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We4all:
Slow it down. The girl has been sick and her health is failing her; hence the revelations. She needs pity and not condemnation.

What useless pity are you talking about sir? ....

Someone will just wake up one morning, sit in front of a camera and slander another person and we're supposed to pity her? ...

How does that work sir? ...

This lady is just overreacting ...

Calm down and let the boy tell you the kind of job that he's doing before you start jumping into conclusions! ...

Questioning the source of his wealth is wonderful, but atleast give him a chance to explain ...

No be every internet business be yahoo ...

It is Stupidity of the heightest order to spend money on a woman who isn't family ...

Anything you do with a woman that isn't family must be centered around business alone! ...

But alas! ...
Most men will continue being stupid ...

fyzaila:
You're not nice i swear. She has been fat right from pre marriage and that was how he saw her and toast her. So her fattness shouldn't be an issue here.

And besides she only started denying him the matrimonial duties when he became much addicted to his phone. She was only doing it to see if he will change and stop. But it seems it is otherwise

This is to show you how daft she and lots of women are ...
((Yes lots of women! Because I know almost every woman will act like this ))...

You're suspecting your man because he's addicted to his phone and rather than have a conversation with him you decide to throw tantrums!? ...

How stupid can one be?! ...

Just imagine...
Weaponizing sex and neglecting your matrimonial responsibilities all because of mere suspicion, Kai!!! ...

Imagine if the husband stopped providing for her all because she's spending too much time in school ...

I think it's high time men start mirroring women's action, atleast that way they'll see the erroneousness of their actions ...

All of those saying "1 million euro is not much", I hope you have more than that in your aza ...

I'll say my piece when I see "5 things a woman should not tolerate from his wife" ...

Well said OP ...

Let's just hope our sisters considering marriage actually pay attention to these things ...

Read what the scriptures says about love and then come back and read your post ...

Magnoliaa:
You literally could have ignored if you didn't want to continue...

But it's fine anyway.

Have a good night or until whenever (if) you're able to finish that and respond.

You're not in a position to tell me what I could've (or should've) done ...

But hopefully you'll take your own advice and ignore this ...

Magnoliaa:
Now let's not confuse things here.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting a financially stable partner. It's pragmatic.

And that is very different from gold-digging/money-mongering or any other unpleasant attitude relating to money. If you're describing the above, all well and good.

If you're calling women golddiggers, that's a big lie.



The average women would prefer to choose money over love...and if she has the opportunity.

Now this desire notwithstanding, women are loving and staying with and getting married to poor men. Women are with men that they 'cover' financial-wise. If a woman is with a guy below her means, she will make sure to "pad" him and make him appear as if he's something. We have women who build a man up as we have those who don't.



Now I will appreciate it if you desist from using the term 'y'all' on me. Let's refer to men and women generally. And it's only fair as I do not know what you identity as, so I will not go personal with you on a gender basis.

Thank you.



Also, no endearments.

Thank you.

Agreed. Polygamy and hypergamy are just two sides of the same coin to each gender for me.

The thing is, I don't believe it is NATURAL.

There are faithful men and there are women who are not after money. And mind you, the women who become baby mamas to certain kind of men look a particular way, and are of certain calibre themselves.

The Ooni comes to mind.

Now how many men are Oonis? How many women are like his wives?

Go to your streets and the your average 'handworkers' and the number of baby mamas they have. Baby mamaism is not a thing amongst the elite alone. They are plenty people (and women) living in PENURY who have tons of kids out of wedlock.



No, it is not obvious. Women want different things and you can find examples for women going and living out of whatever expectations you have of them.



How can rich be relative and you say women go for wealth? If rich is relative, then what makes you think women are going for whom they are going for based on money?

Look, inspite of all that sha, I am still telling you that many women go for and stay with men that are not rich according to their own standards and the world's standards.

Too long...
Summarize...

Magnoliaa:
You don't get it, do you?

1. I am always wondering why you guys are always giving money as a condition on behalf of women getting into a relationship/marriage when MOST men in this present-day Nigeria are not rich (or up to the standards of being considered rich at least).

2. PS; are you speaking on behalf of men/women, though?

1. That is because women will ALMOST NEVER go into relationship/marriage with a guy who doesn't have a certain level of financial capacity, and that's a fact! ...

The average woman will, more often than not choose money over love anytime anyday ...

Y'all be loving opportunistically ...

Look around you my dear...
Women be shaming men for being "polygamous in nature" and yet wouldn't mind being the 10th baby mama for certain caliber of men, need I say why? ...

Isn't it obvious enough what the average woman is REALLY after? ...

Let's be real here my dear...
The average female doesn't mind being the 10th wife of a beast as long as he can "take care of her" ...


2. Neither ...
I speak for myself alone ...
I'm not going to allow myself to be dragged into any silly gender based war ...


And also...
The definition of the word "Rich" is relative ...
Don't define it by the world's standard, define it in respect to the Nigerian economy and I think you'll get my point ...

What do you make of this?

It's a wonderful story na ...

Truth is the average woman is VERY SELFISH, thinking only about herself so I'm not surprised ...

Magnoliaa:
WHO HAS WEALTH.

1. This wealth that you people are always giving as a condition...

2. How many (of you) men are rich/wealthy/have money/are comfortable gan?

1. Doesn't matter ...
Anyone who earns money has the right to dictate how it's spent and if he/she gives a condition before giving it out, then so be it ...

Sooooo....
If you're unhappy with the conditions given, then GO AND MAKE YOUR OWN WEALTH ...

2. Ask google ...

Ladies in general wouldn't mind being the 10th baby mama (not wife o) of a man who has wealth, talk less of a single father ...

Abeg leave am...
All this one na cap ...

temitope66:
Yes it is possible, that is what I do currently, I work and school, I'm just considering going to a university but then I won't be able to work except during vacation, as it would be full time.

Unless you have a very solid plan, giving up your source of livelihood is one decision you should carefully consider before making it ...

Well...
If you're really interested in working and pursing your BSc. simultaneously, maybe you should consider going to National Open University in Nigeria ...

Just check out their website and see how far...

Either ways...
Seems to me your decision is tilting towards quiting your job for school, if that's the case, then it's fine too ....

You know your abilities better than I do and if you think you can make this work, then by all means go for it!

Good luck chief!

swaley:
I understand what you are saying but that's not the point is. My point is if you go about making hoes out of every girl then you shouldn't come complaining that most girls you meet lately are hoes.

My point is it is very stupid to complain about a problem that you actively contribute to?
Do you understand now or you're still going to try to cut corners and come through another angle?
And Mr you don't go about blaming victims. It is not a wise angle for your argument

Sighs ...
This conversation is getting boring cause you keep shifting the bar ...

First of...
You painted it as wrong for men who sleep around to want virgin wives, I addressed that issue in my first write up ...

Secondly...
You opined that men have the "lion's share" of the blame for the rise in "hoe-ism", I also addressed that issue ...

Now let's address the bolded, shall we? ...

If you look at the meaning of the word "Prostitu.te" or "hoe" as you call it, it literally means A person who offers oneself for sexual activity in exchange for money...

So rather than say men are actively going about making hoes out of every girl, wouldn't it be wise to say that girls are choosing to offer themselves for money? ...
((Think about that for a moment))

And if that's the case, don't men have the right to complain about the rise in the number of hoes, that is, the rise in women choosing to offer themselves for money? ...

And also...
The fact that you see women as the "victim" is where I think your issue is ...

Women aren't victims sir, unless in cases of rape... As long as the sex is conscientual, no one can claim to be the victim ...

And besides...
The whole fraudster thingy was only an illustration, too bad you missed it ...

So I'll just end it here...
Have an early day tomorrow...
Goodnight sir! ...

Is it possible to do the job and go to school at the same time? ...

If it is, I advice you consider that option. Cause letting go of your source of livelihood is not a decision that should be taken lightly ...

And also, consider going to open university for your BSc., It could help you kill two birds with one stone ...

Good luck!

Finitin:
lol. See foolish talk
First off, I'm a guy, and I saw that you littered this thread with balderdash. So are you saying Men are dogs that can't control themselves? You're insinuating that a woman has to tame a man and he has no mind of himself to distinguish right or wrong? Like a mom and her little child?
You Don't know how stupid you sound

If this trash you wrote here is what you think I'm insinuating, then indeed, you're the one who is stupid sir ...

And if you took "comprehension" exercises in English back in secondary school, you wouldn't display this extent of stupidity on my mention ...

Go back and read again sir, then maybe when you comprehend, I'll engage you in a discuss ...

Until then, I'll keep praying for you ...
Goodnight!

swaley:
btw fahvvy so if you get scammed you blame the victim not the fraudster? Mind you every victim of scam wasn't out of greed or nothing. I beg to differ

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Sir...
You're making too many assumptions to my write up ... Just take my write up exactly the way I wrote it without reading meaning into them ...

Moving on...
If you read the last two paragraphs of the post you quoted you'll see where I said...

"Either ways...
Whoever you blame doesn't change the fact that you've lost, does it? ...

In summary...
Let him who has more to lose from a deal be more meticulous in ensuring that he does not lose - Favfables"

Whether you blame the scammer or the one who was scammed, it doesn't change the fact that the one who lost was you ...

So isn't it incumbent upon you to be smart with your money lest you part ways with it? ...

Same thing here...
Whether it's men's fault o, or it's women's fault, it doesn't change the fact that women will suffer more backlash on the matter than men will ever ...

So isn't it incumbent upon the females to be careful and think twice before they decide to spread their legs like rumor? ...

swaley:
are you saying there aren't men going about deflowering ladies under deceit? Do they have right to complain since they didn't rape them

If you fall a victim to internet fraudsters, who do you blame?

Do you blame the fraudster for decieving you? Or do you blame yourself for not recognizing the deception and falling for it? ...

Either ways...
Whoever you blame doesn't change the fact that you've lost, does it? ...

In summary...
Let him who has more to lose from a deal be more meticulous in ensuring that he does not lose - Favfables

Lemme end by saying this sir ...

Men and women are not the same!
We don't play by the same rules...
We're held to different societal standards...

And what is good for the goose, isn't always good for the gander in issues surrounding men and women ...

A woman can be broke as f.uck and yet still look down on a dude earning 50k ...

She can be make up artist (this is a fancy name for joblessness in most cases ) and yet demand to have a wealthy husband ...

She may be squatting with 4 people in one room and yet demand that she wants to be with a man that has a mansion ...

She may not even have a bicycle tire, but yet demand that she wants a man who drives a car ...

And when this happens, we hail her and be like "go girl", "you know what you want" "girl power all the way" etc ...

So if a woman can be broke and still demand to have a rich man, why is it a crime for a man to be promiscuous and demand a virgin wife? ...

"If you complain about our ladies being hoes but yet go about deflowering girls and having as much sex with random girls then you have no right to complain cause you can't be furious about a problem you intentionally create"

I beg to differ sir ...
I have EVERY RIGHT TO COMPLAIN sir ...
And men didn't cause any problem ...

Pay attention...
Unless in cases of rape, sex will NOT happen without a woman's consent ...

So if they aren't virgins anymore, it's not the man's fault, it's the WOMAN'S!! ...

If she didn't give consent, sex will not happen!

So if there are increased number of who.res, it therefore means that there are increased number of women consenting to having premarital sex, so whose fault is that? ...

The one consenting? Or the one indulges the one that gave consent? ...

OP sir...
Lemme highlight some of the point that sounds off to me ...

"Tell me about the brother who talks about having sex with as many girls but when it is time we should go for virgins?"

So what if men decide to sleep around and then want to marry a virgin, so what? Do men not have a choice as to what kind of woman they want to marry? ...

Let's face fact here OP...
Premarital sex affects women farrrrrr more than it affects men. Men and women are not the same! We don't play by the same rules!

A man can sleep around and wouldn't face quarter of the backlash a woman would face if she does the same thing, so women had got to be careful!!!

Lemme give you an illustration...
If a business needs 100million naira to pull of. You bring in 99million and I bring in just 1million, OP sir, who do you think should be more careful? Me or you?

You ofcourse!!!
You know why? Cause you have farrr more to lose than I do!!

I could be playful...
Lackadaisical...
Unconcerned...

But you're not afforded that privilege, cause if things goes south, you stand more to lose than I do!

So you'll be most careful...
You'll double check and triple check the plans...
You'll do everything within your power to make sure that it pulls through...

Promiscuity affects affects women farrrr more than it does men, so following the illustration, who should be more careful? ...

Goodlady:
One should question the IQ of such guys. Maybe na dem mumu pass sef!

Yeahhhh ...
I totally agree with you ...

A guy dating a girl who doesn't know the difference between "am" and "I am" is foolish (mumu) ..

But a girl who doesn't know the difference between "am" and "I am" is even more foolish ...

Nia69:
In 2023, guys are still dating girls that doesn't know the difference between "am" and "I am".

Yeahhhh...
That's very pathetic ..

But what's even more pathetic is that in 2023, girls still don't know the difference between "am" and "I am" ...

Quality20:
Relationship involves two different ppl and as a result requires maturity and understanding from all involved.

1. Ladies 27 and above are not too matured but moderately matured.

2. They can give good advise and guidance to their partners much better than d younger ones.

3. Their bodies are also much more anatomically and physiologically prepared to conceive and keep pregnancy for the whole duration easily with minimal or no complications. Psychologically, they are more understanding of life situations

1. Maturity has ABSOLUTELY nothing to do with age OP ... A person can be 40 and yet be as mature as a 10 year old girl ...

2. The age of Methuselah has nothing to do with the wisdom of Solomon ...

3. Not really ...
A woman's peak fertility is from late teens to early 20's ...

I'll advice ALL MEN, if you're intending to settle down, choose a virgin girl who is between the ages of 21 - 25 ...

The benefits to such are ENORMOUS!!
Go and do your research ...

kenedyx...

No offense, but you talk like a child ...

Not only do you need more exposure, you also need to work on your low self-esteem and deal with this silly inferiority complex that is plaguing you ...

With your comments so far on this thread, I already have an idea of the kind of person that you are in real life ...

And honestly, SMH tsk tsk tsk nahhhh ...
Either ways sha...
Your reaction to this will confirm my idea ...

First and foremost...
What sort of stupid entitlement is this?! ...

So because you have a hole in-between your legs, that means a man should send you money, just like that? ...

Secondly...
It's clear you have an issue of mistaken identity ... You're definitely going through an identity crisis ...

Cause why would you (a woman) need someone to make her feel like a woman ....

Really?!!!!
Are you that confused? ...

Just imagine a man comes online and says he needs a "strong woman" to make him feel like a man ...

Omorrrr...
Leave am...
You need help ...

Thirdly...
See the cheap form of emotional blackmail she's using ...

So a "strong man" in your words is one who just sends a woman money without strings attached ...

Yes ma'am...
I agree ...
We're all kids ...

Go and meet your father and brothers ...
Abi are they not "strong men"? ...

Women (in general) have been attention junkies since from the beginning of time ...

They can do literally, ANYTHING for some cheap attention ...

So I'm not surprised, she's just being a woman ...

JasonScoolari:
Scream for help again, maybe he's being kidnapped.

Those people that helped you in your office, let them come and help you find him

You took the words right out of my mouth ...

The man was very wrong for trying to force himself on her, but she made it A MILLION TIMES WORSE when she screamed "help" ...