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The truth is: men are naturally the spenders in a relationship. Due to women's hypergamy, they gravitate towards men who have more money than they (women) do. Most men would/do not have a problem with this. However, when women exhibit traits of Ndi feminism and macho-ness in themselves, it becomes an issue. You cannot be displaying traits of masculinity as a woman, yet demand/desire feminine treatment. It does not work that way.

So, how was she coping with her beauty and bathing products before you both started dating? That said, I am yet to see the benefits in getting into a relationship, at least in Nigeria. Honestly, from your chats and responses, what benefit do you get? I am yet to see one.

Luckysbab:
So 97% of Igbos that voted Obi in the East did it because he turned Anambra to Dubai? It's not cos of tribalism?

You're mad

Did those Igbos mock a dying Yoruba doctor simply because she was Yoruba?

Haynnie:
Guy change ur siggy we are in tinubu era. Lol

The genesis started from Buhari. Buhari should have never been elected. Also, almost all of Buhari supporters voted for Tinubu in 2023. I like looking at things from the beginning, aka the roots.

Swiftgrp:
@Oneloveyo,

You are indeed very intelligent and observant. I saw the big lie told here by the creepy OP of this insidious thread and was about to respond before I saw your brilliant post.
ainst Mercy Johnson and her husband (for simply affiliating themselves with APC in Kogi and Edo States) and that was published here on NL, to the social media attacks on Pastor Paul Adefarasin, Pastor Adeboye, Segalinks, Joke Silva-Jacobs, the Chicago State Uni online mob attacks, the social media nuisance attacks on the Governor of the State of Illinois and lots more. Enough of the guilt-tripping here. There's enough online evidence at my disposal going back to over 20 years ago that show the clear FACT that it is the Ibos who started the ethnic bigotry and online bullying against the Yorubas and other ethnic groups in Nigeria simply because of the Nigerian Civil War events. This repeated insolence and divisive threads like these will NOT be accepted.

My condolences go to the family of Posh Mama.


Cc: @Ednut

Before history gets distorted, let me state the genesis of the hate-filled politics Agbadorians created in Nigeria.

In the lead-up to the 2011 elections, Punch Newspaper was already exhibiting signs of tribalism against Jonathan's administration. Then, during the subsidy removal in 2012, stalwarts of today's APC, then known as ACN/AC whatever, launched a series of calumny against Jonathan's government, accusing him of all sorts. APC supporters carried coffins with Jonathan's name inscribed on them. They had his pictures and tied them to goats! They burnt his pictures like Islamists burn Israelis and America's flags. Then came the Chibok girls scam, one of the biggest played globally. The deputy governor of Borno is Nigeria's VP today.

Jonathan was vilified, mocked, cursed, maligned and thrown all sorts of names. As someone whose parent is from the same region as Jonathan, I was shocked reading the tribal-laced insults Jonathan received. This is aside from Buhari weeping crocodile tears when he lost in 2011; his irate supporters went on a rampage, burning churches and slaughtering people, including innocent corp members. Buhari had to be begged THREE days after the results were announced to call his belligerent supporters to order before calm was restored. This got the intervention of foreign bodies because Buhari did not listen to any Nigerian elite. His supporters burnt everywhere burnable, something Obedients have not done, nor has Peter Obi instructed them to do.

Some of the words against Jonathan received were:

- "A druken fisherman" - Wole Soyinka
- "A shhepotatmus" - Wole Soyinka describing Patience Jonathan.

The same Wole Soyinka mockingly described the fedora hat Jonathan wore as an Ijaw man. More here: https://www.nairaland.com/1357171/soyinka-embarrassment-admirers-patience-jonathan; https://www.nairaland.com/605766/rascals-govt-jonathan-drunk-fisherman

Igbos were the only large group of Nigerians who defended Jonathan, whose administration had high economic growth. Igbos, too were mocked and derided for supporting Jonathan. Then came the 2015 election, which had Buhari elected. Agbadorians used his tenure to mock, gloat and curse Igbos. They were elated when Buhari used the military to terrorise the southeast, including murdering hundreds of innocent young men and even having them drink muddy water. See here: https://www.nairaland.com/4052484/soldiers-order-ipob-members-swim

In 2023, senior government officials used the term "Chinedu" to describe GRV, a man whose father has a long history in Lagos simply because his mom and wife are Igbos. That was even small. Another government official, Bayo Onanuga, was delighted to tweet that Igbos have been taught a lesson in Lagos. Before the lessons were taught, Mc Oluomo, a government-backed thug, came out in public, threatening to beat and kill any Igbo person who voted for Labour Party.

During this period, another government official by name Mr. Jubril Gawat organised a rally, "My Lagos, not your Lagos" a few days before the state election. During this same period, we have had Agbadorians call for a re-cap of the civil war atrocities where over three million Igbos were killed. A pharmacy store retailer in Osun did so by tweeting it to the whole world. After the victory of Adeleke in Osun state, shops owned by Igbos were razed down by irate youths associated with the APC.

During the Lagos election, Yorubas, who seemingly looked like Igbos, were flogged by fellow Yorubas. Igbos and other ethnic minorities who looked like Igbos were flogged, killed and had charms thrown at them. I recalled an Ibibio man by name Aniedi was beaten to death. Who knows Aniedi could have hated Igbos, but he got beaten to death because he looked like an Igbo man. The youth leader Dayo Israel championed a "Ronu" cause and re-chanted civil war slogans during his campaigns.

To crown it all, Agbadorians went on a rampage, stating that a union between an Igbo person, most likely a woman, and a Yoruba person, most likely a male, would produce children with "tainted blood". They even did descriptions (picture attached) and created threads with it. One of the champions of that thread is over 40 years old and resides in a nondescript area in Peckham, London.

So before anyone says Obedients were toxic, you have to look at the genesis of it all. APC introduced the politics of crude bitterness and hate into Nigeria. They should learn to take their own medicine and eat their vomit!

Magnoliaa:
Yes.

OK. Thank you, again, for your honesty.

Magnoliaa:
My post was specifically for the point of that dude who wanted to play a stupid game with me, and I am giving him stupid hurdles and


I am a Christian. My ideals about marriage are far different from what is culturally obtainable.

Looking at your signature: did your Christianity tell you to be a misandrist?

IbeOkehie:
Would you care for a phone chat?

We can communicate via email. Is that fine by you?

Aaaaarghmed:
You better pick yourself up and hustle. not because of any yeye female gender.but for yourself.you don't stop grinding ,you dont stop,as far as you are alive.e go click las las. i hate writing long story but there were some days long ago that I did not eat for 2 days in Abuja.but I never stopped grinding and pushing.if you make small money, you dont even need to worry about women,they will naturally be running after you.na you go tire.

OP,

Take this advice and focus squarely on yourself. You have seen the good things of life in other people. Aspire to experience and enjoy those things, legitimately. Do it for yourself. Write out what you think are those good things of life you deserve to enjoy and work towards achieving them. Again, think of only yourself FIRST.

Magnoliaa:
- ke you.

- And finally, I am glad that we agree on loser men staying away from women. That's really all that matters to me. Because a loser man is more disastrous to her than a 'winner' man she has never met.

Interesting post you have there. Day by day, one sees the need to avoid marriage, at least for the time being. Yet to see the benefit beyond having children within a two-parent household.

Thanks for your honesty.

IbeOkehie:
Why do you think Wole Soyinka won the Nobel instead of Chinua Achebe? By the way it has NOTHING to do with tribal politics of Nigeria or Biafra or such. You would be shocked.

Why do you think Barrack Obama won the Peace Prize? Nothing to do with race or US politics directly.

I can't write everything online. I don't acquire strong opinions lightly. The Nobel Prize process is now a big fraud.

Sorry.

Gerrard59:
For the italicised part, any evidence to support the claim?
For the bold, maybe those of Peace, Literature and probably Economics. But the science category has held its popularity and meritocracy ever since. That category gets the interest of many people across the globe. After it, the rest of the world care less.

We agree to disagree.

IbeOkehie:
I don't know about the ethnic breakdown. I would think most are White though I could be wrong. Though the Nobel Commitee is now a cesspool of corruption and bias. I'd say the whole Nobel Prize thing has become a big fraud since maybe the 1990s.

Cheers!

For the italicised part, any evidence to support the claim?
For the bold, maybe those of Peace, Literature and probably Economics. But the science category has held its popularity and meritocracy ever since. That category gets the interest of many people across the globe. After it, the rest of the world care less.

Omoawoke2:
I have only one advice for you, go and look for her corpse and cook it to eat.

Since she’s the one holding you back from succeeding in life, I hope that now that she’s finally dead, you can now start experiencing progress in life.

Miserable hungry dirty smelly miscreant with body odor

You quoted me thrice. That shows my posts pained you so hard, and I am glad. I care less what you think about me.

Support your politician, quite alright. But categorising babies as having tainted blood and mocking a dying doctor shows crude bitterness, which is only being replicated.

Looking at the comments, I am glad I got sense early enough in life. I don't believe in love, especially as a man.

All that I love you, oya, talk your own. I no do am

Obaofpigs:
Everybody understands that fact..but Tinubu and APC idiots. There has to be a surgical way of terminating them with extreme prejudice. I am not even mincing words..they should have their own country with people like Buhari and Tinubu as their leaders.



Can you actually see what the woman wrote concerning SW Governors expelling IGBOs from the region? This is from a woman, imagine what the men will be thinking and scheming?

I just pity 1 NIGERIA IGBOs and other people that believe in NIGERIA..that country is GONE!

You should NEVER pity them, but gloat at them. They deserve everything Nigeria throws at them. When you warn those modafvckers, they feign ignorance. I do not pity them ONE BIT!

I already outlined everything here: https://www.nairaland.com/7621766/tinubus-nigeria-nigeria-2050

The policies are already being implemented. There is nothing happening today that I have not predicted. All I will do is gloat, mock, and be glad. The good thing about is: I have mentally prepared myself for the worst, but Ndi hopeful Igbos will never learn. I will be here to remind them. I am so goooood at it!

Omoawoke2:
The way iPobs celebrate deaths of others makes one wonder if they are invincible to death themselves.

All you here speaking trash about the dead, death is not selective, either good or bad, apc or pdp or lp, Muslim, atheist or Christian, Yoruba, Hausa, Igbo or Zulu, educated or illiterate, rich or poor. None of us will live forever on earth. So I wonder what’s your objective to start celebrating the death of someone because they supported a particular candidate.
Are you guys gone completely nuts?
Are you people normal or have gone completely insane ?

Before you talk rubbish, just know that you will never live forever on this earth. You are a mortal yourself

You are very shameless if not, you will see why people are delighted she is dead. She mocked a doctor who was dying. Is that not enough to be happy she is dead as well? Vote Tinubu quite alright, it is your choice. But when you mock other people even at the point of death, YET lived a terrible life, you deserve everything you get afterwards.

You people think everyone can be gaslighted. You cannot use death to scare most Nigerians again. You think death scares Northern Christians who have been butchered countless times as a result of Buhari, who y'all supported?

JASONjnr:
Irrespective of who you support and voted for..... The country mess will surely affect everyone.

Now, most people supporting Obi will try to make a point out of this, but in reality, everyone is suffering from the policies of the government.
Just try and not get sick. This evening, I've spent 4k for drugs. And the next guy spent close to 40k for drugs at the pharmacy.

Whether you support Kwankwaso or Obi or Tinubu.... All of us meet at the market and we suffer together.

Na mumu dey siddon and hope when danger is approaching. When Buhari was elected in 2015, my parents changed our finances and buckled up. We became prepared for the inevitable. Although we spent less, but we saved a lot and invested because we knew Buhari, the incompetent feudalist, was coming to power. The problem with most Nigerians is optimism. Nigerians are too optimistic. Maybe na the religion dey cause am. Aka, this administration will favour me.

Houseontherock1:
You people are funny and your reasoning is definitely warped! So many Igbo people have died since a Yoruba man became president and one continued as the governor in Lagos, same way yorubas have died! Several igbos are begging for food,just like the rest of the poor population regardless of political affiliation

People die everyday, quite alright. But when certain people mock, deride and lampoon others because of their political affiliation simply on demonic basis, they deserve everything they get. Now, tell me, did you not see her tweets before she died? Where she mocked a young doctor who was shot? Does that sound normal to you?

A man from Kwara who voted Tinubu simply because Tinubu is Yoruba is different from a DEMONIC woman who mocked a young doctor who got shot because she is Igbo. Both supported Tinubu, but their histories are different.

You cannot gaslight everyone. It is not possible. The woman died a miserable and painful death, and I am VERY DELIGHTED!

At least, if you want to die, die a dignified death. Which one be a pint costs N50K?

When my sister celebrated her birthday, I wired 60K to her. When my brother had an injury and the doctor recommended X-ray, I countered and specified it must be MRI. I wired 150K. My sister plans to do her passport, and because it is the one of 5 years validity, I said no; do the one of 10 years, and I will top money to what you have saved.

Then here you have an Agbadorian lamenting that a pint of blood is 50K. Pathetic but well-deserved. Seeing them suffer gives me immense joy.

As I have stated:

Gerrard59:
I am really glad my people are holding grudges and reminding people of the posts they made. If he had supported Tinubu with a clear mind, no issues. But when you mock other ethnic groups, lampoon Peter Obi unjustly (who is way richer than him), anything you see, take it like that. Just as the monkeys who cursed Jonathan and faced economic repercussions when Buhari dealt with them. I am sure those donkeys would have praised Buhari to high heavaens if he had not won the election. Talmbout, "Buhari is the best president Nigeria never had".

Going forward, people should learn from the 2023 elections. Hold grudges, don't forgive or forget. Hold those grudges till you die! Don't pity Nigerians who voted for Emi Lokan whatsoever. When people play stoopid games, they should be allowed to win stoopid prizes. That is the fairest thing to do.

Studying medicine in the UK is pointless when the country imports doctors from developing countries to fill up spaces. The money spent to study medicine is not commensurate with the earnings after medical school. It is a reason many young Brits are either not studying medicine in the UK or, after their studies, move to the US or Australia to work and earn higher salaries. Alternatively, they move to Eastern Europe where fees are low and medical programs have pretty high standards.
https://www.economist.com/britain/2022/11/03/young-britons-head-to-eastern-europe-to-train-as-doctors

The current model makes sense for Nigeria: study in Nigeria and move to the UK to work.

Why not sell off the refineries to foreign investors who are willing to pair with local players?

Honestly, it is disgusting that an oil producing country cannot operate refineries. Tomorrow, the same people go dey criticise South Africans or berate African Americans. The country we wey get, we no fit manage am well.

Tomorrow, Guyana and Namibia will own and efficiently operate refineries, and we will still be doing TAM.

googi:
Hypocrisy at the highest!

Are you guys talking about Nigerians or African Americans? If you guys are so intelligent, so morally upright, you could have led the whole of the Black Race in your own country. Is it kettle calling charcoal black or charcoal calling kettle black.

The worst set of Africans that are willing to forfeit millions of dollars and euros just to run home after money laundering. Most of us with all the education, skills and culture Black Americans wished for, are looking for your first million, sell properties, land and your children in disguise for "good education" just to run out of the villages you call ZOO. You risk death penalties in Asia, organ transplant crossing desert and sea while the most arable land in the world is left to fallow with blood of your country men, women and children.

Wow! We have the nerve to point to African Americans sold into slavery out of greed in exchange for mirrors all kinds of name pointing one finger while four soiled point back to us.

Na my argument be this. We don't have the moral right to lampoon them as we are not any better. If we had built a prosperous and functioning country, then we could beat our chest to point out their flaws.

But wait o. Apart from the United States where Africans are doing better than African Americans, name one country, just one country where you are doing better than them. Please do.

And that includes your own country NIGERIA! Are you better off than African Americans in Nigeria?

Black African migrants don't out-perform AAs. Obviously, it is as a result of sheer numbers, but by every stat, they perform better than black African migrants. The problem with some of the stats lie in how they are composed: every black group is lumped together.

SIRTee15:
You are a joke for this your comment.
South Korea was bombed and bombed until there was nothing to bomb anymore. The people were so poor that eating a meal per day was considered a luxury, even their govt was so poor it couldn't afford money to build schools.

Singapore woke up one day and they were told they've been cut off from Malaysia and henceforth they should be on their own. No warning, no compensation, nothing. Malaysia simply told them go and that was it. This was a country that had no natural resources, even their water is from Malaysia.

Vietnam went thru a terrible civil war. Fought France, then America and finally China. It was 30 consecutive yrs of constant war. After that came heavy sanctions for another 30 yrs.

They had assistance from the US. Most importantly, they have largely homogenous populations by ethnicity and/or the dominant ethnic group's cultural traits promote free enterprise, meritocracy and discipline. Also, Vietnam is lucky her neighbours are developed countries. As its neighbours are rich, the leftover gets unto it as time goes on.

No African country went thru what south korea, Singapore and Vietnam experienced yet we are so far behind

We went through the slave trade from both Trans-Atlantic and Saharan. Some countries went through genocides of many ethnic groups, such as Namibia and others went through utter plundering of their natural resources like DRC.

ednut1:
The Western world benefits women more,many women in Nigeria are suffering domestic and financial abuse too, if na abroad government will come to their aid. if na you won't you want it

Women are also futuristic and calculative, as a man in Nigeria you can die easily or lose your source of income, your wife and kids will become stranded, Husband's family can also send them packing.

Women also want the best outcome for their kids most times sometime men leave it to chance and say what will be will be. There are people all around us that have BSC and master's but are unemployed. The children of many fellow immigrants in Canada are outperforming the Canadians in school and they will get scholarships easily . Is that a bad thing to want

Women are also used to comfort, as a man if I was putting on Gen and AC overnight and things become hard i can easily adjust, but most women cannot easily adjust o and the way the economy is, there is fear and uncertainty.

No blame them too much. pele

Based on what you have written: I am genuinely curious since you are more experienced in this stuff than I am;

what are the benefits a man gets from marriage apart from having children within a two-parent household?

Christistruth03:
My Mamas Pikin

Scent leaf, Bitter leaf, Ugu,Hot Pepper, Red Onion, bitter Kola ,locust beans ,melon Seeds, guava, Orange peels , Tangerine, Mango , , Honey even ordinary Pawpaw leaves, Dogonyaro and Siam Weed , Dandelion weeds that grows everywhere in our Back yards and Bushes
Are all Anti Biotic, Anti viral Anti Fungal

Our Grandmothers were right all along they stuffed us with them and even in their antibiotic packed Egusi Soups , peppers Soup till they almost came out of our Nostrils , eyes and Ears
But we thought the white man knew better

Our Grandmothers were the leading international Experts of Natural Antibiotics all along but we didn’t know it at the time

Our Grandmothers should have been teaching them Natural Medicine and Antibiotics at Oxford , Cambridge and
Harvard Medical Schools fifty years ago

While you are right, where we (the offsprings) have failed is not conducting thorough research into those natural products, publishing the results and coming up with effective treatments and supplements. For instance, artemisinin came from the bark of a tree in China. The woman who pioneered the research won the 2015 Nobel prize in Medicine. Sanofi commercialised the results. Nothing stops us from doing the same. An instance is Lassa fever which has no vaccine.

Mindlog:
I also do same.

Our resident Cambridge psychologist.

Interesting to know....

Basicend:
I just buy garlic, ginger and lemon and I boil them and drink frequently. These are very strong natural antibiotics.

I have not been sick for many years. .

You know the drill. Also, use the bold in every meal of yours.

Icon2007:
I am just wondering why women in africa especially Nigeria are so obsessed with abroad a friend of mine is 43 and earning close to 1M naira he told me he has not been enjoying his home ever since his wife younger sister moved to uk with her family early this year the pressure has been for them to move out of the country as well But my guy said he no feel.go sit down for class again because he has been trying to get job oversea but getting plenty rejections.

First, that man is you. Nothing like "my friend" here.

Two, he is above 40 years, and unless he relocates via work visa through a standard recruitment process into a reputable firm abroad, he should remain in Nigeria. Do a vasectomy, plan your children's career path now, seek other avenues to generate wealth and maintain a healthy lifestyle.

P.S. He should not move via student visa o

KosiGee:
Not everyone likes big bum. There are lots of Nigerian men who would get turn off by what the Nigeria media refer to as big nyash.

They are in the minority. Black women generally have big yansh, so it is normal for the majority of black men to admire and cherish such women.

IbeOkehie:
I just came across this. Your uncle or whoever told you to start at lower ranked Universities has a good point. I read some analysis a long time ago that most of the USA Nobel winners did their undergraduate studies at State Universities BEFORE moving on to graduate school at Ivy League or other highly ranked schools. I remember being wowed at the statistics. Sometimes looking deeper can bring up very surprising and UNEXPECTED info.

There's a Black American philosopher and economist named Thomas Sowell who I think has the same view, that it's not always best to aim for an Ivy League university education as a starting point.

Generally too, contemporary data is starting to show DIMINISHED returns accruing from university education generally in the USA.

Cheers, Happy Sunday to you.

Regarding the bold, I agree with Thomas Sowell. He mentioned that black American youths who were accepted into Ivy League universities tend to drop out faster than other groups because they were ill-prepared. So, it is better they attend schools they fit in better. BTW, your data about the USA Nobel laureate, were the winners first generation immigrants, and also, were they non-Whites?

And that is how the extermination of Northern Christians continues unabated, but their so-called Christian brethren in southern Nigeria will clap and dance today like nothing happened. Tomorrow, the same Christians in the south go dey shout judgement day, inboke the name of God pass wetin, chant and make a lot of noise.

Honestly, I don't consider Nigerian Christians in the south to be Christian enough. They are too laid back and docile. Na to dey speak big big grammar, phonee and organise countless mumbo-jumbo concerts across rich regions. Never seen a concert organised by the megachurches in any of Northern Nigeria's Christian dominated cities.

Gerrard59:
You would never see the likes those Ndi intellectwats who suck El-Rufai's dick and swallow his cum on this thread. Never! Bunch of idiats who rather than call out the backers of these murderers would be subservient to their desires and go about speaking English. I am sure the refined olodo in the name of Dipo Awojide and unam ikot in the name of Mark Essien would never utter a word about these incessant killings and destruction of properties.

Also, the Church in the Southern part of the country would not say anything about these murder of Christians (whether they think Northern Nigeria's Christians are not "Christians enough", I do not know). Save for David Oyedepo who has been shouting ever since, the like of Adeboye of the RCCG would rather open his mouth waaaaaaaaa to shout that "El-Rufai is a kind and caring man" just because he went to solicit for the release of kidnapped RCCG members. Meanwhile, hundreds of fellow Christians are being murdered in same "kind and caring man's" state. On the other hand, you have the Ndi intellectwats and speaking English pastorprenuers in the mould of Ituah Ighodalo and Poju Oyemade inviting same El-Rufai to conferences and interviews to air his opinions on "national issues".

successmatters:
After, they will say that women from her tribe are not cheap. This one has had us count like 10 different men that have kpanshed her while we are counting

Poor comparison. What about her sisters? Are they Jukuns?

She talks too much. Maybe the reason no "corporate-looking" dude wants to be entangled with her. She should kuku look towards her senior school mates or ask for recommendations from them. Her sister is kuku there.

To be fair, she is someone I won't recommend. Talks too much and likes media attention. It is part of her job, quite alright, but she should learn to separate it as developed countries separate the church from the state.