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Osesbrainwave:
Nothing and noone actually influenced this decision. I love kids but i dont want to commit to any woman. I also dont want my life complicated as a result of baby mama drama

And you think you are going to do the children any good growing up not knowing/sure who their siblings are or the avoidable and unnecessary rivalry that could come from the process?

kenedyx:
Truly I've seen him sell cheaper than what he's giving me.. especially when he really needed the cash.

I already know the average prices of the materials, I gave the quotation for the contract myself.

In that case, ask him why he would want to sell it at a higher price and that is he thinking you wouldn't give him out of the proceeds? His response would guide how you should handle it. In the worst, you can take this as a lesson learned.

kenedyx:
I got a huge contract through my brother's company.

The contract is securely in my possession now and I've been fully paid. Initially, the plan was for my bro to supply me the materials

But the issue now is the quotation he's giving me is way higher than what I'm getting elsewhere.

I've asked him to beat down his price but he's adamant. I plan on sidelining him if he doesn't do the needful.

Guys any thoughts on this?

Is the price he is selling it to you the price he is selling it to others? Was he the one who gave you your price quotation for the contract?

Anyone who still thinks this is the work of IPOB must be living in delusion.

FlyoruB:
It's really shocking that up till now no single Anambra 'billionaire' has stepped forward to volunteer to offset the couple's hospital bill. We all know Peter Obi is stingy so no one is expecting much from him. But what about the others?

Otedola didn't hesitate to take care of Christian Chukwu, Victor Olaitan, and Sadiq Baba's hospital bills. What are Anambra billionaires waiting for Abi their billions aren't meant for such humanitarian assistance?

Are they charities or why try to force them by dragging them? Let them cry out to the government instead.

Mindlog:
Well everything should be laid bare before the judge..... what the husband knows, what the wife knows and what the children knows in order to reach a judgement that is of the best interest of the overall wellbeing of the children.

Lest I forget, at least for Lagos State the woman do not need to prove she can pay towards their education and living 50/50 in a standard that is acceptable for these children for her to have a fighting chance of shared custody rather the financial bulk is on their father.

This is a joke right? If she has a business why will anyone expect the financial bulk to be on the man alone?

Dinner:

Amala with Gbegiri and Ewedu.

Why are those who are ineligible jump on church related thread to talk off topic? If you don't believe, keep it to yourself and save us the stress of your thoughts on the existence of God.

Don't these drug pushers get tired? Why keep giving us a bad name? We need start telling those around us why they need to work hard and believe in legitimate ways of making money.

sisisioge:
They have 6 children! It is well.

You cannot afford the extra is as simple as you stated. To drive home your point sef, let things be a bit scarce in the house so your madam can believe it. Meanwhile, I hope you learnt a lesson there about family planning.....6 children! It is well.

Sometimes, one is forced to be emotional. Some men are worse than scums and in recent times, I have read/met/known some of such men and it is a big shame.

You have done well been sincere with yourself as to what you are capable of handling. While it is understandable why they want your wife to take over since she is also nursing a baby however, it is unfair for them to want to force you to take over if they are not going to provide for the twins and think you should carry more responsibility than you can bear.

My advice is having a round table discussion with your in-laws since your wife thinks she wants to take the responsibility (the reason she is angry) on how you cannot afford it for now however, if they are willing to share in the financial responsibilities for the twins, then allow your wife while you also support the best way you can. May the family never experience this kind of pain again in Jesus Name.

_{NB: I would love if you could consider their age and take them under your care but you know where the shoe pinches so I can't force you to.}

Who is this clown?

What? How do some governors and head of service sleep at night? The governor is busy canvassing for votes to get into the senate. How did he win the ticket? We truly deserve the kind of leaders we get as we don't treat ourselves with dignity.

Oga rich man,
N125k to terminate 4 weeks fetus? The girl wan open account for your head. She no get belle she just want spend your money on other things.

That said, how are you coping dating someone giving you this much of negative energy? Love isn't one sided and you can't change the character of an adult without their consent. Let this be the straw that broke the camel's back.

Dinner:

Turkey grilled cheese and vegetable salad.

I am and it has been good so far. It has its challenges particularly, the fact that you both have different upbringing. Willing to learn each other's ways and calling attention to important aspects is very key. Most importantly, communicate your fears/worries/concerns etc.

I would suggest you see the advice of a gastroenterologist. S/he should be able to guide you and with the knowledge, you can make a sound decision.

The parents have a fault here. Whenever the child started the tantrums, the father should have carried him out of there and talk to him about his actions. You don't have to look helpless when you actually can save the situation.

Can one use spinach in the place of water leaf?

kingviny:
The last tenant was an easterner. He didn't behave well. That's why the owner wants someone she can relate with.

Actually, my mum lives there. So, we want a peaceful tenant for her.

Don't generalise until you are in people's shoes.

kingviny:
Why not ask questions, ask for the breakdown before you conclude.

The rent is actually worth 350k but we just reduced it to 300k for a 2bed .

Agency is 60k, commission is 60k and damages 30k.

That's the breakdown. It is my family property , there is nothing to hide. But only peaceful Prospects should apply.

And this is sufficient for you to generalize, right? To make matters worse, you and your family members are the said landlord. Just say your preference instead of making people attack a landlord that wasn't existing.

If he calls the National Treasury "National Cake", it is an indication that he is about looting the treasury. It is a call for us to be wise. Hopefully, we all will vote wisely.

You want to drag the breastmilk with your child who is on exclusive breast feeding Oga, abeg, find another issue or at worst, buy feeding bottle or pacifier to suck on.

May our children not be unfortunate to attend universities as this. If we can't respect our grown up kids and expect them to take rightful decisions, isn't it failure on the part of our educational system?

Dinner:

Potato Bacon Soup and Grilled Cheese.

Why is Tinubu's left hand like that?

AngelicBeing:
Consexual ke, the idiot herbalist hypnotized the woman with charms and ate her forbidden fruit and it led to pregnancy

Some of these things are difficult to prove ooo. Thought the court does not recognize/take hypnotism as evidence. If true, na wetin she find she jam so ooo. Who goes to visit an herbalist sef?

jeromestarks:
She's a wife material.
She's very nice. She doesn't waste my money. In fact, my ATM card with over 600k in the account is with her since last month and this babe hasn't spend a dime from it.
She's respectful and she's a woman who hate violence.
She's calm to the people she loves and fierce to those who try to hurt her loved ones.

She's beautiful. Dark. Tall. Intelligent. Smart. And loving.

She's great with sex. Her pvssy is tight and the rhythm it gives me is pleasurable. She usually ask me if I'm satisfied or if I want more.

She can cook. She said the food we bought lack taste (to me, it's fine but she cooks better).

I love her body. It hasn't changed since the first time I met her when she was 16.

My parents love her like their daughter.

Yes, I was the first to mount her. She was just barely 17 then.

How old were you when you met her? I would like to know.
While I await your response, it is a big shame on you if you advocate people should marry virgins and here you are sleeping with someone you are not married to. You are the typical/perfect definition of a hypocrite.

I am not sure I understand the whole story. Isn't it consensual? She is requesting help because the man is denying responsibility of the child, right?

Dinner:

Grits and vegetable soup.

Middleborn:
Ok, I know the possibility of the baby being her husband's and I have considered it. What makes the chances slim is that he'd travelled throughout the entire month of October, and in October, from my knowledge we had the highest number of sexual activity. He only came back early November, proposed to her and got married to her in December.

Coupled with the fact that the baby looks like me and my family and also has similar behavior with my daughter.
I know that a DNA test should be the only way to reveal the truth, but everything points the fact that she's my daughter.

While her likely conception dates will be sometimes in October if the child is full term however, unless you know this, I wouldn't want you to raise your hopes. That said, your mind could play tricks for you to think the child is yours and start seeing traits that confounds what your mind wants you to believe.

If I may ask, are you suggesting you would want to conduct a DNA on the child? If the child is yours, what next? If the child isn't yours, what next? Have you thought of the impact whatever decision you take will have on a home and a child?

My advice once again is that you find a way to hold a real conversation with Rita and based on your discussion, let her know the actions you would like to take. In it all, I wish you the very best you wish yourself.

I am not exonerating your wife however, why read meaning from I miss you. Don't you tell your real friends irrespective of gender you miss them when you truly do? Or are we so detach from emotions because we are grown up and married?

When was the last time yourself and Rita got down together?
You may want to have a conversation with her. There's also the possibility of the baby been pre-term, her husband's baby etc. Stop creating confusion particularly in your head where there is no need for one.