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Videocaller:
She’s paying the rent alone. I have properties already but I’m 25 and she’s 27. I just don’t want to make mistakes

First off...
You said one of the room is your office, won't moving out affect your work? ...

Secondly...
Once a lady starts doing the heavy lifting, she loses ALL respect for her man for the most part, can you handle being disrespected? ...

Thirdly...
Is there anything to gain or lose if you move in with her? ...

I can't decide for you sir...
But if I were ever in your shoes, I'd rather stay in a one room face me I face you apartment than accept this kind of arrangement with a girlfriend ...

But it's your call sha ...

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The moment another guy calls my woman "baby" "my love" or any other endearing name and she doesn't straighten things out.... I'll address it and if I don't get the desired results, we're done! ...

The moment she starts talking/chatting to a certain guy more than she does me... I'll address it and if I don't get the desired results, were done! ...

For those of you who think this is extreme, understand say na from shaking your head and tapping your feet for ground, na it dance dey take start

Whether or not this is cruise is IRRELEVANT, but one thing I know for certainty is that if I was the woman's husband, I'd be serving her divorce papers ...

Should this even be a question? ...

Like I would come to visit you and I will send money so you can entertain me, how?

Did I come for a visit, abi I came for a show that I have to pay for? ...

Abeg o...
If the people I'm going to visit cannot entertain me, then it's fine, I'll take it to mean that that's how they treat their guest or that they're broke and/or stingy ...

This religion is the most USELESS religion ever ...

How can you make moves to take a life all because of an alleged "blasphemy"? ...

And what's worse is the fact that, ABSOLUTELY NOTHING is done to check their stupidity ...

Typical feminine nature ...
Once a man gets to a certain status, their pus.sy gets drenched ...

Beautyprincess2:
Ohh so his comment is useless bc he didn't agree with you guys rotten ideology? Fantastic!!!

Can you show me EXACTLY where I said "his comment is useless", abi is this a figment of your rotten imagination? ...

Urheadmaster:
Will you keep quiet


Weed is far better than tramadol

But not indulging in either is the best of it all ...

cococandy:
Lame face saving

Uhhhnnnn ...
Is this the best response a "smart ass" like you can give? ... How "profound" ...

Well it's to be expected ...
We can't always comprehend the "wisdom" of the "wise" ...

UYEMDO35:
You won't understand, bro. if u come my church you will understand better.

Leave that thing oga...
I too attend a church where EVERYONE have to dance to the pulpit to put their offering and there's absolutely no shame in having no offering ...

If you had, you would've given, since you didn't have, then bone the matter! ... Abi is having an offering a criteria to entering the house of God? ...

Calm down jareh...

Westerhoffe:
At this point, make him pity the woman na…

Since power don change hands, make him rest jare.

First off...
I can't vouch for the authenticity of this news ...

Secondly...
If the reverse were the case, do you think the woman would "pity" you? ...

cococandy:
Don’t be proudly ignorant

First off...
Where in my write up did I compare men and women in issues like this? ... Abi is this one of your delusional "smart" response? ...

Secondly...
"Being alone is a whole lot better than being with someone who have no qualms leaving you when things goes south ..."

This concluding statement of mine is not gender specific, but I guess a "smart ass" like you couldn't figure that out uhn ...

Enjoy your day "smart ass" ...

Dannysaka:
Isn't marriage supposed to be till death do us part? When he was healthy she had no problem eating his money, now he needs his wife the most, she wants a divorce

Sheybi when people say things like "women are users" "women love men only for what they can gain" and the likes, some folks will be shouting "misogyny", now look at it ...

When things are alright, "I'll be with you till death do us part", when things are bad "this isn't what I signed up for, I want out"

OP...
Tell her to leave him, oga deserves better and will prolly be better off without her in his life ...

A woman who can even conceive the thoughts of leaving her man in such trying times is a demon, let her go! ...

Being alone is a whole lot better than being with someone who have no qualms leaving you when things goes south ...

Any man who is intending to get married and doesn't put structures in place to protect himself just in case things goes south is a big fo.ol ...

Her refusal to sign a prenup is proof that she most likely has plans to ruin your life, forget all that talk of "it means you don't trust her" and bla bla bla, it's just BS said to manipulate you into doing her will ...

Brush1:
Do to others what you would want to be done to you or your sister . That boy was picked up from the gutter by this lady just so you know. . She did all she could to get his career on board by meeting with different managers and clubs. That guy is just not a nice person.

Oh please🙄
Spare me the whole emotional BS, it's getting stale already 🙄...

And what do you mean "she picked him from the gutters?" ....

Please go and do your research well...
Hakimi was already playing for Dortmund before that girl ever came into the picture...

Oga was doing well for himself already, so all this gutter talk is in all fairness, TRASH! ...

She stopped being his wife the moment a divorce was filed, so whether or not she suffers is not Hakimi's business ...

It's PURE & UNADULTERATED WICKEDNESS of the highest magnitude to want half of a man sweat because you were once married to him, likeee ...

And how lots of people cannot see this is what beats my imagination ...

Las Las...
Everyone should leave the marriage the way they came, only joint assets should be split, nothing more! ...

Offpoint1:
Trends will fade out...
Willing your entired property to your mother is an act of foolishness... If you can't will to your wife, then will it to your kids.

As your name is, so is your comment ..

Ignore her but if she's too overbearing, then find a way to get her fired ...

@Pat081
I'll take my cut plus my 10k ...

@OP...
Anyone, male.or.female.who doesn't support the Hakimi guy for the financial move he made, is simply being daft (for want of a better word) ...

Seeing how much men stand to lose I'm cases like this, it is STUPIDITY for any man to not find a way to protect himself ...

Trash! ...

She stopped being his wife the moment she served him divorce papers, so whether or not she suffers isn't any of his business! ...

And speaking of assets, is it only Hakimi that has assets? Let her also bring her assets so Hakimi can have his half ...

Please lock that woman up and throw away the keys asap ...

And this one thought he made sense ...
Lemme address your pints sir...

1. That a woman has money doesn't absolve her from being a gold digger sir ...

If she wasn't a gold digger, let her go with her money and leave the young man with his money, why want half his assets? ...

2. A woman's intelligence doesn't stop her from being a woman ...

And as you can see, with all her intelligence and ability to speak multiple languages, she still acted like EVERY OTHER WOMAN acts in the course of a divorce, so what are we saying ...

3. Whether or not she contributed to his rise isn't certain, I mean just because a woman is with a man who is just starting up doesn't mean she contributed to his rising ...

She could just be there hoping he rises and then cash out from it in future ...

But however, that she contributed to his rising doesn't make her entitled to half his stuff ...

If a woman who has known him for just 5years wants half his stuff, how about a woman who has sacrificed her all for his entire life?

What percentage is she entitled to? ...

4. That's your wahala...

5. That's an allegation sir and unless proven otherwise, he is INNOCENT ...

I pity men like who think like this ...

Women will almost NEVER use their husband as NOK, it'll either be their kids or sisters or mothers, or someone else, it's rarely ever their husband ...

Only men are stupid enough to take such risk all in the name of love and see how they end up most of the time ...

Men wise up!!!!!! ...

I've always said this and I will say it again, women for the most part are ATTENTION JUNKIES and just as every junkie can't do without a couple of sniffs here or there, women CAN'T do without attention ....

So a woman saying she doesn't want male attention is just yarning cap ...

And this lamentations will become more and more frequent, many men are seeing the futility of relating with a woman outside nacks ...

The beginning of Isaiah 4:1 has indeed only just begun ...

koladata
You took the words right outta my mouth ...

In this day and age, it is a VERY HUGE for a man to get married, very huge one ...

Cause madam could wake up one morning and say "I no do again" and boom, you lose more than half the things you worked for your entire life just like that ...

Which right thinking man would want to take such a risk without finding a way to protect himself? ...

Modern women have indeed dragged the institution of marriage to the mud and in the near future, more and more men will not even consider get married ...

Indeed the words of Isaiah the prophet spoken in Isaiah 4:1 will come to pass in a few years from now ....

"In that day so few men will be left that seven women will fight for each man, saying, “Let us all marry you! We will provide our own food and clothing. Only let us take your name so we won’t be mocked as old maids.” --NLT

BRATISLAVA:
With the mentality displayed here, a lot of you are wrecking your relationships before they even begin. Focus on the aftermath is pointless. If this is protracting himself, there should be no complaints about what men get in relationships in return.

It will be cause for celebration when the topics starts flooding in.

Oh really? @bolded
It's so easy for you to say because you're not the one at risk of losing everything... Cause if you were, then maybe you would see how ridiculous the bolded sounds ...

And like I said earlier, if protecting yourself is seen as "wrecking relationships", then you're the one who needs a "mentality check" ...

And by the way...
Do you know the risk a man faces just getting married to a woman here in the west? ...

Knowing fully well that she could just wake up one morning and divorce him and take half his wealth or more and boom, he's left with nothing ...

And lemme ask...
Why is she asking for half of HIS money? Why isn't she bringing her own assets to be split in half? ... I'm sure you're aware that, that lady is loaded ba?

BRATISLAVA:
One guy has determined how you should wreck all your relationships. That's too sentimental. How can you can yourselves men and not sheep?

Did you ever find out why his marriage failed? Or are you all so obsessed with nonexistent money more than a gold digger is?

Why his marriage went south is IRRELEVANT in this discuss, marriages go south all the time,it's nothing new... The main issue here is what happens after the marriages go south ...

It's no news that 97% + of the time, it's a man who ends up losing his entire life's sweat to a woman ...

He loses half his wealth or more...
He loses his house...
He loses his properties and assets...
His kids etc...

So seeing a man plan ahead and protecting himself from such loss is a cause for celebration ...

And if you think that protecting yourself from such loss is "wrecking your relationship", then you're the one who is being sentimental ...

If anyone is allowed to "control" me, I would rather it be my mother than my wife ...

And even if anyone should rip me off my wealth, I'd rather.it be my mother than my wife ...

If my mother (and father) didn't make sacrifices for me, I wouldn't be considered "good enough" to attract my wife ...

So the only reason there is a place for a wife is because a mother (and father) played a part in preparing that place ...

So yes..
Hakimi made the best decision ever ...

And for those calling Hakimi "mummy's boy", please go on abeg ...

Gone are the days when the phrase "mummy's boy" was seen as an insult, now it's seen as a COMPLIMENT ...

Weknowbetter:
Your husband and wife are your immediate family. He put his assests in his mother's name to avoid paying. A woman waste her youth and use her body to bring man kids, but he dont want to pay, wahala. Most men agreeing wish they could have a big payout too

Oh please shut it up already,it's getting stale🙄... Which one is "she wasted her youth"?🙄...

So what the man wasted wasn't his "youth" ba, it was his old age? ...

And what's with the whole "use her body to bring the man's kids", are the kids not also hers? ...