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theInfinity:
I wonder why many married men has to ruin a lady's love life by lying he is single and wants to marry just to be sleeping with her with no intention of marrying her. This is very bad. If you don't find your wife physically attractive, discuss and agree with her on taking a second wife instead of engaging this inhumane act. Another man may end up doing it to your daughter in the future and you won't be happy as father.

Do you also wonder why women will ruin a man's life by pinning another man's child on him? ...

Do you also wonder why women will dump a guy who sponsored her to school and took care of her for years, immediately she graduates? ...

Do you also wonder why women will treat broke and nice guys like trash, fall for toxic men and then turn around to blame men for their wrong choices? ...

Do you also wonder why a girl suddenly becomes an orphan the moment a guy says "hi" to her? ...

And have you also told women that "another woman will do it to their sons and they won't be happy about it"? ...

Sweetplum:
He's free to demand what he wished for in this section. You don't v right to dictate.

True!
And the OP also don't have any right to dictate who can comment in a public forum!! ...

So let everyone exercise their rights in peace but not to the detriment of the other! ...

Jeweltz:
Listen ehn, you don't know me. I add values to men that come my way. I'm supportive, submissive, very beautiful and elegant , and I don't stress a man unless he cheats, which y'all eventually do anyway

If you've ever heard of the term "deductive reasoning" then you'll know that, I don't necessarily need to know you in person before I know what kind of person you are ...

The bolded is proof of how very ignorant you are about what the concept of "value" is to a man ...

Go and meet the masculine elders (I sincerely pray you know what "masculine" is) in your family (if any) and learn from them, blimey, it will help you a great deal. Good day!! ...

Jeweltz:
So y'all are staying for the knacks?

If men leave you after they have sex with you, it's not necessarily because that's all they wanted, but it's because that's all you had to give ....

So stop blaming men and start working on yourself madam!!! ...

And it's obvious you're very ignorant about how men think, so lemme help you with a nugget on male psychology ...

Men don't leave what is VALUABLE TO THEM, if they left you after sex it therefore means that you're of NO VALUE to them. And if you're of no value to them then you're not worth keeping (dare I say you're worthless to them)!!! ....

So before you start spewing your half baked knowledge about how men operate, ask yourself one question, what value did I provide this man? ...

And besides, what is it about you that attracts these kind of men? ...

obinnazy:
Here are my conclusions.
1. Guys are the reason why we have alot if babymamas and single mothers.

2., Olosho no go dey, if guys no dey patronize them.

3. 98% of guys Simps

Your conclusions are flawed!

1. This is crap sir ...
Single mothers are single mother because they CHOOSE to be a single mothers ...

First off ...
She slept with a guy she's not married to without protection - a guy she prolly knew wouldn't step up if things goes south - Her choice!

Secondly...
She refused to take any precautions against pregnancy after having unprotected sex - her choice!!

Thirdly ...
When she discovered she was pregnant, she didn't do anything about it - her choice!!

"It's her body, so it's her choice!!"

Why then will you blame another individual for what she decides to do with her body? ....

2. Another load of crap sir ...

How will an abled bodied adult female choose to sell her body for money and yet you're blaming men? Where's the logic here sir? ...

She could be working in a shop as a sales girl or selling anything other than her body, but she choose to take the easy way out by prostituting and yet it's men's fault? Really?!!!!

When will y'all start holding women accountable for their actions?! ...

This is equivalent to saying that the rise of fraud is women's fault ...

I mean if women refused to date fraudulent guys and started dating guys with legitimate income, they'll be no need to do fraud ...

See how that sounds? ....

3. I don't know how you came up with these statistics, but lots of men of our generation are sure acting like pussies ...

Jeweltz:
I want a real man in my life. Not all these broke men who only want to have sex with me. They lie and they'll still cheat. You wonder what y'all men want. Confused gender

Read the post and my earlier write up again, and you'll see how erroneous your write up is ...

Enjoy your evening ...

Jeweltz:
If you can't cook and clean, what else would you be doing for the woman you claim to love.?
No sex for lazy man. Work for it. I can't marry a man that can't take care of my needs

The OP is footing her bills and sending her five year old daughter to school, isn't that "work" enough? ...

Either ways sha...
With this mindset of yours, I doubt any sane man worth his salt would even spare you a glance ....

Actions have consequences, so you'd be think twice before you act ...

The words "I'm sorry" doesn't always make things better, so be careful what you say and how you act, cause no amount of apology can fix some things ...

It's funny how no one above me is talking about the guy ....

Like didn't y'all see that a guy slept with his BEST FRIEND's girlfriend? ... Best friend!!!!!

Someone who has absolutely no qualms sleeping with your woman cannot be a best friend, nahhhhh that's worse than an enemy ...

That kind of person will stab you with a knife and still wear a big smile on his face ...

That girl may be a who.re, but that guy is a fat stinking betrayer!! ...

And I'd rather a slut than a betrayer in the name of a best friend, tweeeh!!! ...

Emilia154:
We started dating in October, just two weeks into the relationship he started cheating.
When I caught him red handed,he claimed she was is bestie.but his chat with her is more than a bestie.

1. he sends her money, airtime but when I ask him to at least help me with little cash when am down,he will tell me he doesn't have.when we are alone together all he talks about are the girls he has had sex with.and he is also a sex freak.

2. i truly love this guy, but he is trying to play games with my ffelings.i want to pretend as if nothing is going on but I wan put pepper for him eye before I serve am hot breakfast or what do you think guys ��

So because one man cheated on you it means that all men are unfortunate? What sorta mentality is this? ...

1. Who a man chooses to spend his money on isn't your business madam!! Go and work for your money and allow that guy spend his money as he sees fit! ...

That he's your boyfriend doesn't mean he must spend on you, you're an adult for Christ sake can't you get a job?! ...

Two weeks into a relationship and you're already demanding for money as if you gave him money to keep somewhere for you, mtttwwww ...

And besides, stop comparing a 2week old relationship with years of friendship ...

It'll be a whole lot easier to replace you than it is to replace her so know your place ...

2. Madam it's clear that you need to work on yourself ...

A guy who cheats on you and have no qualms saying it to your face is the same guy you're saying you "truly love"? ...

Indeed you're prove of the theory that women "truly love" toxic and irresponsible men - enjoy your live life ...

This OP sef ...

You said we should ignore the fellow and yet you go on to open a thread about the very person you're advising us to ignore, isn't that contradictory? ...

If that was all you did, I would understand, but then you went ahead to tell us to "go back to some of those threads, wherein she commented, and take a critical observation" ...

Doesn't "critical observation" to her post qualify as giving her attention? ...

Omorrr...
Leave am...
You just gave that fellow the ultimate premium attention with this your thread ...

Cause people who don't know her will search for her, view her comments, prolly get triggered and respond to it ...

That has already defeated the entire purpose of your thread ...

And besides, I don't take what I see here seriously, the moment I go offline, I forget about y'all's existence ...

I advice you do the same OP ...

Suunnn:
Facing what is on the table

Why want a virgin wife while and when you are not a virgin husband?

Ah! ...
Same old argument ...
Virgin men for virgin women right?
Hope it'll also be "rich women for rich men", "tall women for tall men" right? ...

Or are we not ready for this conversation, are we? ...

She has "Everything"? ...

Nazgul:
The boy is a fool to have mixed pleasure with his job. You were employed to work. Rather than focus on your job, save your money and use it for something productive for yourself, you're there asking your coworker out. No girl would have the courage to ask you for money if you don't give her unnecessary attention.

If I'm the manager, I'll sack him.

How do you know he is mixing pleasure with his job madam? ...

Do you know if he asked her out before either of them started working there, abi is this one of your regular assumptions? ...

And besides, this is an issue between two persons, both of them are actually at fault, but no where in your write up did you condemn the girl's action, just the guy's, what sort of sentimental and (dare I say) myopic opinion is this? ...

Also...
Does the fact that a guy is giving a girl "unnecessary attention" give her the right to become an entitled leech? ...

ExudeLoveToAll:
Do you think the boy should have helped her to avoid this drama?

He did the right thing by rejecting he request, the only thing he did wrongly is exchanging words with her.

Take your decision and bounce without exchanging unnecessary words.

You took the words right out of my mouth ...

One thing with most ladies of this generation is that once you ask them out or tell them you like them, they see it as an avenue to leech on you, I'm glad the guy didn't fall for such schemes ...

Good food...
Anytime...
Anyday...
Period! ...

Lmao ...
Werey say na "I didn't do it intentionally" ...

Please how do you cheat with a married man and "unintentionally" get pregnant for him? ...

Why do I have a feeling that there is more to this story than is written here ...

Those people saying "it's the baby or it's the woman" obviously don't know what scriptures says about the happenings in marriage ...

No wonder marriages these days are crashing ...

1Cor.7.3 - The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband.
1Cor.7.4 - The wife's body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband's body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife.

Examine the scriptures yourself and be enlightened ...

Divoc19:
@Muffassa girls go still hustle of course. Back in the days men like to be the provider so the girls will have no excuse. These days I noticed men now want 50/50 and they still complain about flirt, disrespect and cheating.

Since we're going to be comparing men of those days with modern men, I believe it's fair we do so for the women, don't you think so ...

Back in the days women were virgins till their wedding night, is it so now?

Back in the days, women stayed faithful to just one man, is it so now?

Back in the days women were seen and not heard, is it so now?

Back in the days women respected their husbands and practically worshipped the ground he walked on, is it so now?

If you want a traditional man, you have to be a traditional woman yourself ...

You complain that men have changed from what they were to something different, but you forget that the changes in women today is even more terrible as compared to the women of old ...

@bolded...
It's funny how women be wailing "equality" at the top of their voices and when men give them what they want, they begin to rant ...

Y'all wanted equality, so let's have equality on ALL FRONT ...

And jst because we're doing 50:50 doesn't give you the right to cheat on your partner or to disrespect him ...

And the fact that you can type the bolded is proof that your ideologies is skewd to believe that a woman should remain loyal and respectful to a man ONLY on the basis that he provides for you ...

With this ideology, if your man were for any reason to suffer a financial hiccup, you would definitely turn on him ...

And what's even more pathetic is the fact that lots of women have this ideology and that's why the moment a man loses his job, y'all start cheating on him and disrespecting him ...

This is just the beginning...
In the near future, y'all females would realize how much this equality BS has ruined your life ...

And guess what?
Men are beginning to realize that the equality thingy is truly to their benefit and thus this trend is only just the beginning, let's see 10years from now ...

Her presentation of the matter maybe a little off, but you can't fault the message that she's tryna pass ...

"Men NEVER marry a woman who wouldn't respect, value and honor you" ...

And I see ABSOLUTELY nothing wrong with that message ...

okunwaye:
Can a rich lady marry a *poor* handicap man?

Chances of this happening is equivalent to the chances of you going to the market and buying a unicorn ...

It'll be a whole lot easier for a man to marry a poor handicap woman than vice versa ...

Rich ladies wouldn't even look at a broke "whole" guy twice, talk more of marrying one that is handicapped ...

Imagine creating an entire write up to show women in a bad light, just on the basis of their skin colour, tsk tsk tsk, how childish ...

That your light skinned ex cheated on you does not mean that all light skinned girls are cheats ...

That you know a guy, that knows a guy, that knows a guy whose light skinned wife showed him shege does not mean that light skinned girls can't make good wives ...

A persons skin colour has ABSOLUTELY no bearing on their character!!!

And besides...
With this ideology, how different are you from racist who see other people as less just on the basis of their skin colour? ...

Last i checked, God instituted that union ...

So if the union is a scam according to you, does that mean that God is a scammer? ...

See eh...
If you don't want to marry for whatever reasons best known to you (I'm not here to convince you otherwise, it's 100% your business), then that's fine, after all they're many person's who did great things without getting married ...

But sha don't sleep around, e go bad for you ...

Rayban25:
You're still embarrassing your family name instead of you to hide your face in shame...oya answer this question olodo

Sincerely eh...
I feel really sorry for you ...
Imagine calling people foul names all because of mere politics ...

And fact is the person that you're supporting and insulting people for don't even know that you exist in the first place ... Like they're not aware of your existence

And they prolly never will ...
But here you are, gnashing your teeth and threatening fire and brimstone for them? ... Really a "smart" move, wehdone o ...

I wish you well ...

And please eh...
Save whatever response you might have for your candidate, i believe he'll need it more than i will ...

Goodnight! ...

There's nothing to prove here OP ...

I could just wake up one morning from the confort of my bedroom, use a fake name and type trash about any of the presidential candidate, but does doing that makes it worthy of "proving"? ...

Okayyyyyy...
Let's take a leaf from your book...

"I saw you begging on the street naked with a plate. Then when you saw that no one gave you money after a very long period of begging, you entered a shop and tried to rob...

They caught you and beat up your sorry ass real bad, as they were about to pour petrol on you, I stepped in with my ID card and told them to release you immediately or face the law...

Reluctantly, they did release you. So I took you home and gave your sorry ass some food, cleaned you up and gave you some accessories....

Even the phone that you're using to type this trash is one of my spare phone that i gave to you..."

Oya!! Come and prove this wrong ....

Aaaaarghmed:
aswear dem no plenty,if I tell them my job,the next day na billings upon billings.i start lying that am a teacher to see if dem go stop billing,but they still bill me ..lol.Just comot your mind.I think it's their nature

I don't understand....
Can't you tell them NO when they bill you? ...
Abi them point you gun for head? ...

Why would you have to lie or hide the extent of your capacity (like the OP) all because of a woman's billing, when you can decline whatever request they ask of you? ...

If a girl ask you for money, tell her NO...
It's your money...
You worked for it...
So don't allow any female put you under pressure to spend your hard earned money!! ...

The highest that can happen is that she'll call you "stingy" or "broke" or any other name she feels she can use to manipulate you, BUT DON'T FALL FOR IT ...

Infact sef you should even feel flattered when women call you names like this, it shows that you're not easily manipulated ... if it's so easy to be rich, she wouldn't be begging you for money, but would rather be swimming in it ...

And if she too run her mouth like tap, don't hesitate to remind her that it's better to be a broke man who has his shit together than be a beggar who has refused to work (and/or cut her coat according to her size) ....

kkins25:

I would like to know where this "knowledge" is coming from?

Abeg help me ask am o ...

Women that wouldn't even look at a guys direction if he doesn't earn so much are now the ones catering for MOST men and making sure MOST men are well fed? ...

Please how come? I must have missed the memo ...

And the OP is saying "all fingers are not equal", lemme ask you OP, must you (women) be the short finger? ...

Can't y'all get something legitimate to do like lots of men are, rather than spreading your legs like rumor? ...

Hahahahaha


"Women are taller in spirit than men?"
"A man cannot be successful without a woman?"
"Women are born with twice the glory than men?"

Hahahahahahahaha

What a load of crap! ...

Omorrr...
The sense in this post no reach 10%, leave am ...

"Behind every successful man is a woman" is BULLSHI.T!!! Every man who became successful, aside inheritance did so by blood, sweat and tears, not because of any woman ...

So that means all the men who did great things in scriptures without having a woman in their lives were not successful according to you ... Tell that to Elijah, Paul and Jesus

And oh...
Having a woman in your life is not the only way to receive favour from God, please read your bible ...

Chei!!
Omorrrr...
Wetin I no go see for nairaland ...
Taller in spirit koh, shorter in soul ni ...

rainluv:
You sound so bitter and frustrated
Are you the woman in the op?

Hahahahah ....
I thought i was the only person who noticed that ...

Honestly eh...
I pity the man wey marry her ...
Calling her bitter and frustrated is actually downplaying the severity of her case ...

Rokiatu45:
Fu…ck out of here with that lame azzz excuse when today more women are even contributing and making money and been force to step into more masculine roles just to provide or unfortunately for some that are in relationships with dusties that wanna go 50 50


A man is supposed to provide and protect.

A woman is supposed to bring him peace.


I am not against women cooking for their men but this is a basic life skills that even men should learn.

Hahaha ...

See how she's hyperventilating because of a simple question ...

Lemme sha give you a small break down...

No matter how much money a woman earns, she still expects her man to do the heavy lifting - so it won't be wrong to say that a man's money is of more importance than a woman's, right?

I mean "your money is your money and his money is also your money no be so? ...

Same thing here - a woman's ability to cook is of more importance than a man's ability to cook ...

No man will be disqualified for his inability to cook, but guess what sis? Y'all will be disqualified if you can't cook ...

It's the same way a girl can be broke and wretched yet still be clamouring for a rich man even when working is as you said a "survival skill" ...

Sweetheart...
Men and women not the same...
We're held to different standards...

So whether or not cooking is a survival skill, is out of the question - A WOMAN WHO CAN'T COOK WILL FACE FARRRR MORE BACKLASH THAN A MAN WHO CAN'T ..

And if you can't deal with that, then you should take your own advice @bolded ...

Zonefree:
Taa! Disembark from this careless capping!

One time one girl was cooking in my kitchen and she was selecting only the fresh tomatoes. After slicing the tomatoes, she was about discarding the "rotten" ones, God being merciful, I entered the kitchen. I immediately warned her never to segregate or waste resources in my house. Nothing vex me pass to waste food.

The foolish boy is just looking for excuse to dump the girl. Childish behaviour!

Oga na you suppose "disembark for careless capping" ...

This is not about the rotten tomato or childishness, it's about her refusal to eat it and the message her actions was passing ...

She knew the tomato was rotten...
She cooked it and served it to the guy...
And the refused to eat it because the tomato was rotten?

So that means, she's giving to her man what she herself can't eat ....

If she knew that rotten tomato wasn't good enough to whet her appetite, why give it to someone else?

Read the story well...
The guy had no issue with using rotten tomato to cook, his only issue is that the one who served him rotten tomato stew thinks eating rotten tomato stew is below her...

What kind of message is she passing? ...

I would dump her without thinking twice ...