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I need a female friend in Port Harcourt.

No sex.

Not for dating.

Purely for friendship.

If you're a lover of intellectual discussions, then I'd love to talk with you.

Must be born again.

Mail me let's start from here: bobmanuelhamilton@gmail.com

It's high insult.

Why force your advice on someone else?

Do you think she doesn't know what's good for her?

Do you think she hasn't tried her best?

Do you know about the efforts she has made to be married?

Why remind her indirectly that her friends or siblings or whoever she knows is married and she isn't?

That's emotional manipulation.

Some people can slap you for that.

You have no right to force people into marrying.

Many people who are not married today are not married because they haven't seen the right one.

It's not their fault. They're being careful. The world we live in today is so spoilt!!!

When you start reminding someone to get married they may end up making mistake because they want to prove a point to you that they can marry.

And they may go for the next available and ready person who may not be the right one.

They will later discover some bad habits about this person when they're already married. By then it's too late.

But what caused it?

Because everyone around them was pressuring them, "Go and marry."

If you will allow your future wife to cook for her ex when both of you are already married, then what this lady did is right.

Stop asking question that you already ought to know the answer.

I suspect Okafor's Law.

He should call off the wedding.

What is she doing with an ex?

Flimsy excuse: she was bored so she visited him?

Doesn't she have female friends to visit?

Beg your friend to NEVER, EVER accept her if he wants peace in his life.

The moment trust is broken it can never be mended.

Trust is different from weakness of character.

Trust means defying mutual agreement, whether impliedly or explicitly.

A woman who defies you by visiting her ex is indirectly disrespecting you.

She's telling you she wants things to be done her way.

She said she was bored, abi??

What about when they "mistakenly" get married and she gets bored tomorrow!?

What do you think she'll do when her hubby is not around?

That lady lacks self control.

And people like that can't help but succumb to the cravings of their desire at the expense of their partners.

A person who lacks self control can never stay committed in a relationship.
Mark that!

Take it anywhere and ask a marriage counselor if that's true or not.

I pray your friend doesn't succumb to people's pressure to go against his wish because when e go happen tomorrow say this lady don de misbehave for him house none of them go de around.

Dem go do like say e no concern dem.

And even if de show concern, na him go de feel the pain for him house not dem.

A word is enough.

God bless you.

You see as I write plenty like this?

I don't want your friend to make a big mistake.

When will all this nonsense stop on Nairaland??

Why are you wasting your time with a confused, inconsistent woman??

She doesn't know what she wants.

She wants a piece of you and the other guy at the same time!

Can't you read inbetween the lines that you're wasting your time with her

Some of una need serious konk for head sometimes.

Be there. If you like make you no leave her.

Make dem de use your head de play kalo kalo.

[quote author=dultmax post=102087021][/quote]Peace!!!

LegendHero:
Nice one.

But I think the Nigeria media need some schooling in their reporting.

The $100m Facebook grant will be shared among multiple business and infact there are over 30,000 business or so that can qualify when Facebook announced the grant last year.

So these EscrowLock guys will get the cash & ad grant not even up to $10k at maximum but this report made it look like it’s $100m for a single company.

Imagine giving $100m each to 30,000 small businesses, how much is even Zuckerberg worth to start with?

In the USA here I think the grant is $4000 for small businesses ($2500 in cash and $1500 in optional ad credits). I don’t know the actual amount for Africa.

Why are Nigerian bloggers so deceitful??

Maka why?

It is well, Daniel.

Try Fiverr and Upwork.

You'll make good money there.

They pay in Dollars.

When you make it, don't forget to help others.

You'll be fine.

Why do people use their own hand to cause problem for themselves?

As one of those who commented asked, if you keep yam and goat wetin go happen?

Even a priest can fall. It's not about title. It's about wisdom.

Your friend has to leave. Do it politely. He can't stay. Period. Well, na your choice go make. Not ours.

Don't say you were not told.

networkteam:
if u have money to invest upto 200k I can travel to where u are and we work together

it's online because that's what will give you and me the desired lifestyle.

at this stage
am hitting the bulls eye with ur capital and u learn from me directly

few weeks and we are earning already.

we do a bit of everything
we start small though

affiliate marketing
cpa
information marketing

these will kick start good roi for a long time to come

0.9.0.3.7.9.5.1.2.6.6

am in akure
Lagos based though

chat me
Abraham
just accessing my sister phone tonight and she did not log out

live work
legit
money is for tools

Why do I feel this is scam

Start your own laundry shop.

But PLEASE, I strongly advise you not to borrow money or ask for money to rent a shop.

You don't need a shop now.

You can do a laundry business from your house without a shop.

If you don't stay alone, look for someone who is VERY understanding whose house you can use for the business.

Use his iron for a start.

Go from house to house and ask people to give you their clothes for laundry.

Remove shame from your body. No send wetin anybody go talk. Our problem as graduates is that we're too big to humble ourselves in making money. This is why you see so many unschooled people building duplex with akara business on the street and we're looking down on them not knowing they can pay us salary 'sef'!

Start small.

Be patient.

The business may be tough when you start.

Don't give up.

Some people may not want to give you clothes to do their laundry because you don't have a shop.

Don't give up.

Be patient. This is the second time I'm saying this.

Also, don't depend on pity-party stories.

Believe in yourself. I sense you don't fully believe in your abilities.

You can be great if you believe so.

Nobody owes you anything in life.

Fight for yourself.

Although nobody owes you anything in life, this doesn't mean that you can't ask people for help.

But when asking for help, do it politely. If they turn you down, don't get angry at them.

Why? Because as I said, no one owes you anything.

Let rejection be your fuel and drive for success.

Take care and bye for now.

200k tax?

How?

In less than 1 year?

Let him consult a lawyer.

You need sense to stop talking to her!

Bible said flee, yet you're still talking to her.

What do you expect? That you won't have feelings.

Na you know wetin you de find. Continue.

Red flags are real.

Run before it's too late.

It is wrong and foolish for the GIRL to turn him down because he has no car.

It is more foolish for the guy to try and persuade her to accept him even after she has displayed her foolishness. He should be thanking God he has known her true character and quickly cut off from her.

Your problem is not spiritual.

You need knowledge.

Read books to boost your drive for excellence and recovery in the face of challenges.

Read "Tough times never last but tough people do" by Robert Schuller.

Read books by John C. Maxwell.

Read books by Myles Munroe-- an expert on purpose.

We over spiritualize things a lot in Africa.

I'm not saying that the spiritual cannot affect the physical.

What I'm saying is don't always say every problem is caused by spiritual forces.

Sometimes it's our ignorance.

@op you need to read widely on this.
Also pray.

These books will open your mind to possibilities latent in you that you never knew existed.

Don't say you don't have money to buy books.

Go on Google.

There are some free ebooks.

Some of these authors have their books free on the internet.

Read.

Read.

Grow.

It is not late for you.

You will be great.

Admit your fault.

Don't blame anyone but yourself. Take responsibility for your mistakes.

The ball is in your court.

Nothing will change until you act.

Beware.

She's telling you who she is.

End the relationship.

Or stylishly ask her of her past.

Try to find out if she at any time cheated in her previous relationships and how many times-- be indirect.

If yes, that's a bigger red flag.

Patterns are clues to who people are because we're products of our habits.

Things like this are not to be seen as a weakness.

Nah, na major red flag.

You've been advised.

A seventeen year old girl told my girlfriend that she can't count the number of guys she has slept with!!!

Funniest part-- she was deflowered last year, June 2020!!!

Holy slap for yansh Wahala be like bicycle

Very simple.

Since they want to frustrate you.

Tell them you've beer sacked and that right now you're homeless and penniless.

Watch their reaction.
If they ask you to come to the village tell them you don't have transport..

That you can't even feed.

All I'll say is if your wife-to-be is a Nairaland regular, there's no way she won't be able to decipher the original context of your story after putting 1 and 2 together regardless of how you may have distorted the facts to avoid being caught.

Your style of writing should you give you away if she's conversant with how you write.

Your unnecessary divulging of plenty facts before the "knacking" will give you away even though you may have exaggerated some of the details of those facts respectively.

My candid advice: call her and tell her what happened and that your conscience will not allow you go on with the marriage because of this.

If it were to be another random girl who is not Grace's friend then it will be okay to proceed with the wedding but herein we're talking about a family member, her younger sister!

It will be a perpetual stigma each time you look at or think about Abigail, the younger sister.

Save your conscience.

There are many women in the world. Develop an abundance mindset. Don't think that if you miss Grace you won't have someone better. That is poverty of the mind! You need work on your mindset.

Listen to motivational tapes by Les Brown. Read books by peak performance coaches. Look for TedX talk on YouTube dealing with self development. Google "how to develop an abundance mindset" on the internet. Read voraciously on this.

Ask Grace for forgiveness but tell her you won't be going on with the marriage because of trust. That you're to be blamed. That you don't want to start on a wrong footing. She may want to forgive and accept you back but don't fall for that. Tomorrow she may do something similar in the marriage to get even. But even if she wouldn't, don't settle for the marriage.

Do the right thing. Receive the blame and shame temporarily.

Better to suffer temporary blame than to live with guilt and shame of this magnitude and nature for the rest of your life.

God bless you.

Can I bring this thread back to life?

Can I bring this thread back to life?

I'm waiting peeps

Holler at your man

Don't quit yet.

Learn how to drive on weekends.

When you've learnt,

Find a bolt arrangement with an owner
Where you'll be doing weekends
And close of work to test the market first.

Afterwards, quit if you're sure the market
Will favour you.

Don't quit now yet.
Don't make the mistake I once made.