₦airaland Forum

The level of anti-party activities in Nigeria is alarming and attests to the fact that most politicians and political parties have no ideology.
While I support Wike's grudge against Atiku as regards Ayu not stepping down, endorsing Sanwo-Olu seems like taking things too far when the party has a candidate in the state.

Tammyor2:
my parent listen to nobody they don't take advice from anyone and they are very far from home. Their brother and sister have ignored them to their fate. I have tried explaining the situation to the head of family but its not helping matters. As much as I still have my plans too cater for them and build their dream house, I want to set myself up first.

Thank you very much for this

I would rather advise you to distance yourself from the negative energy they give you. Now that you are done with school, move on with your life and call them occasionally. They need not have full information about where you are or what you do.

As for your sister, if she doesn't need your help, let her be. You are not the messiah, stop acting like one. Focus on yourself and your immediate family.

We should encourage true fedralism. It would make many state governors sit tight instead of waiting on freebies.

You need first save yourself before thinking of saving a marriage.

I am trying to understand the in-law issues with the third man. What is his position on how his family members are behaving toward you? If he is supportive of you, then stick with him. The truth is marriage is not a bed of roses and different people have different struggles with their homes.

As for the first man, you left already but please don't forget your son. Keep him cordial and visit your son as often as you can.

My only advice is that you should be careful and don't act like a few corpers I knew in my time. I wouldn't know why they couldn't go home and had to settle for less in Bayelsa and a few months after service year, things were not looking up for them. I hope things are much better for them now.

Why can't she go back to your parents with the baby? It is safer for her to be with the family than the lady organizing kidnappers to kidnap the baby.
.she could also report the friend at NAPTIP.

WibusJaga:
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Deleting his tweet without apologising or justifying his action shows Athiku is not a courageous individual.

Also his statement that Northerners need a candidate from the North & don't need Yoruba or Igbo,
&his handling of Wike's matter
&the hijacking of PDP ticket originally zoned to the South should all be a serious source of concern to Southerners.
All these make Atiku a very Bad Leader who doesn't respect the South.

BTW, why hasn't this bloodthirsty Islamic Lunatic & his murderous cohorts been prosecuted?

We can't blame Atiku for the bolded. The South is the one giving him the privilege to disrespect us. He said it to his fellow Northerners they don't need us yet, we see us debating why he should jettison Wike and others on Nigeria been for everyone and not only the North.

This is no point. Lagos is the former capital of the country and has been very stable from the colonial days. Lagos had always been developed and he should please stop embarrassing himself with unnecessary propaganda. He should stop talking as though everyone listening to him are his followers who are blindfolded by whatever gains they are after.

Glad the government stepped in on time.

The worst is we are not showing interest in moving the nation forward with the campaigns going on. Some of the candidates are holding
unto ethnicism as the basis for which they should be voted and not because they have good intentions for the country. The choice is in our hands to choose a candidate that will be able to move us forward no matter how little.

Unfortunately, I can't listen right now however, if you truly need to leave him and you choose not to while you are alive, you will when carried out in a body bag.

Living life a day at a time and doing the best I can as an individual.

Helpout12345:
It has not gotten to divorce yet. For sure the wife should not get pregnant for another child for now, but not up to divorce.

1. Get elders from your family, probably your dad, to call the husband and discuss the issue

2. If 1 didn't make him sensible, the elder in your family should escalate discussion to his elders, probably his father too.

3. They should make him be a responsible husband and father to his wife and their first child; and watch how it goes for some time.

4. If he gets the message and change, he and his wife can increase the family size.

I fear this might be temporary. I do not know how some men sleep knowing they are not doing as much as they can for their families.

Dainy1:
I will. I'm just being careful not to scatter everything because I've heard many horrible things that can make me fire him slap if he try to be rude.

I will not suggest facing him. She should open up to your parents or his parents. You are contemporaries and you intervening might lead to greater issues.

Go to the Nigerian Industrial Court to make a case against the company. Also ensure you put it in writing to the company demanding an explanation.

Guess she feels people will be voting their choice candidates and not their parties this time around.

Echoban:
Fact is marriage bothers everyone, a normal human who has blood and water flowing in their body just that getting ur complete spec is a problem. The. Their should be a reorientation that the chances of seeing ur spec is 50:50% , but life must move on. One can't hold down that part of life in the name of not seeing 100% spec. Some just get into it, get kid continue or move out. But at least reproduce, create ur own self that LL take after u.


There are some things u dont joke abt, things that u can't reverse, a lady ovary get depleted starting from age 35-40 , once they get to that stage, that is wen they may now come to the new knowledge abt life and eventually choose to go for marriage then but damn, what abt the ovary that can't reproduce again?? Most of them now wait for IVF with Ovum that's not theirs.
If she won't marry, let her sign agreement that she's fully aware of her consequences and won't emotional disturb anybody abt her lonely u reproductive life in future.

She should get a man and confide with him abeg. Nobody has it all in life.

Though I'm sure she's thinking abt it just that she's trying to feel unbothered in disguise

Your thoughts are funny. Anyways, marriage is a choice each individual should decide if s/he wants and when s/he wants to get into it.

It would be nice you respect yourself and respect her. It is her life and her choice to decide if she wants to marry or otherwise. What you think is not serious might be something bothering her.

haslaw:
Why am I even bothering to reply you send.

Just let this sink into your thick SKULL.

Any organisation that tries to prevent Muslims from praying will be shut down and the managers arrested because we own this country.

Keep fooling yourself. Your eyes go clear soon.

haslaw:
Typical IPOB CANNIBAL and hypocrisy. Say one thing but act another. Your hate and bitterness is too glaring

Hypocrisy is when you hide under the guise of work to start persecuting people of other religions.

It is persecution to ask you to do the job you are paid for right? You are just an entitled lot.

haslaw:
Mr. IPOB CARNNIBAL, since you hate Muslims so much. Why don't you go and sack them na

I live above hate and I hate no one. You don't have to try to tag me and resorts to name calling to pass your message across. It is sheer hypocrisy to hide under the veil of religion and not do the job you want to earn from.

haslaw:
Any organisation that doesn't accommodate others will be closed down and the managers thrown in jail

They are not forced to work there. After all, it is against the Islam faith since the bank charges interest.

The response is good and addresses the situation properly. The bank is a secular bank thus, you can't indirectly force your religion on anyone. If you think the job is impeding your religious acts/believes, you can leave the job.

If they think they need to go to pray, they should either schedule their break around that time or take that day off. You can't leave work and go to pray. God doesn't support cheating and that is next to deceit and not worshipping God.

Quite sad to watch. Dangote cement should do more CSR to their host community. Good side is CSR is tax deductible (my understanding) so the company isn't losing much.

I know there are situations where the chiefs usually sabotage CSR and would rather take the money but for host communities like this, companies should please do more.

A good health facility or portable water system will be of great value.

ASUU is very useless. If they knew they would resume with the issues unsolved, they should have continued with their negotiations while working. They've been doing this for decades.

My advice to the government is that the body should be grounded should they embark on another strike action ever.

People no dey work for Naija abi where dem dey see these crowds during work hours?

You should sieve all advice, weigh things through, and follow your decision. Most importantly, have you tried unravelling why she is a single mom, her character, and all you should know about her? Make your decision because you are objective and follow through.

It would be nice if you give a little body on the kind of job it is for people to be able to advice you properly.

Did they not consult with him before putting his name on the list or was this some form of deceit from him?