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frozen70:
I feel sorry for your situation and will encourage you to be a strong woman because your the only work force for the family.
You know what you want and you already know what your mind is preparing you for, just don't let it be noticed either by words or actions, you must consider somany things before taking that tough decision.
Finally try to forget things that will make you and your partner happy what ever it is.

Sorry, try to do things that wil make you and your partner happy

z11111:
Good Morning Ma,

I want to thank you specially for the good work God is using you to do on your blog. How you are helping people with problems,the godly advice that you give. I applaud your consistency. I dont know whether anybody is paying you but I want to tell you that God will reward you abundantly.

So I read one of your stories last two weeks where a woman is married to a man that is sick for almost three years and she wants to leave the marriage. I cried when I read that because I am also in that same situation. All the responses people are giving,they really encouraged me. But I decided to write cos some people dont seem to understand how hard it is. You cannot imagine the trauma a woman who is married to a vegetable is facing.

I got married about five years ago. I was pregnant with my first child when me,my husband and two other people were travelling to the East for Christmas had an accident. My husband was the one driving. One person died,the other person sustained serious injury,my husband to was seriously injured. He was in coma for almost two months. I even though I was seven months pregnant,my injuries did not affect the pregnancy. I was put in intensive care though for one month cos they feared I would go into after shock and maybe loose the baby. But God was faithful,I had a CS on the eight. God gave us a healthy baby boy,we called him Chukwuegbuka.

But my husband was not so successful, The accident left him i.....Read full story from the blog

https://livelystones.com.ng/almost-4-years-of-fighting-for-my-marriage-maybe-its-time-to-move-on/

I feel sorry for your situation and will encourage you to be a strong woman because your the only work force for the family.
You know what you want and you already know what your mind is preparing you for, just don't let it be noticed either by words or actions, you must consider somany things before taking that tough decision.
Finally try to forget things that will make you and your partner happy what ever it is.

EmergencyCase:
frustrated, yes but not a rat.


As for what it takes, maybe 50k, 100k 150k or even more.


What if some worries are perpetual and unable to be solved permanently.


This might just be my fate. To suffer and wail

Learn to be a man and give hope to your self once you don't have a terminal sickness and you have not being diagnosed of one, stop seeing your self as a failure.
Be courageous your families are looking up to you, you are the only one that will give yourself hope and also be prayerful as that's the only way out.
The time is now, take up a stand.

Troubledmind:
I met her on Facebook and we moved to whatsapp, she likes everything i like, she's Caring, ambitious, smart and romantic, she gave me alot of clues that she's into me like the way she's always telling me that she believes in me, telling me that her kind of guy has all my qualities, sending kiss emoji, asking if I've eaten and all, but all the while she never asked for favors, but i wasn't romantically intrested in her, i just found her interesting and a great company.

Then suddenly she changed her behavior, she gets angry over little things, she sent me a message one night and i didn't reply on time then she said I'm giving her attitude, and all my explanations fell on deaf ears, then she finally told me we should stop being friends, i said ok because i didn't think I'd miss her.

Now i think about her everyday like she's the air i breathe and its wierd, no matter how i try to be emotionally detached its not working anymore, and this was someone i didn't have feelings for back then, what do i do about this?

Be a man, call her until she picks your call, let her know that you are missing her because of the few times you have with her and all the gist both if you had.
It doesn't take anything from you and doesn't make you less a man.
She actually loves you unconditional and you never valued her so she noticed it and moved on.
Atimes we don't know the value of what we have until we loose it.

dyze:
Please I need help. My wife usually sleeps facing down while her two legs are raised backwards. Someone said its people that are possessed that do that.

Kindly share your honest and matured opinion if you have on this thanks.

I usually overlook things like this but I want to know its spiritual connection. If I should take steps

Thanks

Keep watching her until she is pregnant the watch how she will be sleeping in that position. If she succeed in sleeping with that position in pregnancy then something is wrong but if she sleeps normal when pregnant then it's a habit she picked and have to stop it

KennyAyodeji:
Pls, I don't no what to do, and I don't want to offend her non myself.

My mother in-law, do comes around after delivery, but she can't do anything for you as assistant, but it really painful, cox it reminds me of my late mother, that if I have a mother, all dis will not have happened to me.

When I have my 1st child when she came, all she will do is to tell me to arrange baby bath, then back her after bath, I will be d 1 to wash, cook, go to market even wen it not convenient, but am strong in my 1st child delivery.

In my 2nd delivery, its not convenient @all like 1st, cox am too weak, can't do most work, but I will still try, while she back d baby, and later lay her down and sleep beside her. My leg will be checking on ground, even my eyes blunt and weakness over d body joint, to d extend dat neighbor and friends told me am stressing myself too much dat I need rest...

I have to explained dis to my hubby, and my hubby called her to be doing dis and dat for me, but what my mother in-law use to do is, until u called her to do dis b4 she can do it, if u don't, she will leave it for u, and I can't be calling her to do any work except she pick it up herself. Even mid-9t, she slept while d baby and I is on vigil...

Now, I don't want to offend her, myself and my hubby(cox he help wen he's around, so caring in all area, even before he goes to work, he sweep everywhere, bath his 1st child sometimes. But if I tell him again, he will tell me to call her), but I don't no what to do Advice needed...

Overlook her she is not staying there for long or forever.
Endure whatever it is for peace to rain in your husband family.
If you attack her then be ready to face the rest members of your husband family expecially the women. Thank your God for the supportive husband that you have that's the most important of it all. Ask those that doesn't have a supportive husband the hell they are going through.

lexxwiz:
Well, all you have to do is paste the guys number here and we can tell him ourselves.. Pretty sure when he gets over 200 msgs tell him to go check his wife's womb, he won't have a choice and won't ever know you engineered it. Kalas!

Where have you been all this while the marriage plans have been going on.
What stops you from telling your friend by using another phone line to pass the message to him and call him to confirm if he read the messages you just sent to him then throw away the sim card.
For you to come up at the 11th hour to inform them will be a very big problem for the two families.
I advice that you keep silent and never behaved that you ever knew anything about it.
Your life is more important to you than their marriage to you.
Don't understand estimate the power of a woman.

Factfinder1:
Personally it is best for one to mind his or her business in issues like dis before somebody jazz you and makes your life miserable for not keeping quiet...you should have told your guy early than now

You have spoken my mind

rubbiee:
I only wanted u guys to advice me nt 2 judge me and condemn me afterall i havnt slept wt me.its nt becos he sucked my breasts di i said im in lvwt im.u guys shd take it easy wt me

Don't mind those insulting you rather than advising you.
I understand how you feel about the whole issue, is good to fall in love but pls this particular one won't be of benefits to you.
He already met your sister before you if he tries anything funny, you father's family will disintegrate, you will remain enemy for life with your sister and if at the end he divorce you due to one issues or the other you will remain miserable for life.
Atimes for peace to raine in our life we forgo the best of what we have.

DopeAngel:
Serious Advice Needed Pls- How Can I Resolve This Impending Doom In My Family

Please nairalanders i kindly need your advice on this family issue. my elder bro met this girl sometime last two years after having too many disappointments in relationship. he said he wants to finally settle down that he is tired of waiting and disappointments.

Now the serious problem is both of them are genotype AS, but my brother does not care, he still wants to go ahead with the marriage. He is saying he has faith and hope in God that nothing will happen. even my parents are not helping matters, my parents are strong church elders and they are even saying my brother should pray that God can change things.

I am so pained with my parents stand on this issue knowing the severe consequence that follows. i was hoping they would outrightly dissolve the relationship but no they are hoping on God. What pains me the most is that the girl herself is a nurse, she knows better than everybody but yet she is not considering that.

Right now i hate the girl because she is coming to ruin the life of bro's unborn children

Call your family for a meeting, say your mind about the risk they are taking, let them know that they are the one digging their own pit and it's obvious they will fall inside if they go ahead.
After that leave them to continue their plans they will be the one to pay for their blind love. You can even sight examples with families that have sicklers as children let them visit them and get first hand experience.

DopeAngel:
Serious Advice Needed Pls- How Can I Resolve This Impending Doom In My Family

Please nairalanders i kindly need your advice on this family issue. my elder bro met this girl sometime last two years after having too many disappointments in relationship. he said he wants to finally settle down that he is tired of waiting and disappointments.

Now the serious problem is both of them are genotype AS, but my brother does not care, he still wants to go ahead with the marriage. He is saying he has faith and hope in God that nothing will happen. even my parents are not helping matters, my parents are strong church elders and they are even saying my brother should pray that God can change things.

I am so pained with my parents stand on this issue knowing the severe consequence that follows. i was hoping they would outrightly dissolve the relationship but no they are hoping on God. What pains me the most is that the girl herself is a nurse, she knows better than everybody but yet she is not considering that.

Right now i hate the girl because she is coming to ruin the life of bro's unborn children

Call your family for a meeting, say your mind about the risk they are taking, let them know that they are the one digging their own pit and it's obvious they will fall inside if the house ahead.
After that leave them to continue their plans they will be the one to pay for their blind love. You can even sight examples with families that have sicklers as children let them visit them and get first hand experience.

askibee:
somebody summarize the video i know get data

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NwaAmaikpe:



Innocent husbands keep suffering for the sins of their once wayward wives.

I'm sure her ordeal are a result of the repercussions of taking Postin**2 oral contraceptives as if it's just paracetamol and her having countless abortions as a teen.

It could even be an Alhaji whom she duped in the past that laid a curse on her.

She is lucky that God forgave her and allowed favour locate her.

You don't open your mouth and talk because you are expected to screan your brain before loosing your unbridled tongue, real men don't talk carelessly.
If you continue this way when you marry, your wife will show you w at women are made off. IDIOT

Estar01:
By Estarsblog.com

"I am continually pursuing my little child around and I am pregnant with another infant. I work all day. Consistently I cook, clean and wash while my significant other does literally nothing for himself. I even wash his garments and I have beseeched him times without number to enable me to get a house help however he has won't.

He barely lifts a finger in the house, as he anticipates that me will keep the house clean when I return home late. Notwithstanding when I am not feeling too well and I need him to enable me to get something; he will state I am imagining. I am starting to feel like a doormat and I am worn out all in all thing"— Nana

"I am hitched with four children with the oldest now eight years of age. I show English Language in one of the administration optional schools in Lagos. As a class instructor with a normal of 100 understudies in my class, I show seven arms or all the more consistently.

I near to 3 pm however I don't return home until 6 pm. Customarily, I need to make a trip to do looking for the house.

Furthermore, when I return home, I don't get the chance to bed until 11 pm. My better half never assists with home errands trusting that it is just for feeble men.

Fourteen days prior, I saw that I was feeling mixed up, yet I didn't give it much idea until the point when I fallen while I was doing clothing. I must be hurried to the doctor's facility. Folowing that episode, hubby chose to utilize a housemaid. Presently, I have more opportunity to rest." Mrs. Ono.

Read more: http://www.estarsblog.com/2018/04/22/your-wife-is-not-your-slave/

Lalasticlala

It's time you stop having kids so that you can concentrate in your life and family.
Life have no duplicate. Over look his attitude and focus on the children that will help you to start planning for them.
Very soon he might withdraw his financial roles and they will be left for you alone so start planning Incase it occurs.
He is lazy and he doesn't give a dam about how you feel. Pray to God to give you wisdom on how to move on.

Tinamoore:
I just want to let out some of my pains and fesrs on this faceless forum .maybe it will give me some sort of relief.

I know that I am not a perfect person but i know that i gave my all to my marriage to make it work but it didn't work out.the whole thing is gradually wrecking me emotinally because of my two innocent children.

When I look back at the " good girl" life I have lived, I begin to wonder if its worth it.most times, I just want to do some "very bad things", so that the pains I passed through in my marriage will make sense to me. Why does bad things happen to good people.

Most times, I am scared if I am/ will make a good mother to my kids.can I successfully fill the vacuum of a father in their lives? Why my children? Why must they be caught in this web of ' single parenthood'.God!!! I am so scared of what the future holds for us.i worry about what will happen if my children dont turn out well.I try to be strong especially for my kids but at times I break down. This was never the plan I had for myself. What happened to my dreams?

For how long will I answer questions like: mummy, I want to speak with my daddy; mummy, why is daddy not living with us anymore; mummy, I miss my daddy.this are questions my children ask even though they haven't spent so much time with their father as he was abroad.In as much as I don't want to paint their father as a bad person, I also don't want to give them the impression that I am deliberately keeping them away from their father.so the questions get hard to answer.

How can a father abandon his own blood? No calls, emotional or financial commitment. I can deal with it, but its not easy for my kids.maybe its about the belief that" my children will eventually look for their father, their root".how about their education? Don't you care if your children are in school knowing fully well I am unemployed. God!! Please answer my prayers.

It's worse because I can't and will never go back to him. For if i do, he may cause me to commit suicide oneday. Twice , his actions made me raise knife to take my life. I loved him so much that he was my obsession. He was my first and only love.do I hate him now? No, I can never hate the one I once loved so much.I gave him time to change but it got worse.I know we all have our faults including me but not when a man makes his wife an " intimate stranger".

Life itself is not fair.so many questions and questions in my head that beg for answers.at times you need someone to just listen to you. At times i t gets too much for me that I just want to scream out loud.you cry so much and still don't feel any better.its worse because no one else truly knows what I am passing through emotionally.God bless my family for me but then my emotional pains is beyond them.

Do I feel any better writing this? honestly I don't know. Just want to write about how I am feeling. At times I want to loose faith/ hope in God but then I know its only him and myself that can help "me".

I am not new on nairaland.my old moniker is saponification but changed it when I lost my former email.

First of all, you need to be strong, when I mean I strong it means bringing brave, be courageous.
Don't allow yourself to be wallowing in pains life goes on. Go ahead and plan for yourself and your family, you are the only one they have on earth so why do you want them to be stranded because on one person that never valued his family because if he did he won't back his family.
Tell your children the truth before they get to know it from outside.
Give yourself joy and make your self happy with all you can.
Your husband wants to enjoy himself and he needs a breathing space so allow him to do what pleases him.
Concentrate on the development and welfare of the children, don't ever cry because of him he doesn't deserve it. Pamper yourself so that you will be stronger for your children.
Don't feel bad about the whole thing rather use the opportunity a focus in your children.
I don't want to know what happened or what lead to the separation you are not the first person and won't be the last. Get some thing doing and get some to make you feel like a real woman aftrall he has moved on so why won't you move on. Lastly pray for the grace of God to see you through.

chuksonia:
Hello good evening guys hope we good?
let me go straight to the point I've got this friend of mine who stays in the same estate her with me in ibeju-lekki area this young man is in his late twenties and also a graduate, this his addiction started way back when we were still undergraduate.

He used to use this particular drug just because of reading sake Co's he once told me his brain it's always at it's peak whenever his on this drug and he tends to assimilate anything he reads, now he's outta school though he got side hustle put guys my guy is outta hand the rate at which he takes this drugs now is alarming the reason I'm saying this is simply on the fact that I was with him yesterday evening and I needed him to enter d number of a mechanic he recommended for me to fix ma car,... his hand was really shaking badly that I noticed he had to quickly adjust by using the other hand to hold on to the phone, I tried engaging him into a man on man conversation but he reluctantly snapped out! so when we drove to his apartment I noticed just when his was about to take a leak just outta curiosity I entered his room and saw lots of sachets of these particular drugs I mean lots of it, so I confronted him and there he goes telling me he can't go a day without taking nothing less than 800-1000mg I didn't know when I said Jesus, and he is always aggressive I'm just feeling very concerned the thing is that he doesn't listen to me on matters like this, and he's fiance is a nurse and she's also not aware of his addiction

His mother too isn't aware although both his mum and girl are close to me I'm thinking of bringing them into talking to him especially his fiance Co's I know he loves and respects her and would most likely listen to her, but at the same time I don't want to be seeing as a snitch and end up spoiling our relationship he'll never tell me anything and most likely won't trust me! how Do I bring them to know about this without making it all pointing to me, note I'm the only one he opened up to.. even he's fiance as close as she is she has no idle about his addiction and seriously assuming he's only taking it occasionally I won't mind or maybe taking it on a low quantity I'll just be about fine but a thousand mills daily hahba he needs help!

Is better you save his life by telling the mum and girlfriend, that will save his life even if he stops taking with you the most important thing is that you have saved his life

Texrec:
Good evening Friends, please I need your urgent advice and on how to manage this complicated situation.

I do supply of diesel and other products to a company here in Port Harcourt. They always paid within one or two weeks.After my mother's burial last year ,I didn't have enough cash to execute the supply they gave me because i sponsored the burial as the first son. So I borrowed some cash from a friend.

That was the beginning of my wahala. The company's manager and some workers defrauded the owner that hardly lives in Nigeria. So my payment was delayed and I explained everything to my friend. That I even invested all my little savings to that supply and that I'm even finding it difficult to feed my family.

Around February this year I went to Cross River state to buy chippings for someone and I spent about two days there because of truck problems. So my phone battery was down and even my wife was not able to reach me. To my greatest surprise, this my friend went to my church and I told my pastor that defrauded him.That I have even packed out of my house and switched off my phone. Meanwhile he knows my place and he didn't even bother to go and ask my wife where I went to since my number wasn't going through. When the pastor told me things he said, I couldn't believe it (infact I was shocked). I called my friend and he initially denied meeting my pastor.

The pastor scheduled a meeting for us to meet and sort things out but the guy refused to show up. I have tried to sell my own share of my inheritance to pay him his money but I have not been able to see a serious buyer due to the location of the property.

The problem is that this guy is calling everybody that I know and even going to Facebook to contact my friends that I defrauded him. I have asked him to give me time but he said I must come to somewhere outside port Harcourt town with my wife before he will negotiate anything with me. I cannot allow anybody to ridicule my marriage because of debt. I told him I won't involve my wife in that kind of arrangement. He calls me every morning and night and sometimes i just feel like ignoring his calls because i know it's same talk everytime.The company is currently not operating but the chairman has agreed to pay me soon. How do I handle this mess because this guy is ruining my reputation and it's tearing my marriage apart. If you have experienced this before, please I need your advice urgently because I'm going insane.

Put your marriage out of it because he is threatening you as a person and not really threatening your family.
Tell him you will like to see him one on one, choose the location but don't go alone.
Beg him to give you up to a certain time, tell your siblings what you are passing through incase of tomorrow.
Meet friends that knows him very well to settle both of you before it gets out of hand.

Ezkid:
Well as an African I believe it's disrespectful and rude to diss or called out my mom for her unhealthy attitudes but I think its high time I make it public so people who has witnessed or experience such can give to me a valuable advice.

My mom was once a successful hair dresser and she was the breadwinner of our family until she became born again, she abruptly stopped plating hair for her customers based on what she tagged "unbiblical" She basically affirmed that she'll never touch attachments and synthetic hair again in her life and ever since then things hasn't been going smoothly again.

My Dad now has got a Rick Ross fatlike woman as a second wife and I think the whole situations has taken its toll on my mom's mental health, she's literally cut herself off from the outside world and everything always mean something extra terrestrial to her.

My Mom would see a gecko on the wall and believe it was sent from hell to drag her to the underground, We always packed from one apartment to the other thanks to her intolerance toward other people. Omg! She'll always find faults with her co tenants, everybody is either a witch or a spy from the underworld.

There's one thing she did that convinced me she's struggling from mental instability, we packed out from one house to a flat like apartment, do u believe my mom went back there and packed the huge rocks we used to make fire? She tagged them as her property which can never be left behind, she'll play with u today only to become unresponsive when u greet her tomorrow, she stopped her work almost 20 years ago and ever since then has become a liability on my dad and a burden on us the children, it disgusts me to feed her with my hard earned money when she's hale and healthy, she's the reason my dad was unable to send me to the university because the burden is too much on him.

What I find ridiculous about her is her mindset, her mind was wired to believe we owed her a living when in reality it's the opposite, when my dad is unable to send money she'll become so tensed and angry, its so annoying how she find it difficult to realize she is the PROBLEM of the family.

Pls I need good advice on what kind of help we the children can seek on her behalf cos its obvious she needs help. Thanks all.

First of all did she change her church, because such can wash her brain with the doctrine she is now receiving.
Find out from her fathers family if there is cases of mental illness.
Take her to psychiatric hospital for evaluation or to a psychologist to access her.
Alternatively take her to a reformation or reformatory for her rehabilitation.
Your dad getting another wife has worsened the case of her and the entire family.

SirToby:
Good evening friends. It all started with malaria two weeks ago and i used Lonart, i was relieved for some period and i started feeling feverish again. I ran a test and it confirmed Malaria is still positive, and the doctor prescribed P alaxin, i used it but i started feeling restless and uncomfortable since saturday, i have not been Sleeping well, even in my short sleep i have nightmares. i started using Piriton two days ago but i have not been feeling alright, my mind is so heavy and my heart beats so fast, i can't just sleep. I have tried to calm myself down and my friends also have spoken to me but it has not
been working and i just don't know what to do.

IN ADDITION: I'm a pastor's child and similar thing happened to me last year, i was so sick that i could not sleep for days, i remember i prayed and promised God never to have any intercourse with any woman till i marry if i can be healed and start having a good sleep. But the fact remains i'm not a wayward child and the last time I had sex prior to that prayer was 2015.

But two weeks ago, i was tempted and i could not resist the urge and i had sex with a lady but the sickness has already began prior to the sex but it has not Metamorphosized to sleeplessness and restlessness. I have asked God for forgiveness and i sincerely promise him never to do such again and i'm ready to stand by it this time. I knelt on the alter after Sunday service to make the vow.


But i'm scared maybe God is punishing me for breaking my vow with him the first time and he wants me to confess to my parents that are pastors. Please i need reasonable advise, i'm so scared to sleep whenever i wants to, my eyes are so red as i'm typing now due to lack of sleep. And which medicine can i talk or what can i do to put my mind at rest. Thanks Friends.

Nothing strange is happening to you, all that you are experiencing is programmed from your brain.
Do a comprehensive and witdal medical text, let the doctors diagnose and place you on the right medication.
Check your blood pressure if you are hypertensive.
After all this get treated
Get a girl friend and keep a good relationship instead of hopping from one girl to another.
Do all these and you will be fine

PurestBoy:
I have 2 boys, Kevin and Alvin, 4 and 1yr old respectively, both were on 6-month exclusive breastfeeding, Had Cow&Gate2 baby formula, Kevin is just too active, he doesn't doesn't even walk at home, he runs even when I take him out (cos he doesn't even play in the compound), he can't stay in a place for 2 minutes except he's watching his favorite cartoon channel GoTv 60, no matter how you beat him he doesn't cry for more than few seconds, he learns too much that he even corrects me his father but the problem is he's too active (I don't want to use the word stubborn). His 11+ mths younger brother is already following his footsteps, their mother shouts and beats Kevin every minute for jumping around in the house like monkey. He even engages in fight with me whenever I want to watch my favorite channels except I beat him thoroughly, he wouldn't allow anyone touch anything that is his. Their mother is fed up and losing weight and she's afraid his Alvin is already acting likewise. I don't know what to do because you can't leave Kevin alone in the house without closed monitoring for a minute else something bad and injurious might happen. All my life, I've never see a kid like my boy, I need advise on what to do, it was worse when he was younger. I don't like beating him like his Mom does but won't have peace at home due to excessive shouting and scolding except he's asleep. Anyone with ideas on how to curtail this?

Funny enough mist kids of his age range are like that.
My advice every holiday most especially take him to a relation whose kids are in the same age bracket or a little bit Senior to him let him spend his holiday their.
Inform the parents of the home that he is hyperactive that you want them to help you calm him down as he watch other children how the behave calmly.
By the time he comes back from the holidays there must be changes,while he is on holidays don't visit him there until the day he is going back to resume on Monday, keep doing so until he gets to secondary school then you put him in a mission school where ther is strict discipline eg Catholic schools.

UNIQUEISRAEL:
Hmmm... R.I.P.

If they're Born Again... that's REST IN PEACE!

If they're not Born Again... that's ROAST IN PAIN!!



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You are no longer a kid,if you can't develop senses go and borrow one its free.

KOPT33:
I am the first son of my father who is now late.

When my father died some 11 years ago, I relocated to Lagos to finish my schooling. I lived with my aunt then but I had to leave their home because I was being abused. Upon leaving my aunt's house, things became so difficult for me but I persevered with my education till I finished my bachelors.

During my lean years, I fell out with most of my family members. My mom refused to speak to me for three years, I was essentially the outcast of the family. During this period, my mom and some elders in our family gave out my sisters hand in marriage.

The couple had a trad/white wedding. Bride price was paid, all the customs of our people were followed save for one: the consent or knowledge of the first son. I wouldn't get to hear about this marriage until six months later. That night, I cried because their action proved that I was nobody, a nothing to my mom and siblings.

Anyways, I kept on working hard and soon became comfortable. I mended fences with everyone in my family, but even at that, no one offered an explanation why things unfolded the way it did or an apology. I didn't make any noise, I just picked up myself and moved on after committing the lessons learned to mind.

Six years and two children later, my sisters marriage has hit the rocks.

Now they're asking me as the first born to mediate and talk to the man.

I REFUSED.

The man (sister's husband) won't speak to my mom or the other elders he had been dealing with regarding a possible reconciliation. My family know me to be a good mediator and peace maker and they are not wrong.

I refused because there is no point mediating in a marriage that was done over my head.

As it stands now, I have no interest in playing head of house or anything of such nature. I send money, I help make connections, I foot bills for everyone in the family but I leave their decision making to them since they discounted me right from the very beginning. I have no interest whatsoever in becoming a leader in that family.

What would you do if you were in my shoes?

Let the elders that gave her out in marriage settle their issues. Your family disrespected you and gave your sister out u marriage without your consent, I put the blame to your mum and sister for disregarding you probably because you are no body then, let them carry their cross.
If they keep inviting you tell them that you don't know the bigging of the marriage so you can handle what you never witnessed, ask them to meet the elders.
Her husband is taking the advantage that your family is not united to treat her like a nobody.
Let her learn her lesson, no marriage is reliable and so nobody can be trusted when it comes to marriage.
Let your mother experience the humiliation you had when they neglected your personality.

Priscy01:
A Nigerian lady has cried out after a man who promised her marriage if she allowed him to have sex with her has suddenly stopped mentioning about the marriage he promised her earlier after having sex with her.

According to the lady, the sex she had with the man leads to pregnancy, which will be due in a few months, but she doesn't know how to tell the man, he is the one responsible for the pregnancy.

According to Victor who shared the post;
"She is just 21 and was promised marriage if she open her legs for him to bang her raw. She innocently believed his lies and opened for him. He ate her up over and over again and the thing entered. Now he is no longer mentioning marriage again. What do you think she should do?

Hear her:
"Am pregnant will be due in a few months time but the issue am currently facing is that the guy that got me pregnant promised to marry me but yet until now he doesn't talk about marriage anymore. Plz what shud I do ?"[/i]

Culled from; https://www.torimill.com/2018/04/before-sex-he-promised-marriage-but-he-has-stopped-talking-about-it-now-lady-cries-out.html

The did has been done, you got carried away by his sweet mouth. At 21yrs you are too young to put marriage into consideration, you are supposed to be thinking of your educational carrier.
Well keep the pregnancy and may God help you to deliver successfully. Infirm his family if you know where they are, don't talk about getting married to you again because its obvious hr wanted to get you layer instead of the marriage tricks he used.
After the delivery, take care if your baby and move on with your life. The main thig is that you have learnt your lesson so bewise next time.

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Will he also take an oat or confess that for the 5yrs he stayed abroad, he never slept with any woman.
Foolish man with insecurity and inferiority complex attitude. He should pack well make we see road.
That woman must maintain her stand

tspouse:
Please guys help.

My girlfriend turn fiance switch off and hide her phone whenever we are together. Anytime I ask her to give me her phone she gave unnecessary excuses. Is that enough reason for Me to suspect her because am already suspecting her Please I need your advise

There is more to the reason she is behaving funny with her phone. Calm down and monitor her because she has given you room to suspect her.
Relax yourself make her feel relaxed about it, then one day when she comes around ask her to open her hone you need to go through it if she go ves you without delay then fine but if she finds it difficult to release it to you insist, if she refuses,put the relationship on hold till you decides whether to go forward or not.
You can never understand a woman unless she wants you to understand her.

NwaAmaikpe:



This rule should be modified to apply to only women.

It is okay for a man to spy on his wife's phone because technically, upon paying her brideprice, she owns nothing. All she has belongs to her husband.
It is also out of place for a woman to have anything to hide from her husband unless she is evil.

With that being said, a man can not spy his wife's phone because it belongs to him by marital and traditional laws.

However, a woman spying on her husband's phone should not only be fined but should be jailed. Because it portrays her as being a troublesome person who is not contented with her position of an unquestioning loyal helpmate.

Keep deceiving yourself one day you will marry then you will know how far.
Na your type woan dey put for winner zip way dey in side their hand bag. Mugu

Shugarlord213:
If you live in a face me I slap you best you forget about naija women

Or relationship

Just use and dump them but never ever give them a dime. Save your money and improve your self. They like flashy guys get a car like me move to a better apartment and eventually you will enjoy the way they will throw yourself at you cheaply. Fvck them, collect their friends number from their phones, control their friends to your house as you know they are all cheap

This year alone I don nacck 19 girls with my camry muscle and 6 of this girls I don nacck their mama join. I no send woman at all. And I day improve myself will never go broke NEVER!!!

Keep fucking them ,I thank God you have a mother, a sister and when you marry you will definitely have a daughter and so all of them will be bleeped by other men.

Mowunmiaf:
An exasperated mother of three children has taken to her social media page to call out her ex-husband who she had her three children with, over the news that he’s about to remarry.

According to one Ndukwe Nkechi on Facebook, she and her estranged husband moved on after their separation but she has been the one taking care of their three children – this is because, her estranged husband supposedly didn’t have the resources to but now, he’s about to get remarried and Nkechi finds this unfair.

She says she too ought to have a life of her own and not have to worry about accumulated bills as she could get resources from her estranged husband.

She wrote:

So I just found out that my ex hubby who I had 3 kids with got married last Saturday. It doesn’t hurt me because he moved on, but because I’ve been caring for our kids alone thinking he’s got nothing.

Which man abandons his kids this way please
I’m pained
Not happy at all
I’m sad!
I too deserve to save some cash and fix my life up.
I too have personal needs to meet.
I too deserve to think about myself even if for just a minute and not worry about accumulated bills.
Life’s a fucking asshole!

Maybe he’s here
Who knows?? Incase you’re seeing this, “you’re a damn Coward: just so you know Mr. N. D#

SOURCE: http://aftrending.com/nigerian-mother-of-three-calls-out-her-ex-husband-whos-set-to-remarry/

It pains though but forget about him, he will continue to remarry until he is left alone.
Thank your God for being their for you and your children, you will reap the fruit of your labour.

Mutemenot:
Hi my colleagues!!
My Dad passed away, I tried to be a man but within me im dying in pains. I have had more time here reading threads and comments just to let the pains off my mind but I haven't found a lasting consolement. May I have a way forward from you guys ?

Sorry for the loss, its a normal experience but with time you will over come it.
This is where you start transforming from man to full blown man. You have to be prepared to be a man, protect his family because the mantle has fallen on you.
Be there father and brother, be your mum husband and son. Be willing and ready to fill his vacuum.

tooth4tooth:
I actually thought the Virgins were adults

Its difficult to get adult virginsin this present times as they can't pay for medical text to be conducted on them.
So picking children below 10yrs was the only options left.

Deepsky:
Dear brother,it is so unfortunate that you left us too early but i know you've gone to a better place where there's no sickness,pains,sorrow nor death.
You went away so suddenly we did not say good bye.
I never thought i'd see the day you'd not be there but today you're no more.
You lived for 19yrs but it was in sickness and pains,God saw the road was getting rough and the hills too high to climb,He closed ur weary eyelids and whispered to you "PEACE BE THINE"
we can't question the almighty God cos he knows the best,He giveth and taketh whenever He wants.
We love you but God loves you the most,may he grant you eternal REST IN CHRIST JESUS AMEN.
#LIVE ON
#REST ON
till we meet again to part no more .
Adieu dear brother,
Adieu EZE BREAD,
Adieu EDU BRAZIL.!!!
GOOD NIGHT

May his soul rest in peace and God will grant your family the grace you need and also comfort your family.

holluphemydavid:
Good morning nairalanders, I was involved in a conversation of whom ought to keep the marriage certificate between the husband and the wife, pls the experienced people in the house should enlighten we that are coming up about this, knowledge is power they say, so we wudnt be an ignorant of this, thanks

Both church and court registry marriage certificate is always given to women to keep.
One of the reasons is that in case there is need for a divorce, the certificate is one of the most important documents to tender in the court as prove of marriage, so if the wife is interested in the divorce she will release it to the husband for processing of divorce and if she is not interested, on the divorce she won't release there by making it difficult for the man to apply. Its a weapon given to women incase the man messes up