should thank their stars. And those who wouldn't find one should go and buy their suicide rope. Every man on earth will not be rich.

pansophist:
Women may be hypergamous, but it is men that facilitate hypergamy. If hypergamy is a passenger, then men are the driver and the conductor. Women are integrators, not creators.

For example guys that have being with women from other countries always testify how non-materialistic many of the girls are. Your so-called yahoo boys would be ignored in countries like Norway or Slovakia because the men over there didn't use money to demonstrate love.

I remember going on a date with a Finnish girl and as a fresh-of-the-boat naija boy, I wanted to pay for the date as my duty but she refused. Like not refuse as a ploy to make me intensify my desire to pay, but proper refusal like no, don't pay for me.

She sees herself as a matured adult that is responsible for herself and not a burden to others. She believe its unfair to make me pay when she is not even my gf yet. And to not make me have a bad impression of her. She respect herself.

And its because the men in those countries didn't create an obsessively materialistic society. Look at our music, movies and culture, money is god. It is glorified and no matter how evil a person is, money will make him an angel. Nigerians worship money, it comes before morality.

Which makes the country a fertile soil for materialism and hypergamy to germinate and strong. The girl you're confessing love to has hundreds of men in the dm giving her free money just to appreciate her beauty. Buying her expensive phones, but the end result is that you damage alot of this Women. They become lazy and entitled.

Because when you train someone to know how to spend, flex, enjoy, without knowing the virtue of hardwork, you've created problems for yourself. I know so many guys that are broke as hell, but their younger sisters are all living large. How can you explain that?

These girls will go into their late 20's and 30's, creating stupid rules that a man earning 100k is not good enough for her. Would you blame her? She is reacting base on the prevalent culture of her society. Men creates the society, and women integrate into it. Let that sink on.

LikeAking:
P schs are not riping parents off. Private schools are very expensive all over the world. 9ja private sch are way way too cheap.

Private schools have been underpaying teachers for a long time cos they want the fees to be affordable at the expense of the teacher's.

How long will those teacher's earn less?

Nigerians don dey wise up.

Sales girls job: The girls are no longer interested.

Private sch teachers are wising up.

LikeAking:
Una go wise up soon.

How many rich people in the US n Europe are sending dia kids to private schools? Talkless of the poor and average over dia?

Why will Nigerians dispose public schools?

Nigerian parents are just working for school owners all in the name of good education.

Una go wise soon.

meobizy:
Lack of exercise. Prescribe yoga — the easiest form of activity — to the average person and see him/her view you as a demon. Nature is doing its thing. Humans get sexually mature at thirteen years old. Thirteen years old to thirty is long enough to birth and raise a child to full sexual maturity. Wetin human being dey find again after raising adult child?

luminouz:
Your conclusion is still skewed.

You stated that majority of happy singles are women and that's a lie. Not in this country where every vigil,convention and prayer meetings are filled with women looking for husbands. You think having a job and being able to cater for yourself equates fulfillment for women? Wrong. That's what feminism(both western and Nigerian versions) opines and that women don't need men, infact, that they are superior to men. And just like that, marriages started crashing because these women became deluded that being a homemaker and a wife are slavery markers. Nigerian women are quickly catching up on this trend and I have many divorced women, who are now past their sexual market value willing to do anything for a man to look their way.

Sis you say many men are on dating apps and that means they are unhappy? Are you living under a rock? Many men on those apps are married with children and don't mind looting some young pussies along the way o. You think being on dating apps on Nigerian context means you are unhappy? Wrong as fuq. Men will always be men and will subscribe to dating apps on Mars or Andromeda galaxy to sleep with whoever, despite being married on earth. I suspect you are under 30, so you still don't know much. If you are over 30, then, you are just living in denial and there is no cure for that, sadly.

Men are the problem, according to you, in your 5th and 6th paragraphs and I laugh loud at that. Men developed the tech and the world you are living but because they demand accountability from y'all and that you should try and respect them, then they are the issue? Did you ever thank them for all the good they are doing? I'm sure it was your dad that sent you to school and such but hey! Men are still bad. Sadly that's what the feminist world is propagating and whoever is behind that slogan must be a genius. All you need to do is to breakdown the family structure and chaos reigns, then you take over.

A word for you. It's only in this part of the world that a woman would have access to a good job and car and decides she has arrived and will misbehave. That shows what mindset you have when you can't be submissive to your husband because you now earn more than him. Shows you never love that mudafucker in the first place, which brings us to my conclusion. Women don't love Men, they only use them and since you can afford your basics now, this fact is popping up. But there is always the Wall called age, and women don't ever know how to live without attention and validation. It is never in your natures.

Maybe it will start with you sha

LadyD22:
It's a part of a life for us to grow and evolve , meet new people and go new places and do new things
Divorce rate will go down soon because more often than before, women do not want to settle down anymore , many more are in contract marriages just to have children with a partner

It's because of that fear of letting go that alot of men bleeped up the marriage system , "for better and for worse " doesn't apply to deliberate acts of sabotaging a perfectly strong union just to get some cookie , it was easy to get away with because alot of women were terrified of letting go after so long and everyone will guilt trip you oh
"After 20 years amaka , you really want to leave so all these small girls will come and eat the fruit of your labor"

But noone is addressing the party host who invited the unexpected guests to enter your home disrespecting the length and diminishing the value of your relationship because " it's in their nature , men are polygamous in nature"

I have more married men in my dms than single men and they post their wives regularly

My parents might die of a heart attack when they find out the first two daughters aren't planning on settling down at all , hopefully we have other siblings maybe they won't be like us

Zabiboy:

You wan dey serious with people wey neva wan dey serious ...
Even if you see one to settle down with, dont you think its because of your "resources" and nothing else.. Which leaves the door open to frivolous cheating , divorce, partenity fraud etc etc ..

How someone who went to a nigerian university and did NYSC can be so fired up about marriage is my 8th Wonder of the world

Omor i don type too much this night

heartofcity12:
If I’d go down the baby mama route, I’d rather do it with a rich girl or a rich man’s child, that way she saves me from most of the financial pressures and responsibilities associated with child support, that gives me more freedom to enjoy my singlehood, knowing my seed is in good hands and getting well taken care of, otherwise it’s not really worth it to me. You can’t be my baby mama and still be broke and expecting me to pay your bills in the guise of child support, hell no.

Zabiboy:
Thank you
The answer to the bolded is NO.
As far as i'm concerned, in this Naija, Genuine desire is pure B.S (except she's the one spending the money)..
Man... These girls would do anything for the money. Some are looking for what to eat, others are looking for where to sleep etc etc. So as a guy doing well for yourself, you'll see millions of greenlights, chosen signals, genuine desire, But ALL NA SCAM.. They are all there for the resources..

Whats the best way to filter them? tell them to invest. Not useless things like submission, cooking,cleaning,fertility, babies sex etc etc.. Invest Financially or something tangible ( maybe connections to boost your hustle as a guy) . something that they cant wake up one morning and leave behind ( which then goes down to not dealing with broke ladies).. Getting them to invest financially keeps the guy one foot ahead.

The question then is, How many can invest? Because this is where the game is won and lost

greypencils:
She should follow the advice of her compatriot up there. She should reject the man who still wants her at 41. The next one would come by age 50 earning less. Person wey no want get sense.

heartofcity12:
Paternity fraud cases in Nigeria is not about economic reasons alone, don’t buy into that report he said. A lot of these women marry men that are ready for marriage, not who they genuinely desire(love). What do you think would happen in such marriage? She goes out again to smash dudes that turn her on, Alpha fvcks, beta bucks play itself all over again.. We’ve seen a lot of rich men wives sleeping around, I’ve had encounters with different married women whose husbands take good care of them yet want to be fvcked, eventho I don’t engage in such acts. Just few women marry the guys they’re really into who also have good income, those are the ones not really having paternity fraud cases.

heartofcity12:
Paternity fraud cases in Nigeria is not about economic reasons alone, don’t buy into that report he said. A lot of these women marry men that are ready for marriage, not who they genuinely desire(love). What do you think would happen in such marriage? She goes out again to smash dudes that turn her on, Alpha fvcks, beta bucks play itself all over again.. We’ve seen a lot of rich men wives sleeping around, I’ve had encounters with different married women whose husbands take good care of them yet want to be fvcked, eventho I don’t engage in such acts. Just few women marry the guys they’re really into who also have good income, those are the ones not really having paternity fraud cases.

TinubuThief:

You can imagine the caliber of known thieves, thug's , criminals supporting the old man.
And these are the kind of people that he will appoint in key positions.

toujurs:
@ 1 bolded - Most girls are introverts, they don't know what to say, or how to keep a relationship going, that is why guys Bleep them any how. And eiher stays or leave. Have sex with her, once you do. She will begin to take the relationship serious.

@ 2 bolded - Most guys that use an iphone, and work so hard to buy a car too, do you really think they wanted to buy an iphone, or the expenses of visiting mechanics, , it's because it attracts girls, imagine asking for a girl phone number with either an itel or an iphone, or to give her a ride. the difference in her character is clear. It's sure knacking or you. You better hustle o! Love from a woman is based on conditions. Unlike men to women.

@ 3 - Get used to a woman, being interested in you, for what you have, and decide if she is someone you can manage with, if you can't drop her, and get another lady, you have what women wants already.

@ 4 - Learn to show off a little, it's necessary. If you want to get what you want.