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Romance › Re: What's The Most Outrageous Demand A Girl Has Ever Made From You On A First Date? by Esthered: 11:43am On Jun 20, 2019

Acidosis:
I trust my darling. How're you today?

Fine sir.

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Romance › Re: What's The Most Outrageous Demand A Girl Has Ever Made From You On A First Date? by Esthered: 11:43am On Jun 20, 2019

FatherBona:
.

Get a room

We met here na. We have to perfect it here first Rev. Father or should we come for confession

Romance › Re: What's The Most Outrageous Demand A Girl Has Ever Made From You On A First Date? by Esthered: 8:51am On Jun 20, 2019

Acidosis:
Awww so sweet of you darling. Please don't give that boy any attention.

I won't baby boo. Good morning sir.

Romance › Re: What's The Most Outrageous Demand A Girl Has Ever Made From You On A First Date? by Esthered: 10:05pm On Jun 19, 2019

Drillsmedia:
Let me get to know you!

I can't as I'm contented with my baby boo Acidosis

Family › Re: Pls Advise by Esthered: 9:25pm On Jun 19, 2019

Acidosis:
Abeg abeg, I nefa old

A man never ages but only the skin that wrinkles over time

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Romance › Re: Share Your Biggest Problems Let's Try And Help Each Other Out by Esthered: 9:04pm On Jun 19, 2019

daneni1:
Wait oooo, while do I have feeling that I know youbin person

I'm not sure you do sir.

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Romance › Re: Share Your Biggest Problems Let's Try And Help Each Other Out by Esthered: 8:38pm On Jun 19, 2019

daneni1:
Since January this year, I have lost the zeal to study for ICAN Nov diet. Once I open the study pack, its either i sleep off or I close it back and do other things. Exam is fast approaching and I am not getting ready.

I'm an ICAN Prize winner, The secret of success is in your mind and the reason you registered in the first place. Endeavour to study at your best time of assimilation as you know yourself better. All the best.

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Family › Re: Pls Advise by Esthered: 6:13pm On Jun 19, 2019

Acidosis:
Hmmm true.

All the best my dear. Send me IV o

I will most definitely baby boo.

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Family › Re: Pls Advise by Esthered: 5:54pm On Jun 19, 2019

Acidosis:
That's lovely. What if I decide to double whatever I find on the list? Do I stand a chance..?

No sir as the decision will be based on money that's ephemeral. Saying yes is based on things beyond money even if we can't deemphasize the importance of money.

Family › Re: Pls Advise by Esthered: 1:52pm On Jun 19, 2019

Acidosis:
Negotiate ke? Is that how it's done in your place? The list expensive ooo

The list is not expensive as we're modest in my family but we give room for negotiation and our dowry is very minimal.

Family › Re: Pls Advise by Esthered: 10:35am On Jun 19, 2019

Acidosis:
Lol, how can I get it from the current holder?

It's not possible as the families are meeting this weekend to negotiate the list.

Family › Re: Pls Advise by Esthered: 9:29pm On Jun 18, 2019

Acidosis:
Wtf Wtf!!

Is it too far? grin

Family › Re: Pls Advise by Esthered: 9:24pm On Jun 18, 2019

Acidosis:
Where and when can I get the bridal list?

Go to Mbak-Atai in Itam under Itu local government in Akwa-Ibom state, it's not far from the river that separates Akwa-Ibom from Calabar. Ask of Major E*****g, he's the head of my family but unfortunately the list has been delivered to someone. wink

Family › Re: Pls Advise by Esthered: 9:17pm On Jun 18, 2019

Acidosis:
Chai, this our love go sweet o Can we start with a one room sef con?

As long as there's water, no squatter/guest and the basic necessities to make it comfortable and I'll be able to read my books, we're good to go.

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Family › Re: Pls Advise by Esthered: 9:08pm On Jun 18, 2019

Acidosis:
Sir bawo? just call me baby boo

Okay baby boo cheesy

Family › Re: Pls Advise by Esthered: 6:26pm On Jun 18, 2019

Acidosis:
I will toast you, las las

Good evening sir

Family › Re: Pls Advise by Esthered: 6:14pm On Jun 18, 2019

HorlaBee27:
Hello All
I need y’all advise on this.
I am getting married soon and my partner wants to rent a 3 bedroom apartment. I was cool with it but later after thinking properly, I felt it’s perhaps too much for us since we are just starting our lives.
I want us to be able to pay conveniently without fears. He has been saying the lord will provide and it makes me feel like I don’t believe God will really do.
Also another worry I have is that he has a lot of people around him that can think of coming to stay if we get the apartment and I actually love privacy.
Currently he is seeing things like I don’t want his own opinions to count or I don’t want him to make decisions for us...
Should I just let him please himself ?

Dear OP, it's a good thing to desire a comfortable space for a family but your concerns are valid but how you put it across to him matters as he's the one paying. I dont think it's bad to move from a 2 bedroom to 3 bedroom as you both grow in size and income.
A successfully married friend of mine told me that effective family growth can only be achieved when the couple avoid interference of any kind but we know in African families, dependants is an epidemic norm that ought not to be. I don't see it ideal to have people staying with you immediately you guys get married as you're getting to know each other as a live in couple and there'll be less pressure around the house till the children start coming.
How has he been financing his rent (conveniently or stressfully)? Yes we have faith but wisdom is profitable to direct as Luke 14:28 says For which of you, intending to build a tower, sitteth not down first, and counteth the cost, whether he have sufficient to finish it?

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Family › Re: Spouse Before Kids? by Esthered: 9:28pm On Jun 16, 2019

nahzyla:
Of course, kids first. Then they get older and independent or married even then you can resume putting your spouse first.

What if he doesn't live long enough till they become independent, he remains an option and never gets the best of his wife because of kids and vice versa.
Madam my aunt retired from Total ng, she and hubby gave her children the best, made sacrifices...... today she can't walk well and the kids are doing very well to send her to India and the likes for a surgery but none has deemed it fit despite the abundance of resources. The house she stays in her husband's village wasn't renovated to befit her status. It's her and her husband now but her health has dwindled for him to get the best of her.
I'm beginning to think if a poll is carried out where people talk of their fulfilment in their marriages but anonymously, I'm not sure to read/hear good commentaries based on the me and my kids syndrome epidemic.

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Family › Re: Spouse Before Kids? by Esthered: 9:20pm On Jun 16, 2019

nahzyla:
@ bold, so a woman who isn't her husband's priority should also be distracted by men who make her their priority not so?

Applicable to both but it depends on the level of discipline of the individual.

Family › Re: Spouse Before Kids? by Esthered: 6:39pm On Jun 16, 2019*

What's the guarantee that those kids would live up to your expectations in the future? What's then the essence of marriage if kids are the most important feature of which you can still get them without the institution? You wrote this because you are lucky to be fruitful. What if there was delay in conception that goes as far as 15 years, what'll be the priority of the marriage in the waiting period? What if you lose the kids like my mum lost her only son at birth and was lucky to be fertile to conceive more? What if......

I think in an attempt by women to be careful in the homefront in the name of safeguarding their children's future, they get it wrong or they never loved the man but just want to procreate and be like their mates. A man knowing he's not a priority in the home is enough to be distracted by the one that makes him a priority outside. I read a novel years back where the author opined that if wives behaved like mistresses, there'll less marital failure. I listened to a show on radio when a regular caller said his wife was too good for him to move on after over 5 years of her demise. I hope women with these mentality will realign their thoughts of the institution of marriage to build a great home that can serve as a positive point of reference for upcomers.

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Romance › Re: What's The Most Outrageous Demand A Girl Has Ever Made From You On A First Date? by Esthered: 4:48pm On Jun 16, 2019

Austineva:
honestly, I like ur type

Romance › Re: What's The Most Outrageous Demand A Girl Has Ever Made From You On A First Date? by Esthered: 10:55am On Jun 16, 2019

luvyaself95:
OK Ma Happy Sunday

Same to you.

Romance › Re: I'm About To Lose My Fiancee, Please Help by Esthered: 8:09am On Jun 16, 2019*

luminouz:
So much emotional drivel here!!!!

Now I know some people's weaknesses!!!

NL,always a fun place to be!!!

Romance › Re: What's The Most Outrageous Demand A Girl Has Ever Made From You On A First Date? by Esthered: 8:00am On Jun 16, 2019

luvyaself95:
You're one in a billion Too much dignity...

[i][/i] Likewise you. Thanks

Romance › Re: What's The Most Outrageous Demand A Girl Has Ever Made From You On A First Date? by Esthered: 7:57am On Jun 16, 2019

Austineva:
no be u get sense like that. Others no d reason like that o. They no de remember say one day they go born sons who will in return face d repercussions of all d atrocities they have committed against men. Today u will hear abt a guy who committed suicide because of his girlfriend etc and it is increasing every day. There are d payback but, they never know and never want to know. Kudos to u if u re such a reasonable woman

You have a point there about repercussions. I hope the ladies step up their game and be contented with what they have or work harder to earn respect from the male folks as gone are the days of men being fooled except those that refuse to be wise.

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Romance › Re: What's The Most Outrageous Demand A Girl Has Ever Made From You On A First Date? by Esthered: 6:42pm On Jun 15, 2019

Omoluabi9:
God bless you for this piece.

Now about that "body type"; a faceless upload, so we may admire

Are you dark? fair?

*Sips Martini*

Amen.
I'm hour glass but on the very slender side and underweight in summary I'm SKINNY. I'm neither dark nor fair.
Don't get drunk on your Martini

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Fashion › Re: Cheap Superb Combo For Sale by Esthered: 11:47am On Jun 15, 2019

How much?

Romance › Re: What's The Most Outrageous Demand A Girl Has Ever Made From You On A First Date? by Esthered: 10:50am On Jun 15, 2019

I wonder how some ladies feel entitled to a man's money. Just as my boss confided in me yesterday of a lady he's interested in and she turned him down but still accuses him of not showing her care and went as far as demanding for him to support her to further her education. I was appalled as I can't imagine myself stooping low to take advantage of men. What's the essence of working as a female? I'll be a mother to sons one day and will be pained when women take advantage of them but I'll train them to set high standards in dating game. I'm accused of being strange as I'm usually told if I have your body type, being a calabar babe.... I would have gone far and I'll start asking myself if I'm normal but I know there's dignity in labour for both sexes so I prefer to work to meet my needs and wants.

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Family › Re: How Do You See A Man Who Can Cook. by Esthered: 7:47am On Jun 14, 2019

mysticwarrior:
you mean your boyfriend?

My ex

Family › Re: How Do You See A Man Who Can Cook. by Esthered: 6:26pm On Jun 13, 2019

I find them amazing and hold them in high esteem. My friend used to ask what'll I'll eat for him to prepare when he invites me over.

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Family › Re: Never Marry A Woman who Is Financially And Academically Ahead Of You As A Man by Esthered: 6:19pm On Jun 13, 2019

nwanneni:
my mom for sure.i was talking a woman you are in a relationship with.
Let's not be political please.
Immediately a woman starts fending for you bro you better be ready.

You're not far from the truth at bolded. Some of us saw our mothers do it to our fathers and imbibe the habit. Even when the men make up for their poor finance by being useful around the home, some women being insatiable, never appreciate the effort because he was made to be the breadwinner and must live up to the expectations if he wants to be respected. I think it takes a prudent wife to be understanding in trying times with her man but then how many wives are prudent?

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Fashion › Re: Colourful Plain Tee-shirts Available For Retailers And Wholesalers by Esthered: 5:17pm On Jun 12, 2019

Please what's the durability of the shirt as I want to know if it's good for a concert?

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