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Whilst we're talking about the issue of rape and all, let's also brain storm on "How do we curb this rising menace of paternity fraud in our society?

And also let's suggest "stricter punishment" for paternity fraudsters ...

bdon123:
Very true.....theres nothing wrong in aborting an unwanted pregnancy.The only problem is wen u keep redoing it .For me anyday,anytime even if na my own sister ... don't bring an unwanted child,abort am if d papa no ready marry u .

Oga sir...
There's EVERYTHING WRONG with abortion!! ...

And besides...
Rather than advice your sister to have an abortion, why not advice her to close her legs instead! ...

rickpat:
Lol..you thoughts are not far from it but it's good to give people the benefit of the doubt...but I still stand that pressuring Someone to save in your account even in marriage is wrong... financial issue Should be what the couple willingly again to do

Benefit of doubt? ...
Not in this case sir ...

See eh...
I'm not against her advising her man to save, that's a very great advice, but my bone of contention is, WHY EXACTLY SHOULD IT BE IN HER OWN ACCOUNT?

Is there something special about her account that she's not telling us? ... Abi if he saves the money else where, would the money not save? ...

Oga sef would even get interest if he opens a fixed deposit as against saving it in her bank where bank would take monthly charges ...

Chief, leave that thing ...
This girl has mahd plans for that guy ...
She wants to use that guys money as a "security measure" just in case things goes south ...

Banilla:


No one is perfect. You've subtly threatened someone. I just needed to emphasize the need to settle down.

Hahahahah ...
I'm actually enjoying seeing you proving point ...

Madam...
If you truly love that guy as much as you say you do, then tell him to save in any account that is not yours! ...

Asking him to save money in your account is VERRRRYY SUSPICIOUS and trust me, if I were in the shoes of your man, this would be a VERRRRRY HUGE RED FLAG ...

Advising him to save money is Awesome!! But advising him to save in YOUR account, nahhh that's just dubious if you ask me ...

Banilla:
He's one the other side of the world! How can I be sure? He's young, indecisive... I love h, and I don't want us to ever break up. But long distance relationships don't last! If we don't settle down quick, we are over. And I don't want to give all my heart to someone who could break it. Half the time we were together, he had no job. And I didn't mind cause the relationship was relatively young. Now, we need to work towards something. What's the point if we don't? I won't spend his money, it's a promise. But either that or I find some way to pressure him into saving.

Hahahahahahaa ...
You haven't answered any of my questions ma ...

And that tells a WHOLE LOT ...

@rickpat

Does this girl look like she has good intentions for that guy? ... Because why exactly is she suggesting her own bank? ...

Aren't they online saving platforms?
How about a fixed deposit account?

Omorr...
Leave am...

This girl has bad plans for that guy ...
And did you also read the part where she said she "subtly threatened him"? ...

After the guy has saved like 500k in her account, when he decides to leave her, she will also "subtly threaten" him again ...

This time she'll be like, "if you leave me, forget about your money" ... And if them get issues, she will also "subtly threaten " him and be like, "if you don't apologize, forget about your money" ...

In summary...
I see more "subtle threats" in the near future ...

I have a few questions I'd like to ask you ...

Would you save money in your boyfriend's account? ...

If things were to go south, what's the guarantee that you would return all the money he saved in your account back to him peacefully ? ...

Why aren't you advising him to open a fixed deposit account in any of the banks? Why must it be your own account? ...

sharone21:
Utter RUBBISH!

Yeahhhh ...
I agree with you ...
Who am I to disregard your opinion of yourself ...

The man seem to be coping with the pregnancy better than lots of women ...

Oga no even out hand for waist sef ...

Johnthejohn:
Anything to stop cheating is a welcome development

I hope you will take this stance if it's men ganging up to beat a cheating woman ...

Kingozymandias:
You are so naive and ignorant

Kai what a generation of Dumbo's

Firstly SEO powered by key words only improves your indexing in search engine results you olodo.

Secondly if you have Google ads running it also improves your ad visibility which is just cost per click or cpc for pages like nairaland unfortunately Google ads don't really run well here due to the dated engine which has been discontinued by the originator..

Seun isn't making money from the ranking all that does is make the likelihood of more people advertise here .

You are just dumb uninformed and a talkative

How you cannot understand the relationship between traffic, SEO and revenue is what beats my imagination ...

Go back and read my earlier write-up kiddo ...
This time do it sl-o-wly ...

OP listen to me ...

That guy has sent 200k to a girl he met just 2months ago. That's 100k per month (how much does he send to his parents every month)1 ...

And his reason for that is because, he wants to start something with the girl ...

If that isn't stupidity, then I wonder what that is? ...

Cause only a stupid fellow thinks he can buy true love with money ...

If the girl in question was atleast appreciative of his efforts, that would've sat well with me ( a little) ...

But not only is she unappreciative, she's entitled, disrespectful and belittling the guy ...

And ontop that, oga is even begging her, isn't that worse than premium stupidity? ...

Kingozymandias:
Adverts in those boxes which small businesses advertise in...

Lemme educate you a little ...

Adverts are just a way of promoting a product or services to people ...

And so the more people (traffic) they are in a site, the further your advert is most likely to travel, thus improving your click-buy ratio ...

Without having traffic, if you like, advertise from now till next year, you won't make a single dim if they aren't people (traffic) to make the purchase ...

Argument instigated thread is what brings that traffic ...

The more traffic you have, the more you're likely to move up the algorithm and rank up higher for certain keywords on various search engines, thereby improving visibility (it's called SEO, read up!) ...

So my friend ...
With this small summary I've given to you (there's a lot of technicalities to this thing - too many to type out here) ...

How are blupen and meobizy wrong in opining that argument instigated threads is how Seun makes his money? ...

Okudiover:
Na people like you dey fail exam despite this long handout you have written. What is the nexus between the Russian/Ukraine War with what you have written? Again you talked about focusing on efficiency and effectiveness in dispensing duties. Was that the bone of contention here? Did the Nigerian Police Force sack the woman for inefficiency? Is it not the same 9 months pregnancy that both married and unmarried police women carry? Is it not a fact that any law that contradicts the constitution is jettisoned as Nigerian law has it? Don't tell me you don't have lawyers as friends or relations.

Read my earlier write-up again ...
This time do it sl-o-wly ...

No big deal here OP ...

You asked for her number, she gave you a condition and you didn't accept it, so what's the big deal here sir? ...

And besides, isn't it unprofessional to ask a colleague of yours out? ....

I mean, last I checked, it's an unspoken rule not to bring romance to your place of work. So you're even on the wrong sef for being unprofessional and thus you should be reprimanded ...

huptin:
It applied to unmarried women who got pregnant but not to men who get people pregnant when they are unmarried.....absolutely discriminatory!

What is discriminatory here sir? ...

A male police officer who gets a woman pregnant can still go about and effectively carry out his duties as a police officer, but can a pregnant police officer do that? ... - The answer is NO!!!!!

Let's be real here...
Men and women aren't the same, and so we don't play by the same rules so trying to put us all into one box is BS! ...

The whole principle of "what is good for the goose is good for the gander" doesn't always apply in all cases ...

And besides, since you and other people think that this is discriminatory, why didn't y'all also wail like this during the Russia- Ukrainian war? ...

Why didn't females sue the court for "discriminating" against them during the war? ...

Why wasn't the whole, "good for the goose, good for the gander" propaganda pushed as vehemently as this? ...

See eh ...
One thing I've noticed is that women only complain about "unfairness" and "double standards" when it appears to not favour them ...

But once it's in their best interest, they're all cool with it ...

Well I'm not surprised, na their way be that ...

Lemme end by saying this...
We should stop looking at people as male and female or seek to go the path of inclusion in the work force ...

But rather we should focus on efficiency and effectiveness in dispensing our duties. ..

And once anyone, be it male or female shows any sign of inefficiency, they should be dropped like hot coal ...

yrhuhfy113:
They are naturally blessed and many men will not mind marrying them as long as they have good character. BODY BIOLOGY should not be a shaming point or a stigma. Simple.

Hehehe ...
I guess you've never seen or heard women shame men for their height and d..ick size, ba? ...

Abi that one no join "body biology"? ...

@OP...
Facial hair on females is a no-no for me ...
And I'd rather be castrated than end up with a woman that has facial hair ...

Sixfeetbelle:
You don't have a point.

To an intelligent folk, yeah, I guess you're right ...

Banilla:
The majority are men though. Don't argue with me, argue with the stats. Take yourself to the crime section, buy a newspaper, watch the news...

When 8 out of 10 are men, what did you expect?

No one is arguing with you my dear ...

I only called you out because you painted those vices as a gender based vice and that's disgusting ...

Imagine I say, since 8 out of 10 women beg men for money (only God knows where you got this stats from ) - and on account of that, I paint begging as a feminine thingy, e go make sense ba? ...

And then when you call me out, I now put my fingers in my nose and tell you "don't argue with me. Argue with stats ... Take yourself to the romance section, and bla bla bla" ...

See how it sounds? ...

I hope you get point ...

Kobojunkie:
Only one parent can be taken away at a time now. And since we day talk Nigeria where the mother is typically the primary guardian, the dad can be locked up while the mother and child sit and watch helplessly as consequences unfold.

Trash!! ...

How his parents are just there watching the boy destroy things without doing anything reasonable about it, is what I don't understand ...

And besides, where are the security officials? ...

Kobojunkie:
I hope shoprite called the cops on the child and the parents, and at least seized their car before proceeding to the police station in cuffs where the dad is locked behind bars for at least 3 hours with the child watching it all unfold. That kind child should be made to see firsthand the consequences of his actions in 5D.

Explain the bolded ...
Why should only the dad be locked behind bars? ...

Banilla:
Why aren't yahoo boys, kidnappers, ritualists, and so on, patient as their fathers?

Everyone is greedy. The most women do is beg, which is wrong but at least they don't go about beheading people and committing cyber fraud.

You think only men behead people and commit cyber fraud? I LMAO @ your ignorance ...

And besides, "kidnapping, ritualists and so on" is not a gender based thing, so stop all this "patient as their fathers" BS you're spewing from your mouth ...

Am I the only one who noticed that this account was opened like 20mins ago? ...

Yeahh...
You're so right sis ...
Don't let no short man stress you ...

Same way men shouldn't allow baby whales and hippo's to stress them since men have garri pressing machine to press them in ...

If you like, call him all the most disgusting and demeaning names you can think of, it still wouldn't change the fact that - you're not worth it ...

Move on!!

O please shut up!!!! ...

So it men that don't love for real, right?
Men don't give their all to women, ba?
Men don't make sacrifices for women abi?

So it's men that haven't had their trust betrayed ba? Or have never been hurt by women ba?

Mmmmmttttttwwwwww ...
Tis well with you ...


"It is we (men) who in most times make the women act or behave in a wrong way"

And what do you mean by this trash?
So an adult female will act in a way that is wrong and rather than hold that adult responsible, you're blaming someone else?

What level of stupidity is this?

It's just like saying women are the reason why men do money rituals. That's because women don't date men without money so men have got to make quick money whist their young to get women...

See how that sounds? ...
That's how you sound right now ...

Lemme leave you with a word, I sincerely hope that you comprehend ...

Irrespective of what anyone have been through or how much they've been, EVERYONE, man or woman is responsible for his/her decisions and will face the consequences there of ...

So stop blaming people for other people's actions, it's pure and unadulterated stupidity to do so!!

I don't agree with your analysis OP, but one thing I know for certainty is that you can never me better than the folks you roll with ...

So if you're rolling with poor folks, then you'll be poor and vice versa, so choose your company wisely cause they'll have the greatest influence on you ...

theInfinity:
I like these points you brought. Please tell us about them so we can all learn.

Ponder on them just as you pondered on the subject you opened a thread on, I'm sure you'll figure something out ...

Enjoy your evening!!

"Fortunately for our marriage under the act, the judges take cognizance of our peculiarities in this Nigerian/African environment while dissolving marriages. It is unlike what is obtained in the western nations."

What peculiarities are those OP? ..

This can never be me or any of my son's in that man's shoes ...