₦airaland Forum

OlawaleBammie:
Who get time to study?? study that I know I won't b able to finish til His kingdom come so to what extent and essence ?? A no dey study.

That is for men who behave like women, anything u like use Ur airtime for, nothing konsain me. my own be say don't let me hear the regular sentence "Na u waste my card"

Abi ooh

stanliwise:
I don’t wanna believe most women are like this!

Do you still want to believe most men will borrow from women

benqo01:
Haha if naija babe gives u money today, don't you ever cause any quarrel becos da day you will pay back dah money..............

Lol
Not really, women are the best friend a man can get, forget about the attack on them

If you want to collect from her, do but like you said, just behave yourself through out that period

Jodera:
We want women to give with love and not otherwise.
That's why it's mostly paining you ladies when you borrow guys money, cos you know it's not from your heart. And that's why most times you ladies always refer to the little things you did, cos like you said, it's not from your heart.

No woman will give you something that is not from her heart
Never

vickydevoka:
Watin him wan pay is he not her man (gender equality)

Man wey go get one for hand and still they search for another, mtcheeew

OlawaleBammie:
Sure, but by den she won't have anything to hold against me She won't b able to say Na me waste her airtime.

Am not always comfortable with dem, even to eat at their place sef for me Na gbege......


Those creatures eehn??!!!

Lol
The well created human
Just that they need to be studied
And the more you study the more chapters you will have to read

Then some men that have tile for their wahala will be asking, the airtime I sent to you, what did you do with it, mtcheeew

Skmoda:
you know make sense I swear....you sound like a leech....

For the fact that you read this, it shows that you are a beast

folu4real:
You just described me

Lol

Jodera:
But with that bolded I highlighted, you just said otherwise. Love goes with giving, and for you(or some women) to give without your heart,(like you opined), then it means you(some women) truly doesn't love.

That's tough!!

Women gives and women loves
What exactly do men want, haba

buklarbest:
Best advice so far.. been unable to forget about her after 4 months shows that you really invested so much in her emotionally or otherwise.

My advice to you is to block all communication channels you have with her. Delete anything that can make you remember her like pictures, chats, messages and get contact from your phone. That's where the healing process can begin.

Just move on with life... you're surely gonna fall in love again with the right person who will be just the definition of what you are looking for.

That's true
@ Op, next time pls love with caution

Oluromantic:
But when men borrow you money and starts asking when it's time to pay, you'll start being sentimental.

You don't know what it means to give at all

Why would he request for a paltry sum, no naw, he is more than that

Kingspin:
Is it not better for both men and women to that same game. "Borrow & Pay"
.The relationship will be mature and equal

No naw, haba, the fun won't be there
That means every one will be equal

Slurity:
YOU JUST SUCCEDED TO SCARE ME MORE. I CAN'T BELIEVE THIS IS COMING FROM WOMAN. I AM SORRY FOR YOUR HUSBAND. JUST IMAGINE YOUR HUSBAND HAS THESE BEHAVIOUR YOU LISTED ABOVE. CHAI....

If he marries me for my money, then it will be a bumpy ride

kolade560:
n

but men can give money,heart and love abi? this life no balance

Sure, because men have more than one heart

Nicepoker:
You are not smart at all.

You that is smart, clap for yourself

Jodera:
Hmmm... This is deep.

Truly women doesn't love.

Women truly loves

MrBONE2:

Better ohh

Saintinoo:
I don't normally qoute female monikers on nairaland, but just want to ask this question.

What do you mean buy a lady giving her heart?

Your babe will be the best person to answer this

Skmoda:
just listen to this one again....shoro niyen?

Who ask you to read it?

kid7soccer:
just imagine this. Now you see y men treat women like trash. So if you give your guy cash and ask him not to bother about paying you back and wahala enter you now ask him to pay you back, does that make sense. Women with fish brains "they are so many"

That's the same fish brain they use when they want to work on you

Solomonogbuefi:
Can u imagine the trash this bae wrote.....you can't give your man your heart and also money but you expect same in return. Momma it's bad,if you lend someone money no reason am for your sad mood,find a suitable way of telling him about it when you're happy because he does more financially

If he borrows pay back if she requests give her if you have

SegFault:
I am not misogynist but this is trash.

Leave it for LAWMA

OlawaleBammie:
Ahhhh, mo gbedi funyin....

more reason I don't pick ladies call, I would rather drop Ur call and call u back. Na now u go dey hear something like...u don waste my card ooo, Na my card a dey use call u o, u go recharge my line back for me oo....
She never even spend reach 3mins on call with u oo.

Hahahaha
I like your style, just call her back if you know you will pay for her airtime, even at that you will still send card to her
You must be very caring

vickydevoka:
Buh wen a man borrow women money even with a written agreement she hardly pay back

Wetin she wan pay, is she not his woman ?

NeedAdvice00:
For the first time, I dated.

Relationship ended bad.

Turns out she was still seeing her EX. She also lies about everything. Things that doesn't matter.

I finally broke up.

It's over 4 months but life hasn't been the same.

I'm still hurt.

I don't love her anymore, but I'm heartbroken.

I actually feel better than while in the relationship but can't be compared to when I knew nothing about dating.



I'm seriously hurt, even after 4 months of ending it myself, which I am really happy I ended.


My positive energy has reduced. I'm just somehow. I am not as happy as I used to be

You are passing through a phase and you will be alright soon

Just try to forget about her by starting another relationship, by so doing, your mind will be drifted away from her thoughts

You are feeling so because you love her more than she does to you

Kongaone:
A friend of mine dated this girl in 2012 for almost a year during his first job with a 100k salary. She was 21 while he was 23 years old then. She was in her final year and was receiving monthly allowance of 20k from her parents. Though she has accommodation in the hostel but she prefers staying with him in his apartment which was very close to her school. My guy was taking care of this girl whose entitlement mentality was so high. They were eating outside almost everyday as she couldn't cook then. He loved her so much and wouldn't mind marrying her thus he was footing all her bills and was sending very little home to his parents and siblings. This lady still complained that he was looking after his family more than he takes care of her needs.

In days when my guy was so broke she would never assist him even as a loan. She was so beautiful and intelligent that she was the dream of most guys on campus. At a point she called the relationship off stating that she wants to go back to her ex and my guy who was so tired of the relationship but never wanted to hurt her accepted in good fate.

As luck may have it he got a new job ssme year with double pay in Lagos. She later came back saying her calling for a quit was just a joke but my guy requested they just take a break and re evaluate the relationship. He left the town and moved to Lagos, they communicated for few months and lost communication. She deactivated her social media contacts and was no where to be found.

Fast forward to 2020, my guy (now 31) is married with twin boys and has properties and investment in Lagos with a salary of about half a million. He's now looking very fresh and handsome (na money be fine bobo). He placed his wife on 60k monthly allowance and opened a shop for her. Some months ago this his ex girlfriend chatted him that she's in Lagos and they met with their love almost rekindling. She now works in Lagos with 60k pay.

Now this lady (now 29) and still single is accusing my guy of not making much efforts to look for her while he was single. Said she regretted her past actions and has completely changed and felt she was the one married to him. She even said she can accept to be his second wife or his baby mama and won't marry any guy who is not like my guy (in terms of character, emotion and ofcourse money).

My guy has come to me for advise, pls if you are him what will you do? Matured minds pls.

Nonsense

majorbravo:
Hi people,

I'm in my early 30s and i plan to come in to Nigeria and possibly start a family when the time is right, but I'm looking for a cool city to set base in. Some people have suggested Lagos, some Abuja, but im sure i can weigh a wider level of options if you guys can help with some recommendations . Here are my specifications:

1. Family friendly.(for when I eventually get married)
2. Security (Safe environment for returnees).
3. Good job/business prospects
4. Affordable House rent. (Possibly 2-3 bedroom flat for 6 months: can I get a good house for 6 months rent?)
5. Serene environment (Middle class society and definitely not rural).
6. Stable Electricity (not constant but at least not the kind with blackout for weeks)
7. Good roads (I can drive).
8. Sensible people with sane mentality (very important that the inhabitants of the city have a good head on their shoulders).

Thanks.


Please if you give a state, please be specific about the area within the state, as I hear some areas may differ within each state.

Just stay where you are, we can't guarantee you one percent of what you listed

Spark2:
Good day.
Please, I recently came across this lady who is unofficially divorced and have three kids who are still staying with her.

We met at work and we were subsequently posted for an assignment in the same locality where we have had to share the same hotel room for days.

Though she was on her period, Some chemistry occurred between us and we had sex, it was my very first sex experience.

Barely 24 hours after sex, she started to vomit and since then till now she still vomits often and complains of fatigue body pain and other things.

Do you think she is pregnant for me?

What do I do please?

Who booked both of you in a room on an official duty in this cold weather ?

Anyway she is not pregnant for you

Good news and we hope it will continue so

solonubinho:
You will just open mouth brrruuwwaaaaaa!!!!!! Read the thread joor. He said he paid her back and she said he shouldnt worry. Never did he mention that he did not pay her back. Open your eyes and read..pheww..

The comment is not about her in particular, open your eyes and read well

daddymummy:
Men please stop being interested in what women are doing,how they are acting and all that.

Please.

Any time the issue concerns women,more men will be interested.There will be many comments from men.

Why must it be so.

It shows that most men are mostly preoccupied by thoughts about women.

That is why any topic on women easiy attract men.

I believe it is not fair.

How much of your interest in women can get you a loving,caring woman?

How much of your interest in women can get you a woman to sleep with this night?

In fact those men that do not think about women are even the ones that get women easily.

Those men that are not preoccupied with things concerning women are the ones who have loving and caring ladies as girlfriends,wives,or bedmates.

Those men that are not interested in women are the ones that women pursue.

But you are here analysing women with the hope that you will eventually have one as your sex mate.

Don't you know that when once a woman discovers that you are interested in her,she will try to make herself difficult for you to get.

But if they know you are not interested in them,they will do every thing to get your attention.

That is why as a young male child,a lady may want to go nude in front of you to try and seduce you,since you are innocent and not interested in them.

Or why do you think that most women that exhibit their genitals only do so in front of young boys?

I was once a young boy so I can testify.

But now you are here analysing them and they know you are interested,they will try to make themselves more elusive.

NONSENSE.

That's true
They have been parading on this topic as if they are having carnivals

Ikjosh04:
Yes!! I'm a reasonable male and I am meant to lead and host(not parasitic host but symbiosis host).

I'm an investor and everything I do must yield a positive ROI.

Really