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I don't see anything wrong in office exchange of gifts during val, what I frown at here is the kind of gift he bought for your wife ...

That gift is SUPER INAPPROPRIATE especially coming from a man to another man's wife! ...

And the fact that your wife is taking this lightly and not paying attention to how this makes you feel even after you've communicated your mind is even more repulsive ...


Thinking out loud ...
Since you've communicated your mind to her and she's still taking it lightly, fret not...

Just come back home one day with a fresh scent on you and when she ask, just tell her that a female colleague of yours got you some packs of deodorant which you keep in the office ...

Sha make sure the fragrance is feminine and that you don't allow your wife to use it, it's specially for you ...

If she tries to get jealous, remind of her of this moment ...

If she's indeed pregnant, there's a chance that you might NOT be the father ...

Stay away from premarital sex so that you won't ask questions like this ...

Sacrifice my salary because? ...

Wordsfrombimpe:
I have every right to disagree

If you want to have a husband that will cheat on you

Go ahead and accept your husband's gbola in another woman's pussy

You think is sweet to have infections many times because he can't be self discipline

Any man that cheat on his wife lack self discipline in fact he is a cheap man

You think is good for a man to also give his wife diseases from sleeping with a call girl

You look at it this way

As a woman if I want to cheat I will cheat but I chose not to because am discipline and am loyal

There are women who can have sex with men without loving the man

It goes both way

There are women who also loses attraction for their husbands

This is where counselling comes in

The two of you sit down and work towards building this marriage where do we go wrong and how can we go about it solving it

Not jumping from one pussy to another

Or from one gbola to another

Communication is a vital tool

Some partners even find it difficult to say I want to Bleep you so good

I want your gbola or your kitten

Because they are shy base on societal views

Forgetting if this marriage crash societal views will not care

Fix your marriage not by going to strangers

Fix it by communicating and being expressive to tell them how you truly feel

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As expected...
A typical female response ...

See eh...
If I tell you that "The sky is blue", whether or not you disagree is IRRELEVANT, because the fact is that the sky is indeed blue ...

Same thing here...
Whether or not you agree with me is IRRELEVANT, the fact still remains this: sex and love are entirely two different things to men (in general)...

A man can sleep with someone he doesn't love and him doing so does not mean he doesn't love the woman he says he loves, period! ...

Does that mean I support cheating, nope... But men will ALWAYS be men regardless...

Just as women will always be women, men have been calling women unprintable names for centuries, but has that stop women from wanting a rich man? ...

Same thing here...
Argue and cry all you want...
Call men names all you want...

It doesn't change the fact that men will want what they want and what they want is VARIETY, it's just fact! ...

And for the last time mi'der, men and women are NOT the same! Stop using a female matrix to judge men, it's futile!

Wordsfrombimpe:
No man that love his wife will cheat on his wife

I disagree

Is a choice don't make up excuses and categorize is to be love

You're funny o ...

You asked a question, "Why do married men cheat on their wives?"

And men are giving you answers and you're saying "I disagree", na wa o ...

Since you already have your mind made up, why bother to ask? ...

@bolded...
First of, men and women are different and thus interpret and recieve love differently...

Having said so, it is 100% possible for a man to sleep with other women and still love his wife ...

That a man has other women asides you doesn't mean that he doesn't love you, nahhh...

Sex and love are two different things to men, they are not intertwined for men (for the most part)...

I know you'll "disagree" with the above statement cause your mind can't even begin to process this ...

Well...
It's to be expected, you're not a man, you're a woman and so you would NEVER really understand...

What you're doing right now is using the female matrix of love and relating it to men ...

Just like how women (in general) find super ambitious, alpha type men attractive and so they go ahead and cultivate those traits in themselves...

Thinking that the same way they find these traits attractive is the same way men find those traits attractive - it doesn't get any more delusional than that ...

Lemme give you (and other women) two pieces of advice that will help you...

1. When you ask men a question, allow the men answer the question and take it exactly the way it is said ...

2. For the most part, what women (in general) find attractive in men eh, the opposite of it is what men (in general) find attractive...
((N/B: this isn't a rule of thumb))

onumadu:
Of course not. There are always exceptions to every rule. Duh?
Remember the saying that "for every twelve there is at least one Judas"?
Generalization is always dangerous.
But still, the idea remains that virgins these days (and I added "these days" deliberately because the idea that a woman should marry as a virgin is an OLD culture) is often mistaken and misused by some people. The original idea in that old culture, is that a woman married between 13 to 18 years latest.
Today, a woman will come and say she is a virgin at 30.
What type of a woman remains a virgin at 30?
What character does she have to remain virgin at 30?
That is where the OP's observations (and mine too) come into play.
That is the difference.
I have nothing against virgins, but some men these days use it to objectify women beyond common sense.
I wouldn't mind my son marrying an 18 year old virgin. But you see those twenty-something and thirty-something year old virgins?

Now that you've explained it, I do get your point and from this stand point, I totally agree with you...

onumadu:
I DOUBT it.
If you have, you'd have understood where the OP is coming from.

Lol ...

So lemme guess, all virgins fall into the category that the OP describe ba? There are no exceptions abi? Wehdone sir ...

Saintinoo:
Have you.been in a relationship with a virgin before?

Yup...
Why?

Women naturally are manipulative, it's their nature ...

However...
Better a virgin manipulator, than a wh.orish one ...

IyaebeTheGreat:
They somehow contribute to what she’s doing now. Wrong upbringing

A woman (an adult female) decides to sleep with her boyfriend's father out of her own volition and it's "somehow" her parents fault? ...

What sorta reasoning is this?!

Even if according to you, it's a case of wrong upbringing, can't that woman advice herself?

If your parents didn't bring you up well or trained you well, train yourself well! You're not a child who can't tell wrong from right, you're an adult! ...

Every adult, whether they be male or female is SOLELY RESPONSIBLE for whatever actions that they take (voluntarily), so stop all these blame shifting of "somehow-ness" ...

Abi are you imply that her parents "somehow" told her to sleep with the father's of the boy's who dumped her outta spite? ...

IyaebeTheGreat:
Nonsense . Does this type of ladies have parents? Na wa ooo.

Why are you blaming the parents for the actions of an adult? ...

Na who be President na him dey get cabinet o, hmmmmm I won't say anymore ...

Don't fret OP...

From now on record every conversation you have with her or anyone related to her...

Keep your words to the bare minimum when conversing with her...

If you're boxed into a corner or feel like she's trying to cause you to make a promise, respond with "let's see what tomorrow brings or I'll get back to you"...

She will try to get under your skin by saying and doing certain things, but stay calm NO MATTER WHAT...

Finally...
Get your own lawyer, by no means should you sign nada without first getting yourself a very good lawyer to explain things to you...

Don't sign any terms that will put you at the disadvantage, good luck...

The idea that having a hole in-between your legs makes you special is nothing short of delusion, period!

You are not special!!!
There are billions of people like you that has a hole in-between their legs also, so stop with this crap ..

You claim "we all came from women", but I beg to differ, I didn't come from a woman, I came through a woman ..

'Cause last I checked, women don't have seeds, men do and every life comes from a seed ...

So...
If you (and other women) want to be treated with dignity, then start carrying yourself with dignity ...

You can't be acting like a w.h.ore jumping from pole to pole for money and other benefits and ask to be treated with respect ...

You can't be out there saying trash about men and still expect the same men to "kill for you" ...

Respect is not only reciprocal, respect is earned, so go earn yourself some respect and stop whining simply because there's a hole in-between your legs ...

When will men learn ...

I've said this before and I'll say it again, "It is foolishness of the highest order to sponsor a girl you're not related to, to school" ...

If she's not your wife, your mother, your daughter, your child, your cousin, your niece or a less privilege fellow, NEVER CONSIDER SPONSORING HER TO SCHOOL, NEVER!!!!...

If you love her so much, wife her up first and let her give birth, then she can go to school ...

I know the above suggestion isn't a guarantee, but "wife divorce husband after graduation" is a much better headline than "girlfriend dumps man who sponsored on graduation day" ...

Be wise men...
Be wise...

You see this madness called "gender equality", it will definitely cause more problems soon, this is only the beginning ...

But either ways...
Free boo.bies for all and sundry ...
I see guys making regular pool appointments ...

PoliteActivist:
Ok, let's go to science. See below

You and thebosstrevor1 are both right depending on the context you're viewing it from...

We've viewed it from science, let's view it from a relationship stand point...

Women in general want men who are rich, successful and powerful ba?

(A rich man is most likely to attract many women as compared to a poor man)

So for a man to be able to attract very many women, he will have to be rich, powerful and successful...

And you don't become rich, powerful and successful by just sleeping around, it takes real work! Years of it!

So to be able to get to that point where you get to even sleep around, it means you must have built a certain level of value (or at least fake it ) ...

Banilla:
Yes, so?

A woman in her 30s was never approached by one serious man for 12 years? (Since she turned 18)

You're missing the entire point ...
Women being approached is not the issue here, a woman WILL ALWAYS be approached by men especially if she's young and pretty!!

But the question is "what's their motive for approaching her?" ...

Believe me, for most of the time it's just for nacks ...

Out of a 100 men that'll approach her, she'll be lucky if 5 men are actually serious with her, but guess what?

She'll turn them down!! Thinking she has "options"

And the illusion of options steams from the number of men (100) she sees approaching her, not knowing that her "options" are a whole lot smaller (5) than what she really thinks ...

Her eyes will only open when she gets older and by then, even fewer men will bother to take a second glance at her, that's the point!

Nazgul:
He's right bro. If you're a student and have an over religious lecturer, he/she would never show you mercy for the slightest offence.

Mercy isn't in their dictionary, I wonder the kind of Bible they read.

Emphasis on "over" ...
Anything taken to the extreme will most times be an issue ...

However, I don't see the OP making such emphasis ...

And the generalization is just off for me ...

But either ways, let the OP look around, I'm sure his hatred can fetch him something nice in the market ...

That hatred you have eh, please use it and buy mama put, you'll be fine ...

Block him ...
I hate it when people try to take advantage of other people's good will ...

IyaebeTheGreat:
Women who spend on men are gradually digging their own grave, men naturally don’t appreciate this kind of gesture. Men don’t value women who spend on them , they value the ones they spend on because it boost their ego. I don’t pity her because she sold her sense of reasoning for some useless sweet talk and brainwashing. How women dy take give man money sef? As in how you go take give am? E even dy do my body somehow as I even type am. I can only dash or help a random man with money and gifts but once you are my lover I will never spend a dime on you because I’m setting you on a path of irresponsibility. I can only spend on a man I love after marriage because that’s the only time it makes sense. No be me another person’s son go take practice gigolo.

You obviously know nothing about men ...

With all due respect sir, this is trash! ...

spyroet:
it has come to my notice that any topic related to sexuality is mostly discussed by males.
so on the contrary men are the real prostitutes not the women, women only took the advantage of use what u have to get what u want.

1. hardly u see a man dat do any favour for a girl without asking for sex in return, yet we criticises them the most.
2. it is uncommon for girls to toast a guy or initiate for sex, pls let stop condemning ours girls.

I think you need to open a dictionary and check the meaning of the word "prostitute" ... Once you do, you'll see how ludicrous the bolded is ...

1. Women since the beginning of time have always been taking advantage of men in the name of "favours" (I wonder why they rarely go and ask their fellow women) ...

And when the men attend their needs without asking for nada in return, women for the most part will call him names behind his back, seeing him as a "maga" or "mumu" ...

And last I checked, no one wants to be called a "maga", so it's better this way ...

If you want something, then you've got to be willing to give something up, this is how I will advice every man to relate with women ...

Too bad the only thing most women can give in exchange is the hole in-between their legs ...

And besides...
If you do a "favour" for a woman today, rest assured that you'll be the first one she thinks of when she needs another favour and if you don't yield, you'll still be called names... So it's better this way ...

Any relationship with a woman outside family should be for the most part purely transactional....

2. Is there anything or anyone stopping women from toasting guys? I thought men and women are equal? ...

Sheybi what a man can do a woman can do better, ba? Make them enter streets go toast men abeggi ....

Data ...
With 3k you can get about 25gb worth of data or more depending on the network ...

The last time I checked, even men too aren't spared from being dragged, so don't come here and make this a gender thing ...

And Incase you haven't noticed, this is a public platform and every member of this platform is entitled to their opinion...

When you bring your opinion (or any matter) to a public platform, that opinion/matter is open for scrutiny by any member of the public ...

Whilst some will agree with you, chances are that many others won't... No one here is existing in this space just to cuddle anyone...

So if you can't take the heat, please deactivate your account ...

And just Incase you haven't noticed, that OP's account in the first link is a fake/cloned one... It was opened today ...

I never thought I'd see a day when someone will say or imply that "virginity is overrated" ...

Either ways, to each his own ...

On my own end, I have nothing against w.ho.res, however, unless God Himself thunders from heaven, I would rather stay unmarried than marry a girl who isn't a virgin ...

Call me "immature" or "unexposed" or whatever rocks your boat, that's on you ...

But a girl who isn't a virgin doesn't qualify to be my wife ...

Failure2019:
I'm saying you should make a wider research than Google

Besides majority of what accrues on Google are written by hungry bloggers and thirsty mags


Smh

Google isn't a digital library

It's basically a web crawler with additional support


Go and read the satanic verse by Salman Rushdie

Interesting...

You're right...
But you're wrong ...

Failure2019:
Smh


Don't believe everything Google tells you


Go to your library and do your research


Lavey Anton isn't the founder of satanism, he's just a black pope.

Satanism is divided into two ; those that worship Satan and those that sees Satan as a role model

...
Yeah right ...
I should believe you instead of Google ba? ...
No wahala, I will ...

And emmm...
Have you ever heard of the concept "digital library"? ...

Failure2019:
I don't worship Satan , I see Satan as an archetype

Anton Lavey isn't the father of satanism


Satanism started as early as 1800 even goes back to 78BC

Confusion everywhere ...