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Instead for our policy maker to fight corruption among Official in CBN, NNPCL among others to give succour to his citizens, they push the whole problem on masses to face.

They only want to sit in the glasshouse and do nothing while hundred of dollars coming to country their pockets.

4 years is around the corner to see acadabra that my uncle wants to perform with his harsh economy policies without single human feeling.

Marriage not compulsory but very necessary and every reasonable human being craves for it.

If the two partners play the game of marriage according to it's rules they will enjoy it to the very last day.

The bitter truth that opponents of marriage institution do deny is that.

Even though, their marriage not working & crumble mainly because of either or both of the partners' characters. They still lonely and dying in silent to have life partner.

Funke Akindele isn't be able to stay with husband peacefully, "principally' because she can't let go of her "non submissive" character and probably extral marital affairs.

.....but the main attribute that would never allow her to succeed in marriage is her bossy nature. Several young actors and actress have called her out in the past.

"Funke Akindele as a case study"...she is a woman and married to Africa man and yet dnt want to be submissive to him, and having issues in marriage.

Why would people now be blaming marriage institution instead of her character?

When toyin aimaku doing gragra and thrown out of marriage in two succession, now, with 3rd man she drops her ego. I biliv relatively she is enjoying her marriage now.

LordGoldenswap:
Marriage is dead in this era. As there are many harm than Good from it. I only want a child as I cannot condole cheating

Let start from from ur own immediate family. I mean, marriage btw ur dad & mum, ur sisters ,ur brothers, and your own relationship.

Are they all have negatives than benefits?

We can use ur own family to look outward if ur assumption is logical and true.

Even though she born for the man, still went public to rain curses on him just because of media followers. Not even considering kid btw them which had glued them permanently.

Will the daughter happy to see her dad going through lifetime pains?


If it's a grown up daughter now, and decides to go hard publicly on her mother, myopic people would come out and be saying nonsense about African tradition. Africa tradition that father/mother didn't consider before doing nonsense.

BarristerWumi:
Ever experienced a setback ?
Did you move forward towards a next direction that’s even better or you went back to correct a mistake .

I was on a rigorous postgrad Legal course, it’s one of those course that seems long and daring but if you’re halfway you thank God but you can never imagine failing and repeating because that’s just too distressful.
For example, my course is not just read, pass & move to stage 2.
It’s a host of legal work placement in different states, those internships are beyond stressful, far & expensive due to transport & accommodations.

One day on the legal placement I just decided I can’t carry on and quits because the senior staffs are just evil! I was getting pressure on every side and couldn’t take it anymore.
Looking back I know the devil caused those seniors to attack me and if I could just persevere more I would be half way now.
When I quit, I had a 4 weeks cooling period by the board as they are also aware that the course is pressure.
So of course within those 4 weeks I was ready to go back and manage things better but now i’m starting at the beginning again
My mates are practically half way and I’m in stage 1 again. Still have to do same work placement that I’ve nearly completed again from the start.
I feel as if I fell down flat 💔

What really demotivated me to even quit easily was that before I enrolled, I had an option of running my own firm & being self employed. Altho risky, with proper planning it’s a fantastic move & even more profitable

..The loss was too much for me to bear and I don’t know if I should move on with my own legal firm or go back to repeat such rigorous experience

If you have married now, you would blame all these stagnation and retrogression on marriage. You would transfer aggression of trials/persecution in ur office to ur wife and kids.

When the woman tired condoning ur toxic attitude and Marriage eventually cracks or crashed, you will put the whole blame on marriage institution and free urself from any blame.

If you latter post it here, hopeless guys would stand with you , without even know the genesis of ur plights and start singing their usual anthem "Marriage Na scam." Marriage not for everybody. Blablabla!


BACK TO POST.

I WILL ADVICE YOU TO FOCUS ON ANY OF OPTIONS YOU ARE TOTALLY CONVINCED WOULD TAKE YOU OUT OF WOOD AND MAKE SURE YOU BECOME "EXTRAORDINARY" IN IT.

BRO, EVERY WAY TO SUCCESS IS HARD O, DONT ALSO FORGET TO BACKUP UR OPTIONS WITH PRAYER TO BREAKDOWN, IF THERE IS ANY SPIRITUAL STRONGHOLD HOLDING YOU BACK.

malaria:
Yes full time. Not all men want sex from women , not all women want money from men ..If you ever find a genuine friendship of the opposite sex .you will know life is not all about sex. The main thing they should all draw their boundaries when necessary.

The opposite sex you want to make ur friend, won't he/she have lover/husband or wife?
How did you want him/her to be feeling when she sees you going close to her husband?

If you think nothing is happening between you and him, will other parties think in that way too?

What about ur own lover? Do you think he/she would be comfortable with that too?

Will you because of friendship not settle down or you want ur marriage to suffer because of mere friendship with opposite gender?

IF YOU ARE A MARRIED WOMAN AND UR HUSBAND BEAT U AND THROWN YOU OUT AS RESULT OF UR MALE FRIEND WHICH HE MISTAKEN FOR INFIDELITY, IM SURE YOU WILL STILL BLAME UR PARTNER AND CLAIM INNOCENCE, MEANWHILE, "Marriage na scam crew" WILL NOT BLAME YOU BUT MARRIAGE INSTITUTION.

I Thank God for the guy, for God to give him spirit to know before marriage a satanist pretending to be good girl for Marriage.


If you have value as a girl, you won't be devastated and resulted to cursing just because man left you .

If they asked them "what they bring to table" they start murmuring. If the useless hole has something to bring to the table, maybe the man would stick to her, [b]ordinary even prayer is empty in her warehouse.


Vigina is totally useless without good character and income to the family.

Zhunnurayn:
It's obvious you are frustrated, for replying to a harmless quote this way.. since you don't have an iota of humor left in you.

Your family members should be on high alert.you will soon go berserk

Oh no! werey quickly comes back to his senses, "madcow" can now read incomprehensible English and understand.

Very sure educated illiterate will still interpret madcow literally.

They lament and curse him privately, yet they troop out to sing hosanna publicly. Human nature is highly unpredictable.

Zhunnurayn:
You also used incoherent and incomprehensible english here

Go and hug transformer, make sure u do that before January oo.


Meanwhile, my message is for sane people and not a lunatic on faceless forum.

In sane society, individual can go to court and proof it for them, but our own court will start saying all form of incoherent English, tactical delay & denial and technicanity to frustrate people........ meddlesome interloper, status quo, interlocutory objection , Ultra vires among others.

socialmediaman:
People these days consider love as a feeling rather than a decision (choice).

Having said that, let me also note that while 50% of first marriages fail, many divorced people go ahead to remarry and live stable married lives

So yes, marriages are failing at a much higher rate than before, but many people are living happy lives after they remarried, they learned something from their previous marriages that was helpful when the next marriage happened

Talking about learning, for example, when these men-haters and women-beaters end up in a divorce and eventually get the therapy which they didn’t have before their previous marriages, they sometimes learn something positive that helps them become better people

If ur position about remarried and enjoy Marriage latter is true, it means it's the people who going to MARRIAGE that are making mistake in first attempt and not Marriage itself.

People do go to into Marriage unrealistically after fee months to years in marriage the reality would now down on them.

Meddymeddy:
I have seen plentiful post about failed marriages on the Internet. Most marriages only last a couple of years before divorce comes up. Although there are few happy marriages. The ratio for happy marriages and failed marriages is 20:80. There are many factors that contribute to failed marriages which include cheating, unfaithfulness, finance etc. Some just wake up and realise that their wife is no longer attractive ( did they force her on you? ). Back in the days marriages were pre set up whereby couples barely knows themselves. Nowadays you see couple dating for 6-10years and when they finally get married issues will start poping up.

Maybe marriage should be like a contact after some years it will be terminated depending on how long the couple want it to be

You asked yourself, how many successful MARRIAGES comming to social media to advertise?

The several failed marriage u read on social media are they all true?

The loud of few failed MARRIAGES are they not overshadowed several SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGES?

...and above all, hope u know different between failed economy/ wen man going through turbulence time and stormy Marriage (wen someone is going through stormy of life but u mistaken it for marital crises)

And lastly.......is single, single-father or single mother not passing through difficulty time as well?



Emeka separated/ divorced more than 7 years now.... does it make his life free from battle of life now? is he not embittered man still as a single father?

Akinzo2121:
This general mentality that a man must either be drinking, smoking, or/and womanizing is driving me crazy.
To some extent, if a man does not do all of the abovementioned things, he might or would be seen as weak nowadays in our society.

Thousands of men are like that......you guys should stop deceving urself that guy must do one of aforementioned 3.

It's just a way to consoles oneself and to keep on do nonsense.

Meanwhile, abstinence from them not making man bad or good neither does it make it weak or strong.

udeh3:
I was almost supporting my mum as the senior child at home when quarrel broke out between Mom and dad. That single act made my father rained curse on me. I was quick to understand that my mum used emotions on me due to my dad's short temper. I quickly went to his close friends, begged them to come help me beg my dad, including my mum joined in the begging. Years later, I understood better that I was emotionally blackmailed into matter that wasn't suppose to involve us, but, my mom managed to bring us in and will call me as a witness, mine is just to agree! This happened when I was 13 to 15yrs

Emeka Ike has everything to loose unlike the wife. He was at the peak in his career. So, the news will sell well. Media houses will feist on it. I support him speaking out. Those of your in Magboro then will know better. His multi million Naira school was at CMD road. He lost everything, including his career and went exile. What did the woman lose, nothing! And you expect him to keep quiet?

Today, nobody talked about Saint Obi anymore. He was the quiet version of Emeka Ike, he died helplessly.

Men cries alot, but, when they do outside, they laugh at them and say, you're not a man, why cry. So, they bottle it inside and cry within. Men in the house, don't keep quiet in abuse domestically. When in emotionally pains, cry out. It's better to be called weak as a man and have your life than be called strong and die. The difference between Emeka Ike and Saint Obi is that, one is speaking out. You don't understand when someone went on exile for over 10yrs due to marital issues...

My parents story made me more careful when choosing a life partner. All the signs I saw then, I took note and today, by God's grace, I'm happily married. Marriage is deeper than we think

Peace!

You are just ranting and one sided throughout ur comment!

First of all, for how many years, ur own Emeka will speak out for people to hear his voice oooo? I guess he would rant throughout his life time. Go and check internet since he started his lamentations.


2. How does school that crumble single handedly caused by his wife? Was Emeka traveled to moon, throughout when the school is going down for him not to come in and take charge of his sweat that destroying?

3. I doubt if prejudice allowed you to read what son said......Son said, he has pleaded with his father not to go to media again and allow peace to reign.....yet Baba go to TV to condernm his family again & again. What else you want the child to do again?

If u are in that guy shoe and still choose to be neutral or supporting ur dad, u re nothing but foolish man. You are a son who doesn't really loves his family to be in peace.

4. Even at that, who told you, it's the mother who instructed the grown up son to go public? Were you there wen her mother telling him to go public against his dad?

Oga, stop being prejudice and for emotions overwhelming you on the basis of gender, religion or races.

The 3 are extremely important if you want a successful Marriage. Thou, finance is number 1 on the list.

If u remove anyone of it.........just have it in mind that ur woman may slide and starts believing in another man as a better option.


Woman too behave like kid...... always want things to be at high gear through out relationship.

KwuoteYourFada:
No it indicates
SW are educated and unemployed

Only about 15% of northerners uses internet

Unemployed yet they are spending money on internet.


I guess u re the one given them free internet services.

dre11:
https://punchng.com/lady-stabs-boyfriend-to-death-in-rivers/

You left ur wife and kids at home ( perhaps (loneleness and hungry) and start fighting over a lady who is not ur wife outside, maybe because of her infidelity.


I always see married man who thinks a single lady who knows her marital status would be faithful with him as most stupid sheep among men

Soleimani a superior & sophisticated general than him was roasted few years ago, u ranted more than this, at the end nothing happened.

Raisi is wailing as if , .....if his own head is cut off by Isreal/us heaven will fall.

lanre316:
If you know the meaning of ronu, you will know that using that word to insult the Yoruba is totally useless and senseless. It simply means "Think". Imagine shouting "think" everywhere, thinking you're insulting Yorubas. It makes you guys look so ridiculous, honestly.

I guess you know the meaning of urchin.

These guys are online urchins, you need not replying them in other not to dignify them.

As you are replying them, they would masturbate and be honoured and waiting for next available post to say trash again.
The urchins are perpetual in sorrowful minds because of a tribe that too much superior to their tribe and making them irrelevant in the committee of nation.

Rubbiish:
Let the woman go out publicly to also condemn the man! No one is against that. They can always sort it out. Bringing the boy into it have ripple effect and spiritual side to it. You can't bypass spiritual principle. A child insulting his father in public is a curse. Do u think this is the best way to introduce such a young boy to public? The boy still have a long way to go in life

were you thr wen the boy mother instructed him to go public against his father?

Hope you see the son's picture to know his age.

You just assumed it was his mother that forced him to go to media.

Go and read what the guy said about trying to make peace in the family and yet coconut head dad still going to media again and again against his own immediate family.

The way you guy bias towards women would not make Marriage has peace.

seetomorrow:
You are the biggest fool I have seen here. Who are you to this couple? Can't you be reasonable enough to place your comments than ranting nonsense. In fact how old are you? Which I am not sure you know what is called marriage not to talk of divorce. You sounded so childish and immature here.
If you don't know exactly what to say, shut the f.ck up about divorce.

The day you stop being prejudice base on ur emotions and gender, is the day you stop leaving in embittered world.

NB. I'm not only married for several years, I have taught and counselled several people of your age and older than you about Marriage.


If you are not a stupid and evil father, you would consider the future of ur kids before going to media about your immediate family.

rollywise:
You must really be an idiot o. No man is perfect but even in her own interview, she opened up her own faults. The two occasions are mentioned he beat her, it was because of the children's health, that means he never joked with the well being of the children. She even admitted she called him a jerk and walked outta him to go sit in the car in the presence of everyone in the hospital where they took their sick child to and then he came to d car to hit her. She also claimed she met him at 18 and he became very controlling which she grew to realize in her twenties then decided to start fighting back in her late twenties and she also admitted that's when the physical abuse started. She claimed she was abused all through the 17 years of marriage yet he sent her to school and paid all her fees, even catered for her mum. She called him a monster but yet he has never come to harass you after leaving his house till date. A calculative person sees your weakness even from your defense. Be calculative in reasoning. It will help your response next time

If you are not an imbbecile you would understand my point. Give it to person that know how to read well and interpret for you, also, stop suporting base on emotions and sentiment of gender, tribe or religion.

NB. Go and read where I wrote,....if Emeka has stopped Washing his private life in public.

Every story you are saying now, Emeka has said it over and and over, what else he wants again? Now that his biological son has insulted him publicly. I biliv he would close chapter on it.

waziri4biz:
I came from a broken home so you can't know this better than me. Regardless of what I saw and could condemn my mother would never encourage me going out on my dad in public. Media trial with a divorcee using your kids as weapon is not wise either.

And you support your dad ALWAYS going publicly condernming ur mother!

If Emeka himself doesn't give recent interview, after several of such in the past wen he and ex were in court for divorce, nobody would talk about him again.

Since he is looking to be relevant in the media again and the only way he could do that is to come online to wash his private life in public in other to get empathy for his dead career, his son forced out to completely shattered a frigile situation, since the boy talked hard about his father, Emeka has applied break, I'm sure from now, he would keep his mouth shut permanently on his failed marriage.

He is not the first to go on separate way in marriage, and definitely not the last, this year alone, several celebrities went on separate ways. None washes his/her dirty linens in public except his fellow Igbo actor.


THE POST BELOW SHOWING THE IDIOT STILL BEGGING HIS EX WIFE AFTER SHE HAD LEFT AND BE WITH ANOTHER MAN TO COME BACK TO HIM IN 2015. FAST FORWARD TO 2023, MAD MAN COMES UP WITH ANOTHER STORY TO ATTRACT SYMPATHY.

If Emeka himself

Pierohandsome:
Look at how marrying a bad wife can make one lose his family.

The boy foolishly meddled into marital issues that has nothing to do with him. Who advised him to start fighting his father simply because he wants to prove love to his mother? That is foolishness

I biliv u re one of guys who used to say girls like bad guy, meanwhile,if any girl refuse to day you now, you will come to nairaland to wail like wolves as usual.

Which girl will see an unintelligent boy like you that would be proud to make him, her future husband.

"Please read what you wrote again and smell it to know how stupid is".

Carcholce:
In 2024, one thing I really want to do is to be able to completely avoid threads that has to do with man and woman relationship. I don tire to read these things. Reading posts as these is not helpful to the mind, and if you are not strong minded, it plants hates towards the opposite gender.

OP, sorry for not contributing to help your situation. Happy new year in advance. Extend my greetings to your fiancée!

You and other people that like ur comment are leaving in what psychology called *self denial* things like this are uglier in reality than what they posted here.
If you think you want to show blind eye, instead to buckle ur shoe and be vigilant for ur own relationship/marriage, I'm seeing ur own posted here one day, provided it won't messier than this .

If you are reading and learn about dirty events of relationship palavers, you may use lessons learnt to prevent/reduce Incase if such want to happen to you, but if u show blind eye, (God forbid) if it eventually happens to you, it may completely overcome if not break you down irreparable. (pls read about Emeka Ike comments now and his comments when his marriage was rossy,)

Emeka Ike said something similar to what u saying now wen his marriage was rossy, but wen marriage storm came, it broke him down and sent him back to square 1.

Today, his family is in dissaray & shattered


Meanwhile, if you want to stop reading and communicate about romance stuffs, u need not telling the whole world and make ur decision,not only personal but private.

They're fuming because they dnt know extent president can go and because they are not wise enough.

Sim case still pending in supreme court and we all know how executive influencing judiciary.

If 27 impeached Sim and Tinubu supports them, fubara is gone.


If the two camps of legislative arm claiming they are authentic and crises increasing in Rivers daily, Tinubu can declare state of emergency.

IF ANY OF THE 3 ABOVE HAPPENED FUBARA IS THE BIGGEST LOOSER.


Meanwhile, fubara still need times to lure some political foot soldiers in other to have firm control over his government before he can successful fight godfather or federal might.

Infact, he is unable to win this time because it's not yet time to start fighting godfather (he hasnt completely held "sword handle" before started fighting enemy) not even political neophyte in rivers politics .

Autobot05:
Good morning and merry Christmas

I have this distant cousin ( Mid 20’s) and we are quite close. From my perspective She kinda suffers from a mental disorder or illness rather but y’all know African parents and their mentality na. Her parents believed it’s a spiritual thing . This cousin of mine often run away from home.

The last time she ran away from home, she copied a pastor's Number from a TV advert when watching TV at home and ran to his house when her parents tracked her down to his house through his ( the pastor’s) help too. After meeting her parents He said she should stay at his place for a while so he can tackle her case specially . Her parents often send money to the pastor during those times. After a while She suddenly packed her bag and ran back to her parents house Without any explanation and the pastor kept calling her mother frequently to bring her over that he wasn’t done with the deliverance or whatever. ( the pastor is a married man btw and stays with his wife but I don’t know if they have kids )
Fast forward to last month the parents of my cousin found out she was pregnant. After multiple interrogations She finally confessed that the pastor Raped her ( while she was at his place ) and threatened to kill her if she tells anybody
She never told anyone even after she came back to her parents house until they found out she’s pregnant. The pastor isn’t aware he is still calling for them to send her back but her mother isn’t picking his calls

I’m lost because I was so close to her. she even babysat me as a toddler and even taught me Before I was old enough to go to school and we have been close since like forever … now I even stopped speaking to her because I feel so bad she opened the door for all this mess by running from home and not telling anyone at the right time .. I’m just trying to manage my emotions because I’m short tempered and can act irrationally when Angered

What can I do in this case ? What legal steps can be taken ?

All these people telling you to go to war with the pastor, I guess they will gather money to foot the bill to take care of the girl and his kid when the pastor is servicing jail term!

You see, it not every fight you declare war on, some you overlook, some reconciliation and if the 2 fail you can now go to war.

In this case, I will advise you to call pastor first and make him responsible for the girl and her child, if he agrees to do that, it will benefit the girl and family farrrrrrr more than wen pastor sent to jail. But if the pastor denying,u can go extreme with the pastor.

DID IT ALSO OCCUR TO YOU LIKE THIS, IF NOT PASTOR THAT IMPREGNATED HER, ANY OF RANDOM GUY CAN DO THAT, IN WHICH HE WON'T BE ABLE TO IDENTIFY THE PERSON (u said ur cousin normally run away from home and that she mentally/spiritually not balance)

Hope u know the implications of the 2nd scenario!

Autobot05:
Good morning and merry Christmas

I have this distant cousin ( Mid 20’s) and we are quite close. From my perspective She kinda suffers from a mental disorder or illness rather but y’all know African parents and their mentality na. Her parents believed it’s a spiritual thing . This cousin of mine often run away from home.

The last time she ran away from home, she copied a pastor's Number from a TV advert when watching TV at home and ran to his house when her parents tracked her down to his house through his ( the pastor’s) help too. After meeting her parents He said she should stay at his place for a while so he can tackle her case specially . Her parents often send money to the pastor during those times. After a while She suddenly packed her bag and ran back to her parents house Without any explanation and the pastor kept calling her mother frequently to bring her over that he wasn’t done with the deliverance or whatever. ( the pastor is a married man btw and stays with his wife but I don’t know if they have kids )
Fast forward to last month the parents of my cousin found out she was pregnant. After multiple interrogations She finally confessed that the pastor Raped her ( while she was at his place ) and threatened to kill her if she tells anybody
She never told anyone even after she came back to her parents house until they found out she’s pregnant. The pastor isn’t aware he is still calling for them to send her back but her mother isn’t picking his calls

I’m lost because I was so close to her. she even babysat me as a toddler and even taught me Before I was old enough to go to school and we have been close since like forever … now I even stopped speaking to her because I feel so bad she opened the door for all this mess by running from home and not telling anyone at the right time .. I’m just trying to manage my emotions because I’m short tempered and can act irrationally when Angered

What can I do in this case ? What legal steps can be taken ?

You said ur cousin is having mental issues and now got impregnated by pastor.

I will advise you and her parents to call pastor and let him responsible for the pregnancy, .....all these rape or whatever issues should be dropped immediately, provided pastor doesn't deny pregnancy.


NB. Did u think it's only once pastor slept with her? The two of them consented to have sex multiple times. And this is opportunity for her to have her own child, you dnt even know if her mental cum spiritual issues would still get out of hand, in which it will be extremely difficult for her to get husband let alone children.

UnfairLife7:
did he ask you guys to celebrate his birth? i only know of his death to be remembered


besides, it is written in the Bible, it is better to be in a place where they mourn than a place of jollyment

Did he ask you not to celebrate him as well?

Did bible say we shouldn't be in place of enjoyment? The marriage in canna where Jesus turned water to wine, I guess it was mournful place!