₦airaland Forum

One day, ya'll will outgrow these stuff, look back and laugh.

sapphiere:
So you value snake than human?

No. But the car could have easily crushed the snake. There was little to nothing the python could have done to those guys seeing that it's non venomous.

sapphiere:
The snake is lucky that it wasn't killed or the humans there are lucky that they weren't bitten by the snake? Who should be lucky?

The snake was more in danger than the humans.

Racoon:
See as the creepy creature coiled himself into position under that tyre.Person no go know say danger is lurking around there.Lalasticlala please do the needful.

The snake was actually the one in danger.

Normal. Humans (especially Africans) will always look around for someone to blame if and when something goes wrong.

Iamdemola:
The statement added, “While appealing to Obaseki to find a place in his heart to forgive Oshiomhole and all those who helped him cause havoc in the APC, Chief Eze tasked the Edo State Governor to begin the process of taking back his position in the progressives family which he described as his natural habitat considering his numerous sacrifices and contributions in the formation of the party, assuring him that his place in the APC is still very much reserved and intact

I don't understand this part. Doesn't it contradict what the national party leader said?

Shekochild:
why do you think that every guy who is due for marriage has been sleeping around?

My comment reflects what NL boys would have been saying if it were a lady that created this post. It only serves to shed light on the bias.

Even men can be retired olosho.

If you are a decent man, your circle will naturally be full of decent ladies. You guys can't be sleeping around and then start looking for decent ladies to marry when the age is due. Where do you expect them to come from? Fall from heaven?

KingAzubuike:
Annie is not doubt a shameless woman and just there because of 2babas money. How can you be comfortable seeing your hubby's baby mama Sunbo adeoye organize his birthday? It shows Annie has failed her obligation as a wife.

A man sleeps around, his wife is called shameless. You guys in Africa have a very long way to go and you don't even know it.

onlineprof89:
Thank you! l have seen the mistake in the title, but you failed to address the topic based on content. This level of contentment and fear of the status quo is one of the reasons Africa is still where she is today.
For your correction, there is nothing in society that shouldn't be discussed. I believe in an open society.

"Contentment and fear of the status quo"

To start with, this line above does not make any sense. It's a self contradictory statement. You can't be contented (happy with the current situation) and fear status quo (the same current situation) at the same time. Africans don't fear status quo, they fear change. And no, Africa is backwards because you guys in Africa consider tribe, religion, gender, sexuality, etc. when addressing or assessing people instead of concentrating on the content of the individual. Instead of asking whether people of his/her gender, tribe, etc are smarter or more intelligent, you should get rid of that prejudice and ask if the person standing before you is smart/intelligent.

I already contributed as much as I could to your topic by saying in my first post that each individual should be accessed on the basis of their content and not their gender. I don't know what else you want me to address when you didn't state any problem. There are ways to present subjects worthy of discussion. You state the current situation, the problem with the current situation and its implications, and then you profer a solution/way forward. This way, your readers would find something worthwhile to talk about. Another way is to state an observation and end with a question of what might be the possible cause/solution. Whichever way, it should be stimulating. Girls are smarter than boys... so? What is the implication of this your discovery and how does it help the society? What response do you expect from your readers? To say 'yes' or 'no' and the y'all would start having some endless secondary school debate?

Neither your title "girls are smater than boys" nor the body gives me any reason to engage you because it's an open ended discussion that can hardly be supported with any empirical evidence and the outcome of such a discussion can only lead to more sexism (just the way the statement "Igbos are smarter than Yorubas" can only lead to tribalism). Anybody can be anything based on nature or nurture. You train girls in Africa to be care givers and train the boys to seek success and then you turn around to generalise that girls are smarter because they are more responsible. You think boys won't be as responsible if they had the same training? Have you been to other places in the world to see how things work in other societies before coming to your conclusions? This is why I also stated in my first post that parents should raise their kids with the same philosophy regardless of their gender. So when you say I didn't address the topic, what exactly do you need me to say?

In a society where were we are pushing for gender equality, the least one needs now is such baseless divisive and opinionated submissions.

Hope I "addressed" it better now.

Plead:
There are countries in the same Africa that has less than 2m population but they ain't in the level of Rwanda.
You said Rwanda isn't as advanced as Nigeria? How exactly is Nigeria is advanced? Only an ignorant and unlearned person will say this.

Nothing like bias bruv, stop using population as an excuse for Nigeria's backwardness. If population is a problem why don't we break up?
Call a spade a spade, if our leaders had vision like Paul kagame of Rwanda and stopped looting our resources by now Nigeria wouldn't be the way it is currently.

I want to believe you've lived in Rwanda.

I don't usually engage in such discussions but bro, while Rwanda is developing fast, as at this very moment, the country is not anywhere as economically vibrant as Nigeria. The industries aren't as advanced, the market isn't as big, the amenities can't be compared to Abuja or Lagos, business is far more viable in Lagos, etc. The capital city has beautiful places just like you'd get in any country. But when you walk down the streets of Kigali (Kyovu area, Remera, etc) and walk down the streets of Abuja, you can't possibly say Kigali is more advanced. Yes, the city is exceptionally CLEAN but that's it.

The reason we praise Rwanda today is because of how fast they're moving on after the genocide. Considering where they were and where they are now, it's safe to say they have one of the highest development rates in Africa kudos to their leaders. But it'll be overreaching suggesting the country is more advanced than Nigeria. Lagos downtown is comparable to many known cities in the world. Many people don't know this cause they haven't traveled. It always seems as if it's better outside.

But if you insist Rwanda is more advanced, that's ok. To each, his own.

Please, correct the double superlatives in your title, remove the 'more'. Also, you mistakenly typed 'the' instead of 'they'.

As for your argument, I see it as unnecessary as the one it's trying to counter. Each individual should be accessed on the basis of their content and not their gender. Again, parents should raise their kids with the same philosophy regardless of their gender.

cristy149:
ok..but it definitely won't come off easy.. a single tree cant fight a forest

I totally agree sir. Nothing good comes easy. We are more than a single tree.

cristy149:
when women decide to leave their comfort zone then it will change ...untill then they can keep waiting on men to pay every tad of their bills

You don't change a situation by fighting the current model (like I'm seeing on this thread). Instead, you create a new model and let the existing one naturally go obsolete. Like I said up there, it is up to us as the parents of today and tomorrow to reconsider our approach in terms of how we train our kids. Treat the boy child and and girl child equally, give them the same orientation and perspective about life. Instill the desire to succeed in both and make sure each have a good understanding of what success is. If we keep sending the boys to play football while the girls cook for them and wash their clothes, we'll keep raising girls who only know how to please men. And it will be ridiculous to turn around and ask why our girls aren't like our boys.

Thanks.

EmptyGarden:
About time! Men don too die for Hotel.

He was truly shocked! No worry, u go soon confess.

Insensitive. You had to bring in sexism to this one too.

Biglittlelois:
@etrange, are you male or female?

Male

cristy149:
everything you've said here including the others you qoute me in are WHAT COULD BE , BUT ISN'T women could earn as much as men if only over 50% of them would do what men would do...go to university and check tangible rare courses like cyber security, marine courses, the ratio to men are like 1:5..while most of them will major in popular non risky job like accounting and the rest....fact is they know the way but they want the easy one...so why won't they be underpaid since female are less productive to men

I agree with you that equality (both in opportunities and output) is what could/should be but isn't. And this is because the society is already biased, the foundation is faulty and we cannot correct it by insulting women and further relegating them.

Women don't choose to go to the university or not, their parents do. A girl child is trained to strive to behave well and get a good husband. Such indoctrinations do not encourage being ambitious. Regardless of how successful a woman is, people still mock or even call her names if she's single. Society believes she must have a man for her voice to be respected. This makes our females more concerned about having a man that being independently successful. You and I are the parents of today and tomorrow, if we don't change our perspective of women, the issue will linger. We can change the narrative by giving those of them who are ambitious the opportunity to attain thier dreams so that the younger ones can have role models and so that the society will see what they've been missing, let's address each person by thier content and not by thier gender. We must stop this attitude of coming online to insult our sisters, mothers and daughters. If we are really better, then we must push the ones around us. Even the women themselves have a lot of work to do. There's no hiding the fact that they need empowerment. Removing the prejudice is a collective effort. Sexism has never helped any nation progress. Others are coming out of it, let's not move in the opposite direction.

kingel:
Jesus H. Christ. Oh my God. On one hand someone claiming men are better than women is sexist, but stating women led nations are more stable is a testament to their hidden talent diminished by the big bad African patriarch. Bro, the reason those countries are where they are today, I'm assuming you mean Scandinavian nations and N.Zealand, isn't because of women, men built western civilization with the foundation on Greek, Roman philosophers on land taken by men. Hell the rights to vote was given by men. The sexual revolution led by the birth pill, that gave women more options also made by men. See saying men have contributed more, cause they are smarter(read up on the IQ bell curve) isn't sexist, it's just stating simple facts, that doesn't mean they should be denied fundamental rights.
The geographical location and condition of n,Zealand is what helped them, not the wisdom of the female PM. Power shouldn't be "balanced out" it should only be merited.
You say the Bible is sexist, so what? What should we do with that info, drop it for your buzz word, that'll help/harm nobody in Africa.
Prehistoric period= men, medieval age= men,renaissance period=men industrial age=men, technological age=men. But we shouldn't say men lead the world cause it'll upset some people. Let's always speak the truth

If you want to argue smartly, you have to pay attention to details to avoid fallacies. I never stated that countries led by women are more stable than those led by men. I said "the few countries led by women are amongst the most stable countries... ". The key word is in bold. This was in response to the claim that women lack leadership traits. If a country led by a woman is stable, that claim is baseless. That's the logic, and not that countries led by women are more stable than countries led by men.

Your POV is funny to say the least. If it is not the men, it's geographical location. All in a bid to undermine the women even when their outputs are clear. How much of New Zealand's strategies against Covid-19 do you know? Does location change the R0 value of the pandemic or is she the only country in the Australasia. The leader of Germany has stayed in power for 14 years, that is more than long though to make a mess of the country if she didn't know her job. Attempting to take the credit away from her will be so low of you.

Women will say women are smarter. Men will say men are smater. All those are childish arguments that do not really concern me. But when it escalates to prejudice against any gender, then it becomes a clog in the wheel of success. There's no justification for saying someone cannot lead because it's a man or because it's a woman or because it's a black person, etc. This is because even if there are more intelligent men than women, there are still many women who are more intelligent than many men. And for this singular reason, each person must be given a chance to prove thier content. A black man leading America was unheard of until Obama got a chance.

kingel:
They don't bear the burden alone until it's time for alimony or child support.
Lol

What men contribute as child support according to the Law is the financial worth of raising the child. It is thier own contribution to raising their child and does not always cover the entire cost on paper. The women are still the one that take up the responsibility of child care. Alimony is only paid if one party can prove that they made sacrifices for the overall wealth of the family. Any gender can pay alimony. Every case is peculiar.

kingel:
Do you think if men hated women(misogyny), women would have the rights and privileges they enjoy?
They'll probably be kept as sex slaves somewhere

Misogyny doesn't only apply when there is hate. It also applies when there's is prejudice (which is clearly the case in Africa). Hate is a strong word and I never ever use that.

This is sad. I don't think the story is complete cause a soldier cannot just look inside a bus and call you a criminal out of nowhere. There must have been some disagreement prior to that and the fact that this man carefully cut that out is suspicious. However, regardless of the disagreement, it is not in the place of soldiers to humiliate anyone that disagrees with them on a personal grounds. It is an abuse of power and such can only happen in a lawless society. Just imagine what they did to a fellow human being. The sad thing is that most people onhere do not even know how a working society should be.

SweetHearted:
Women like this news.

They like to hear that a man was flogged on the back.

E dey sweet dem well well for body.

Women, women, women! Everything is not about women, dude!

kingel:
Don't know how you did it but you obfuscated the entire thing. I clearly stated that while Nigerian women on average are dumber(shallow) equality is still paramount. I don't need to start bring up the big 5 traits and how they affect success and relationship. You might obfuscate and connect that to the death of a dying star somewhere in our galaxy. You claim "sexism" lends justification to racism, that's my bone of contention, it's what I don't understand and you went on a long tirade explaining nothing. Congratulations. Take a trip 500yrs to the past in tribal Africa where the man was traditionally seen as the head over a woman, where was racism that that led to or walk up to Europe also patriarchal at that time, Is that what justified the scramble for Africa? Cross to S.A to the Aztecs same thing. I can also connect(read justify) racism and income inequality but it's specious at best I.e the rich would always have better advantage than the poor should I connect it/justify it with racism. I do not deny the disadvantage of the female child in rural and underdeveloped part of Africa, what I don't seem to understand, and I'll repeat again, is how that justifies racism

Dude, to justify means to prove something right. Sexism being a justification to racism does not mean it led to racism. That misogyny was there before racism is a fact. But still tolerating misogyny defeats all the arguments we have against racism today and therefore justifies (proves right) the discrimination of people based on their nature. You can't preach against racial prejudice when you condone the same thing against women. So misogyny being older or younger doesn't matter, what matters is that it is self contradictory to support it and still kick against racism. That bit is pretty much clear in my message. Every form of decriminalisation within a people being discriminated against lends justification to the injustice perpetuated against them. It is sad that we only see something as bad when it affects us.

cristy149:
is it only in Africa you see such where was "feminism" originated from ..and why was it propagated in such ways? at the end who still pays the bills over there...is it still not the man.... Empowering woman as much as men will just make this women more powerful...they will enjoy new perks and still avoid paying and other things men do

Yes, the idea of gender equality originated from the western world. The reason many of these lifestyle concepts including religion come from outside Africa is because Africa years behind in terms of civilisation so whatever they see today has been seen by the western world. The western world was as sexist as Africa until they realised how depriving it is to their society and how they couldn't achieve human equality in some areas if they don't address the inequality in gender. Today, things are much better. And no, men don't pay the bills alone. In fact, in a country like Canada (especially in the cities), it is practically impossible for men to bear the burden of home finances alone considering the salary/expense structure of the country. The concept of household income is a big deal and everyone must contribute all they'll find themselves living outside. That is why people get married as a business plan to sustain each other.

cristy149:
Men didn't just assume that position of power by luck... they fought for it and won every right to it thereafter. there are reasons women can't attain that much power... one of the many reasons is because they are very emotional being and you can't run a successful society based on emotions...it requires brain

The few countries run by women today are amongst the most stable countries in the world. They are also the countries that managed Covid-19 the best. Trump is not a better leader than the leader of Germany. The skills required to lead are quite encompassing and some of these skills come naturally to women. Their style might be different from what you're used to but not necessarily inferior. Idiosyncratic is the word. I'm not saying men should not lead, I'm saying things should be balanced out. As for gaining power, men assumed the position of superior humans when power was about physical strength (prehistoric period) and all the books of the abrahamic religion reflected this bias even in the most unacceptable ways (even a sexist like you would agree with me the biblical depiction of the role of women were all man made). So what we have today in Africa is a cumulatively result of all these.

cristy149:
we are not afraid of giving them power ...but look at what little empowerment to women has cost us ...do you know how many men has lost more than half of their possession because of this little wave of empowerments we gave them...

You're still seeing it through the lense of an already biased society. If things were equal, men wouldn't be losing their possessions in such a manner because women would have as much to lose too cause they too would be working as much as men.

Chapman801:
quiet simp. lol at the long epistle you had to type to show your simphood

Sorry, I don't engage your likes...