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Childishbanjino:
Hi, a fellow "ijayrian" here. What set were you? I was in 11/12 grad set.

2009

daluvdr:
IJ BOYS for life, what year did you finish? I finished in 2004

2009

bukatyne:
You went to I. J., nice.

Happy Sunday, which set were you?

niyogeol:
You are right. Once I sight this building then, I begin to shiver because I know the misery from IJ is about to get real.

What set are you if I may ask?

2008/2009 set

That was the landmark when I'm getting close to my alma mater FGCL Ijanikin before seeing the great 'Waterworks'

Dear OP, some women are susceptible to itch in the vaginal and hence the need for anti fungal cream. She ought to have carried you along in the procurement as per her better half. You know your wife better but anti fungal cream shouldn't be a reason to think infidelity. My hubby was away when I procured an anti-fungal cream and he encouraged me to buy it. Whereas it's a recommended first aid my mum told me a woman must have even during my celibacy days as a spinster, I always had one steady.

Dear OP, your concerns are valid but there's also economic realities. How secure is your job in the long run let alone the short run? I'm in a distant marriage (Lagos and Benin.....few days old) and have never visited my hubby from my courting days. We've had issues about who should relocate, visit..... I hope you work things out as it's just for a short time I'm sure. Selah.

nlPoster:
http://www.dailyadvent.com/ettmt/2019/05/20/yoruba-actors-rejoice-as-popular-director-adekola-ojelere-welcomes-twins-on-his-birthday-pictures/

So, I assume they're already married. Especially if they're TAC.

Okay. Thanks for the clarity.

nlPoster:
They're TAC?


Btw, they're already married I assume?

The Apostolic church

Maybe

TAC allows kissing in pre wedding photos

Acidosis:
Ah you speak Yoruba?

Not fluently

Acidosis:
You and "sir", lol. I hope you know my age?

I'm well o.

Mi o mo o but just take it.

Acidosis:
Hmnn. It appears the husband & wife don't know what they want. Sadly, nothing great comes out of being in a relationship with a person who doesn't know what they want.


Good morning dear. How're you today?

Absolute truth you said sir.

I'm good and you?

Acidosis:
You guys are unstable. Wetin una dey find sef?

Better life as the grass is assumed to be greener on the other side. Good morning.

ednut1:
Some bankers are funny. Sit down with no plan b when its glaring from your appraisals

One I heard of was a champion in his BDO but was still sacked.

All those saying align with family, I reserve my comments. My landlord died today, he's an igbo man married to an igbo woman for over 10 years. His family neglected him after the wife's plea for help from his people but they're here to mourn and plan burial... Dear OP, what's the guarantee that marriage to an igbo woman will give you fulfilment in life?
As for your parents, I've grown to see that African parents go to church to socialize and mark register. The WORD itself, they don't know how to balance with life but will only tell you of bad experiences and never saying the good. If you try to convince them, they'll tell you you know nothing and I begin to wonder the essence of them claiming christianity. I can go on and on and on. I hope you have financial independence incase you choose to follow your heart but regardless all will be well.

Dear OP, when is the church wedding prior to you putting it on hold?

GreatResearcher:
Achieve most of your dreams before getting married.

Marriage is also a dream for some guys.

Dear OP, sorry about your predicament. I have controlling parents like yours but I don't live with them. Whenever you want to make a decision about your life, tell noone. Only seek professional advice so as to make an informed decision. I was held back at some points in my life by my family, eventually I took my decision on a critical issue, messaged my parents of my actions after the deed has been done as there was no going back. I hope you become financially independent soon so as to be off their grip.
You also need to be focused on something or build expertise in something as someone said earlier. All the best in your endeavours.

[quote author=Mrcashman87 post=83401594]Lol thanks bro , yes I'm very romantic and always satisfying her . I make sure that I sastify her multiple times before I get satisfied. the problem is , she just wont have sex with me. It's been 10 months now no sex , this year we havnt had sex. Last time was 19 December 2018 I'm not trying to cheat on my wife but the empty hole in our marriage is ruining my life because I'm so unhappy. I reported her to her parents and requested for a urgent family meeting this Sunday at our place. We shall see how everything will go. Hopefully she will realise her mistakes and give our marriage another chance if no I'm out.

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Sorry about your experience sir. Please keep us posted as some are following with keen interest.

softpee:
Bros gud am to u, I HV read ur story n I HV seen u r a weak man, u dnt HV a say in ur home, first let me start frm when u met ur wife in 2009, there where signs dat she exhibited dat she was nt gng to be a gud wife bt u later married her, 2ndly wen u were dating her didnt she come n stay with u 4 weeks to knw hw clean n tidy she was, like washing of plates n tidying ur room, didn't u notice all day or u we're jst after sex n hw gud she was in bed. 3rdly ur wife accused u of sleeping with a minor n u were cool with her d only tin u did was to warn her y didn't u report to her parents n after dng dat n she still repeat dat same tin again u would HV taken actions by shutting her up wit slaps, bt u acted like a weak man, bros do nt let a woman dictate 4 u, 4 me broda all d signs where dere wen u were dating bt u went on to marry her n see d consequences which u will HV to live wit in ur life time, 4 u to regain control of ur home do wot I said n bet u me u will see hw she will change

I disagree with your 2nd point. Do you mean all ladies should cohabit with their intended spouse so as to ascertain their level of tidiness? Some of us will put up our best behaviour to clinch the prize which is the ring.

Sambai65:
yes ooooo,I am confirm bachelor

Eku bachelor hood.

Sambai65:
Omo l! This one strong oooo,I save noting less than 110k per month out 170k ,you will need to minimize your expenditure bros

I'm sure you're single sir. Kudos but give him steps on minimizing his expenditure.

Plead:
That’s why I said earlier that have a good paying job/have money or save enough before accepting a marriage proposal from anybody /going into marriage .

The fact that a man is forming alpha male before marriage and doing everything for you 100% doesn’t me she should be trusted .... there are men who stop their wives from working (I personally think women who quit their jobs because of their husbands directive and not because of their own sake eg sickness or birth for the meantime are foolish) and become housewives only to start seeing the women as liabilities years after even though they were the one who stopped the women from working.




Mehn, this isn’t my business sha.

Having a good job, business.... is good but life happens. I know someone that was comfortable before she got married, the man refuses to be diligent for over 5 years of their marriage till date and she has gone down financially due to the irresponsible hubby and she doesn't want to separate because of societal....

henro4niger:
I've never seen this as an issue. I've always been open minded. I've been a Catholic from birth, it has never made my life any worse or better. My fiance too is indifferent. But the issue is the time. I don't want to do my wedding in January or February. It all ends this year.

How did you get past your issue?

Both parents fixed a date to meet and come to an agreement. You know your parents better, go and appease them. It's primarily your day and secondarily theirs.

Dear OP, how was it possible to fix a wedding without carrying both families along simultaneously? My parents insisted that it must be in their church and my proposed inlaws wanted theirs and we came to an agreement but at a cost consequence to myself and my fiance. I think you got it all wrong from the beginning. Go and plead with your parents even if the bride's church does the joining most times. Pardon my curiosity but were your parents in support from the on set or you slammed the wedding on them

EmptyCoconutHead:
same here.
U go do make we go Uyo for Yuletide season then we see then flex small

I don't usually travel and whereas, I'll be on honeymoon that period.

EmptyCoconutHead:
eyeneka where do u currently reside?

Lagos

ineedyouradvice:
Hi, I appreciate your comments thanks. The truth is, I couldn't have held back such a situation like this to myself thinking I could handle it when actually I felt a sense of relief speaking out about it. Yes it is a sensitive issue, I wept cos I was hurt but after I spoke out to the people I did and the comments in here, I started speaking positivity to my being. Our child is here to stay, I will give him time to come to terms with the whole situation. Hopefully we'll resolve this.

You're welcome Ma. It's good you opened up though. It is well dear. All the best.

Dear OP, don't you think you over reacted? Allow him to come to terms with the whole situation and the societal consequences after which they'll come to accept it. Some people hold dear their perception in the eyes of people and tend to live their lives to be in the good books of people of which he may be that kind of person. Give him time and if he doesn't want to proceed, fine. I think it was too early to call people.......
You're overwhelmed, likewise him. I don't think his age should be a deciding factor here as it boils down to his choice. If he were truly keen on having children, he would had a baby mama as they're easy to come by.
Inasmuch as you both agreed earlier, call him and apologise and work things out. You still have more challenges and battles to conquer as an individual, would you always call it off and escalate without taking time to resolve between the conflicting party?
Blissful pregnancy journey I wish you.