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faizsanusi:
Only idiots and ignoble beings Beleive mechanical engineering is only about repairing cars and automobiles. The owner of this thread and whoever pushed it to front page is equally an idiot obviously.

uyimen:
Good day,
Pls help me with ur advice , i know u wont be shy to tell me if am wrong.

I got married to my dream wife, she lived with a relative for 18yrs who she also called mummy, she have a biological mother, who saw her through school (university level) though she was living with this Aunty.

Problem started when i came to marry her , the Aunty was hostile, she kept coming up with issue to paint me bad. I was repeatedly called to come and explain irrelevant provocative issues sure as why i travelled to inform my wife biological mother of my wedding plans. After the bride price payment and rites duly performed, She still made me perform an additional party which she called a traditional marriage outing party in her compound. All these i did for peace sake. No one including family members, husband children or even my wife ,dear opposes her to caution her ..In all these my wife kept on saying *she stayed with her for 18yrs.*
Worst of all u latter gathered from friends that this said Aunty was laying curses on us during the marriage, that the marriage will fail and my wife will return to her with tales of martial wows.
Then she warned me to stop calling her mummy. In all these my wife was always in tears through the honeymoon.
I ignored just becos i knew after the marriage things will change. This Aunty feed my wife with all forms of manipulative desires to set us up. and even requesting feedbacks from her in some case, words here are not enough to explain all.

To my surprise two yrs into the marriage this said Aunty and her children are still key important figures in my wife live, they have access to her and my home at will, somethings they plan visits when am at work.

Each of there visits leave us in weeks of quarrels . now its me my wife blames.

Friends what do i do now, my wife insists that because of 18yrs of living with them so i should let go and pretend nothing ever went wrong.
Pls advise me.

Mercychen:
This your story ehn.. e dey pain brain.

If I got you right, you want your wife to disconnect from her aunty?

[s]We ell, it will be very difficult because like you said, she was with her be for 18yrs. That's a long time to form an unbreakable bond that's why she can't detach her self easily from her.

I'll advise you relocate to a place they'll not be able to access your house easily. That's the only thing I think will break that bond.[/s]

Epeegee:
Bro the guy football kit fell from her hand,she was just there looking at me but me just do like nothing happened so I won't let people know what's up or kill my fellow footballers moral,But The guy no fit forget that day,I dey play am like gattuso nhi

Opeyemiextra:
We know that traditionally, women are saddled with the responsibility of running and taking care of the home hence the title home makers while their male counterparts provide what is needed to run the home, hence the title, providers. These roles are taken seriously and failures by either party would be termed as irresponsibility.

But in recent times, we have seen an unprecedented shift and fluidity in these roles and how they are played. Women are now providers and sometimes even breadwinners while men have also been involved in running the home especially with child care. This has generated debates with some still holding on to the traditional role division.

To the reason for this post: most men at least on this platform, complain of women only wanting them because of what they can bring to the table. If the tables are turned, as a man, would you be a househusband while your wife provides?

Newyorkitis:
Obedience is better than sacrifice.
Wearing a trouser for a day will not kill her, but no... Village people got her this time flat.

Pataricatering:
shut up , abeg
Will you people die if you don't bitch about women Women this women that yen yen yen - e no dey taya you

Sammydanny:
Popular Nigerian cleric, Pastor Kingsley Okonkwo has candidly told unmarried people about the complexities of marriage.

In a video he posted on his Instagram page, the pastor explained that marriage was not made to make people happy but was designed to make people better. He said marriage is a place you go to give, not a place to go to receive.

Pastor Kingsley explained that people must take care of things making them feel unhappy and unfulfilled before getting married and not hope that getting married will solve all their problems.

Watch the video below:


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TmvdSFKziF8

dopechoks:
I think the lad consented.. its all part of the process.

I think he got tired of bullying and decided to join them.. but now the school will never agree that their students were involved in cultism right under the management's nose..so let's see how it goes
But according to the first report we heard, he was beaten during forced initiation so she might be right

calex9496:
I have always had a fantasy of initiating romance with a lady older than me, am 21, dunno why its happening 2 me bt i have a big crush on mature single ladies or single mothers, i stay at enugu, i dnt have a girlfriend because i dnt fancy those in my age range because they always make the toasting aspect quite hard and prolonged.. I feel that matured ladies ar best both in sex, advice, understanding etc, i hav a crush on some in my area bt am scared to approach them cus am damn too shy.. Any lady in enugu town that needs a friend, sex mate, confidant etc should reach me asap via 07010805651
Am so lonely.. I need some loving from a sweet lady

NovesaTillie:
So just one time sex has gotten someone pregnant you must be very fertile and a sharp shooter.
Some guys will go on that mission 10 times yet the woman will not get pregnant. Can you share your food menu?

arthurwillia:
Lol when she gets pregnant for him you will know
My ex got pregnant for her first love who had another baby mama, funny right? Na my life story

Yinkakolawole:
I met a newly lady in my working place. she is a fresh graduate from kogi state, she came to spend a little time her seniour sister here in my street, her sister live close to my working place. We became friends when she came to my working place to get some bread, I worked in a modern bakery. So i talked to her that i like her & i told her i want to marry her, and she say yes to me. she even told me that she just break up with her boyfriend, i see that as an opportunity then the relationship started, everyday i make her a special bread that costed me #1,500 everyday. Our relationship is over six month now. But i become suspicious when her ex started calling her over month now, and they do talk more than an hour. I comfronted her but she said he is just calling & that she can never date him again because he always beat her to pulp anytime there is a little misunderstanding between them. But she told me she cant stop picking his call everyday. Plz what should i do?

ngoziwrites:
I am glad you went through my profile to read. Of course, that should tell u I have no problem lending a helping hand. As I do not believe a man is a provider and the woman is the helper. Anybody can be any of these.

Cesclxg:
You sound proud, though. Saying things like u can't get married earning 120k. Just be thankful u earn well and don't belittle people earning less.

It is a pity that you are so naive still. A man takes u to the hotel and bangs the hell outta u. And u guys don't have any deep and meaningful conversation. So what the fvck do u guys talk about?

ngoziwrites:
I have been with people earning less.

As a woman I will not get married earning 120k. So yeah, I cannot get married to a man earning that.

Both of us will work our way to the top

Kuriosmynd:
It's not a fake story...Trust me.
The writer is not the average Nairaland attention seeker.

ngoziwrites:
A lot of people misunderstood me. I am considering erasing the post. That's if I can as it has been moved to front page.

Right from the beginning, everyone knows if they see a future with someone. Then time can reveal otherwise.

So, I am not in anyway saying my mind is made up to be with him.. I only saying I do see a future with him. I won't date someone if I don't. Time can reveal otherwise.

I am only pointing out some of the things I have noticed and would like to know if he is also considering marriage. If he is not in the next 1-2 years. Then that doesn't fit into what I want.

If he is, then we can take our time, work towards it and see if it works.

I am not saying I want to get married today today today..

So sickening.

AlhajiBitcoin:
It is a FAKE STORY.

irunoko:
I wonder o.as if she owes anybody any explanation for her life choices