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ojjp:
Happy new year nairalanders!
My uncle got married about 11 years ago to a lady who was a 'bad girl' but pretended at that time to be a changed person. 10 years after the wedding till now, no child.
Right now, she is going wild after men and the evidence is clear.
What could be her problem?
Could it be the delay in child birth, or something else?
How do i tell my uncle because he doesnt have a clue on this stuff. I really want to tell him but which approach do i use please?
I need help.
Pls for your own sake ,leave your uncle wife alone, your safety and progress is your priority right now not monitoring someone's wife. Women are wicked and deadly if anyone stands on their way.
Others saw her and overlooked because they want peace in their life, for the fact that she is barren makes her a wonder lion. Stay clear pls and fear women.

keacy:
I'm getting frustrated with the condition my father is giving me before I finally settle down. I will be 34 years this 2018 and would have married (with 2 or 3 kids by now) since but my dad gave the excuse that he didn't like the girl.

I am the first son of 5 children, I am paying the school fees of the last child who is in med school. I have found me a wife whom I have planned getting married to by April.

Now my dad is insisting that since we don't have a home in the village that I should build one before getting married else he won't come for my wedding and will disown me.

I have already told him that I will build after my wedding but he refused.

What should I do? Going ahead with this building will make me call-off my wedding till December or Next year. What should I do My People I need Expert Advice on this.

morgan844:
i only did it to pay her back, and keep my self out of the thought

ibkayee:
Lol guy you made it seem like he was driven out just because he wasn’t the sole provider, we’re talking about his character. If a wife was also wicked, lazy etc I wouldn’t blame the husband for driving her out either

There’s a difference between not being perfect and being ‘wicked’, like I said if he wasn’t wicked, lazy etc and the issue was that he couldn’t find a job I would understand your initial points. Women aren’t driven out? Men’s shirt comings are always unpardonable lol you must be talking about a different Nigeria

makydebbie:
What made her endure for so long...?

yeyerolling:
Both of them are mad. Seems ur sis forced him to marry her cos she don dey old. Nonsense

BenShammer:
This question is very interesting. OP what d'you think she should do?

tvandy10:
Hello Everyone,

I am getting married towards the later end of next year.

My father is Yoruba and my mother is from Calabar. I was born in Nigeria but have been in the U.S. since I was a young girl. My fianceé is Oyinbo and we are doing a traditional wedding ceremony.

Does anyone know where I find the steps for the Efik and Yoruba ceremony? My fianceé's family wants to join in a just wants a little more information so they can full participate. I don't just want them to sit there dumbstruck. I want them to be a part of it. I've tried searching for steps to the wedding, but haven't gotten good results. I basically want a program, what goes first, what is last, what to do in each part.

My parents are also helping me but I figure the more information I get, the better.

Any help or suggestions will be welcomed.

Thanks in advance,

TV10

Ps,

Here's an example of the steps in a Hindu wedding: https://www.thoughtco.com/hindu-wedding-rituals-1770478

Looking for something similar.

JustOzito:
Hello everyone, pls I need advice. A course mate of mine have been disturbing me about a guy she has a crush on. She claims that she has caught dis guy staring at her on several occasions but weneva their eyes meet, he'll turn away. He smiles and always hold her hand wherever he sees her. We ar in our final year but she still thinks dis guy loves her. Currently she's not in a relationship because she feels it may b cheating on her crush. She ceases every opportunity to talk about dis guy. Pls note dat he's in d same school and faculty with her.
Am tired but I don't know if I should tell her to ask the guy out .
Lalasticala

vybzkartel:
My senior brother has been antagonizing me for a very long time.
He didn't attend my wedding saying he had a quiz at school
He sold me his phone when I wanted to own a phone years ago
He speaks Ill about me and insults me before my wife
I am in the same job as him and he will quickly rally behind anyone that is in conflict with me. Few months ago he fetched water to invoke curses on me but my uncles prevented him. He then removed his shirt apparently to fight me but again was resisted by my uncles.
Recently, my boss was victimizing me and given me a whole lot of problems, when we met as staff to resolve it, even though my boss was guilty, this my brother stood to apologize to this my boss
This brother is throwing a party in our father's compound tomorrow and our mum who knows all what this brother has done to me says I should be at the party and put on a nice face but I have resolved not to attend. Please judge this matter

BlackDBagba:
Tell her I said Happy New year.

Mynky:
is it really possible that an upright man will agree to marry a physically challenged woman?

My friend narrated her ordeal with her Husband. She explained her Hubby loves to Mastubate to finish up sex on top of her during sex. and he will ejaculate disgusting liquids directly on her body.Somtime she will bath afterward like three or five times in a day just to clean up the sticky mess. She asked him to Mastubate using Condom but he refuse.What can she do?

1.Can she quit the relationsip even though her husband has invested so much in the relationship?

2.Is mastubation a sin even though he does it with wife?

3.How can he rehabilitate him back to a normal Man in bed?

Nairalanders Your comment can save this relationship.

Nairaland Help
Tell your friend to have one on one discussion with her husband on how to help him get out of those stupid and silly act. Her husband is the only one that knows how that problem can be solved

I had a child 8 years ago. Ever since then, having a long lasting relationship is a big problem because they leave me with the excuse of my child been an issue. My last relationship has left me shattered and the last thing i want to do is deny my baby. Am confused pls friends what do you advise i do? Am not getting any younger. Thanks as i await you comments.

wonukwuru:
I am adult married to a lady of 35years. We have been married since 2007. God has blessed us with 3 wonderful children( 2 boys and 1 girl). Before we got married, i agreed with my wife that i only want to have 2 kids ( I wouldnt mind if they just boys or girls. That means, Im not particular of the sex of the kids). My wife is a B.sc Accounting graduate, while myself, I am a Chartered Accountant, with a well paid job. My wife had a 3rd class degree. On several occassions, i have told her to go back to school for Post Graduate Diploma (PGD) in order to upgrade, but she plainly told me that she cannot go back to school again. When i asked her why, she told me that her brain cannot withstand any academic stree again. I also suggested to her, since you studied accounting in the university, why not enroll for ICAN program? When i said that to her, she told me that she could not go for PGD, is it ICAN that she can do? I have been thinking, what will i do for her to be like others.

Luckly, was transferred to Benin. I went with my family to Benin. We stayed over 4years in Benin. While we were in Benin, I told my wife to go and enroll for a 6months diploma programm in computer (because she is not computer literate). I paid over N110,000 for the 6months programme. My wife only went for the programme for 1month and stopped. She refused to complete the program. When I asked her, she told me that she will go back after she had "put to bed"( Then she was pregnant). Guys, its over two years now and the baby is even in pre-nursery school, yet my wife has not reminded me of going back to complete the programme.

Last year, she asked me to open a store for her, that she want to go into trading. When I asked her the nature of the business, she said, she wants to deal on selling rice, beans, yams, groundnut oil, etc. I now suggested that it will not be a problem, but she has to look for somebody who is already in the business so as to understudy the person for atleast 1month. She refused, saying that without her understudying anybody, that she can still make it. I told her that my reason of suggesting to her to understudy somebody was that, i wanted her to be selling in wholesale. My plan was to give like N1.5million. I told her, i cannot just release N1.5million to her for a business that she did not learn. I told her that N1.5million is not a small money. Brethren, that was why up til now, i have not opened the business for her.

My children's school fees is over N650,00 per term for the 3 kids. I provide for feeding. My wife does not want to do anything as to assist me in the family. I give her money for her hair, cream, bathing soap, panties and clothing. Im really getting tired. My salary does not carry the family again because of too much expenses.

Another problem now is, my wife's dressing is nothing to write home about. She dresses as if she is in her late 60s. I have complained to her on several occasion that i dont like the way she dresses, but each time i bring up the issue, she will get angry. People around, have meeting my sisters to tell them that my wife does not dress well as somebody that has gone to the university. Even in my house, my wife only tires wrapper. Nothing in her again attracts me to her. Infact, for the past 3 months, i have not slept with her. I sleep in the parlour while she sleeps in the bed room.

Else, i forget, my wife delibrately "took in" again since July last year. This is after we agreed that the 3 kids that we already have is enough. Her method is, each time i remind her of what to do as to be assisting me in the family, she will delibrately "take in".

My wife, went to the university but she cannot speak simple and correct english. She cannot write application letter. She cannot teach my kids who are in primary 2 and 5 respectively. I pay a lesson teacher N30,000 monthly for my kids but my wife is at home doing nothing. Since we got married, my wife has not sent me text message on her phone more than 3times. The ones that she sent, my brothers, there are lots of gramatical blunders. When i confronted her with the text message, she could not say anything. I was checking for some documents in my room last week, and i came across an application that my wife wrote to submit to a private school where she wants to teach. When i saw the letter, believe me, my brothers, one of my kids that is in primary 5 cannot write such rubbish.

What i thought she was before i married her, is not what she is. I cannot take her out for an occassion because she may embarrase me by her conduct in the public. I need a divorce but the problem now is, i did i court wedding with her. What should i do? Im confused.

Onojasteve:
I met the lady in my 100 level in the university, we have graduated and done with our one year NYSC service, I learn photography and have being surviving with it, I couldn't get any better paying job, so I decided to further my studies, and when I told her about my plans, she only said, she wish me well that she can't wait.

That was all, only for friends to start calling me telling me congratulations, was wondering what the. Celebrations until one draw my attention to her facebook wall, she was engaged last night.

Am just so pain and terrify

princechurchill:
Oh lord thanks to u i survived menopause

247frolicboss:
PHOTOS: I Need A Baby Mama, I'll Pay Her 5 Million - Nigerian Man Who “Sleeps On Money”



A young Nigerian man who flaunts money on social media says he is looking for a baby mama, and he is ready to pay her 5 million and buy her a car worth 3 million.

Freeman Obg Owoboy stated this in a Facebook post.


He wrote: “O.B.G. I need a baby mama after everything I will pay her 5 million and a car worth 3 million . If you are lucky enough you might give birth to a boy who will enrit my multimillion paradise home . So if you are interested inbox me.Owoboy”


http://www.newshelmng.com/2017/12/photos-i-need-baby-mama-ill-pay-her-5.html

NwaAmaikpe:



I stand with the man,

No child deserves to be brought up by such a mom who can't write properly in English.

A woman who sends her nudes to a Facebook activist,
A woman who sends pictures of her pant stained with hôrny juices.

A woman who can't keep some things secret and who won't mind ridiculing her husband's family name does not deserve to be called a wife.

Sebastine1994:
my elder brother was released from prison last week. few of us went to received him at port Harcourt prison. he is emaciated. although I was just a boy when he was incarcerated. he sent me to school while he was behind bars.
please what advice do you have for a jailbird. he is now 47 years old. we don't have a family, they abandoned him. what business should he go into. should he go back to school or become a pastor.
mind you he has cash.

HeWrites:
A Nigerian man, MicMayray Alakaia Onuora, took to Facebook to seek advice after his Indonesian girlfriend disclosed that she’s one month pregnant for him shortly after his marriage to his Nigerian wife, Vivian Ogu.

Onuora based in Jakarta Indonesia, but currently in Nigeria wrote;
“My brothers and sisters, please i really need an advice from you…this matter has been eaten me up but i don’t know what to do about it…I am an anti-2 wives and i have
vowed not to marry 2 wives as i knew the consquences…

“Here comes my story, this is my white girl friend and we have dated for 2 years, all these while she had been pregnant but to my greatest surprise, a month after i came down to Nigeria to marry she told me that was pregnant and by then i have done the introduction and collecting of list as i dont want to waste time for my marriage, secondly she is a muslim and i am christian and if i have to marry her i must follow their muslim rules…my head is hot now please what should i do Your kind advice is appreciated thanks..”

http://www.torimill.com/2017/12/indonesia-based-nigerian-man-who-is-to.html

mercy0008:
So I'm serving in this organization and ended up being friends with this guy, we seem to always have something to talk about as we both read books and share an interest in politics. We will go see movies, go watch football and sometimes go bowling too.
After a short time we discovered we sort of started growing feelings for each other, I have not been dating for a year but he is in a relationship.
Now we are both feeling bad because his girlfriend is really a nice girl, at least based on stuffs that i 've heard about her from him, but he claims he cant understand why he is this attracted to me too, said all he knows is he can just be himself around me without any fear or worries about what i think of him.
We are trying our best to keep away from each other but really this is over powering and its not working. Somehow he just finds himself at my place after work(i leave the office before him) till maybe 11pm most times even if his girlfriend is visiting.
Just thought to share with you all, please is there something else i can do.
I honestly don't want to come between him and his girlfriend but my feelings for him hasn't changed.
WHAT DO YOU THINK I SHOULD I DO?

visible006:
Actually the sickness never happened to me on day-time, it's always at night when I am asleep even if someone tells you that I have epilepsy you'll likely doubt the person because I don't have injuries or wound, the sickness will just come and go before morning....


I don't want to quit serving my oga because it will be a lost to me and I don't know how life will look for me if I do...... and my oga is even doubting me that I don't such sickness..

So I just want to finish serving him and it remain another three years...


But I just want to find out from nairaland doctors If (maybe when I get the money) I will find any medical solution to this type of sickness..


Please oga seun and lalasticlala help me push this to front page.. My dear brother, it is well within you. I believe with time you will overgrow that epilepsy.
Try to avoid thing's, situations and people that will make you to be sad or get upset. Always be happy and feel happy with your self. The brain controls everything we do and one action can trigger the other causing there by causing the epilepsy to occur.
Lastly go to government owned General hospitals whee you will meet consutants who can handle your case and place you on a proper drug.

Thank you for reading my post and God bless you.

Dayoto:


Somebody should tell that mama up there in blue, no be by force! eh! Your mates sit at home and look after their grand children

These attentions you are getting nowadays do not mean you should "re-wash" your CALL ME career! We had you in the 90's already

Abah!

Teniola2000:
Cc: lalasticlala

Richardabbey:
Stupid Woman , I Didnt Even Read D Post ,i Just Jump To Conclusion Dat All Woman Are Evil

DOUBLEWAHALA:
I will appreciate anybody with a summary

Papiikush:
Only if giving birth was that easy and funny.

Kudos to women all over the world for the pains they go through during child delivery.

Death to those ones that terminate their pregnancy i hope they die from the cry of those kids from the underworld.