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I'm more concerned about you OP ...

Cause I don't think you have healed from the hurt caused by your dad's behavior ...

And if you haven't, chances are that history will repeat itself ...

From my experience, females who come from homes where the dad's are irresponsible, abusive or not present, most of the times don't have good marriages themselves ...

So I advice you focus on healing from the hurt and then, you'll be able to make a decision that's based on clarity and free from hurt ...

OP, if you claim to be a satanist, it clearly shows that is there a God (opposite) ...

I mean...
If there's good, then there's bad...
If there's poor, then there's rich...
If there's man, then there's woman...
If there's yin, then there's yang...

So if there's Satan, then there's God...
So in summary...
Serve your Satan in peace and allow me and other people serve our God in peace ...

And besides...
Aren't those words culled from a book known as "satanic bible"? ....

If I'm not mistaken, those are not your words but the words of Anthonne Lavey ...

If that is true, that means you're a (an academic) thief ...

And if stealing is permitted in satanism, I can only imagine what the world will be like if everyone was a "satanist" ...

If you want to raise a kid with morals, I do not think that the west is the best place for that ...

SpyChild:
I am not saying OP should marry her o; but if he DOES marry her, she will never repeat the same mistake because of the position she is in and facing right now.

Never say never my dear ...
You never can tell for certainty if she will do it again ...

OP calm down jareh ...

If you don't want to help anyone that's fine, it's your resources, so you're free to do whatever you want with it ...

However...
Don't allow the happenings of yesterday to stop you from participating in elections ...

If INEC are admitting to hitches in the elections, shouldn't that mean that the results released is problematic and thus should be cancelled!?

"No matter what you've done for a woman in the past, the moment you don't do what she wants now, in her dictionary you've not done anything for her"

If this isn't proof of the validity of the above statement, then I wonder what else is ...

He spends that much on a date and yet you still have the nerves to call him stingy?

Make I no talk too much...
The female above me have said it all...
No one wants a liability ...

Please break up with him eh ...
Your absence in that guys life will be the greatest deliverance ever ...

What does she mean by "stop complaining about election violence"?

So people who's shop was destroyed by some tribalistic miscreant during the election period shouldn't complain?

People who were told to go back to their states if they didn't want to vote for a particular candidate shouldn't complain?

People who had their rights to vote forcefully & violently taken away from them by ballot box snatchers shouldn't complain?

Wowwwwwwwww!!
Nice one ma'am...

She took advantage of a child and yet won't go to jail all because there's "pregnancy" involved? What sorta nonsense injustice is this?! ...

So it's alright for a woman to take advantage of a child ba? NOTED!

Don't marry na ...
Who is forcing you to marry? ...

LilMissFavvy:
Next time you want to quote me, ensure your non$ensical reply is short and concise.

Were you blind' and didn't read to see where I asked if the lady has changed for the better? When your male folk cheat, you encourage a second chance? Now because it's a woman who made the cheating mistake, you feel she doesn't deserve a second chance, such an hypocrite*. I don't encourage cheating, cheating affects both gender. By the way, some ladies are cheating and still "getting the ring, so you can continue to wail.
Mr. Preacher? how come you didn't preach to OP against premarital $ex, you are only preaching about the ladies sins. $hame on you for trying to sound decent*

Just as expected ...
You didn't disappoint ...
I wonder why average (and below average) women are this predictable ...

The moment I read the first line alone, I just confirmed my hypothesis that you are just the typical average woman ...
(Maybe you're even below average sef )...

Your next response will prove my second hypothesis ...
Oya throw another insult ...

Please send her out asap ...

I hate it when people take other people's kind gesture for granted ...

It doesn't matter whether or not she's your "blood", if she can't abide by your rules, in your house, then she go somewhere else ...

Cause if allow this to continue, it will ruin your marriage big time, so give her an ultimatum and if she can't abide to it, kick her out asap

LilMissFavvy:
Tell her you have found a wife then end the friendship or at least reduce how you call each other. I am wondering what she really did wrong that disqualifies her to be your wife. Or If she hasn't changed for the better. You made her lose a marital opportunity in the past, allow her to be focused at this time of her life.

@oldienavie you see the emotional blackmail card that @Foodqueen talked about earlier ba @bolded ...

Madam favvy fyi...
The OP didn't make her lose anything, SHE DECIDED TO THROW AWAY WHAT SHE HAD...

And she did that by cheating on the OP whilst they were dating and by cheating with the OP whilst she was in another relationship ...

What y'all ladies don't understand is that sleeping around and/or cheating in the long run will hurt you ...

The guy you cheated on won't want to have anything to do with you and the guy you cheated with, will reconsider his decision to building something long lasting with you (just as it is with the OP) ...

So play all these emotional card BS, it won't change anything!!! ...

And if you're still wondering @italics, then it's either you didn't take time to read and comprehend the write up of the OP or you don't see anything wrong with cheating and sleeping around ...

Either ways, it tells a lot about your kind of person ...

@OP...
I won't suggest you marry her (unless God Himself tells you to)...

Cause if she can cheat on (and with) you in the past, what makes you think she can't do it again now? What's the assurance?

And besides that, are you aware of the baggage(s) that single mothers go around with? Has she dealt with them? Or can you handle them without complaining?

Thus...
If you know you don't intend to marry her, then don't even bother sleeping with her, cause if you do, she will DEFINITELY play the emotional card, just as the fellow I'm quoting is doing right now ...

Go somewhere and find yourself a wife...
But if you intend to marry her (which I don't advice), then go ahead and make things official ...

@Human23

I do not feel the slightest bit of sympathy for you ...

I know you'll prolly call me "heartless" and think I'm against you or that I've been hurt by someone in the past and bla bla bla... Whatever rocks your boat is fine by me ...

But regardless, I'll tell you the truth and I won't sugarcoat things ...

And the truth is simple THIS IS 100% YOUR FAULT... You brought this on yourself and you've got to face the consequences of your actions ...

I've seen some folks up there cuddling you and all and I just can't help but laugh, because cuddle all they want it won't change things...

It won't change the fact that you decided to sleep with a guy(s) without protection...

It won't change the fact that you've gotten pregnant out of wedlock...

It won't change the fact that you've decided to bring an innocent child into this world to suffer...

It won't change the fact that you're jobless and can't provide the child with the minimum standard of living required for proper growth and development...

And what's worse is that you haven't learned your lesson ...

Rather than focus on looking after yourself and your child, you're focused on "finding love", was it not the same "love" that got you into this mess? ...

Either ways ...
It's your life, your choice...
You've made your bed, so lie on it ...

But the sooner you get your priorities right and focus on what's really pressing and important, the better for you ...

My only concern is the hardship that child will have to face on account of the decision made by two irresponsible individuals ...

Sincerely, I pray God helps you, atleast for the sake of that innocent baby ...

If the Ghanaians that are miles away can see that this fiasco election was rigged & refuse to associate themselves in any way to T... it beats my imagination why the people in the country that are affected by this outcome are still blind to it ...

bewla:
How

How else?
Inheritance or divorce of course!!!

Lemme google it first....

Modified
I said it! ...

No one respects a liability ...

sslcrypt:
Sometimes I feel some thread are just avenues to take a shot at niaja ladies. I have never paid for a woman's t fare, they are either mobile or transport themselves with there own money.

I thought I was the only one who had this experience ...

Paying a woman's tfar? That sounds really strange to me ...

PoliteActivist:
Once again here is where you said it (having faith is not same as helping yourself)

Ohhhh ...
So it has changed again ba ...
It's not "having faith is not helping yourself" again, it's now this one ...

Kai!! ...
This man ...

Your ability to keep shifting goal post is uncanny, I twale for you sir ...

Sighs ...
This is getting very tiring sir ...

I can't keep having a conversation with someone who

1. Keeps shifting the goal post of discuss every now and then...
2. Can't back up what he says with facts...
3. Keeps saying what I didn't say and quoting me out of context...

It's crazy man ...

You know what?
I agree with you ...
You've won! ...

This makes absolute sense ...
Weldone sir ...

motionarena:
You complete dunce
What do one expect to see before when you go to qn hotel.

Sighs ...
Another average person on my mention ...
Tis well ...

Do people still spend money on girls that they're not related to or aren't backing? ...

Wawu!! I'm very surprised ...

Hahahahahh ...
Tis well o ...

PoliteActivist:
Hahaha my foot. You did say exactly that - see screenshot below.
I say you help yourself by either making a move or having faith that God would help you (as is everywhere in the Bible)
You disagree and say faith is not helping yourself.
So we agree to disagree

Hahahahahah ...
This man sef ...

Sighs(smh) ...
If you're going to quote me sir, at least quote me correctly ...

Please don't try to project your interpretation of what you think I said ...

If you don't understand my point, please ask for clarification sir and I'll do so ...

Now...
You said that I said that "having faith is not helping yourself", right?

Show me EXACTLY WHERE I said that ...
Cause I have looked at the screenshot you sent and I can't see where I said "having faith is not helping yourself" ...

Please sir, help me and circle those exact words in the screenshot you sent, I'll be grateful sir...

And also, I see that you shifted the goal post again ... I guess that makes sense to you ...

highchief1:
mugu I live in Canada is Germany better than Canada? I ship in 50% of the cars u see in Nigeria today I’m a successful business man if I tell u when I left Nigeria u will be shocked.It’s not everyone on nairaland that is ur mate

Oga lie small small na ...
Do you know how many unit of cars enter Nigeria every day?

As at last year, report shows that an average of 400k unit of cars enter Nigeria annually, that's equivalent to 1,095 cars per day ...

And you're telling me that you ship about 550 cars every day to Nigeria? .... Fear God na oga ...

PoliteActivist:
And that's where we can agree to disagree - except that mine makes more sense. You say having faith is not helping yourself.
I say it is.
If it is not, how come it is the ONLY basis why Christ could not perform major miracles in his hometown??

Hahahaha ...
So we have left the topic of "heaven helps those who help themselves" to the subject of faith ...
Tis well o ...

Either ways...
As regards the subject of faith...
I'm really skeptical about indulging you in this discuss , cause I have a feeling that you would just make erroneous statements without backings and then say to yourself "mine makes more sense" ...

Forgetting that what makes sense to you might be shallow at best to lots of other people , because "what makes sense" is something that is relative ...

But facts is FACTS and it isn't relative to nada ...

I mean "heaven helps those who help themselves" does make sense , but yet it has no scriptural backing ...
(You haven't been able to show me ANY scripture that says this or implies it)

So sir...
I would engage you in a discuss when you're willing to talk with facts (scriptural backings) and not with "what makes sense" ...

If you're ready to have a discuss on the subject of faith, then back up every point you make with a scripture, starting with your definition of faith ...

And besides...
Where in my earlier write up did I say the bolded? ... Or is this another erroneous statement that "makes sense" to you? ...

PoliteActivist:
I mean literally everybody, any example you can think of. It always starts with the person that was helped - even if it was just having faith.

You're shifting the goal post sir ...

First off, you agreed that "the bible said that heaven helps those who helped themselves"...

And when I inquired where exactly this was written, you said "it (the bible) said it without writing it" ....

Now I'm asking you to show me where exactly in the bible the bible said "it" without "writing it...

And now you're talking about "faith" ...

Please sir...
If you can't support your statements with empirical evidence (scriptural in this case), you'd better not make a statement, especially in a public platform ..

There is no where in the bible where it says or implies that "heaven helps those who helps themselves, NO WHERE!!

Think about it for a second, if you could help yourself, why would you even need the help of another?!! ...

A man who is well, doesn't need a doctor (Matt. 9:12, Lk. 5:31, Mk 2:17)...

If you leave your house and go to a doctor, it's not a proof that you're helping yourself, rather it's proof that you believe that the doctor can help you - if you could indeed help yourself, you wouldn't even bother going to see a doctor ...

So your ability to "help yourself" and having faith that God can help you are two different things sir, so don't mix it up!!! ...

The term beauty is subjective oga ...

What constitutes as "beautiful" for some people is "ugly" for others and that's okay!!

And besides...
Your definition of beauty isn't the universal template and it will NEVER be the universal template! So GROW UP!!! ...

PoliteActivist:
It said it without writing it - everybody whom heaven helped in the Bible did something, made a move. They didn't just sit at home!

Could you give me instances of those "everybody" you're referring to, I'm genuinely interested in learning ...

motionarena:
Am sure your Mom and Sis is among them

What is this one saying sef? ...

Someone is telling about his personal experience and drawing an inference from it and you're here saying cap ...

Hmmmmm...
Na wa o...
I don't think I've seen an even cheaper form of emotional blackmail than this ...

I would advice you tell her what you saw ...

However...
Without evidence, you'll be seen as an envious friend and you might risk losing your friendship with her (especially if you're still unmarried) ...

Do what you want sha ...

PoliteActivist:
He didn't say it was written

You're simply avoiding the question sir ...

Where exactly did the bible say "Heaven helps those who helps themselves"?