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suffering:
Why don’t I jam these type of women so I’ll enjoy their kpekus while searching for the next candidate? Why are some men so lucky?

Lucky? Hope u read the guy is well to do? If you are well to do person, so many opportunities will be opened to you, relationship advantages not excluded.

inumidun2010:
I noticed something when I was in NYSC CAMP...
Guys ask out ladies anyhow, since nobody knows where, who,what anybody is....
Everybody is on WHITE SHORT and T-SHIRT...
Everyone became FREE with each other, some even took it to the next level and they are HAPPILY MARRIED today..
If GUYS can take the BOLD STEP, it will be fine , But SAPA have a way of REDUCING SELF ESTEEM. so many GUYS lose out on good ladies who they ADMIRE...
There's a LADY who I PERSONALLY LIKE , who is like a SUPERVISOR in my WORKPLACE, she doesn't come everytime though, The GIRL SALARY go be TWICE my own SHA...
She dey GIVE GREENLIGHT , But my MIND dey PRESS RED BUTTON...
How will you FEEL if the GIRL wey you like use a PHONE that's TWICE YOUR SALARY...
E NO CHOKE?.... God please UPGRADE YOUR BOY oooooo...
I don't want MORE MONEY because I want to IMPRESS or OPPRESS, I want MORE MONEY because I've seen what my UNBORN KIDS and UNSEEN WIFE will enjoy with IT...
Every MALLAM with im KETTLE

If you are a single, marriageable age, graduate and working with ur certificate in government or reputable company, you shouldn't fear to ask any mature Lady out. Provided she herself she is marriage and single.

If she embarrasses you, take it as a man
. Even pepper seller insult atimes, people will still regard u if its high class lady that insult rather than ....

ngoziwrites:
The reference to the hotel part is to let you know he didn't want me to come to his house. He said it's the first time and he can't allow a girl come over. I stayed 3 days and the third night, we went to the house, stayed a bit and went back to the hotel.

I also paid 25k for one night. That's to show he didn't pay alone. Also the food and drinks, he didn't buy it all. I paid too.

So which money is attracting me. I am not the flashy girl. I would rather spend my money on investment. So, if a man is rich. He is rich for his future and his kids. It won't make me reduce my hustle.

I do not ask men for money... That's how I am. Just mean well for me.

So, pls drop the money attracted u stuff. I have never had a guy buying clothes, wigs, bags, shoes etc for me. So, I can't relate to all that.

That's only to show that he is financially stable. Cos I know some people here would keep asking do u know if he is financially capable. Now, that they know, they turned tables around and call me desperate.

I never in my write up said I brought up marriage discussions with him. I only want to know if it's on his mind. Is he considering it? Because I am.

So what's the big deal here?

A guy with well furnished apartment still paying heavily for hotel accommodation in same town of residence? Yet u lacked courage to come out truth and tell him is being wasteful financially? By paying 25k doesn't make u a surportive partner o but co-extravagant.

I insist, u fell for his bank accounts and achievements. U ask urself if its a guy who is earning 120k or less with no car,will you be soft like this for him? If NO, pls know at back of ur mind that you are selling urself into slavery.


(Let me give u a coded trick, try to open another Facebook account with different name and pics of a beautiful lady, chat him up and try deduce his mind from it, having known him already will help u to get to logical conclusion of ur choice.)

I think Lukaku is not fitted for English football, and by extension for bigger clubs

ngoziwrites:
So, I met this great guy online. After 2 weeks, we met in person and everything was perfect.

It's almost 2 months since we have been together.

He asked me out while we were together and I gladly said yes. (I have met a lot of players�). So while we were together, a discussion popped up and he said he can't discuss anything related to marriage until after 6 months. I pretended not to hear.


I don't know his financial capacity but I know he is doing okay. He controls the family business. They sell trucks, trailers and all. He is also a landlord in one of his father's houses at Festac. We stayed at a hotel. 25k per night. He paid for 2 night and I paid for one night. But during these times, we went to his house.

He said he didn't want me to come to see his place because it's the first time. And he said the house is very hot too.


Our communication is great but he doesn't look like he wants marriage soon. He has said things like marriage is hard work. He has also said in 10 years time, people will hardly be getting married.

Then one night, we were talking and he said I "see my wife as my responsibility"
I will take care of her and of cos, I am okay but I will still be very very rich, so I can't bring in any woman to suffer now" .. That's what I am sure I heard but I was scared to ask him to explain further or repeat himself.

He is actually okay, he has two cars but importantly, he has sense and he is very hard-working. But he is very principled and we have actually had several instances where he doesn't pick my calls at night. It happens often but I am starting to trust him, because sometimes I call by 5am and he picks and says he slept off. Sometimes we would be chatting on WhatsApp and after I call him 20 minutes later, he won't respond. He is not married!

So, I currently earn 450k monthly and I have been able to save something meaningful, so I can start a good business before getting married or after. I haven't stated because I don't know which one yet. I started a restaurant business when I was 23 but it failed.

If I ask him and he says 1 year, of course, I can wait. I will be 26 years next year April.

We will seeing for the 2nd time next week. I plan to ask him when he sees himself getting married but I am scared and the way he carries himself makes me reluctant to ask such.

About two weeks ago, I wanted to even surprise him with gifts. I asked for his account number and office/home address. (He picked me up the last time I traveled to see him, so I don't know the address". Well, he didn't give me these details. He said when it's time I will have them.


Two days ago, he said a friend's younger brother is getting married. He laughed and said people just dey marry. He has once asked me "You dey find husband?" jokingly-

I would like to settle before 27. Is it bad that I am thinking this way? If he says he is looking to get married in 2-3 years, i think it's a bit far. 2023 is still fine. But the problem is he doesn't really sound like marriage is on his mind. He will be 32 next year April too.

We vibe a lot. But he says I love you sparingly. Sometimes I say it and he doesn't respond, he will say tomorrow I will tell u or no, I told u yesterday.

But we are really really cool. I like him a lot and he likes me but I think I like him more. He gives me attention, I don't have to ask.

If I was 23, I won't have a problem waiting 3-4 years. But since I am ready mentally, financially, I am looking for someone who wants it within 6 months to 1 year. I can still try to do 2 years if I get someone great.

That's biggest mistake most ladies do make, even if you are 19, that doesn't stop you to ask for vital information which will affect you,now or latter. Madam, you are opening ur legs for a guy in which it might affect u positive or negatively yet u said you scare to ask him where ur journey with him is heading to?
Aunty, you shouldn't shy or fear to ask the question o, its a must to avoid ........Nairalanders, my marriage is toxic after just 6 months of marriage pls I need advise.


Thou the problem of you girls is that, wen you meet well to do/ handsome guys, you would completely wet, your senses of logical reasoning will completely beclouded, in which you wouldn't remember to seek vital information, its after 2 kids you would start fighting (its olosho who doesn't need vital information about guys who wnt to carry her and not potential wife)

Karemarealty288:
Not only the students oooo even the housemaster and the owner of the school that wanted to cover up murder all of the must give account of their involvement.

Even you, you need to be arrested

In the multitude of surplus, man still embarrass and put his family into shame. I still not understand how some guys/men enjoy sex with woman they force to have sex with them.


Its my fetish , its my style, eye don clear now.

We should learn how to overcome emotions and urge that is end is calamity.

Kuriosmynd:
Years ago after I completed my Nysc, I decided to relocate to the city where my uncle resided so that I could squat with him while searching for job before getting my own apartment.
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My uncle was not always around, he has a company in abt two states away (4 hrs drive), and comes home every weekend. So it was usually me and his wife and his single kid at home.

Very troublesome wife who in my opinion had slayed in Lag before he pvssywhipped Bros to marry her.
She made my eyes see shege anytime my uncle was not around..lol.
While her jobless married friends and the ones with shop around wud always come to our place to watch useless Africa magic and try to seduce me..lol...it was by grace that I dint fvck her married friends...e still pain me say I no fvk Dem..lol
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So this bad day came, I was sleeping in my room, then around 1am, I began to hear a loud bitter cry of my name...I woke with a start and try to rush into her room...she was clutching to her boy..the baby had fainted.
It was a frantic effort to revive him. I surmised the terrible heat wave at that time of the year must have inflicted the baby into coma.
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The next thing I noticed to add to my confusion was that she was actually stark naked. succulently rotund bouncing boobs in her fair skin...slightly bushy forest in her cunt region, she was shedding tears clutching her baby to her bossom, stamping her feet wildly on the ground and abruptly sitting and standing, crying and praying all at thesame time. In all of these my seeing her nudity meant nothing to her, as she stared into my eyes with an expression of "won't you do something"? I felt her pain, and I panicked about reviving the baby.
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Then in my confusion I lounged into the kitchen, took spoon, and salt..and water and began to force the spoon into his tightened jaw, together with the salt while she was sprinkling water on him and smearing him with anointing oil.
For about five to 10 minutes, we struggled and jostle to rescusitate the life of this 9 months old baby before she sniffed with a faint lowly cry. What a relief and glimmer of hope.

After I left the room, I couldn't stop imagining her flawless body, curves, boobs and that bushy cunt, though not with sexual intent.
I had no idea why she had to do all that in unclothedness, maybe it's a superstitious way of a mother trying to bring back a baby. I have no idea till today.
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Even though its a fiction, but the reason u guys can't do without thinking of women still beat my imagination, think about women for 23 out out of 24hrs of ur productive time daily, even to the extent of fabricating fiction.

I will advice you not to sleep with any of ur blood in future, those that are sleeping with their daughters started the way u just started until the urge completely overshadowed them and made them doing unthinkable


A word is enough for a wise

adedayourt:
Let me put this to you that there is no amount of money in the world that would be enough to take care of two wives under the same roof as wives. No amount of money.

Did he tell you they want to be under one room? Even he want!

I know "men" with 5 different wives under one roof yet they leave as one big family.

nairavsdollars:
Him eyes go soon clear. Dem no dey telli person

How? Did u know his pocket? Wisdom in handling marriage?

I think it's high time you women should come to terms of going polygamous, though with only man who is capable financial and otherwise

sharone21:
Op, you are right...

Seems when one joins the Redpilling gang, he starts to think upside down like BMC and reasons illogically to suit his redpilling ideology....See redpillers misinterpreting what the op said and is implying.

No reasonable man should be a redpiller who just believes in angrily bashing ladies and still remains the same (' unblessed).... Truth is you can't be better when all u do is hating someone that God created.

Redpillers are already paving the way for a sad, lonely life@ old age because all women dislike Redpilling( including their mums and sisters)....( lol)

Let me tell u pure facts about redpill of a thing

1st، mostly guys who can't stand on their feet, frustrated and hopeless guy, such guys in the past, their fellow guys who are better than them had outwitted them in the game of relationship, this made them perpetual bitter toward female gender.

And for the second group, they are guys who want attentions from ladies at all cost, they resulted to bash women in all fronts in other to get attentions from them.

Angela62:
Most of the men that I rejected their proposal before getting married were not just physically attractive, but didn't understood the fact that self love requires being fit. They complimented my beauty, shape, height, but it doesn't occur to them that I want to fall for their looks too.

Most women will not tell you, but we judge a guy heavily by his appearance. Infact, I think women are far more judgemental on appearance than a man will ever be. Think about it, the only time you see an ugly man with a stunning woman is if he is rich, but lots of handsome guys are with regular women.

Now I'm married to a man that exercise is just like brushing his teeth, it's just part of his daily routine. Everyday when he wakes up, he does push-ups, jump rope, and measure his weight. Our fridge is filled with vegetables and he never drinks (except water of course), even cola. He looks so young for his age, and no matter our little quarrel, the mere sight of him just melt off whatever anger I have. He is hot and manly. Men, please work on your appearance, and that single act can cure your problems with women rejecting you.

Thank God for your choice and happy u didn't have reason to regret it, but I pity multitude of ladies that would follow ur advise, I can bet it with 80% of such ladies will leave to regret it, infact, 75% would end up being single (evening paper) and few that opportune would regret that choice.

Now come back to main issue, in as much I'm not condemning lady to go for physical appearance, she should be careful enough not to let it overshadowed of reasons on fair judgement on marriage. Cos u re craving for most finest bobo, I pray you would not end up with our husband instead of my In which it would result to HBP.

Bigredmachine:
I can only run away from a pu**y... That I have already banged in the past... If I found out u aren't good and wanting me to do the whole job

Secondly... Am always prepared for anything, my working apparatus must always be in my wallet so no excuse of I don't have this and that...

Run ko Sare ni

Even the one that will put you for permanent problem.
........see wisdom from gragra kid

Stop communication, it makes it die of natural death.

This type of death normally makes it painless death, and in future if the guy interested again, let him pick up the carcass of the relationship and start communicating again, it would breath life to the dead-relationship, even if the lady is now Mrs lagbaja.

Wen you are inviting a stranger to your house for the very first time, you should be careful enough to keep ur things properly ( gf or anyone) .



If I were you, I would not even ask her, but would start monitoring her.

Thre are some girl like that, if they go to their boyfriend place, they must bring something back home at all cost, that has been their ideology.
Every relationship for them is to make profit in it

lexy2014:
U haven't answered d questions:

When children are sent to school, are they under their own custody or d custody of d school?

If the child dies while in d custody of d school, do u hold d child responsible for dying or u hold the school responsible?

Why should the school not go down? If the school deems it fit to cover up and child's death and give covering for those who were responsible, why should the school not go down?

How will the school going down affect govt, the students and it's workers?

15 years old student that killed fellow students in US few days ago, how many of sch authority/teachers that are charged? Are they calling for pull down of the sch as u re doing here?

No wonder they call u monkey in the committee of nations.

lexy2014:
U haven't answered d questions:

When children are sent to school, are they under their own custody or d custody of d school?

If the child dies while in d custody of d school, do u hold d child responsible for dying or u hold the school responsible?

Why should the school not go down? If the school deems it fit to cover up and child's death and give covering for those who were responsible, why should the school not go down?

How will the school going down affect govt, the students and it's workers?

The errors/offences that students committed, it's sch authority that would carry it? Even to the extent of close down the sch? Answer that one first.

Saintmary:
Looks like people are confusing dating apps with hookup apps

Hope u know facebook not even dating site but today almost turn to hookup site

kumulus:
I get your point, there's always the potential for abuse no doubts. Still doesn't overrides the many possibilities of connecting with different people. How each chooses to connect is a personal thing, the creators clearly stated that it's on each user to perform due diligence.... I honestly don't understand what you meant by immoral relationships tho.

On this, the negative will totally outnumbererd the positive, you know ur nation nah, headquarters of yahoo world-wide, and trust me if anybody scam he/she won't blame him but the church. Infact, even the so called xtian couple, if their married starts experience storm, the couple would put it on church and not themselves.

After all, it's a doctrine in redeem that no pastor should matchmake christian singles.

kumulus:
I recall when they said the internet was the tool the devil was using to bring destruction to the world. Now all churches and their leaders use same internet for all kinds of ministry purposes, it's just stupid the level of foolishness we subject ourselves to when we choose to be religious....very stupid.

U see the application not the problem perse but , naija guys will destroy it with bad intentions in few months to come, Facebook and likes are meant to meant old and new friends for friendly purpose but today ,it's almost platform for immoral relationship

yinkaOdutuyo:
Am not complaining, but I want to push her to her parent, at least talk to them to up their games,

You are not complaining but wailing on faceless forum.


Oga, learn how to do moderate (kindness that won't inconvenience you) to whoever comes ur way. Gf, Fiancee, even Wife. Infact ur own friend or family, with that you would not be bitter toward anyone

lexy2014:
When children are sent to school, are they under their own custody or d custody of d school?

If the child dies while in d custody of d school, do u hold d child responsible for dying or u hold the school responsible?

Why should the school not go down? If the school deems it fit to cover up and child's death and give covering for those who were responsible, why should the school not go down?

How will the school going down affect govt, the students and it's workers?

Quoting blabla! They are in their custody. If the same sch authority discipline the students in love, you would be focal voice to call for pulling down the sch, .......... " That nobody should cane my child, "that if our current leaders are discipline during their time, why nigeria is disorganized now?

Oga, in ur family, how many unpleasant things happen that I have gone online to expose ur parents?

It's only a foolish person like you, will not solve it within but choose to go public.

lexy2014:
When children are sent to school, are they under their own custody or d custody of d school?

If the child dies while in d custody of d school, do u hold d child responsible for dying or u hold the school responsible?

Why should the school not go down? If the school deems it fit to cover up and child's death and give covering for those who were responsible, why should the school not go down?

How will the school going down affect govt, the students and it's workers?

In other to hold sch responsible the sch must pull down abi? That's why u are also bitter that they go online?

Oga security and economy that have been collapsed in Nigeria, when will u go on lone protest to pull down Buhari government? At least you put it under Buhari custody and not soldiers or business men.



And for ur question, how will it affect government? Is government not collecting taxes? Helping govt to solve unemployment problem, and by extension reducing crime in little way in can do

With ur question I can see how u re shallow minded and emotion quickly overshadowed ur reasoning of fair judgement

Wen they ask u now, you would claim u re graduate , a graduate with only paper qualification.

But ur fellow igbo urchins on the faceless forum, they are very confident that biafra will win election by force.

Baileyz101:
If the school shuts down totally, how will the other students finish thier exams abi na the whole students kill the boy ni? Others have thier lives ahead and they simply have to move on either ways. I am quite sure the online class is just for other students to round up thier exams. LASG should be aware of this step

In the first page of this thread, only you have contrary opinion, for others, it's pull it down.

This is mind of average Nigerians, and that's why we are merry-go-round a point for years without headway.

It was fellow students who bullied and not sch management , yet hopeless people want school to go down at all cost.

If the sch go down, it would not only affect the owner negatively but, the workers, other students, even government.

Foolish and hopeless people on the first page refuse to see other factors but for the sch to go down.

.........."be like I be" syndrome........

Wen a guy is frustrated in his working place and eventually loose it, he would keep looking for another job and the mentality of that, .....all jobs are frustrating, but for wife, they might not want to remarry believing ......all women are bad.

For you to experience one bad woman in course of marriage, not stopping you to remarry and probably meet better wife, infact, this is time he is supposed to open eyes wide and go for, lady that would be able to be with him til old age

clarocuzioo:
They removed Tunde Fowler from FIRS chairman, Oshiomhole was removed as APC chairman and Mai Buni illegally appointed and kept till date.

Now they removed the party structure from Ganduje and handed it over to Shekaru. Ganduje is a strong supporter of the TINUBU Presidency.

If you still believe Tinubu will rule this country, then you are living in fool's paradise.

Position urself in place of almighty. O maa se o!

At least umahi or Kanu will be installed instead.

SundayNightGist:
Growing up we used to hear stuff like these:

"When you get married things will immediately fall into place for you simply because you got married"
"There's a special blessing that comes with getting married"
"Getting married early will help you become more fulfilled in life"

My observations so far tell me these things are mere fallacies, or is it just me thinking like this? Who else can relate to these "wise" sayings? Do you believe them?

Of course it might be fallacy, but under normal circumstances, marriage comes with responsibilities, as a result of that, it will make the man in the house to discipline himself wen it comes to spending recklessly, it will force the man to do more in other to bring more money back home cos of responsibility back home, it might compel him to do what he might not plan to do in the next 10 years even if he has money to do it, eg. Buy cars, building house etc.

But how many of u guys cautious urself to achieve that.

Many will married and still spending recklessly on gfs and drinking,

pmoye:
This is advice is really for Nigerian ladies. Please and please do not marry a man that is not rich. Your very life will depend on it. You heard me... How long you live as a woman may well depend on how rich your husband is. This may seem like an over-generalization, but a very needful one. Quite a troubling percentage of Nigerian men can not handle a woman who is more financially buoyant.

Ideally it shouldn't matter how much each person earns, because I believe that the husband and the wife should be one financially. That the home should be planned like a company with budgets, financial planning, sound auditing and all... But from the much we have seen around the average Nigerian family is far from this ideal. We often have what increasingly looks like a union that appears more to serve a cultural/societal expectation, a union that is sustained just so that the society can think you are happily married, while between the man and the wife it is more like between US and China, between Northern and Southern Nigeria, a perpetual cold war and bitter jostling for resource allocation and control.

I have seen women who have died because the husbands couldn't afford antenatal care and used ego-motivated argument to keep the women from accessing timely medical care... And of course, few years or even months after that those wicked men would later bring in other wives into the house.

The poorer the man, the more wicked, the more angry, and the more deadly he generally is in Nigeria. Do not let any man or any woman convince you to marry for love. There is no such thing as that, just a queer surge of hormones that makes you think you are in love. If you marry a poor man for love, hunger and suffering will soon reset your thinking, and by then most women feel too culturally compelled to remain with the toxin of a husband they have. Take a cue from evolutionary development in animal kingdom generally where females select the most suitable male for mating.

Do not simply believe in a man's future plans and dreams. If he doesn't have money now, he is not ready to be a husband. No matter how much you think you love him, treat him like the case of AS genotype (yours) marrying an SS genotype (his). And this is something I respect some Igbo men for. They will never think of marrying a woman unless they are economically ready.

If he is earning N30,000, or N40,000 or N90,000 per month he is not ready to marry. These are just examples from posts I have seen around here. Do not be fooled, the amount on the payslip is not always available for taking care of the home. But that's the talk for another day.

Some of us are probably never going to get married, I personally find it very scary to read about how men because of poverty increasingly turn against their wives in marriage... I may be too traditional though, because I do not fvcking care the money the wife is bringing into the house. Her role as a mother and a wife is already supremely more than you need to compensate for as a man. If you are a man, do not get close to a man when you are still poor. It is wickedness. It is dishonesty. It is crime against humanity. Do not sell her a future hope of becoming a pastor and other popular silliness.

Marrying a lady when you cannot completely and single-handedly take care of her is gender violence. Stop it.

Nonsense

miqos02:
Dangote never started small. Come with another example abeg.

He started as a richest man nigeria now, infact he started as richest man in the world.

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MrBrownJay1:
foolish deluded mindset of ignorant people who want to claim independent at any cost... even if it makes them look STOOPID!

the important question here are:
- is your life better now because you work for yourself?
- are you saying that earning 10% of what you were normally earning is an achievement?

people.... there is no shame in having a boss, especially if it makes you earn a good living for you and your family. only quit such job if you have a better/safe/valid opportunitythat wont make you lose your (and your family's) way of life. quitting your 82M job to go be independent and making 8M is not only absurd, it is an insult to your family.

i guess....TO EACH THEIR OWN MISERY!

But ur vision is myopic o!

Did u know that Dangote that is biggest private employer today started small too? (Imagine if Dangote had opted to work in chevron then.) What about facebook guy? If you were him, you would be looking for employment in federal government agencies.

The business that's earning 8m profit today might skyrocket to billions in few years time.

No wonder we are crawling as a nation and suffering as a people, since everyone is looking for white collar job