₦airaland Forum

Raskimonojendor:
hmm... They did respond

See what south Africans are commenting on?

Hmmmmmm
So much for Pan-Africanism

DonBenny77:
I won't marry a lady that can't afford her body cream.
Most ladies do contribution without earnings from any job.
Pure magic!

pansophist:
Exactly for this reason, I wrote earlier that one has to be eligible to love. Most people don't see love in the angle of self-qualification.

A prostitute can't just wake up one day and say she loves Peter Obi, even if it's true, her love is useless. A prostitute can't be the first lady of Nigeria.

Most people think because they declared their love (which is feelings by the way), then they actually love, but when the true test of their love shows up, they fall flat without a fight.

If you love someone, you must be useful to them. You must have the virtues of tolerance, hard work, faithfulness, respect, forgiveness, etc. Because your beloved is imperfect, you have to be easy on them.

You have to apply the golden rule (Mathew 7.12) as the foundation of your relationship. The golden rule which is that you must do unto others, how you want them to do unto you.

You can not just shout that you love someone and think you have no duty towards them, to repair yourself, and make their life better because you love them.

But for some people, because they love you, they become a burden on you. They instantly turn to an orphan and expect VIP treatment, just because they declared by words, not actions that they love you.

She begins to make her beloved feel like he is not leveling up because the other guy she loves actually bought her the latest gadgets. You said you loved him but made him suffer financially to keep up with her ever-changing goalpost of material greed, behavioral disorder, and rotten character.

That is not love, it's parasitism dressed up as love. If anybody loves you in such a way, flee, it's a very useless love, you don't need it.

You are right bro.
Love is nothing without actions and real Love is real hard work sef. A lot of sacrifice etc

Eazie351:
I wish I knew early that once distance sets in, your relationship is 70% compromised.

Now, this statement is 1 reason I don't take anything Love serious anymore.

What kind of Love will restrict my goals?
Most times, what we need to survive and become better in life is not always in our immediate environment.
You will have to go school in another state to better yourself knowledge wise, get a job in another state like Lagos or Abuja or PH or doing biz that will take you away from your immediate environment for days if not months and the so called Love a thing can barely withstand distance.
What kind of rubbish Love is that? Only a gullible will take Love serious.
Most Nigerians japa because sometimes, you just have to leave your immediate environment to get a better life.
I been away from my family since late July just to put food on my table yet a useless Love can barely float while experiencing distance.
Many gfs are been banged by besties in school because bf is working in far away Lagos.
Many messing themselves up in NYSC camp just for a few months distance from someone you claim to Love.
Many guys who japad gfs are been banged here in Nigeria while the guy is hustling 2/3 jobs so as to bring the woman he thinks he Loves.
Bro forget Love and go anywhere in the world to better yourself.
You will never regret it because when you are doing better, you will never be short of women.
We are always scared of losing our gfs during our broke state because we are afraid we won't get a better deal if we lose them. A man will be short of quality options when he is down and so become clingy and also taking bulshits and rubbish from their so called gfs but when you are opportuned to grow, you will look back and laugh at yourself and foolishness for trying to keep your Ex.
All the crying, begging and regular subtle insults you receive all just to make sure the relationship doesn't break. All the efforts you were putting just to make sure the relationship doesn't go south while the other partner doesn't care where it goes.
Adding values to yourself as a man is not to be debated.
It is a Must and non-negotiable else your eyes go see weeeeeeen

rottennaija:
Russia has eliminated all the Ukrainian Nazis that NATO/US had trained from 2014-2022. 😭

Bad, bad Putin!

At Chatham House conference, former US military leaders discussed various options for Ukraine.

This included accepting China’s peace proposal.

However, a majority still fantasize about somehow winning by sending more weapons or even a “foreign legion” of mercenaries.

Shows you the power of groupthink in USA.

Source:

Why Ukraine may embrace China’s peace plan

Recent private conference of top US foreign policy experts saw Ukraine at risk of losing a war of attrition despite West’s best efforts

Chaii

Omoh.... Plenty people don die ooo

inoki247:
Lol be like say Nigeria have the highest number of Mad people...

Zonefree:
Who are these people?

Antivirus92:
OGUN STATE

They're even increasing IGR inside pants!

Iya ee

Axis313:
Op is just acting immature.
No man is perfect neither any woman is.
Op should just contact a robotic engineer to build her desired perfect man for her,100 % perfection.
All it has to do is to obey all the op's command, sit down,get up,go and cook for me,let's go to church,e go follow her,and when she is in the mood,follow me to the other room,and her desired will be done,and everything else,and the op will be fulfilled and both of them will live happily ever after.

illicit:
Another thing u have attitudinal problem


You can never stay with any man even if it's Jesus

👌

Gadafii:
The bottom line is that as a man you must have multiple options in women, income, entertainment, life etc

Women are naturally interested in men who are desired or have multiple women around them, but being a man is never getting caught in this web

One thing I never did was attract girls with money, I am as plain, genuine and real as iam , you either accept me the way I am or you gdf, there are 1001 options out there

Mostly importantly, make money to upgrade yourself as a man,(work out, learn skills, travel, socialize, go to concerts and shows, visit countries etc)

You know, your last paragraph dey always burst my brain.
You are someone that has taste and good view about life.
I think we share the same mentality.
People are so caged to their local relationship with closeby ladies while they miss out on the bigger picture.
Go to cinemas, register with a good big gym center with a pool, go on regular vacations even if it is within Nigeria. There are groups doing that and have met many ladies through these gatherings.etc
Life is very sweet but many just limit it to just getting an apartment, buying a small car and then going on banging spree with virtually anything they sight with skirts.
Life is far more than than if you know your onions.

seanwilliam:
Nazgul, emmadobet, always kill the urge to qoute that mongoose and pheromone moniker on sensitive topics like this abeg . E Dey vex me die. Dem no different from kobojunkie

Abyounghammed:
Babami, them no dey shalaye for people wey their heart beat dey run 20hz, them no dey get patient in anything, na wuruwuru to the answer them like, have u wonder why an oloshi dey get hope of marriage, na cuz of say after every every she don believe say one pastor or baba go give her juju to get anything she want, she no even care of the repercussions

pocohantas:
It would never make sense to me. That is how one Nlder's wife was hustling for a low paying job, all because she wants to be working class. By the time she starts that job, she won't be able to save or even contribute to the home after deducting transport and other overhead expenses. She would still come back tired. Unable to tend to the kids, let alone the husband's sexual needs.

I recommend a source of income for women, but it doesn't have to be this crazy 9to5 schedule. She can have a skill and create a workspace at home. Anything to keep her mind busy and have her interract with people. It helps clear the mind and support the home/her immediate family.

Yes, you are right.
I guess it is the high poverty rate in Nigeria reason why many men are requesting for a working class woman.
Tbh, I was once in that boat too supporting women working when I was still struggling financially but as things improved, I tend to appreciate my wife been at home tending to the family.
She is always researching foods and snacks to make for us, different designs of clothes to show the tailor to sew for us, she is more relaxed and not stressed and she has all her time for me and the kids.
Honestly, I am really enjoying it and appreciate it and I give her more than enough for the house so that she can have a reasonable amount for herself, her parent and still save or buy things she needs for herself and the kids without asking me or waiting for me and the family has been running far more smoothly now.
I will always recommend it for men if they have the resources to do it.

jackie111:
Adesuwa I know you have tried for him. We are all sorry on his behalf. Forgive and forget.

We need one more help from you. Help our boy to get World Cup or at least Ballon D'or.

wonlasewonimi:
There are no rich parents in igboelerin grammar school.

Chaii

Nazgul:
Biko allow him bask in his fantasy.

Country hard. Even if it's in the dream he's nacking them, as long as it would ease depression, it's a welcome development. I'm tired of reading suicide stories.

Nazgul:
True, a house wife isn't lazy. Infact she works harder than husband. The only difference is that he's efforts is rewarded with wages, while that of the woman isn't.

But for me, I'm totally against any woman who chooses to become a full time house wife in her husband's house. But should discuss what she'll be doing when they get married.

I'm still single, yet I know how much I spend on bills alone. In 2020 a token recharge of 5k on your prepaid meter would see you through the month. Today with 20k the highest it would take you is 3 weeks. Should I add fuel (gen and car) data, gotv (it's now N7,500)...

This night I bought bread to drink with tea, the last time I bought that particular brand of bread, it was N700. Now it's 1k.

Our ever rising inflation would frustrate any man who chooses this path. Cos when the bills start rolling in, he'll take out his frustration on the innocent hard working woman.

Agreed, reason why the traditional setting of a man working and a woman taking care of the house is best suited for the upper middle class and the wealthy. Not for the lower class and poor but then, I still see it as the best family setting just that finance is twerking the family system now.

mamapidgin:
ogbomosho oyo state

How much

Gerrard59:
While I agree with the rest, the bold is quite tricky. I understand the place of both couples, but a woman who is a sit-at-home mom is adding greater value than just being described as a jobless wife. Obviously, the woman should be educated, both schooled and philosophical to be a proper SAHM. However, in a case where the man can afford to take care of the family, there is nothing wrong with having a wife who stays at home taking care of the children and housefront. Taking care of children is a job in itself, at least for your lineage and society. Properly raised children contribute positively to the wider society.

The global economy has distorted that system and one of its major results is low birth rates because women joined the workforce. This is not to say women joining the workforce is bad, but when both couples are working and abdicated the job of raising children to daycare schools, then even the money both are working goes to daycare institutions. It is for this reason Xi of China wants Chinese women to reduce working hours and stay at home so that birth rates rise. As for daycare schools, one of the reasons immigrant families in developed countries have higher birth rates is because their parents step in to assist in taking of their grandchildren, aka Omugwo.

Again, nothing wrong with a wife who works, but nothing wrong as well with a woman who stays at home raising the children and managing the homefront. Each marriage is unique.

Exactly
I don't know the reason for the high rate of attack at housewives as if they are lazy.
Many men don't even appreciate the efforts these women are putting at home to make the family run smoothly.
You meet your food at the regular time - morning, afternoon and evening likewise your kids. She takes them to school and pick them up, washes clothes, mop and sweeps the house etc and we just think these jobs are not work.
How many men can even do all these? Immediately most men lose their wives, they quickly rush to remarry so as to transfer that burden to another woman.
They hardly wait long enough to cook their own foods and kids, bath them, take them to school and pick up etc yet we don't appreciate the women doing these silent jobs

guobe:
That means it is a mans world and he can do what pleases him

A rich man's world.
Let's be guided please

UncleKoboko:
And later, a wasted WHORÉ like that will be hoping to settle down with a loyal and committed God fearing husband that will be loyal to her alone

Some that has been passed around by numerous men, single and married.

THERE'S NOTHING I DETEST IN THIS LIFE LIKE A GIRL WITH MULTIPLE BODYCOUNT.

You better get used to it else you may struggle to get a woman to marry.
The average graduate lady out there after service has at least 2 digit body count

Magnoliaa:
Maybe it's 'cause it's late, and that's why I am find it hard to articulate my thoughts on the post.

Like, money is not the root issue. If somebody will lose respect for you without money, then what they're respecting is the money, not you as a person.

Yeah, true, while money is an important part of marriage to be considered, what is the point of a marriage if it's going to break down over over financial problems?

It may not break down but will stretch the marriage probably to the limit
Argument, quarrels, insults start springing up when the man can't easily renew his rent and landlord embarrassing the family at the top of his voice regularly. School sending kids back home for non payment, hubby not able to raise any meaningful money during family events like burial of parent, wedding of siblings etc.
You said many women are loyal and respectful to their hubbys but do you know what is going on inside? Privately? What the man is facing?
I am a man and I know how close friends and families with respectful wives call me privately and share what they are passing through in their homes when soliciting for financial help.
Believe me, alot is happening behind the curtain

Nonexisting1:
See pastor looking more gangster than snoop dogg and you say make I still dey go church. Mtchew

😁😁😁

Supremos:
Cubana Chief Priest didn't miss out in celebrating him

Chaii

This cubana get bad mouth oo

Nazgul:
This post was triggered by a friend of mine who is passing through hell in his 3 year old marriage. His wife made him believe that money isn't everything and he ignorantly got married to her in his indigent state. She stopped respecting him a long time ago. As I'm typing this, she has left him with their 1 year old daughter in Lagos and relocated back to Uyo.

So let's talk about money in courtship, Because you will need plenty of it in marriage.

Those who are of the opinion that all that matters in marriage is love not money are not serious! In fact I'd like to term them as jokers. Why? Because love won't pay your bills and put food on the table.

Women naturally respect financially buyouant men. Or in simpler terms, men who have money.

So don't let any woman manipulate you into marriage when you are not financially ready simply because age is fighting against her, because if you succumb to her pressure and get married to her, you are in for a Shocker

Women can sweet tongue you into doing what you don't want to do and blame you for being stupid to listen to her in the first place.

Before any lady corner you and tie you down in forced matrimony, ask the following questions...

1. How much do you both earn monthly? How much will you require to run your marriage monthly? Take inflation into consideration, and calculate how much you will spend on rent, feeding, utility bills, transportation, medicals among others.

2. Who pays the running bills monthly? The husband, the wife or both of you? At what percentage? 50/50, 60/40, 70/30? Discuss it with your Partner.

3. How long will you both work as salary earners? Any plan to invest in other businesses? What does it take? How much of your fiance will it take? What type of sacrifice will it require?

4. Will you engage in monthly savings? If yes, how much percentage of your salaries would go into savings?

5. Will you be operating a Joint or Separate accounts? Discuss this with your partner.

6. If you are running a business; How much does it generate monthly? Would she join you in running it when you get married? If yes how best can you two grow your monthly income?

7. What are your yearly Financial goals? How do you both plan to achieve them?

8. Do you believe in paying tithe, first fruits, offerings and sowing special seeds? You need to discuss this with your partner, so you can both plan ahead whenever the need for such financial commitment arises.

9. What percentage of your income will be going to your parents or siblings monthly? Discuss this with your partner. It's very important.

10. When CHILDREN start coming, how MUCH will you need to take good care of them monthly? Would you want them to attend public school or private school, are there affordable Private schools in your neighborhood where you can enroll them, what percentage of your earnings or savings would they require monthly to see them through nursery and primary school. Would government secondary school be better for them or private? Would public universities be better or private or abroad? These are things you must iron out with your partner before getting married.

Plan your FINANCES before getting married.

Set up your self for Financial growth not Financial failure in marriage.

Most broken marriages occur due to lack of finances or poor financial planning from one or both couples.

cc nlfpmod

Nice write up Nazgul

Have said it before and I will still say it again, have seen Love failed more marriages and relationship than money will ever do

ednut1:
CCTV is there. If he was drunk he wont take his friends there to show them where it happened. CCTV will also show if he is drunk or not

Okay

ednut1:
Many of these men were raping women or taking advantage of women in Nigeria. And still continued same in UK. A drunk woman in a club cannot give consent. Serves the idiot right 🤮

And what if we are both drunk?
Why must I be convicted while she is not?

Or does alcohol works different in a man's system than woman?

smokinloud:
Ile-ife shrine dey there una no carry pilgrimage go there. God don catch una. Una so called holy land don dey reject una and war dey happen for the other one.
Una go learn by force!.

Lol @ ile-ife

Zonefree:
Hilda is no where near being a virgin.

Hilda's body count, if, well utilised, can power about 12 local governments in Kano state.

Chaii

SeaTrade:
Use to think you were smart,never would I have thought I'd find you in such pettiness.
You think a group like DIL will round trip dollar when they have machines and equipment worth multi billions of dollars to import to complete their refinery?
What now do they do with the so called naira gains they made from round tripping?
Maybe you think Dangote is still looking for Duplex money,
Clown.

SeaTrade:
If CBN doesn't give DG unfettered access to fx,who then will they now give? Plastics 40ft Chinese knock off importers?
You can't prove CBN sold fx to DG at less than official rates so drop it.
With scale comes power to bend rules to your favour in forms of tax holidays,breaks and waivers.
Even traders like myself that have scaled up sometimes clear the markets of choice products and cause artificial scarcity by sheer Purchase order volumes and hike prices afterwards,then imagine what now happens in you have the firepower of Dangote Group?It's not out of place oga,the world isn't suppose to be fair.Go big or go home.
There's nowhere government bullied anybody out of business because of DG,don't even bring up the boring Ibeto story.
Dangote is just smarter than everybody else,it's that simple.

Hmmmm @ bolded