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She just have to return the money, no two ways about

Mistakemaker:
Hello, I had to create this new account specifically for this and had to post in this section because I can't do so in job/vacancy section yet.

Straight to the point, I resigned my job in a government tertiary institution up north due to security challenges less than a month ago,. Now I have come down to a similar institution in a state in the southern part of Nigeria but finding it hard to cope here due to human relationship factors.. I wish to go back to the north and manage the security situations there than to be suffering human factors here.

The said institution is a federal government hospital

Now I learnt one can cancel resignation within 3 months of tendering it, my questions are now :
(1)is it true according to the civil service rule?
(2) what are the processes involved

I need candid answer to this.. You can add insults if you so wish.. I will be replying to further questions


Please front page, I need advise on this, thanks

Why not go there and find out the level it has gone

Do you intend to settle in the North and raise your children there

Will you be there forever are you from there

Am yet to know the factor that made you not to cope the South.

Pattypatt:
The men abi

Yes naw

No matter how easy the exams is, it's not a good situation to write exams alone, even if its commerce

chichijas:
please, I want to Know how one can get it back..

my dad happened to need the certificate few months ago for something , then he found out he has lost it.

he couldn't find it the locker he kept it.

what way can one have it back?

Go to the primary school, they will surely know what to do

Fucsheetup:
You said ‘ Your boyfriend should also understand that, you are still under your parents control considering your age‘

Do not try to change what you said.
Why should a 22year old woman still be controlled by her parents at that age if she is not lazy?

Only in Nigeria, a country filled with overgrown babies not ready for life because the elders think they’re gods whose words are final and we wonder why our society is immature and only concerned with Big brother.

Am done with you

ChildofFavor:
Please house, I need you advice.
Currently, I am a duty/maintenance manager in a hotel and I earn about 100k monthly, the job is stressful as I only spend a night in my house every week, most times I sleep in the hotel because I work night. I am not complaining about the stress for now, because I am not married.

I feel that I may get a job as a graduate in a State Internal Revenue agency. But I want to seek advice from people who may have worked there before. Do they pay well? As a graduate, will I earn up to 100k? If its less than 100k, would you advise me to go for it?

Summarily, Hoetl Manager and State Internal Revenue Staff, which one should I go for?

Pls go for internal revenue

There is job security there

There is chances of promotion is there

You will have your own freedom

You may have side kicks as the case may be

Lastly, you will be pensionable

But the hotel manager is audio, one day his friend or relatives will eye that post and, vom that's the end

But keep the secret to yourself and don't let anyone know about it within your work place, eve your best friend

The mind of everyone one can't really be seen

Odion2016:
..

Hahahahahaha.........very funny...so age matters bah??

Some how

Fucsheetup:
She is still under her parents because she’s lazy, what is a 22year old graduate still doing in her parents house?



Nigerians are amusing, when does one become a full fledged adult in your country? At 30?

If you have a good sound of sense of reasoning, you will read where she started that she just finished her youth service this June

Where do you want her to stay
Even at 22yrs you already lost your bearing

Fucsheetup:
Understander of men, please tell us how they work.

The rest of us women are still confused.

Self experience gives you a better understanding

Alexprech:
my friend has been dating this guy like three months now, she loves him so much but the problem there is that her guy is 12 years older than her......she keeps on asking me if there is anything wrong with the age difference? please advice a sister....she keeps on listening to people telling her that her guy is too old for her that it will affect her in future......
please is there anything wrong with them?
she needs your advice.....

Let her keep listening until she loses him

Can't she follow her heart

Pattypatt:
I have heard and seen many cases where married men still keep contact with their exes after marriage, even go as far as sleeping with their exes at any given opportunity despite being married. It happens always and its sad that men of nowadays don't respect the institution called marriage. Why chat and disturb your ex after marrying another woman? why didnt you marry your ex and be happy then. Some men sha. I know a guy that slept with his ex on the day of his wedding. So many crazy stuff men do with their exes.

Married men and women, come in here.

Leave them, they will definitely get tired one day, since they can't survive without extra marital affairs

Willss:
Relocation sales
Twin Gas Burner
Location: Lekki Phase 1
Price: 7k

Call/Whatsapp +2348036737976

You ought to show pictures of burning flame on it to prove that it's in a good working condition

Will it go for 5k, I need to give it to a family I care for

Samuelyinka20:
Available

At what cost pls

chiemmanuel:
nice analysis, I intend building later this year, can 4.5million build a 4 bedroom apartment with parlor, no dining, store, toilet ensuite, three verandah

Definitely, it will take you up to finish the skeletal works

Skeletal works includes block work, lintel casting and roofing, if you are going for the regular roofing but not stone coat roofing the black and other colours one

The main thing that takes lots of money in building project is finishing

That's where double of your skeletal expenses will go into

As you build to roofing, your taste on what doors to put, tiles to lay, windows design and patterns to put, plumbing works interior painting, curtains, furnishings and the rest will trigger, why because you want the best for it since its your personal house

But I will advise on one thing
If you have plans to build and you already have such amount at hand, don't delay yourself

Start immediately because if you leave that money in the bank for one year extra, it will never ever add a penny value, but the price of building materials especially cement and rods would have increase in that same extra year you left the money in the bank

Once you start, any where it reaches stop there, when next you save up to 500k put it there, don't save it

The value of naira depreciates in one's account so better put it in your project

Pls find your way to Igbobi hospital, you will be advised on what to do and however it goes, you are better of with Igbobi hospital than any private because of the cost implications

Ojb194616:
By God's grace I won't

Good, just continue to be good and your goodness will fight for you

MrBrownJay1:
PRIDE should therefore have him dig in his pocket and repay his wife, before she does something that will bring 100times more shame on top his matter.

trying to please your mother at the expense of your wife, is certainly NOT a good move.

Let us not get worried, his eyes will clear very soon, unless his wife is a weakly but am sure she is not

neduboo:
Hello professionals, please can #2M build me a 3 bedroom bungalow. The land is already available.

My family house is old and always affected by floods. Anytime rain falls, the whole house is flooded. Though floods usually disturb that area. I'm majorly concern about my parents who are getting old putting their legs and sleeping on top of the flood anytime it rains heavily. Because of the flood, I developed asthma while growing up and still battling with it.

Initially, I have an intention of doing some rehabilitation of the old house by removing the roof and filling it above the flood level so that in case the flood comes it will stay outside and won't be able to enter the house (worse case scenario). But my mom discouraged me telling me that it's better to rebuild a new house because the foundation of the old house is already weak.

But I'm very confused because I doubt if my budget can build me a new 3 bedroom flat in front of the old house.

Please kindly advise me. Thanks in anticipation

Location: Lagos

Having being involved when I built my own houses, I will give you advice base on that

Don't repair the old house, it doesn't belong to you alone

You can start a foundation for three bedroom flat and with additional 500k, you can roof the building and concentrate in the finishing of just the parlour and one room close to the parlor and then kitchen

Toilet has been taking care of because it's part of the room coverage

Gradually, you will do the rest part of the building

Casement windows are more expensive than slide windows

Tile the parlor and the room they will stay in

You can forget about plastering inside but plaster out side to look good from public viewing, gradually you plaster inside

If you want you put bulglary then follow it up with net later you put slide windows for this

Wait till October to march before you start any project so that raining season would have gone away

Dont do any fencing yet because fencing a land is twice more expensive than building a three bed room bungalow

Buy granite of 10tones once and you may not need granite again to finish your building, buy 20tones of sharp sand once, don't buy 10tones once severally because it will not pay you. Buy plastering sand of 10tones any where it got finished, stop there. Start plastering from parlor, the room your parents will stay, kitchen and the remaining ons go out side and plaster the external

As for the soakaway, dig it in the dry season and use the sand to fill the room and parlor with kitchen, then set up the soak away with blocks and pillars at the four edges

Pls do the soakaway where you don't need to ever park on it if you know that you don't have enough money to buy 16mm rods to support the 12mm rods for the covering of it because of heave weight of cars on it

Feel free to ask more questions

MrBrownJay1:
possibly, but we ALL know he did something completely wrong, even he himself knows it.... because if he believed what he did was "right", he would have just said NO when wifey asked to get the jewelry back.

Pride will not allow him accept it as being bad

He is laying emphasis on the harsh conditions people are going through

Not actually what you think

lilyheaven:
It’s not hidden.
It’s in her box of jewelry.
She will inform her son , that his wife came and stole the jewelry he bought for her.
Son will reply “ mama I’m sorry, I stole it from my wife, forgive me

Abi oohh, what a scandal

OutsideTheBox:
How will she collect it back? Going to the MIL'S house and sneaking to her bedroom to ransack the place for the jewelry without being caught is risky. They will label her a thief is she's caught, even if she explains that it is actually hers. The husband who took the jewelry without her knowledge and who didn't bother to tell her then (which is quite deceitful) or since (which is even more deceitful) is at fault and should fix the wahala he has caused. He, not OP, should be the one to retrieve it back from his mother, OR he could simply pay OP its cost to compensate for it. If he's a good husband he will apologize and then do the right thing.

The guy fall him wife hand and raise his mother hand

The most important women in his life

MrBrownJay1:
- he saw nothing wrong with giving the MOST VALUABLE GIFT HIS WIFE RECEIVED (to his mother) without even telling his wife about it?!
- he gave the gift to his mother as if it came "from him" (how selfish of him)
- he then said he cant get it back because it would be "a shame", yet he saw nothing shameful about taking stealing the jewelry from his wife?!

does that make any sense to you?!

as Ishilove stated above, if he cant pay back then she should therefore take his most valuable possession and give it to her father.

That her husband is living in his mother's world

Ojb194616:
Please I really do need matured advice on what to do.
I have been with my girl for over two years now.
So far, I would say its been going really smoothly, she's the best and I really love her.

But the issue now is, her parents are not in support of us. It has really been a thug of war between her and her parents.
The parents are not even ready to set their eyes on me. I really wish they give me a chance to say something.
The most confusing part right now is, my girl has refused to let go. My parents are in support of us. My mum love her much.
But our hands are tired because we can't do anything to change their mind or see them to avoid embarrassment as they insist she must marry her tribal person.

I really don't know what to do at this point.
I really wish I could confidently say I could give up on her.. But truth is, I can't as I really do care about her.
She's Edo and am Yoruba.

You don't need to stress yourself much as the solution it within you

The only person that will do the job is your woman

Leave it for her, her happiness is of important to her family

By the time they discover that she will rather die than leaving you then, you guys will get approval

Just keep doing good and being good to your woman

But never you fail her incaes you guys gets married, her family will laugh at her

Ojb194616:
Please I really do need matured advice on what to do.
I have been with my girl for over two years now.
So far, I would say its been going really smoothly, she's the best and I really love her.

But the issue now is, her parents are not in support of us. It has really been a thug of war between her and her parents.
The parents are not even ready to set their eyes on me. I really wish they give me a chance to say something.
The most confusing part right now is, my girl has refused to let go. My parents are in support of us. My mum love her much.
But our hands are tired because we can't do anything to change their mind or see them to avoid embarrassment as they insist she must marry her tribal person.

I really don't know what to do at this point.
I really wish I could confidently say I could give up on her.. But truth is, I can't as I really do care about her.
She's Edo and am Yoruba.

You don't need to stress yourself much

L

GboyegaD:
Asking to have a look might not work it because of the reactions that might stem from the stories afterwards. I feel she could tell her upfront and if she releases it, good; otherwise, she should move on. In it all, the husband was the cause of this entire mess. Why on earth was he trying to over impress his mom with someone else's assets?

She will definitely tell us how she went about it
This movie is a block buster

GboyegaD:
She is not but there is a need to thread with caution. She's got the husband to deal with and not the mom. The mom did not come take it from her house and it was a gift the son gave her. She knows who the husband is now and need watch her back around him. As for the jewelry, she could choose to explain the situation to her mother-in-law who could return it back without hassles. However, attempting to take it by force is a no no.

But this is just exactly what I said,

"she should visit her and ask her to let her have a look on the jewellery and explain to her that its a gift to her and her children after her delivery"

You can read my post again

GboyegaD:
Collect a gift the son gave the mother? She should go ahead and steal it. She would end up disgracing herself and family members when tagged a thief because that is what she would be.

Is the mother a demi god

She knows what to do, I trust her, no be woman she be ⁉️

sisisioge:
But your husband would know you stole if it goes missing...kukuma tell mama you like it, she should dash you. I hope she's kind enough to oblige

No way

She is not the only woman mama has, so mama may not want to give it to her

She should collect it from her, next time if her husband gives mama anything, mama will ask him

Did you steal this one again ⁉️

GboyegaD:
Since you want people to be at your side, quick go get a gun and go face her that she has your asset with her. If fun is not enough then use jazz.

Now in reality, there isn't much you can do. Talk to your husband and see if he can at least pay you back for your asset. Don't soil your name because it will be tagged stealing since your husband offered it to his mom as a gift. This is a learning point for you and going forward, keep your valuables away from where he would be able to reach out before he gives out the remaining.

Lastly, you are free to insult me if my advice doesn't make sense to you.

Her husband will promise to pay back and will never pay pack

Men and sweet mouth

Let her collect it back let the husband pay back to his mother

Very simple

mariahAngel:
This is a whole movie

Honestly