₦airaland Forum

cristy149:
You want to empower women, you never see meme...women have always been inferior to men since the days of Adam and Eve and e get reason why... If you mean encourage and support thats 100% sure..but empower...commot eye for am ...
without Men in power this society will crumble

Fear. Africans fear whatever they don't know or have not experienced. Africans don't give new things a chance and that is why the continent is stagnant. Where I live, gender is the last thing that comes to mind when someone's capabilities are being tabled. This way, the society gets the best out its people instead of limiting its talent source to less than half of the population out of the fear that women will 'out-do' them when given the chance. The funny thing is that we've never had a great leader in Nigeria (at least, none comparable to the leaders of Germany and New Zealand) and yet no one sees it as incompetence on the side of men but once a lady becomes the president of Nigeria, every single misstep will lead to an attack on the female gender. While this is terrible, women have been known to do more just to counter the perception that they can't perform and a lot of them end up performing better (in their little positions) when given the chance. If men are really superior by nature, they shouldn't be afraid helping to empower the women. If you entertain such fear, then maybe you aren't really superior but just taking advantage of the biased society.

kingel:
Racism?? How. Are men and women, races??

Is this what you understand when I say "lend justification to racism"? So much for the intelligent gender. I will explain.

We're here kicking against racism cause there's no basis for a particular group of humans to claim superiority based on skin colour (a biological factor that no one gets to choose). We posit that even if some countries are more advanced than others, each person should be treated based on thier content cause some blacks are still smarter than some whites and they also are as American as the whites. But then ya'll in Africa rejecting equality and unapologetically advocating for male superiority only end justifying the racist's line of thought. You keep telling the world it's OK to claim "superior human being" based on biological factors. The adverse effects of discrimination, regardless with the form, do no spare any gender. It reduces the overall output of a people. Women might perceive things differently but not necessarily in an inferior way. In fact, this difference in perception is needed to balance things out. But when they are relegated to the back, we lose out on thier style/approach.

In Africa, women have bent to society. A lot of them are have yielded to the claim that they are only there as ornaments. This is not because their brains are inferior, rather it's because of the indoctrination they get from home. Argue all you want, a child could be trained to be in anyway regardless of the gender and provided there are no congenital factors involved. But then parents in Africa structure thier homes to give the impression that girls are just care givers. Girls are explicitly trained to wash, cook, serve and please the boys while boys are allowed to be advebturous and are hardly ever held culpable for thier actions; after all, boys will always be boys. In this process, the male kid in Africa begins to feel superior because of his organs while the girl child is consumed by the desire to be acceptable, getting a good husband. This sense of superiority is further accentuated by the fact that parents invest more in the male child. What's the point in sending the girl abroad to study when another man will come and take her? She can study English Language in school and run a boutique afterwards. Let's spend the money on the man, he will always be here. These are the lines of thoughts that the African parents entertain, and the girl child is further relegated. Sadly, there are some indoctrinations she cannot change as an adult.

What we end up having is a biased society. Our male children end up not having equally capable female counterparts and because they don't appreciate the origin of the problem, they run around insulting women on Nairaland. And because the male child has been trained to get away with anything, it doesn't matter if they sleep around, cheat, etc., Nobody insults the male gender when men engage in online theft, rape, etc. but when a girl does something bad, the entire female gender is insulted. We already believe women can't be successful so anyone women that has some money must be a prostitute. They shouldn't even bother eying some leadership positions where voting is involved. At the end,w're all deprived of what they might be able to offer cause we don't give them the chance.

To correct this, women need to be encouraged, empowered and supported. Gender equality needs to be pushed to a practical level and we must stay open minded and stop seeing people who seek gender equality (feminists) as man haters (misandrists).

Bloooody:
Too dull.
I pity your future unfortunate children and husband.
They'll inherit your dull Gene's and probably never amount to anything in life.

You really think insulting or degrading people on the internet like this is smart?

Bloooody:
Truth be told we're better than women in everything.
Smartest human is a man
Fastest is a man
Richest is a man
Strongest is a man
Tallest is a man
We beat them in everything.
The average woman isn't smart at all.
Giving them "equality" is wrong.

When you believe you are superior based on gender and not based on your content/personality as a human being, then you lend justification to racism. Shame.

She was actually a talented actress.

RIP

As my friend, WoundedLamb would say, fear men!

Why are you so interested in making me a millionaire?

I think the trending part is automated and it only updates once a day (not sure).

paulolee:
congrats to a legend...he died in active service and its a big insult to Africa for allowing a 11yr old partake in beer drinking competition..
also its a disgrace for men in malawi for allowing a 11yr old boy being a champion..
he wont even pass the group stage or even qualifiers if that competition take place in bayelsa state..

It was organized for kids alone.

Sad.

The kind of questions I see onhere these days simply shows that real human relationships have long been discarded. So instead of the OP to interact with the so called abroad based wife to see if her personality matches what he wants in a woman, he came on Nairaland to ask strangers the advantages/disadvantages of marrying her? And now people who might have never left their home states are telling him tales of how he will be emasculated. Lmao.

Rashman578:
Sorry pls, what is the meaning of this "cc"

CC is the abbreviation for "carbon copy". It is used to put someone in copy of your writeup. I used it to put the OP in copy cause I updated the writeup after quoting him so I didn't want him to miss the new things I added.

tete7000:
There are certain outlook a man has that already reveal the content of his heart. If a man lives to challenge every authority and questions everything that exist, put that man in power and all he will turn the world to is chaos. So there is nothing else to listen to from such a man. If you think such a man will protect your interest as a man of colour living in US, you are probably deceiving yourself. Only a sane mind can help your course, not a Satanist anarchist. Maybe you need to check the meaning of anarchy from where anarchist Is derived.

Well, I don't know her more than the people that voted for her. People in her immediate county have other options in the main election coming up and they'll take a look at each person's history and promises before deciding. Whatever anarchy means is not as important as the actual things she's done in the past. So any campaign against her should start with "in so so year, she did this or that and therefore cannot lead..." and not about being a satanist. One's religion, gender, race, physical appearance, etc. don't count. We have people like him (with tattoos, dreads and piercings) working in some of the biggest banks here and I don't care since they know their jobs and serve me well. For all we know, this could be some campaign strategy. Whatever it is, her past and future plans will still judge her at the main election so there's no need to get worked up.

kingemaker:
Exactly, she's not so worried about the age difference. The guy looks older than the said age (maybe the beards) and acts like a real man. Her major concern is the trust.

For the question, I don't think I'll be able to forgive my girlfriend if we are to reverse the case. Thanks for your input.

I was actually still typing. Lol. But yeah, you got the point.

You're welcome.

I've always believed age is just a number and shouldn't come in the way of marriage. But this is not about the age, it's about trust. The ideal thing is for her to confront him and hear what he's got to say. Such conversations are painful cause the idea of your lover keeping such a secret could really hurt. If he's really younger and has been hiding it all this while, trust has been broken and there's no telling how much more he's got to hide. Men get away with many things in a relationship so expect a lot of people here to suggest she should pardon him and stay since he's been a cool guy but I personally believe that apologies offered when one is already caught don't mean true repentance and, like I said, there could still be a lot the guy is hiding. The foundation is already shaky. Reverse this case in your mind, assume it was a lady that came with a baggage of lies, would you still trust her to be your second half?

I'm not saying she should stay, neither am I saying she should quite. This is because I don't know their personal circumstances. I don't know what could have made the guy to lie and how long he planned to keep up with it. I don't know the sacrifices both have made for each other in the past. I don't know how much time, energy and other resources they've invested in the relationship before now. So whether she stays afterwards or not depends all these and also on her personality: can she deal with the knowledge that her partner once harboured such a secret or will that always creep up every now and then and make her feel uncomfortable or unsure of his words? This kind of thing could hurt for long and she will blame herself if she decides to stay and later discover more lies.

Let her follow her heart and even if her final decision leads to regrets, she should take solace in the fact that she did what she felt was the right thing at the moment. As humans, we can only work with the limited knowledge we have as no one knows the future.

Cc: kingemaker

According to the report, the man in the picture was stabbed by unknown persons at his place of work. The bodies you mentioned cannot act based on that. They are not the country's police force. The police should do their investigation and present their report to these international bodies if the government isn't taking the security situation seriously. UN cannot take up a single stabbing case especially when it is not proven to be a political crime. If they were operating like that, they'd have run mad with workloads cause these things happen every minute. Internal investigation is very important cause even though the crime could be politically motivated, it could have been perpetuated by some pro government thugs who took matters into their own hands. He is an activist, that means he has a lot of enemies. If the government really wanted to assassinate him, I believe they'd have done a cleaner job. As for Ouattara, the opposition party only needs to table his matter and he'll be subdued.

The "everlasting" presidents we have in Africa today are in the countries where the constitution was not strict or precise about number of terms before they got into power. It's a tussle revising the constitution under their regime. But a sitting president trying to stay beyond the time stated by an existing constitution would have these international bodies to contend with. It's just that Africans don't make things easy for external bodies. Today, we call on them; tomorrow, we ask why they are interfering in our matters.

Lol... OP, are you time-travelling from the past? Why are you bringing up such old subject from 1980's. Is this the media's version of recycling technology?

Ok, a few questions:
1) Did you fart?
2) Is your tommy too big? (a pic might help us)
3) Do you have mouth odour? (no insult intended)
4) Is your face naturally frowned like someone struggling to shit? (you might want to share a pic here too)
5) Did you insult her or someone close to her?

Provide the above data and my algorithm will give you a final answer.

tete7000:
And you think a person like this has something reasonably good to bring to the table? Wonderful!

I don't think based on her religion or appearance. Hearing her out pertinent. I live here too and I feel sad when people conclude based on my skin colour.

"Let's start making kids, no much time"

Well, I wish you the best.

Ijaya123:
Would your comment still remain the same if she had won as a democrat?

Yes sir, it would. I've always been an advocate of content.

Lol... who cares about her religion or gender? What are her principles/strategies/values/etc.? What is she bringing to the table and how would that make life better for the common man?

RuddyFusion:
She's both Nigerian and American....and we haven't heard anything from the USA in name of support or not of NOI...

She's Nigerian candidate and China will see her as such

Unfortunately, it's not that simple. Something as "simple" as citizenship is a game changer in politics. The US doesn't need to support her for China to be weary of her loyalty. As an American citizen, NOI can eye any political office in the US. I'm not saying she has the interest but the mere existence of such possibility is already enough to imply she would do anything to gain their favour. That's a perspective the middle Easterners have when it comes to the nationality of a world organisation leader. The question is always: does she owe anything to her country and does her country pose a threat to us in case she decides to favour them? I'm sure China would prefer anyone but an American citizen.

mamotalk:
let me just keep quiet. but I still maintain that I rate her low on the level of her patriotism to Nigeria. that's all.

Ok.

Saintinoo:
Forget how CNN are painting things to make US look weak because of Trump.

US remains strong. China is categorised as a developing country, they do not have much say about world trade.

I live in the Americas, I don't depend on CNN. I am not pro Trump but I also know the US remains the world power but I can't deny the growing influence of China. They are converting their economic influence into political power and so far, it's been slow and steady.

jericco1:
Oga she is no longer a Nigerian

Why do you think so?

mamotalk:
I have nothing against her aspiration but she was not that patriotic during her stay in office in Nigeria. I still remember how she fumbled during one hearing like that at the National Assembly.

She served for many years but you chose to judge her by one fumbling? You're looking for a human being while has never had a weak moment as a leader? Anyway, I think she has done her best for Nigeria, engaging in Nigerian politics will only spoil her name.

ChiefJusticeFuc:
She became a citizen to help her chances since the US has more veto power on who becomes head of all major satanic UN agencies.

I don't about satan but considering the trade war going on, China will definitely oppose an American citizen.

RuddyFusion:
Nigeria can shuttle that diplomacy by the way China is Nigerians darling...and it's not a crime to have dual citizenship as many of the candidates for WTO DG does have dual citizenship

I never suggested it was a crime. I'm only referring to the trade war going on between the US and China. China wouldn't feel very comfortable with an American citizen leading the organisation, that's for sure.

Saintinoo:
This is WTO job not Asia bank job, when it comes to World trade, anyone US supports wins.

Let just wish her the best.

That was then bro. But I'm honestly hoping you're right.

ChiefJusticeFuc:
Why the fck not?

Ok bro.

She became an American citizen last year. This may affect how China welcomes her candidacy. I wish her the best.

ChiefJusticeFuc:
Fleshly, tell this woman to go and resolve her husband's konji level before being a Rothschild globalist agent.

Spit

Must you guys really do this?