Pray for him.

My mind tells me he wants you to help him out but he doesn't know how to tell you.

Or he has told you and you refused to help him

Or you just want to catch cruise with your post.

All these time wasting facilitators them.

As usual, #1 per word.

Plut01:

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There is an app to do legit white man video call for two hours. That's obviously what the Nigga run for the OP. One junior boy run am for a female friend of mine and she almost drop some milli. Nah later the boy come tell her say he just wan show her say she fit fall for scam no matter how smart.

Immediately I saw that part, I know it is the work of that same app.


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This is terrible. Imagine that!

We live in perilous times like the Bible said.

Na greed make many Nigerians to do MMM even after being told it was a ponzi scheme.

Don't allow greed to becloud your sense of reasoning.

Run.

Scam.

The person you spoke with on phone is either one of this:

1.) A white guy who is collaborating with Nigerian Yahoo Yahoo guys, or

2.) A Nigerian guy who wore a face mask just the same way Jubrin is wearing a face mask and pretending to be Buhari.

Run.

This is a case of Advance Fee Fraud.

Don't pay #1.

Not even 50 Kobo.

This is scam.

Avoid toxic people of you want peace and long life.

They're not worth worrying about.

That one you call friend is not a friend.

They call them frenemies.

Cut off from such people.

In recent times, I have cut off many frenemies from my life.

It is helping me now.

I hate pretence.

Men and women are different and respond differently to love.

Men want to be respected while women want to be loved.

You're the head of your home. This doesn't mean you must command your wife but it means your wife ought to respect you out of her own volition. She can advise you but she cannot force her advice on you.

As the head of your home, tell your wife to stop entering the man's car.

If it is okay by you, give her your car to be using for the time being and take public transport yourself.

Explain to her that it is a sacrifice you're willing to do for love and not because you're weak. Tell her not to abuse it. That is if you're willing to give her your car to use for the time being.

I'm really pained reading this-- that man must be very stupid. Asking another man's wife out!

Well, so talk to your wife and sort this out. All the best.

Women are VERY VERY VERY emotional. Entering that man's car, listening to the music, looking at him talk, enjoying his gist, the man confiding his own family gist with her, watching people on the road together everyday while going to work and coming back home-- haba! They must bond!

They get blood flowing inside dia body.

Apply wisdom and stop this unholy liaison before it is too late.

Nonexisting1:
Whenever a woman gets defensive and gives answers unrelated to questions being asked, there's an underlying issue going on. The best thing to do is stop asking questions and start doing investigations.

100% correct.

Stop exaggerating issues.

Human beings are imperfect.

There are thousands of pastors, if not millions, in Nigeria.

Using few cases of 3 or 4 or a low figure as a yardstick to conclude that pastors are attacking each other is a faulty premise with a faulty logical conclusion.

You people just blow things beyond proportion to feed your selfish interests.

Learn to mind your own business.

You that is saying this about men of God are you perfect?

No one is perfect. Me too, I am not perfect.

I have my own flaws.

Stop focusing on people's flaws.

Bishop Oyedepo has given scholarships, provided jobs, built roads etc, none of you ever talk about this!!

You see it and ignore it.

When you hear that he has a jet you open your mouth and start running it.

In Canaan Land, Living Faith Church, they enjoy 24 hours power supply. It has been so for more than 10 years. This is good management and administration. The Nigerian government is supposed to learn from this.

But no, nobody talks about it.

Nobody talks about the people who got healed after the doctor has told them they have a terminal disease and have few days left to live.

It's fault, fault fault that all of you are looking for.

If you're looking for fault, you'll see many. I assure you. Nobody's perfect. God is our helper. Learn to celebrate the good in people.

Over 100 jets drove to Buhari's sons wedding yet only few people said anything about it.

If it's a man of God now, all of you will open your mouth to start ranting.

Remove the speck of dust from your own eyes first.

Period.

I hate to be the bearer of bad news.

Your husband appears to be a narcissist.

Expires in 72 hours.

In recent times I have been a regular on the Romance section here on Nairaland.

I see people post about issues they have with their significant other.

Some post about suspecting that their partner is cheating on them.

Some post about what to do-- go ahead with their marriage plan or not after seeing what their partner did.

Some complain about saying something annoying to their girlfriend or boyfriend and after that their girlfriend or boyfriend no longer wants to have anything to do with them.

One recurring decimal I notice in most of these situations is that people are at their wits' end because they lack knowledge on what to do.

How to relate with someone is something that can be learnt from books, audio, video, seminars and so on.

It can be taught just the same way you attend lectures in your tertiary institutions.

For the next 72 hours, I'll be helping anyone who is interested in taking this offer by analysing and dissecting their relationship or marriage issues for free and thereafter offering advice for free.

In case you have issues, you can post about them in this thread and I promise to respond to them.

I may not respond on time to all the questions due to a busy schedule but I'll definitely try responding to all issues.

It pains me seeing people suffer in their relationships or marriages.

I feel bad seeing good people settle for someone who is toxic.

It is disheartening seeing again and again that most of my fellow youths don't know how to interpret red flag behaviour.

Most are insensitive and overlook these patterns all because they get caught up by their emotions-- cases of brain chemical bonding at work, feelings that can't last for more than two years.

I feel bad seeing again and again that people don't know what it means to love.

They think to love is to feel.

So they think love is a feeling. And once they feel attracted to someone, they believe they're in love.

You can be attracted to a toxic person without knowing they're toxic. Some of them can love bomb you or show you their good qualities at the onset just to hoodwink and trap you into "falling" in love with them.

Setting this thread is my own little way of helping you enjoy a peaceful relationship or marriage.

Knowledge is so critical in these things.

Alright, without further ado, the floor is open.

Remember, this opportunity is only for 72 hours.

And it is first come, first served.

Let the posts begin.

I pray you'll all enjoy peace, love and joy in your relationships and marriages in Jesus' name.

God bless you.

billynoni:
Tbvh, I didn't find him calling me "idiot" offensive, no need for any apology. I guess that's just me... Thanks for your input, really picked some useful things off your comment.

It's alright.

You can say you didn't find it offensive. It's your right to say so.

It doesn't change the fact that the word "idiot" is derogatory and a curse word.

Funny how we normalize shitty behaviour in our world today.

We normalize certain things we ought not to but complain when the aftermath and consequence becomes overwhelming on us.

I should have minded my business.

No wahala. Enjoy your Saturday.

Give him space.

You need to work on your behavior.

Not every thing can be corrected by saying sorry.

From your narrative it is abundantly clear that that wasn't the first time you did the act.

So what would make your boyfriend think you won't do it again?

Men are moved by respect while women are moved by love.

The gravest insult to a man from his woman is disrespect.

A man's love can turn to hatred when a woman REPEATEDLY disrespects him.

Men interpret respect as love. So if you disrespect him CONSISTENTLY, what his brain interprets that to mean to him is that you don't love him.

That's how men were created.

It can't be changed.

You had your chances to amend your ways but you blew it this last time again by sending him the SMS you said you sent him.

I can't say if he'll come back to you again or not. I'm not in his mind.

However, telling you this as a man myself, if I were your guy I will never allow you back or I will never go back to you.

It's not pride or arrogance. It's wisdom. I need peace. And so does your man. And so does every man. And so does every woman too.

Everyone wants peace but not everyone is willing to give peace.

What you sow is what you reap. When you sow disrespect why do you expect to reap peace or love?

Why do you expect a mere sorry to erase your disrespect?

Learn from your mistake, young lady.

Develop your self. Read books on personal development.

Most Nigerian women have a lot of entitlement mentality.

Some think that that they can misbehave and say sorry to pacify their partners or offer sex as palliative.

Most men are now wiser. Sex offered that way is manipulative. It isn't lovemaking anymore.

The man may accept the sex but he may not forgive you. He may have sex with you and still refuse dating you any further because of your wahala antecedence.

Lastly--

You have a character flaw. Work on yourself. If your man doesn't come back to you, you may likely do similar thing in your next relationship if you don't admit to yourself that you need help with your behavior.

A famous philosopher once said, Man know thyself.

How much of yourself do you know?

Advice no be curse.

Change, sister.

God bless you.

Abbey117:
Sometimes last year, I bought a phone for my babe (now ex)

One evening, on my way back from work I decided to chill at a restaurant but on getting there I met her having good time (to the point of kissing) the guy who she had told me was just a friend.

I got pissed off though I was able manage my anger. I politely ended the relationship, took the phone I bought for her and left her sim for her.

Later that evening, her new guy called me on phone and started insulting me, calling me a poverty stricken guy and all sorts. The funniest part was he said he had transferred the sum of #200,000 into my account to manage my poverty life (which I later confirmed as message of credit entered while still on call).

Later the babe used that to troll me on WhatsApp as the brokest guy she has ever dated posting my pix to shame me but I didn't give a damn after all I had had sex with her on different occasions.

Fast forward to yesterday afternoon, the same guy called me telling me he no longer had interest in dating the babe that she was a parasite and he was sorry for his actions towards me.

Now he's requesting for the money he sent to me (almost 9months) that it was a mistake on his part. I told him I had used the money but this guy kept pleading that even if it's #50,000 he will manage it.

What's your say?

Remind him that they blackmailed you on social media and that you're already talking with your lawyer to sue them for defamation.

Warn him that if he ever dares to call you again you will deal with him.

Did you ask him to pay 200k into your account

You were on your own and somebody willfully paid in money into your account and now he's asking for a refund!

You owe him nothing.

After defaming your character online he wants his money back.

Doesn't he know he's supposed to pay punitive damages and general cost for publishing libelous statements against you?

Or even if it was your ex who cyberbullied you directly as long as you can establish that there was collusion from this guy then you have a good case.

Case closed.

It is really a troubling situation.

The way we youths glorify sex in this country is so annoying.

Loose girls everywhere. Randy and loose men everywhere.

When it's time for marriage they start pretending to be who they're not.

Deceiving others into marrying them. And afterwards the cheating continues.

God help this generation.

20 minutes sex can ruin his stay in the UK.

Sex is not a crime by law, agreed.

But don't forget that stories can be fabricated to nail him.

I agree with the concerns expressed by @FalseProphet1.

He should look for a way to tell the girl's mother what the girl is trying to do. If he can record his conversation with the girl, better (as evidence to avert denial).

But telling his fiancee should be a LAST resort.

Ultimately, best bet-- he should leave both of them.

On a second note, I have something against the guy's motive which is even a bad one-- he sees the white lady as a means to secure his PR in the UK.

After getting it through her, what happens? Divorce? That guy has serious wahala.

Exploiting people is in itself an evil and bad thing to do.

Why can't he look for a better way to secure his PR?

And it's even possible that he isn't comfortable with their age differences especially considering the fact that he's an African man but he is hiding this because he wants to be a citizen by any means!

At the expense of your reputation and true personality you live a fake life just to get what you want from people. Terrible lifestyle.

Terrible.

AlphaMale666:
ok sir.

I appreciate you for understanding.

God bless you...

AlphaMale666:
shut up ur mouth! Idiot!

Defend yourself with reasonable argument or logic.

Not to resort to personality attack.

Tackle points; don't attack the messenger.

People who are intellectually weak are fond of attacking "the messenger."

It is also a sign of guilt, a case of kettle calling pot black.

When you point fingers at others don't forget that the remaining other four are pointing back at you.

Most of what you said are true but it doesn't make you free of those "charges" as well.

I kindly beg you to apologize to the guy you called an "idiot." It's a plea.

None of us is perfect. I too have at one time or another used such words on people.

God bless you.

captainking:

I met this thread late..

Lol

JOYOSITA:
I live n school in PH buh am still in my early twenties.

Are you born again?

PST. Kingsley Okonkwo

Join NSPPD everyday

Trust God you'll be delivered.

This is the link for today's programme:


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FnGJnyUmz9o

Many people have been delivered from conditions even more worse than yours.

emusmithyy:


Motivational Speaker

Relax, it's not that deep. 87.3% of people dating now won't marry the person they're dating. If they want to ghost, let them ghost.

The truth you're hiding from is EVERYBODY IS GHOSTING ON SOMEONE. There's someone you don't like, who's liking you and you're avoiding them, giving them RED SIGNAL buy ohhh, they're colour blind. So chill.

What type of illogical reasoning is this?

Because ghosting is rampant makes it right?

Why are you even avoiding the main points of my advice to focus on ghosting as a subject matter? What sort of diversionary tactic is this that shows ineptitude at its peak!

I talked about ghosting as it relates to the context -- 2 weeks ghosting. I wasn't generalizing.

Read my comments carefully again.

Sometimes people just want to react even when they have nothing meaningful or sensible to say.

MrChriz:
This only apply to real and true prophets...not modern day scammers.

Sure.

hpk:


Taaa! Shatap Dia!!!

Free yourself from mental captivity and see the truth for what it rightly is.

What's this one saying sef

neutralmind:


So you need a useful answer to a hopeless question.

Clap for yourself

starbuck:





Na from one dem take dey count two
Goodluck dear

Thank you my sister.

God bless you.

BlueSprint:




Shut up. I can choose to not have a website or to have. I can choose to have it in process.

I saw in the character of an applicant pride and attitude issues and knew it was only a matter of time before it caused an Earth quake and chose to not do anything with the entity. Simple. Every employer reserves the right of qualification or disqualification of applicants as it desires.


You Nigerians take pleasure in bad news. I asked you did I make any claim or take any service from anyone and refused to pay ?

How you people will not stop to use propaganda and misinformation to pull people down will not cease to amaze me.


God will judge her with prolonged wandering in the wilderness for the false accusations crafted to smear my identity.

Let us discuss facts. Argue on points.

Not this name-calling and derogatory antics of yours.

Why tell me to shut up?

Is it a bad thing I said in asking why a company that can afford to pay that much doesn't have a "common" website?

Na wa o.

Since when did argument or questioning become insult?

If you can't afford simple PR facilities like a website of "common" #10,000 then I wonder if you can afford paying that much.

You don't even have a social media presence!

Please, do the needful.

Advice no be curse.

You can be genuine but if you don't have these simple things in place why do you expect people not to be suspicious in this present day Nigeria where crime is rife and rampant

It's not our fault that we're suspicious.

It's how the system is.

We have to be concerned about our safety.

Only a fool puts his hands in fire because all men know what fire does to the body.

Divoc19:
If it takes one touch to charge you bro then, you're innit for a good ride everytime.
If you like be sad and hungry you go dey hit am on demand

I cover myself with the blood of Jesus!

I have since left my days of having multiple women at my beck and call.

Now I avoid women when it comes to sex. I just need a woman with the fear of God. Once I sense she's a player, or a pretender I withdraw.

I have lived that type of life before so I'm not ready for it anymore. I have given my life to Christ. And only women who are GENUINELY born again and who have other qualities I want in a woman qualify for me. Of course, I also have to pass her own tests too to qualify so it's not just about me.

In all, I am not Perfect. I am human so I have my own imperfections but the Holly Spirit helps me daily.

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AlphaSoul:

@all

The formal or correct Yoruba spelling for a duck is "Pepeye" without the letter "k."

"Japa" also has NO letter k.
Japa [in Yoruba literally means
to: "cut and seriously run off"]

"Pele" which means sorry
(a show of empathy) in Yoruba
also has NO letter k.

"Olopa" (police).



Knowing full well that the Yoruba alphabet has NO letters "k" and
"c" for instance, it is wrong to use
"k" when typing "pepeye," "japa," or "olopa" or "palasa" phone.



P.S. 'Segun, 'Sade, 'Sola also do
not have letter "h."

Sade Adu (the first person of
Nigerian descent to win a Grammy Award in 1986), was born in
Ibadan, Nigeria. Her classic name
"Sade" is properly spelt without
the wrong Anglicised version with
letter "h."

Wow! Thanks for this enlightenment!

Most appreciated